Bisexual Fluidity

[timewarp69]

Question. Is it really bisexual if you're more into the cock than the guy attached? I love to suck and be fucked, but could care less to have a guy sucking me or having me fuck him. Rimming doesn't do much for me at all. I just like the look of a large cock.

I'm somewhat attracted to muscles, but I don't like watching two musclemen in gay porn. I might like a muscular top paired with a small twink bottom, though. I think the muscle fetish is a dom/sub thing for me. I could get into it, playing the "girl" role in the back of my mind. (Hell, even crossdressing sometimes.)

Maybe kissing him, then kissing down his muscular body til I got to the cock.....Anyway, I VERY RARELY tend to think guys are "cute". Even the few times I do, I'm more passionate about my facial attraction to women. I LOVE shemales.

I am more likely to notice a woman's facial features than I am a guy's. In public, I'm more likely to notice a "hot" gal than a guy.

Is this really "bisexual" or just a straight guy who likes cock and has some sub fantasies? There are so many gray areas with many that use the label bisexual. I just had to put this out because I'm bored. Comments?

 

[Programmer Cat]

You like what you like. Why try to label yourself when there are plenty of uptight, ignorant people who will be happy to do so? I call myself bi, even though my sex with men usually happens when sharing my wife with other guys, or when playing with another guy while my wife plays with his girlfriend/wife.

 

[movershaker]

Bi is OK

It doesn't matter the motivations involved or how you perform: If you have sex with both men and women it must be Bi. And what's wrong with that? Not a thing!
My fantasies are much like yours and I think you described it - being the bitch. Thinking about pleasuring guys with my body is exciting; even wearing a garterbelt and stockings if they like. Letting them spread me for intercourse so I get used any way they like gives me chills. My girl has used a strap-on while I was dressed up. But she hasn't talked about the next step.
Too bad, because I feel like I could really do it now.

 

[human_male]

I'm the same way. I don't understand it either. I have fantasies about sucking, getting fucked and used but I'm not attracted to men. I think it may have more to do with just liking cocks, and having a sub side (as well as a dom side) and gender envy. I'd like to get fucked AS a woman.

It confuses the hell out of me, but since I have no sex life and likely never will I don't let it worry me. It's a non issue.

I hope you're not concerned about it or anything. It's way common.

 

[Etoile]

It doesn't matter the motivations involved or how you perform: If you have sex with both men and women it must be Bi.

I agree with you that the sex is bisexual, but I wouldn't necessarily say the person is bisexual. Only an individual can decide if they are heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual. If someone feels drawn to both men and women and decides this makes them bi, then they are bi. But plenty of men live on the "down low" (DL) and feel that they are straight even though they enjoy having sex with men. Who am I to insist that they are bisexual just because they like having sex with men? That's up to them to decide. (The subject of HIV being spread among this population is irrelevant to how they label themselves; that's a health issue, not a medical issue.)

If you feel like you're straight, you're straight. If you feel like you're bi, you're bi. If you feel like you're gay, you're gay. If you're not sure, by all means ask other people, but take the information they give you and decide for yourself. Don't let anyone else tell you YOU ARE BI without making the decision on your own.

 

[silkybiblue]

be yourself

labels mean nothing to a person who is comfortable with him or herself, once you let go of the label and accept yourself the rest is easy.
it took a long time for me to be confortable admitting to myself that i am bisexual, i am not able to jump out of the closet and announce it to the world but i really don't need to, it is not the world's business - good luck with the journey

 

[south_florida_bicur]

labels mean nothing to a person who is comfortable with him or herself, once you let go of the label and accept yourself the rest is easy.
it took a long time for me to be confortable admitting to myself that i am bisexual, i am not able to jump out of the closet and announce it to the world but i really don't need to, it is not the world's business - good luck with the journey

SO TRUE!

it seems like whenever someone has a erotic feeling, he or she needs to label it. This way once they label it that must mean that are ok. Making any sense?

I don't remember who it was (it could have been Etoile) that told me a while back about labels and how ridiculous they are. Bi, gay, straight, etc... we are all open minded and thats who we are.

Poppy said it best "I am what I am".. thats enough right there!