The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[Shygentleman2]

Online relationships are just like real world relationships - they can be fun, scary, messy.... that's what makes them so desirable. And like most things - quality over quantity... but never miss an opportunity to create a new one.

Truer words couldn't be spoken. Us humans are messy...and wonderful all at the same time. When those connections are made the euphoria is wonderful. And for me...it's all about the quality. I don't want a harem...or be part of one. And in my own failings I need to be better about reaching out to individuals I find fascinating. Who knows what could come of it? The worst that happens is i got to meet someone new.

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

Truer words couldn't be spoken. Us humans are messy...and wonderful all at the same time. When those connections are made the euphoria is wonderful. And for me...it's all about the quality. I don't want a harem...or be part of one. And in my own failings I need to be better about reaching out to individuals I find fascinating. Who knows what could come of it? The worst that happens is i got to meet someone new.

Perfectly said!

 

[Shygentleman2]

Perfectly said!

Now I just need to follow my own advice!

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

Now I just need to follow my own advice!

It's difficult, sometimes, to take our own advice.... Almost as if we don't deserve it.

 

[jacfox]

Almost as if we don't deserve it.

I think that's a very telling observation. Maybe a lot of relationships struggle because of problems with self-image and esteem, perhaps more than dissatisfaction with the other

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

I think that's a very telling observation. Maybe a lot of relationships struggle because of problems with self-image and esteem, perhaps more than dissatisfaction with the other

Its easy to say that what other think about us don't matter, but a lot of us grew up being bullied, uncaring or critical parents, abuse of some kind... It really messes us up

 

[jacfox]

Its easy to say that what other think about us don't matter, but a lot of us grew up being bullied, uncaring or critical parents, abuse of some kind... It really messes us up

Too true! I hope you weren't treated that way, but I guess most of us have some rough patches somewhere along the way

 

[Shygentleman2]

Its easy to say that what other think about us don't matter, but a lot of us grew up being bullied, uncaring or critical parents, abuse of some kind... It really messes us up

For me it was really challenging in my early 20s with relationships. I was pretty clueless when it came to women. When I did find someone I thought was wonderful it turned out the exact opposite. Spent 3 years in what I now consider a toxic relationship where I could do no right and I tolerated her manipulation of me and my feelings. I finally woke up and realized that her treatment of me wasn't acceptable. Took me a long time before I even noticed another female because I was never going back to something like that. A few decades removed I've learned a lot. I figure I learned one good lesson from those years. How people deserved to be treated.

 

[IARainman]

Its easy to say that what other think about us don't matter, but a lot of us grew up being bullied, uncaring or critical parents, abuse of some kind... It really messes us up

So sorry. I was an outcast but not badly bullied

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Stop trying so hard to get Lit laid. Full disclosure I am probably not poster boy for online boning.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I think that's a very telling observation. Maybe a lot of relationships struggle because of problems with self-image and esteem, perhaps more than dissatisfaction with the other

Very good insights!

As they say opposites attract, I think since we admire qualities that we think we are lacking in we gravitate to those who do display those qualities as we wish to learn from them how to become better at those qualities we admire in others.

But being opposites does not tend to foster into a smoothly functioning long term relationship.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Its easy to say that what other think about us don't matter, but a lot of us grew up being bullied, uncaring or critical parents, abuse of some kind... It really messes us up

Everyone, I do believe, has some emotional baggage we carry around with us and we just need to find someone who is willing and able to lighten the load for us.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

For me it was really challenging in my early 20s with relationships. I was pretty clueless when it came to women. When I did find someone I thought was wonderful it turned out the exact opposite. Spent 3 years in what I now consider a toxic relationship where I could do no right and I tolerated her manipulation of me and my feelings. I finally woke up and realized that her treatment of me wasn't acceptable. Took me a long time before I even noticed another female because I was never going back to something like that. A few decades removed I've learned a lot. I figure I learned one good lesson from those years. How people deserved to be treated.

You learned the right lesson I believe!

We all want to be loved and cared about and sometimes that desire can lead us to harming ourself by doing things we wouldn't normally do. So easy to see in retrospect but very difficult if not impossible to do so in real time.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Some more middle of the night musings....


It can be golden
It can be cruel
It can help embolden
It may give us fuel

This word with so many meanings
Can easily mislead
It can pause breathing
Make you plead

Songs have been written
Sung with power and grace
Can make you smitten
Help you save face

How can it do all these things?
It can end violence
With all it brings
The word is silence

Let it be known
You are not alone

 

[Shygentleman2]

You learned the right lesson I believe!

We all want to be loved and cared about and sometimes that desire can lead us to harming ourself by doing things we wouldn't normally do. So easy to see in retrospect but very difficult if not impossible to do so in real time.

This is so true. From my friends perspective they never understood why I was with her. It was impossible for me to see it from their point of view!