interrobang
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- Nov 26, 2006
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I'm a lurker, pretty much, but here's a question that I hope someone here can help with:
My partner is an old-school feminist. Fairly innocuous stuff like pinup illustrations upset her. She's hyper-intelligent, overeducated, and has actually thought about this stuff a lot.
Me, I'm bdsm lightweight. Not interested in total lifestyle changes, but power relationships interest me. When I surf porn, I'm drawn to bondage kinda stuff. With other girlfriends, I always enjoyed the ones who were game to get tied up, in a lightweight kinda way. I've been on the submissive end of things now and then, but it doesn't do a lot for me, really.
So bondage photos, submissive women, etc. -- these things upset her. We're not going there as a couple. But if she found some of the crap I enjoy looking at, she would feel totally betrayed.
Thoughts? Besides dumping her? Other than this issue, she's an amazing person.
My partner is an old-school feminist. Fairly innocuous stuff like pinup illustrations upset her. She's hyper-intelligent, overeducated, and has actually thought about this stuff a lot.
Me, I'm bdsm lightweight. Not interested in total lifestyle changes, but power relationships interest me. When I surf porn, I'm drawn to bondage kinda stuff. With other girlfriends, I always enjoyed the ones who were game to get tied up, in a lightweight kinda way. I've been on the submissive end of things now and then, but it doesn't do a lot for me, really.
So bondage photos, submissive women, etc. -- these things upset her. We're not going there as a couple. But if she found some of the crap I enjoy looking at, she would feel totally betrayed.
Thoughts? Besides dumping her? Other than this issue, she's an amazing person.