Buying a Strap-on!

[HRE]

Woohoo! She asked me if I was interested in her using a strapon...and was I ever! So I opened up my handy-dandy folder of sex toy sites and for the first time started really looking at strapons...and I am SO CONFUSED...

There are so many of them, with so many different attachment systems (Vac-u-lock, perma-grip, lock-tite, powerlock), different harnesses (one strap? two strap? crotchless? 'jock shorts'? strapless?!?!), and so many different styles (double-ended, vibrator attached, high-mounted, low-mounted...chest mounted?!) that I got really lost really fast.

I think this is going to be something of a sink or swim investment for us -- if whatever we get now doesn't work out, we might not try again for a long time -- so I want to make sure I make a wise choice. But without holding them, trying them on, or giving them a test run, how can I?

Ah, but I can! I can do all that, vicariously, through you!

So I'm looking for a strapon that:
*fits very securely
*stimulates the wearer
*is durable
*is interchangeable
*can handle larger dongs

So what have you tried? What works? Is the vac-u-lock system as limited as it looks? Do they actually make dildoes that fit into o-rings?

 

[StrapFantasy]

You are one lucky dude!

There are several strap on discussions going on here at Lit. Unfortunately, I'm afraid you won't find a consensus on any particular style or brand. There are different types because couples have different preferences and budgets. Also unfortunate, nobody can try before they buy, so finding what works for you is mostly a matter of trial and error. I'm not saying experienced people here don't have good advice and recommendations - only that your mileage may vary.

One thing you didn't mention is how much experience you have at anal play. If you are new to this, you might want to slow down just a little. Let her start with a well-lubed finger first. Then two. Then maybe three, or a small plug or vibe. Point is, work your way up slowly. You need to learn how to let the right muscles relax. It should be pain free. This can take weeks, months, for some. Be patient and have fun with the process. Did I mention lube? Lots of it. Then when you think you've got enough, use about twice that amount! In any case, if you're new to anal, don't think you can buy a huge 10" strap on dildo and have her hammering away at you tonight. You're likely in for that bad experience you're afraid of. Of course, if you are experienced, then ignore everything I've just said and have at it!

Here's some threads to check out:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=263206

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=105924

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=533698

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=465695

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=211854

If you do a search of the forums, I'm sure you can find many more threads on the subject.

 

[SweetErika]

When I was looking, I did a good amount of research here and elsewhere, and settled on the Ultra Harness Pro shown there. (I just grabbed the first link, BTW - read on and do some comparison shopping if you want the best deal).

It's a sturdy leather harness that can fit a wide variety of waist sizes (up to 44" IIRC - it comes with an extra strap to expand the waist part), is highly adjustable and very secure on.

The kit comes with a rather large dildo, plus two plugs that fit on the harness, but we take them off and use them separately, too. There's a pocket for a bullet vibe. If you have one already, see if it fits; if not, you may want to pick up a small one, but we've not done so yet because the strapon experience is enjoyable enough on its own.

If you search for Vac-u-loc dildos, you'll see many sites have a large variety for $10-20, which is a good deal in comparison to many brands. Again, though, we've stuck with the dildo that came with the set for the past year and a half. It's a little large, but definitely doable if you take your time and work up to it with play beforehand.

Overall, I feel it's well-made and it was a heck of a good deal at $35 on eBay (in the Mature Audiences section, under Everything Else; it required a FREE adult verification last I checked). Even at $50 or so, you get a lot for your money and can expect it to last for many years to come (that's why it's nice to have a harness that adjusts to lots of different sizes, too). I've had no regrets and am glad I did the research because there's a lot of junky harnesses and dildos out there.

Babeland.com has a good primer on different types of harnesses. I don't know if they offer the Ultra Harness Pro, but it'll give you a good idea of what you might want to look for. I originally went with the UHP after reading reviews from some very smart people here - usually when people who do their research all rave about something, I'm not disappointed in my decision to follow their advice.

 

[aimouse]

You lucky lucky bastard! I dream of my wife wanting to bugger me!

As an offering on the subject of anal play, I've had fingers up my bum quite a few times and used a couple of different butt plugs on myself - the larger was vibrating, about 4cm thick at the base and 15cm long with bumps, a bit like anal beads - and even with a nominal amount of lube I had no discomfort from it at all. So you shouldn't necessarily expect it to hurt.

A question this thread has raised in my head though is, with a leather harness, how do you clean it?

 

[HRE]

Well, she's fisted me before, and I've taken a coca-cola bottle...so size is not really an issue here. What is by far the most important to me is that she get a lot of pleasure from it. Do you know of any that stimulate the giver more than others?

 

[heartsneedabeat]

My girlfriend & I have this one:
http://hustlerhollywood.com/details.link/tid/860354/toys/Vibrating-Velvet-Harness.htm
which is amazing for several reasons.
The o-rings snap in and out so you can get them to fit any dildo you'd like.
It has a small pouch in the velvet part of the harness that holds a small vibrator. The vibrator is AMAZING. I have the much more expensive ones, but prefer that over any of them. It's adjustable so it lines up with her clit, and the harness is east to adjust and very comfortable. Out of all the ones I've tried, it's definitely my favorite. Also, it's an around-the-leg harness rather than a thong style. The thong ones can be very sexy, but honestly, they get uncomfortable and even painful very very quickly. I give this one five stars, easily.

 

[heartsneedabeat]

Also, I don't know about the one online, but I bought it in-store in New Orleans, and it also came with two curved dildos. They're small, but hit all the right spots, and we use it for anal as well, even though we're both girls. It works for everything.
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this is the one we have:
http://hustlerhollywood.com/details.link/tid/856848/toys/Tantus-Bend-Over-Beginner-Kit.htm
same harness, just with the dildos included.

 

[supermitaines]

Also, I don't know about the one online, but I bought it in-store in New Orleans, and it also came with two curved dildos. They're small, but hit all the right spots, and we use it for anal as well, even though we're both girls. It works for everything.
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this is the one we have:
http://hustlerhollywood.com/details.link/tid/856848/toys/Tantus-Bend-Over-Beginner-Kit.htm
same harness, just with the dildos included.

The Tantus dildos are great, they hold nicely in a harness and have a good life span. What about harness-free strap ons like the share? I really like this one, the base is comfortable and holds well PLUS, the wearer side enables some hot g-spot stimulation.

http://joytoyz.com/shop126/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=65_67_96&products_id=835

 

[Snowman5933]

We have the bend over beginner kit (available through lots of retailers). The harness is velvet and the straps go around the legs and waist (nothing up the crack)....she says its very comfortable. It has a pouch for a bullet vibe, but the dildos are silicone, which I think it most important. Silicone toys can be boiled to sanitize them. Good luck and have fun.

Snowman

 

[tiez]

When I was looking, I did a good amount of research here and elsewhere, and settled on the Ultra Harness Pro shown there. (I just grabbed the first link, BTW - read on and do some comparison shopping if you want the best deal).
...
The kit comes with a rather large dildo, plus two plugs that fit on the harness, but we take them off and use them separately, too. There's a pocket for a bullet vibe. If you have one already, see if it fits; if not, you may want to pick up a small one, but we've not done so yet because the strapon experience is enjoyable enough on its own.

I've been on the receiving end of this. It brought her some good pleasure, but I was not quite ready enough to take it long enough for her to cum with it on. She still got her pleasure, of course, but it was more at the hands of my other body parts instead of the harness stimulating her.

She loves that harness for its form and function. Yes, indeed, it's a good one.

 

[SweetErika]

I've been on the receiving end of this. It brought her some good pleasure, but I was not quite ready enough to take it long enough for her to cum with it on. She still got her pleasure, of course, but it was more at the hands of my other body parts instead of the harness stimulating her.

She loves that harness for its form and function. Yes, indeed, it's a good one.

The dildo that comes with it IS pretty big for a beginner or someone who hasn't had a lot of warm-up. We found the mental aspect of using a larger-than-the-average-cock dildo to add to the nerves and excitement, too.

I've never found the strap that goes up the back to be uncomfortable, even though I'm not fond of thongs in general. It seems to sit more or less flat.

And, Snowman, I agree silicone is ideal for sanitary reasons, but we ALWAYS slip a condom over the rubber dildo, so there's really no clean up involved.

 

[quantumhealer]

get one that you can attach different size dildos to, that way you can work your way up and get your bum used to being stretched out by the increasing sized dildos. and do expect to feel more submissive after she has taken you that way

When I was looking, I did a good amount of research here and elsewhere, and settled on the Ultra Harness Pro shown there. (I just grabbed the first link, BTW - read on and do some comparison shopping if you want the best deal).

It's a sturdy leather harness that can fit a wide variety of waist sizes (up to 44" IIRC - it comes with an extra strap to expand the waist part), is highly adjustable and very secure on.

The kit comes with a rather large dildo, plus two plugs that fit on the harness, but we take them off and use them separately, too. There's a pocket for a bullet vibe. If you have one already, see if it fits; if not, you may want to pick up a small one, but we've not done so yet because the strapon experience is enjoyable enough on its own.

If you search for Vac-u-loc dildos, you'll see many sites have a large variety for $10-20, which is a good deal in comparison to many brands. Again, though, we've stuck with the dildo that came with the set for the past year and a half. It's a little large, but definitely doable if you take your time and work up to it with play beforehand.

Overall, I feel it's well-made and it was a heck of a good deal at $35 on eBay (in the Mature Audiences section, under Everything Else; it required a FREE adult verification last I checked). Even at $50 or so, you get a lot for your money and can expect it to last for many years to come (that's why it's nice to have a harness that adjusts to lots of different sizes, too). I've had no regrets and am glad I did the research because there's a lot of junky harnesses and dildos out there.

Babeland.com has a good primer on different types of harnesses. I don't know if they offer the Ultra Harness Pro, but it'll give you a good idea of what you might want to look for. I originally went with the UHP after reading reviews from some very smart people here - usually when people who do their research all rave about something, I'm not disappointed in my decision to follow their advice.

 

[tiez]

The dildo that comes with it IS pretty big for a beginner or someone who hasn't had a lot of warm-up. We found the mental aspect of using a larger-than-the-average-cock dildo to add to the nerves and excitement, too.

She had an assortment of vac-u-loc devices, so that wasn't any part of the problem. We ended up with a decent rhythm going with one of the smaller ones, but still a good enough fucking for my virgin ass. (although we had practiced with other things, this was my loss of anal virginity)

 

[straightasanarrow]

Hard to please

I came across this thread because I'm also looking for a strap-on, though maybe for different reasons than most of you are talking about here. Maybe I'm being dense...do any of these recommendations change if we're talking about me using them on her in the good old fashioned way?

 

[SweetErika]

I came across this thread because I'm also looking for a strap-on, though maybe for different reasons than most of you are talking about here. Maybe I'm being dense...do any of these recommendations change if we're talking about me using them on her in the good old fashioned way?

Therer are strapons specifically for men. You have to have someplace to put your junk, and while some female ones might work, they might be uncomfortable. I know the Doc Johnson Ultra Harness Pro comes in a male version at least.

 

[rocketman60]

We have several vac-u-loc dildos of various sizes. What is the best harness to give the giver, her, pleasure while doing me? Is there anything that vibrates and holds vac-u-loc dildos. I have looked at a couple of harnesses that don't seem to hold these dildos, but the dildos are not big enough. I like her using the Kong on me and it is a vac-u-loc. Thanks!

 

[oldkinky]

We have the bend over beginner kit (available through lots of retailers). The harness is velvet and the straps go around the legs and waist (nothing up the crack)....she says its very comfortable. It has a pouch for a bullet vibe, but the dildos are silicone, which I think it most important. Silicone toys can be boiled to sanitize them. Good luck and have fun.

Snowman

We love our Bend Over Beginner Kit. It has a harness, two interchangeable silicone dildos and a vibrator that fits in the harness to stimulate her clitoris while she does me. She gives me a handjob while she does me and we cum together. It is so erotic to see her wearing the strap on. We have another curved dildo that is designed for prostate stimulation. We also have Vibrating Anal Twister Strap On that is good. Our next toy will be a Feeldoe. I read that a lot of couples really like it.

 

[aosugo]

Hi,

I'm from Brazil and I dont have any shop saling the feeldoe here.

how buy the feeldoe out of USA ?

 

[Mr. Briggs]

You lucky man

We have the ultra harness and it's amazing. What i like best about it is the realistic attachments. I hate those fake pink strapon attachments. I like the real looking cocks

 

[Azzam]

Hey,

Me and my fella have the non-harness one and it's a bit tricky as I have to keep my legs shut to keep it inside me whilst I'm fucking him - the more turned on and wet I get the more it falls out! seemed like a good idea at the time (is more authentic looking as it just juts out like a cock).

Might work for you tho!!!