So which act most does it for you?

[Incompleteidea]

My guess is there is already a thread on this topic. To be honest its 4 am and while waiting for sleeping drugs to kick in I’m not up for the archive search.

So here’s my question- What makes you feel most in your place? What makes you feel most like the PYL/pyl you are?

If you’re a pyl, is it the act of kneeling (actually feeling your knees hit the floor), or perhaps the approval in your PYL’s voice? Is it feeling they’re hands on you (that claiming grasp most of us love)?

If you’re a PYL is it being serviced in a specific way that does it most? Claiming in some certain way that which is yours?

For me it’s receiving oral. (Thank you Diam. You’re thread has kept me up pondering a bit of the night) Twysted and a few others hit on the idea that both the act of receiving and giving can be viewed as dominant and submissive. While most concentrated on the topic of giving I couldn’t help but think of my own feelings on receiving (the only side I’ve been on.) This led me to question which acts give me that overwhelming since of submittal over other.

Anyhow- The act of opening myself up to another is incredibly intimate and leaves me feeling incredibly vulnerable. Opening my legs when their face is with in inches can leave me breathless and apprehensive. This happens while receiving oral more than in any other act- be it vanilla or something more hard core. This intimacy and vulnerability leaves me wide open to my partner. It’s a feeling I naturally fight against no matter how much I know I will enjoy/need my ultimate surrender. I find I beg to be penetrated- I beg to be fucked. When I’m not (as many sercome to the pleading) when I’m forced/allowed/encouraged to give in to those feeling of helplessness and closeness something honestly at my core gives loose. To be smelled, tasted, and touched is honestly terrifying to me, but it’s also the easiest way to own me. I think we all (though I feel pressed to say only I) tend to put up walls around what makes us feel most exposed. For me its that quest to destroy those walls that’s such a turn on. Somehow many of those walls tumble when I have a tongue in on my clit.

I would love to say it’s the pleasure in my PYL’s eyes that honestly does it for me every time but I haven’t been lucky enough to find a partner that fits so well.

So which act most does it for you?

Please forgive me if none of this makes sense as I said its 4am. (And I tend to babble at late night)

 

[bandelero]

Lots of candidates for most excitement, but one of the most delicious is the tiny involuntary shudder that runs through my SO when she experiences either the first (or just an unexpected) touch when she is blindfolded.

 

[madetotakeit]

When I first read your post I thought, "Oh, that's easy. The feel of restraints. That first attempt to move that is halted." But then I thought about it. It certainly gives a rush, a quickening of the pulse. But that is not what puts me in that place I want to submit. What makes my breath catch for a moment? Looking at the commonalities of when I felt that way it was the voice. The pleasantness of the sound, the inflection, the strength conveyed, the underlying tone of intimacy all gave power to the words said. All had those things in common even though the words themselves were very different and not necessarily intentionally D/s.

 

[h_i_s]

My guess is there is already a thread on this topic. To be honest its 4 am and while waiting for sleeping drugs to kick in I’m not up for the archive search.

So here’s my question- What makes you feel most in your place? What makes you feel most like the PYL/pyl you are?If you’re a pyl, is it the act of kneeling (actually feeling your knees hit the floor), or perhaps the approval in your PYL’s voice? Is it feeling they’re hands on you (that claiming grasp most of us love)?

If you’re a PYL is it being serviced in a specific way that does it most? Claiming in some certain way that which is yours?

For me it’s receiving oral. (Thank you Diam. You’re thread has kept me up pondering a bit of the night) Twysted and a few others hit on the idea that both the act of receiving and giving can be viewed as dominant and submissive. While most concentrated on the topic of giving I couldn’t help but think of my own feelings on receiving (the only side I’ve been on.) This led me to question which acts give me that overwhelming since of submittal over other.

Anyhow- The act of opening myself up to another is incredibly intimate and leaves me feeling incredibly vulnerable. Opening my legs when their face is with in inches can leave me breathless and apprehensive. This happens while receiving oral more than in any other act- be it vanilla or something more hard core. This intimacy and vulnerability leaves me wide open to my partner. It’s a feeling I naturally fight against no matter how much I know I will enjoy/need my ultimate surrender. I find I beg to be penetrated- I beg to be fucked. When I’m not (as many sercome to the pleading) when I’m forced/allowed/encouraged to give in to those feeling of helplessness and closeness something honestly at my core gives loose. To be smelled, tasted, and touched is honestly terrifying to me, but it’s also the easiest way to own me. I think we all (though I feel pressed to say only I) tend to put up walls around what makes us feel most exposed. For me its that quest to destroy those walls that’s such a turn on. Somehow many of those walls tumble when I have a tongue in on my clit.

I would love to say it’s the pleasure in my PYL’s eyes that honestly does it for me every time but I haven’t been lucky enough to find a partner that fits so well.

So which act most does it for you?

Please forgive me if none of this makes sense as I said its 4am. (And I tend to babble at late night)

Spooning all night long.. wrapped in His caring/soothing embrace. It's that simple for me.. that's it.

 

[EmpressFi]

Being in a LDR with my PYL, I have to rely on other things than touch or gesture

-sometimes, it's the way he says my special name, either over the phone or in YIM that just sends me

-sometimes, just out of the blue, he'll say something about being proud of his little sub

When we are together.. it's the possessive growl in my ear as we're greeting at the airport... and any time he touches me..

except tickling..and except when he's being a smartass and licking my face

 

[Evil_Geoff]

What does "it" for me?

Submission.

Compliance to my will.

Surrendering to the pain I wish to inflict.

*nodnodnod*

 

[ecstaticsub]

When he tells me to do something I really don't want to do, but I do it without discussion or hesitation and find out that I did enjoy it, that he once again knows me better than I know myself.

 

[Domwoolf]

over the top

For me as a dom it's when I have my hand wrapped in her hair, pulling her head back just enough. I growl in her ear, "Down slut". Her knees hit the floor. Thats what sends me over the top.

 

[Homburg]

That gasp that comes out unbidden when I do whatever it is I'm doing.

The whimper as she begs for permission to come.

The yelp in pain that is overlaid with pleasure and longing for more.

The meditative calm and hyper-focused state I am in when I am tying.

 

[twysted73]

Hom, I agree

The accidental escape of voice...almost like a guilt-ridden but underlyingly pleasure-filled sound that slips out of her throat and from between her lips when I've hit the right chord in her.

*shivers*

Yes, that's the one.

 

[Incompleteidea]

Thank you all for your reply, I love hearing them

Evil- does it mater when your play mate submits? I mean to say is it better when your doing act A or receiving act B? (It occurs to me this might be different depending on the partner)


Sinn- I’m incredibly jealous. It sounds silly but I’ve never been able to spoon (come to think of it I’ve never been able to sleep while touching) all night. It seems like such an intimate and beautiful act. You lucky girl.

 

[nh23]

It sounds silly but I’ve never been able to spoon (come to think of it I’ve never been able to sleep while touching) all night. It seems like such an intimate and beautiful act. You lucky girl.

I'm the same way.. I like cuddling and all, but when I'm trying to go to sleep I don't want to be touched..lol

 

[EmpressFi]

I know I frustrate Malin because I can hug and be all kinds of snuggly.. UNTIL.. I want to sleep..then I roll over and turn away.

I know where it stems from... I dont like people breathing in my face.. but.. I will spoon up against him as I sleep.. it's how I chase his bad dreams away

 

[WriterDom]

I like the act of planning. Not totally scripted, I can deviate some, but having a rough outline in my mind.

 

[Homburg]

Yup, I roll away too. I get hot way too easily. If it's freezing in the room, I can handle it better, but generally not.

 

[Netzach]

Oh, yeah. Planning things makes me feel it more than anything he does or doesn't do.

 

[EmpressFi]

Yup, I roll away too. I get hot way too easily. If it's freezing in the room, I can handle it better, but generally not.

Malin and I laugh because we have a king sized bed.. and yet we both roll over and cling to the edges when we sleep..as if we had no other room

 

[Millificent]

Knowing completely, without a doubt that I belong to him always.

Hearing his voice in certain situations and the power in it.

Cuddling at the end of the day and feeling safe and secure in his arms.

Doing the little things that I know he likes and appreciates.

 

[Xantu]

Its his eyes, looking at me measuring me

He will look at me from across the room and I can tell he his assessing me. Measuring me. Planning some new insidious way to test me, frustrate me, play me like a puppet. At that moment I know that something is going to happen but I have no idea what, no way to prepare. I know I have to surrender. The catch in my breathing and then the wave of calmness... its that precise moment.

xantu
Its my bed. I made it. Now I have to figure out how to sleep in it.

 

[Adakgirl]

The being told to do something I don't really want to do. The "Do it NOW". The directions, the control, the mind fuck does it for me.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Not sure if this will make sense but I am going to try.

It's the moments when I am 'caught off guard'. Having said so, make no mistake I can be extremely focused and 'on guard' for me is a part of that composite, never more so then when directly engaged.

Doesn't have to be grandiose, though at times that has been a modus operandi.

It's just that second, where I want to swear and mid-recoil I think to myself " I can't believe he just went there ". Soon followed by a devoted appreciation for the 'craft'. It's an almost insane moment of mixed emotions and yet it is so completely grounding for me. How the Hell could anyone fail not to love that ?

 

[smoothbikini]

i'm not sure if this is what you were looking for, but complete submission is what does it for me. i take total responsibility for submerging my ego by the offering of myself to the will and direction of another. i search for someone to use me to quench their darkest desires, while creating an atmosphere of safety around me. someone who relishes pushing my sensual and sexual boundaries, taking me to new levels and greater heights of sensation and experience. she constantly looks for new and creative ways to bring out the inner beast in me.

anyway, one girls thoughts...

 

[Qpet05]

The feeling of Master's hands in my hair.. stroking it.. rubbing it.. feeling His fingers start to entwine in my hair..... Yeah.. that's what does "it" for me!!

 

[goodgirlfl]

• when he whispers in my ear in THAT tone, that sexy voice when he tells me that I belong to him
• hearing him tell me that Im his good girl, his good little pet or special slut
• snuggled up to him wrapped up in his arms feeling so safe, secure, wanted and loved and the feeling of always wanting to be right there
• when he tells me that he's very proud of me

 

[myinnerslut]

feeling the black collar we use for play slip onto my neck

that voice. you know. *that* one

the look that makes me catch my breathe