Healthy Clothing Sizes/Body Sizes

[cw5523729]

As promised, here's the link to the published story.
Story link: give and take pleasure part 1





Turns out the powers that be decided it was bdsm. They moved it from erotica couplings. Ya live and learn! Going to put part 2 there as well. Should be finished with it next week

While I only just started reading your story, it's clear now I should have held my opinion until I had more info. Specifically, this part of your original description:

Comes home from a girl's night, feels bad about self, sex scene = husband reminding wife how beautiful she is until surrenders to agreeing.

has a much different feel than the start of your story:

His ownership of every aspect of her (me) leads to a generally better relationship and life. i have been instructed by my Owner to share these tales with you, His audience, and as my mind and time are both His to command, i have, of course, done so.

i dont doubt now that they made the right call

 

[SamanthaBehgs]

While I only just started reading your story, it's clear now I should have held my opinion until I had more info. Specifically, this part of your original description:

Comes home from a girl's night, feels bad about self, sex scene = husband reminding wife how beautiful she is until surrenders to agreeing.

has a much different feel than the start of your story:

His ownership of every aspect of her (me) leads to a generally better relationship and life. i have been instructed by my Owner to share these tales with you, His audience, and as my mind and time are both His to command, i have, of course, done so.

i dont doubt now that they made the right call

So, that's actually an intro to the POV character but not the story itself. Should I just put them all in BDSM if I'm going to intro her in that way? I had intended it to be on all in universe stories, just to warn readers of the dynamic and explain why things may vary considerably in themes beyond that.

 

[cw5523729]

So, that's actually an intro to the POV character but not the story itself. Should I just put them all in BDSM if I'm going to intro her in that way? I had intended it to be on all in universe stories, just to warn readers of the dynamic and explain why things may vary considerably in themes beyond that.

I'm reluctant to answer since my last opinion was way off base. But I'll answer anyway cuz I don't learn from my mistakes.

Probably yes. Even without reading any further, any story that starts with the wife stating she's relating this story at the orders of her Owner is probably a safe bet for the BDSM category because I'm hard pressed to imagine how the rest of the story would completely fail to live up to that.

But I'll throw out the CYA caveat of I could still be completely wrong since you know what they say about ASSuming.

 

[SamanthaBehgs]

I'm reluctant to answer since my last opinion was way off base. But I'll answer anyway cuz I don't learn from my mistakes.

Probably yes. Even without reading any further, any story that starts with the wife stating she's relating this story at the orders of her Owner is probably a safe bet for the BDSM category because I'm hard pressed to imagine how the rest of the story would completely fail to live up to that.

But I'll throw out the CYA caveat of I could still be completely wrong since you know what they say about ASSuming.

*grins* Yep - they say ... okay, I was going to reference something from another of my stories but instead, I'll just say - I like hearing your thought process even if we're both wrong on our conclusions. I'm just glad Laurel is able to make that swap so that things are in line with expectations.

I'm considering moving the entire set of stories to a manual series and having that introduction fall on the series itself rather than individual stories. Trouble is - I feel like most readers don't look at the series page itself, so each story would have to re-explain the dynamic when it comes up. I feel like if I ever get any repeat/regular readers, that would get annoying to them.

 

[joy_of_cooking]

I haven't even read your story yet but I think it's safe to say that if your tags are

bdsm praise total power exchange wife cunnilingus blindfold female orgasm love submissive bondage

Then your story probably belongs in BDSM

 

[SamanthaBehgs]

I haven't even read your story yet but I think it's safe to say that if your tags are

bdsm praise total power exchange wife cunnilingus blindfold female orgasm love submissive bondage

Then your story probably belongs in BDSM

Don't feel obligated to read it at all. I posted because it was requested but I don't expect folks to read it just because we've had some discussions about things that require some experience, like deciding where to put something.

I saw some stories in EC that had those tags (and they were showing up as popular there) which is where my confusion came, but I'm down with putting them in BDSM as well. It's honestly where I'm most comfortable with that series (and honestly, right now, most of my work falls there, though I'm trying to branch out).

 

[TheRedChamber]

So, that's actually an intro to the POV character but not the story itself. Should I just put them all in BDSM if I'm going to intro her in that way? I had intended it to be on all in universe stories, just to warn readers of the dynamic and explain why things may vary considerably in themes beyond that.

I'm going to sit down and read your stories fully in a moment, but having scanned the first few paragraphs of each of them...yes, putting them all in BDSM (or occasionally Fetish) is probably a good idea.

First of all, your inner voice screams BDSM, especially since you use the whole i/Him capitalization thing. The people who like that style are going to be in BDSM and there may be people who seriously dislike it in other categories who will downvote your stories.

Secondly, having a consistent category seems to build an audience better than if you constantly jump around the categories (I could be wrong about this and there might be some resulting discussion about this incoming)

I have my own series that jumps around a lot but increasingly I've been putting them in BDSM if it makes any sense at all (and my MCs are far more relaxed about the psychology of BDSM than I get the impression yours are).

 

[SamanthaBehgs]

I'm going to sit down and read your stories fully in a moment, but having scanned the first few paragraphs of each of them...yes, putting them all in BDSM (or occasionally Fetish) is probably a good idea.

Please do not feel obligated to do so. Everyone has been amazing about giving such great feedback here and I've really appreciated it (see some responses below about that as well!)

First of all, your inner voice screams BDSM, especially since you use the whole i/Him capitalization thing. The people who like that style are going to be in BDSM and there may be people who seriously dislike it in other categories who downvote your stories.

Yea - I've been having trouble writing characters without that inner voice but I really want to try to at some point. Even my Christmas story, which was supposed to be solidly fetish, is trending towards submissive elements as well and I think I'm going to have to try to re-write things if I want to get that out of there. There won't be the i/Him or anything like that there, only in this universe, but still. Once I get some stories in this universe with the voice I'm most comfortable in under my belt, my next challenge to myself is going to be to try other perspectives.

Secondly, having a consistent category seems to build an audience better than if you constantly jump around the categories (I could be wrong about this and there might be some resulting discussion about this incoming)

Intuitively, that felt like the case, but I wondered if a little jumping was okay? I saw some really highly rated stories that when I look at the authors as a whole, they showed a wide range of categories (maybe the themes are all similar, but the categories were definitely variable).

I look forward to any discussion that shows up on this one, though.

I have my own series that jumps around a lot but increasingly I've been putting them in BDSM if it makes any sense at all (and my MCs are far more relaxed about the psychology of BDSM than I get the impression yours are).

I doubt I'll ever be able to write a story (though I'm trying to pull it off with poetry) that doesn't have that psychological element to it. It's part of the fun of writing characters for me and I'm WAY too much of a psych dork to separate that part of myself.

That and worldbuilding, but the worldbuilding I've been doing has been for the story that's distinctly *not* erotica (and intentionally so. I made the mistake of telling someone I had a new hobby of writing, so now I have to have at least a little to show for it, lol).

 

[TheRedChamber]

Please do not feel obligated to do so. Everyone has been amazing about giving such great feedback here and I've really appreciated it (see some responses below about that as well!)

It's okay, it's my lazy Sunday morning and I'm between stories, so a cup of coffee and a new(ish) Lit authors is perfect for me.

(I can give feedback if you'd like, but I won't do it unless requested and not on this thread.)

Yea - I've been having trouble writing characters without that inner voice but I really want to try to at some point. Even my Christmas story, which was supposed to be solidly fetish, is trending towards submissive elements as well and I think I'm going to have to try to re-write things if I want to get that out of there. There won't be the i/Him or anything like that there, only in this universe, but still. Once I get some stories in this universe with the voice I'm most comfortable in under my belt, my next challenge to myself is going to be to try other perspectives.

Intuitively, that felt like the case, but I wondered if a little jumping was okay? I saw some really highly rated stories that when I look at the authors as a whole, they showed a wide range of categories (maybe the themes are all similar, but the categories were definitely variable).

I look forward to any discussion that shows up on this one, though.

Sorry, I should have been clearer. It's perfectly fine for an author to jump categories (though there is still something to be said for being able to build a specific audience around a specific set of proclivities) and to try out different things. It's more generally agreed that it's better for a specific series to stick to one category. Because all your stories so far were with the same character, I kind of mixed the two in my response just now.

I doubt I'll ever be able to write a story (though I'm trying to pull it off with poetry) that doesn't have that psychological element to it. It's part of the fun of writing characters for me and I'm WAY too much of a psych dork to separate that part of myself.

It's all a question of style and a question of characters. I've ended up with two characters who don't take things particularly seriously (except safety!) and for whom BDSM is something they occasionally do rather than a 'psychology' - there's a lot of different approaches in the category.

 

[SamanthaBehgs]

(I can give feedback if you'd like, but I won't do it unless requested and not on this thread.)

I am absolutely open to feedback! I know it's not the best story and having hit the publish button, it's kinda all over for this one, but I can definitely work on using the feedback to make future stories better!

Sorry, I should have been clearer. It's perfectly fine for an author to jump categories (though there is still something to be said for being able to build a specific audience around a specific set of proclivities) and to try out different things. It's more generally agreed that it's better for a specific series to stick to one category. Because all your stories so far were with the same character, I kind of mixed the two in my response just now.

No need to apologize. I tend to assume when I misunderstand someone's meaning, it's from my lack of reading it deeply as well, so this is likely one me just as much. That makes perfect sense.

It's all a question of style and a question of characters. I've ended up with two characters who don't take things particularly seriously (except safety!) and for whom BDSM is something they occasionally do rather than a 'psychology' - there's a lot of different approaches in the category.

Ah, I see what you're saying. Until I've written more, I can't say with certainty if it's my "style," but I can say it's what's coming most naturally right now.