❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

10.22.25

Personal Style

Do you have a personal style? How would you describe it? How did you craft your personal style?
Yes, I have a personal style that has evolved over the years. In 2023 I made a career change and with that had to change my entire style. I would describe it as professional. Even in casual situations I maintain a professional edge. I like to dress nice. I put thought into what I wear and why.

Of course my online style is a little different. This is where I come to be more my fun and silly self.
I am thinking a lot of how you present yourself (clothing, home decor, way of being) but it could also be how you carry yourself online - things that are symbolic or specific to you.
How I present myself online and how I behave in real life are quite different. I am thinking that’s the same for most if not all of us. We are very good at compartmentalizing here.

Although where there is crossover in both worlds is my love of observing people and behavior. I love to people watch. I do that online as much as I do in real life. Quietly observing
What holds you back from expressing yourself more?
My job is somewhat high profile so I have to be careful what I do and say both online and in the real world.
Is there a style you wish you could pull off?
Not really
Have you ever undertook a major change in your personal style?
When I changed careers I changed my style. All for the better.
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.

When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?

Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go? Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.

When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?

Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go? Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
I think I’ve been the instigator of a hookup once. Had had a lot of vodka that night. I’m usually just not confident enough, or horny enough, to do it. For telling someone I’m interested, I also usually wait… I’m just more comfortable being the pursued one, or maybe I’m just a coward lol

The one time I did it, it worked out surprisingly well. It was a great night and I wish I could have kept in touch with him, but I was on vacation and one night isn’t enough to base a long distance relationship on, I don’t think. Or maybe I was just being a coward again. I do still think about that guy, after all.

Anyway… I don’t think there’s anyone right now I’d really like to shoot my shot with… there are a couple of people I’d like to get to know better (and they’d probably be very surprised that I was intrigued at all - I think I’m just not very demonstrative & crap at flirting)… I will DM someone if they say something that interests me (and I can think of a clever follow up, which isn’t often). But mostly I don’t DM people first right now because I just don’t have the energy/horniness for sexy friends.
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.

When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?

Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go? Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
Shots have been shooted and I'm usually the instigator. At least to push boundaries (unless boundaries have already been clearly defined, in which case those are to be respected). I don't have a standard M.O. for shot shooting. It's whatever comes natural in that particular friendship. But whatever the approach, I'll usually try to couch it in at least a little humor, so that when I get shot down it doesn't hurt quite as bad. "I know we're friends, but you know what's better than friends? Topless friends." Or something like that. So a rejection can take the form of something she laughs off, rather than an "Ew, no, you're gross."

As for folks I'd like to shoot my shot with, sure, those folks exist. What's stopping me? Afore-mentioned clearly defined boundaries. Or, in some cases, knowing they're already paired up, even if I happen to think the person they're paired with is a dingus. But that's not for me to judge.
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.

When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?

Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go? Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
Oh… wait I thought you were asking the last time I went to the range.
 
I often find that shot glasses are fiddly and not necessary if you're making some mixed drink for the thousandth time. I mean, there are proper ratios for many drinks, but it's really hard to screw up a neat glass of whiskey. . .
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.

When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?

Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go? Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
Is it really out of character? Or does it conflict with how you want others to perceive you?

I always try to just be me. My brain runs nonstop. It gets in my way all the time. But be assured....if I am around...it is because there is something about you I like. And if more time passes...and i am still around...the more I like. Not rocket science.

Is it ever just lust? No....not if I am being honest. I wish it was. Sure would make life easier.

What holds me back? Nothing. Everything. I am very comfortable with my wants. Or what attracts me. But those I find attractive...don't feel the same...or the time is wrong. On a place like Lit...there are so many other shiny stones that catch their eye. In real life...sigh...my life is too small ...too many other priorities...it takes time.
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.

When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
The last time I can close to shooting my shot was taking a real leap of faith in assuming that someone wasn't just being fun and flirty but ... serious about me. It was a less clear shot but a slow circling - coupl'a sharks!
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?
I am not known for shooting my shot. I'm not a hunter. I'm a fisher! I throw a little bait out, wiggle it around, show my interest and wait to be bitten... err... for my bait to be bitten. I try to be pretty clear if I'm really interested in getting to know someone better but (insert fear of rejection) I wait for some pretty clear signals. And as a bisexual woman, let's be honest, even if I get a notarized letter of erotic intent, I'll still probably assume they are just being nice.
Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go? Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
I am fairly emotionally impulsive - either on or off. But I'm fair more likely to be that way with people I have established relationships or a report with versus someone completely unknown. Is there someone I'd like to shoot my shot with? There are some bait I wish had been taken but I'm perfectly happy to have a friendly swim with them instead of reeling them in.


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10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.

When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
I don’t think I’ve ever done it in my whole life. I did ask a guy to slow dance with me in a school dance circa 1995 and that went well. The song was Bon Jovi’s Always. Does that count?
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?
I absolutely just sit back. I never initiate anything unless it’s within an established relationship. I don’t even initiate conversations with new people, so initiating something *more* than a conversation would be extremely, extremely unlikely for me.
Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go? Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
What’s holding me back is that I don’t think anybody would really be interested in me sexually unless they know me and like me as a person first. And a lot of time I honestly don’t think I have that much to offer in the non-sexy front either. So I just bumble about until someone is extremely clear about wanting to get to know me one way or another and then it might or might not lead to something. I’ve been idiot enough to not notice when someone has made the moves on me, so it has to be clear. Like, preferably say the words that they want to get to know me, either as a friend or as a potential sexy times friend.

And thank you for teaching me a new phrase! 😍 I wasn’t familiar with “shooting your shot” until now!
 
The last time I can close to shooting my shot was taking a real leap of faith in assuming that someone wasn't just being fun and flirty but ... serious about me. It was a less clear shot but a slow circling - coupl'a sharks!

I am not known for shooting my shot. I'm not a hunter. I'm a fisher! I throw a little bait out, wiggle it around, show my interest and wait to be bitten... err... for my bait to be bitten. I try to be pretty clear if I'm really interested in getting to know someone better but (insert fear of rejection) I wait for some pretty clear signals. And as a bisexual woman, let's be honest, even if I get a notarized letter of erotic intent, I'll still probably assume they are just being nice.

I am fairly emotionally impulsive - either on or off. But I'm fair more likely to be that way with people I have established relationships or a report with versus someone completely unknown. Is there someone I'd like to shoot my shot with? There are some bait I wish had been taken but I'm perfectly happy to have a friendly swim with them instead of reeling them in.
<--- Nibbles at your bait
(bait is titties, right?)
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.
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biblically accurate shot of me shooting my shot btw
When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
I am a pusher, Cady!!!!

No, but really, I am. I will push and insist upon myself WHEN given the freedom to do so with someone I am interested in.

There’s no need to chase what’s already made the trap homely and comfy - really, it’s safe now. Pinky promise 🐭💗
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?
In an odd sense, I think for my personal brand dynamic-ideal, there has to be room for me to be both. For both of us.

I want to chase until I’m out of breath, disgustingly dripping with sweat, just out of arms reach of my prize. I need to need it.

I want to hold back the one thing I know he wants more than anything, knowing it’ll only intensify the craving. He needs to need it, too.

Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go?
As a typical woman nearing her 30s may say, I have no idea who the fuck I am these days. So if I’m acting out of character, we are all witnessing development or depreciation at the same time.

Let’s be real though, how do you think it went? 😇
Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
Despite knowing none of the rules, practicing no plays, and the two left feet + height disadvantage, you can all catch me off the bench, shooting my shots.

No more holding back 🏀
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.

When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?
Last time? Just over a year ago. There’s still some debate over who made the first “move”. I’m very flirty in public but a bit more reserved in private. So while I think I’m super obvious when I “like you like you” apparently that’s not completely true.

Anyway I think I tend to initiate the leap from flirty to sexy. But I think I need to feel the pursuit to be willing to make that leap. If I’m not fairly certain the desire is reciprocated I keep things light. Usually not even flirty really. Just chatty.
Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character?
No way. Feels rude not romantic.
Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with?
Every dang day. Often more than once!
What's holding you back?
Age. Dehydration. Skin irritation.
 
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biblically accurate shot of me shooting my shot btw

I am a pusher, Cady!!!!

No, but really, I am. I will push and insist upon myself WHEN given the freedom to do so with someone I am interested in.

There’s no need to chase what’s already made the trap homely and comfy - really, it’s safe now. Pinky promise 🐭💗

In an odd sense, I think for my personal brand dynamic-ideal, there has to be room for me to be both. For both of us.

I want to chase until I’m out of breath, disgustingly dripping with sweat, just out of arms reach of my prize. I need to need it.

I want to hold back the one thing I know he wants more than anything, knowing it’ll only intensify the craving. He needs to need it, too.


As a typical woman nearing her 30s may say, I have no idea who the fuck I am these days. So if I’m acting out of character, we are all witnessing development or depreciation at the same time.

Let’s be real though, how do you think it went? 😇

Despite knowing none of the rules, practicing no plays, and the two left feet + height disadvantage, you can all catch me off the bench, shooting my shots.

No more holding back 🏀
Wait… you’re a Bulls fan?
 
10.30.25

Let's talk ... shooting your shot.
let's be clear, I have no athletic skills. This ass is more suited to Puerto Rican dance halls than anything to do with points & a ball. My romance game is even worse.
When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
Early last year, February-ish, I think. I couldn't say who made the first move, but it was only the 2nd time I've asked for  that kind of pic from a guy. (Ok, maybe 3rd time, as I've repeatedly requested a pic of @Mr_bogey and yet he jealousy guards his junk like Sméagol does The Ring!) I was nervous as hell. I feared rejection, and all of the other scary yet enervating things went through me that make these things at once so terrifying, yet exhilarating. However, attraction & arousal tend to make us all act outside of our nature, be a little bit more bold, and I'm eternally grateful that risk was rewarded.
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?
I've been married my entire adult life. I have no idea how I would behave in the real world were I single. I've been pursued by people seeking affairs, but that's not really the same thing, is it.

Online I'm pursued, but I think that has more to do with the unequal male to female ratio here, and being an exhibitionist that posts pics, than anything else.

Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go?
Sort of, in that I blurted out what boundaries I needed to feel safe & free to play online. I was fully prepared for the worst, but it went better than I could ever have hoped.
Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with?
Yes, only all day, every day.
What's holding you back?
My stupid job, and respecting his time. I hate adulting!
 
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Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
Starting from the bottom up here - but no, not currently, I’m all set at the moment 😊
When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
🤐
Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?
I think my style is more to hint heavily that I’m interested, to make it virtually risk free for the other person to make a move. If they still don’t, and I thought they were open to it, I would.
Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go?
I’m pretty reserved but also don’t have a problem being direct, so although it hasn’t happened often it wouldn’t be totally out of character for me to make a move. Even if the answer is no, if the feelings are strong enough it’s good to try, better than wondering what if 🤷‍♀️
 
Let's talk ... shooting your shot.
When is the last time you shot your shot? Took a leap of lust? Initiated? Pushed the boundaries? Made the first move?
The last time I shot my shot? Gosh, it feels like it's been forever, especially since I've been celibate the past 2+ years and am not actively dating. I've recently decided that I'm (maybe) ending my celibacy, so it'll likely happen sooner rather than later.

Do you think you are normally the instigator or the initiator or the pursuer? Do you sit back and wait for someone to come to you?
IRL, I think I have generally been the one to initiate more often than not; men seem to be hesitant to approach me 😭
It's something I've gotten used to over the years; as a domme, I'm used to taking charge, when necessary. Some of that bleeds over into regular relationships.

Have you ever impulsively made the first move in a way that was out of your character? How'd it go? Is there someone you'd like to shoot your shot with? What's holding you back?
When I was actively dating, I never approached a man in a way that was "out of character" for myself; I'm a pretty straightforward person, and that's generally how I approach romantic interests. Is there someone I'd like to shoot my shot with? No one that I haven't already communicated with.
 
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