Masculine cocksucker problems...

[Britva415]

A guy should never assume just because another man likes to give head that he is into that.

Same with the bottom.

I walked out on a guy once who wouldn’t fucking stop with the daddy-this, master-that, and telling me to use his filthy slut mouth, and shit like that.

 

[RobLivesInTexas]

Maybe it's the app I'm using, or that I really tell guys I'm masculine, or that several of them have been married men who have this secret.

The most forcefully I've been used was an openly gay man... I was all excited because he wanted me to suck him off in front of his boyfriend and... honestly, I have a voyeuristic streak... not all the time, but it was something I hadn't done and the idea was amazing.

I got there and he told me no hands, which is fine, but backed me against a wall and held my head and just immediately pounded my throat hard. His boyfriend was the one saying the most degrading things... and from what he was saying I got the impression one of them had cheated and this was more a cathartic, weird, revenge thing than something sexual.

I'm going to try again this week and be really clear that I want to give a sensual blowjob... wish me luck.

I would suggest that anytime someone is doing something (whatever!) that you don't want of are not interested, walk away. It could be anything from someone who lies about their stats to someone using you sexually in a way you don't want. Did you meet this man on one of the hookup apps? That's why that at the first red flag (even while online, before I meet in person), I drop them and block them. I won't ever be put in the position where I'm at all uncomfortable with the situation.

 

[RobLivesInTexas]

Same with the bottom.

I walked out on a guy once who wouldn’t fucking stop with the daddy-this, master-that, and telling me to use his filthy slut mouth, and shit like that.

Good for you! Anything like that is a complete turn off for me, so that's the end of the meetup.

 

[Jeph77]

An aggressive, verbal, spunk-heavy narcissist can be a turn-on, if it's in good fun.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

Same with the bottom.

I walked out on a guy once who wouldn’t fucking stop with the daddy-this, master-that, and telling me to use his filthy slut mouth, and shit like that.

Exactly. If you told him you weren't into that, they should've stopped. I don't know why people insist on doing things that turn the person they're with off.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

Maybe it's the app I'm using, or that I really tell guys I'm masculine, or that several of them have been married men who have this secret.

The most forcefully I've been used was an openly gay man... I was all excited because he wanted me to suck him off in front of his boyfriend and... honestly, I have a voyeuristic streak... not all the time, but it was something I hadn't done and the idea was amazing.

I got there and he told me no hands, which is fine, but backed me against a wall and held my head and just immediately pounded my throat hard. His boyfriend was the one saying the most degrading things... and from what he was saying I got the impression one of them had cheated and this was more a cathartic, weird, revenge thing than something sexual.

I'm going to try again this week and be really clear that I want to give a sensual blowjob... wish me luck.

This can happen on any app. Just be clear with what you want, and hope for the best!

 

[AlwaysHard35]

For what it’s worth, you wrote this in a very arousing way. I’d let you suck my cock however you’d want.

Me too, he has my cock rock hard and ready to suck right now

 

[cumuncut]

I only ever meet up with men to suck their cocks, and I'm often told it's really strange that an extremely masculine guy doesn't want any reciprocation. I don't see why this should be so strange.

The other thing... and my real complaint... almost all the guys I've met really get off on the idea of degrading me and making me submit... specifically because I'm masculine! I haven't sucked cock in months, because... when I meet men this is usually the kind of thing I get...

The last time, the guy told me I had to sit on my hands the whole time, pinned up against a wall, and then held my head and hate-fucked my throat hard while telling me how good it felt to make me his bitch. The only things he wanted to hear were me begging him to slam my throat or how desperate I was to for his cum... and then had me beg him to face fuck me again with his cum all over my face...

This is kind of my usual experience... I'm sucking cock while a man calls me his slut or whatever, and he forced control over the whole thing... Is this just how this goes for masculine guys who don't want reciprocation?

My problem isn't that I mind being used like this, if I did I wouldn't keep doing it! I enjoy feeling slutty and if I'm in the mood I love having a man act powerfully and use me, face fucking me and making me feel like I am a toy for his pleasure... that whole scenario is a huge turn on, but there are times... a lot of times, really... that I really want to suck cock but don't even look to meet someone because I want to slowly, sensually taste and tease a nice cock...

I'd suck cock A LOT more if I could find men that want me to really enjoy sucking their cock and would just lean back and let me act like the slut they love to tell me I am!!

One time... just once, I hooked up with a guy who wanted to relax and let me make out with his cock... it was so sexy and slutty and... I talked dirty and moaned and... it was the sloppiest and wettest blowjob I can imagine, and... I've never had such an amazing, intense sexual experience!!

It's also the only time I've ever even thought of giving in and putting the possibility of more than a blowjob out there. My ass is always strictly off limits and I made it clear to this guy beforehand when he asked (and he was fine with that), but... I got so turned on and felt so sexy and slutty devouring his dick that I asked if he still wanted my ass. When he said yes, I begged him to fuck me... he started fingering me and my moaning with him in my mouth pushed him over, so it didn't happen, but... that's how amazing being able to really enjoy sucking cock was!! It was so good, so sexy, so slutty... for the only time, I wasn't just willing to let a man fuck my ass for the first time, but I was literally desperate for it and begging him to fuck me bare and breed me!!! I felt so sexy and slutty I wanted him to fuck me like a real slut!!!

Why does being masculine mean I'm not allowed to moan and tease and be sexy while I swallow??? I want so, so badly to have another experience that sexy!! Why can't I find men who want me to really treat their cocks right??

Wow how do I find you. Masculine guys are hot and don’t need to be degraded to have a hot time.

 

[AlwaysHard35]

As far as humiliating a man goes, calling him my bitch and face fucking him, i would never do that or let it be done to me. I love to just lie back and receive some cock worship. I love to suck, too, and I prefer reciprocation, but giving and receiving cock worship is unbelievably hot. I think you should be on the lookout for men looking for some cock worship.

I really know what you mean, I love to rub and kiss all over a nice cock before I am ready to suck on it

 

[liqueur]

I walked out on a guy once who wouldn’t fucking stop with the daddy-this, master-that, and telling me to use his filthy slut mouth, and shit like that.

I've had similar experiences.

I get the impression that there's a certain kind of guy who's so obsessed with his own kinks, or even just with what he wants, that he simply can't grasp that not everyone wants the same thing. I had a guy respond to an ad recently in which I'd clearly stated “I suck. Please no reciprocation.” He immediately started in with his first message with how much he wanted to suck me. I clarified again in my first response that I did not want to be sucked. He wouldn't let it go. Then he started sending me pictures of his cock and asking for photos of mine. I had to block him.

And it's not just in person, or on hookup apps, either. I've had multiple experiences of people messaging me here and trying hard to get me to engage in conversation or RP about some scene that I'd clearly explained was not my scene.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

I've had similar experiences.

I get the impression that there's a certain kind of guy who's so obsessed with his own kinks, or even just with what he wants, that he simply can't grasp that not everyone wants the same thing. I had a guy respond to an ad recently in which I'd clearly stated “I suck. Please no reciprocation.” He immediately started in with his first message with how much he wanted to suck me. I clarified again in my first response that I did not want to be sucked. He wouldn't let it go. Then he started sending me pictures of his cock and asking for photos of mine. I had to block him.

And it's not just in person, or on hookup apps, either. I've had multiple experiences of people messaging me here and trying hard to get me to engage in conversation or RP about some scene that I'd clearly explained was not my scene.

This is one of my huge pet peeves, and I have no idea why guys do this. On the hookup apps, I make it clear that I am a strict bottom. I only have pictures of my ass and body. Yet guys still hit me up asking me to top, or let them suck me. It's frustrating, and extremely disappointing to get a new message, only to find that it says "Want your dick sucked?"
Recently I had a guy begging me to top him. He wouldn't stop. I had to block him.

 

[BiCuriousWriter]

Not reading or listening is the big problem.
I do have to add that to me some terms are not clear, so I ask. But then I make known that I ask because I am not sure. For example, strict bottom. I have heard people calling themselves bottom who do not mind getting their cock touched or even sucked. So I ask.
But I just try to be clear in stating I would like versa play, also in an MMF.

 

[klippert]

One time... just once, I hooked up with a guy who wanted to relax and let me make out with his cock... it was so sexy and slutty and... I talked dirty and moaned and... it was the sloppiest and wettest blowjob I can imagine, and... I've never had such an amazing, intense sexual experience!!

It's also the only time I've ever even thought of giving in and putting the possibility of more than a blowjob out there. My ass is always strictly off limits and I made it clear to this guy beforehand when he asked (and he was fine with that), but... I got so turned on and felt so sexy and slutty devouring his dick that I asked if he still wanted my ass. When he said yes, I begged him to fuck me... he started fingering me and my moaning with him in my mouth pushed him over, so it didn't happen, but... that's how amazing being able to really enjoy sucking cock was!! It was so good, so sexy, so slutty... for the only time, I wasn't just willing to let a man fuck my ass for the first time, but I was literally desperate for it and begging him to fuck me bare and breed me!!! I felt so sexy and slutty I wanted him to fuck me like a real slut!!!

I have been oral sex obsessed since I began having sexual relations, to the point where even women including my wife (before she lot her sex drive) have told me "you would rather eat my pussy than fuck me..." I took that as a complement. Have had men tell my "never though a straight-enough guy could suck cock like that".
I'm a Married Bi man... have been with men and women, near on 40yrs. For the past 4 +/- yr. I have been enjoying M/M with a fella I met. He is mostly bottom... all that being said. Its an attitude, in my opinion. When you enjoy performing oral sex, sucking cock, I get lost in the physical action and since I love my cock and balls sucked... I know how good it feels, and yes, I too have lost my inhibition's and have offered up my ass...
I've also had the flip side... where my lover (mostly after I rimmed him) has offered up his ass for me to fuck. Though If I'm that deeply into it. I may decline. This to me, is 100% confirmation I have him in my control...when he's giving in.. I know and knew...if I didn't fuck him. He will be cumming back and the roles will change...

 

[tristantrotsky]

Men suck each other's cocks.
That's not a problem.
That's a delight...

 

[dingdongditchding]

I only ever meet up with men to suck their cocks, and I'm often told it's really strange that an extremely masculine guy doesn't want any reciprocation. I don't see why this should be so strange.

The other thing... and my real complaint... almost all the guys I've met really get off on the idea of degrading me and making me submit... specifically because I'm masculine! I haven't sucked cock in months, because... when I meet men this is usually the kind of thing I get...

The last time, the guy told me I had to sit on my hands the whole time, pinned up against a wall, and then held my head and hate-fucked my throat hard while telling me how good it felt to make me his bitch. The only things he wanted to hear were me begging him to slam my throat or how desperate I was to for his cum... and then had me beg him to face fuck me again with his cum all over my face...

This is kind of my usual experience... I'm sucking cock while a man calls me his slut or whatever, and he forced control over the whole thing... Is this just how this goes for masculine guys who don't want reciprocation?

My problem isn't that I mind being used like this, if I did I wouldn't keep doing it! I enjoy feeling slutty and if I'm in the mood I love having a man act powerfully and use me, face fucking me and making me feel like I am a toy for his pleasure... that whole scenario is a huge turn on, but there are times... a lot of times, really... that I really want to suck cock but don't even look to meet someone because I want to slowly, sensually taste and tease a nice cock...

I'd suck cock A LOT more if I could find men that want me to really enjoy sucking their cock and would just lean back and let me act like the slut they love to tell me I am!!

One time... just once, I hooked up with a guy who wanted to relax and let me make out with his cock... it was so sexy and slutty and... I talked dirty and moaned and... it was the sloppiest and wettest blowjob I can imagine, and... I've never had such an amazing, intense sexual experience!!

It's also the only time I've ever even thought of giving in and putting the possibility of more than a blowjob out there. My ass is always strictly off limits and I made it clear to this guy beforehand when he asked (and he was fine with that), but... I got so turned on and felt so sexy and slutty devouring his dick that I asked if he still wanted my ass. When he said yes, I begged him to fuck me... he started fingering me and my moaning with him in my mouth pushed him over, so it didn't happen, but... that's how amazing being able to really enjoy sucking cock was!! It was so good, so sexy, so slutty... for the only time, I wasn't just willing to let a man fuck my ass for the first time, but I was literally desperate for it and begging him to fuck me bare and breed me!!! I felt so sexy and slutty I wanted him to fuck me like a real slut!!!

Why does being masculine mean I'm not allowed to moan and tease and be sexy while I swallow??? I want so, so badly to have another experience that sexy!! Why can't I find men who want me to really treat their cocks right??

where do you live, roughly....... Michigan

 

[12gone]

Who says that a masculine top such as myself can’t enjoy giving a great blowjob, rimming his ass and sucking his balls. Taking a facial or swallowing his cum. And for that had a wet play obsession. All this doesn’t change because I’m a top. Look man. I’ve fucked several hung guys. There you go. Just because they have a big dick doesn’t mean they’re all tops

Just like women, there's a power with making another person cum. A pride, "look what I did" kind of thing.

 

[tall758]

When I meet with a guy, we both know why I’m there. I am a complete submissive oral cum slut. My pleasure comes from giving him the ultimate pleasure…and he gives me his cum.

But that’s not who I am when the act is over. You would never know what makes my heart pound in anticipation if we just met someplace. Aside from the stories that I write, the fantasies that I jerk to, and the online “connections” that you and I might create, you would have no idea.

 

[Jacktrew]

For me I want a masculine bottom. Sissy or feminine men don't do anything for me.

I would love a guy that would just concentrate on me.

I don't get into humiliation, degradation, or name calling; just telling you how to suck my cock, kiss my feet, taste my toes, or rim my ass, and finally when to swallow my cum.

For me its hard to find these kinds of dudes.

 

[tall758]

For me I want a masculine bottom. Sissy or feminine men don't do anything for me.

I would love a guy that would just concentrate on me.

I don't get into humiliation, degradation, or name calling; just telling you how to suck my cock, kiss my feet, taste my toes, or rim my ass, and finally when to swallow my cum.

For me its hard to find these kinds of dudes.

hee, if only we were neighbors!

 

[FlirtyWordy]

For me I want a masculine bottom. Sissy or feminine men don't do anything for me.

I would love a guy that would just concentrate on me.

I don't get into humiliation, degradation, or name calling; just telling you how to suck my cock, kiss my feet, taste my toes, or rim my ass, and finally when to swallow my cum.

For me its hard to find these kinds of dudes.

I am vers, but I love to be naked, on my knees, and serving a nice, big, hard cock.

Now, to each his own, but for me, whether I'm giving or receiving, the reason m2m sex is hot is because ... we're men! I don't become more or less masculine depending on whether I'm sucking/getting sucked, etc. (haven't been fucked or fucked yet, but I know I will).

Again, to each his own, but ... this is why it's so puzzling to me how many males these days seem able to engage their love for cock only "as" a female, cross-dressing, being "femme," and so on.

I have wondered whether or not such inclinations, if not truly innate in a person, are a subtle reflection of subconscious shame and heteronormativity: I love to suck cock/take it in the ass, but that would be "gay," so I'll present as female and then it'll be OK.

 

[BillyWalrus]

I have wondered whether or not such inclinations, if not truly innate in a person, are a subtle reflection of subconscious shame and heteronormativity: I love to suck cock/take it in the ass, but that would be "gay," so I'll present as female and then it'll be OK.

I have had these same thoughts and used the fact that my gf is a trans woman as my Get Out of Gay Free card. However when you get down to it, our sex life is identical to that of a male gay couple. So yeah I am gay.

 

[BiCuriousWriter]

I am vers, but I love to be naked, on my knees, and serving a nice, big, hard cock.

Now, to each his own, but for me, whether I'm giving or receiving, the reason m2m sex is hot is because ... we're men! I don't become more or less masculine depending on whether I'm sucking/getting sucked, etc. (haven't been fucked or fucked yet, but I know I will).

Again, to each his own, but ... this is why it's so puzzling to me how many males these days seem able to engage their love for cock only "as" a female, cross-dressing, being "femme," and so on.

I have wondered whether or not such inclinations, if not truly innate in a person, are a subtle reflection of subconscious shame and heteronormativity: I love to suck cock/take it in the ass, but that would be "gay," so I'll present as female and then it'll be OK.

I don't wonder, if some feel they need to be dressed as a woman then so be it. I find it hard to understand when people use rigid definitions of top and bottom and don't accept anything in between.

 

[martinfs]

I am vers, but I love to be naked, on my knees, and serving a nice, big, hard cock.

Now, to each his own, but for me, whether I'm giving or receiving, the reason m2m sex is hot is because ... we're men! I don't become more or less masculine depending on whether I'm sucking/getting sucked, etc. (haven't been fucked or fucked yet, but I know I will).

Again, to each his own, but ... this is why it's so puzzling to me how many males these days seem able to engage their love for cock only "as" a female, cross-dressing, being "femme," and so on.

I have wondered whether or not such inclinations, if not truly innate in a person, are a subtle reflection of subconscious shame and heteronormativity: I love to suck cock/take it in the ass, but that would be "gay," so I'll present as female and then it'll be OK.

Not for me, I discovered the joy of sucking cock long before I started dressing up

 

[ZacharyFagg]

Not reading or listening is the big problem.
I do have to add that to me some terms are not clear, so I ask. But then I make known that I ask because I am not sure. For example, strict bottom. I have heard people calling themselves bottom who do not mind getting their cock touched or even sucked. So I ask.
But I just try to be clear in stating I would like versa play, also in an MMF.

Asking is definitely the key. Personally, it just doesn't do much for me to receive oral from a masculine man. I would never hook up with a man just to get sucked, and I prefer no reciprocation.
But, if a guy wants to stroke it, or suck it a little, I usually don't mind. I just don't want that to be his focus.
I've been with some very good oral tops who suck it a little, then move on.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

I am vers, but I love to be naked, on my knees, and serving a nice, big, hard cock.

Now, to each his own, but for me, whether I'm giving or receiving, the reason m2m sex is hot is because ... we're men! I don't become more or less masculine depending on whether I'm sucking/getting sucked, etc. (haven't been fucked or fucked yet, but I know I will).

Again, to each his own, but ... this is why it's so puzzling to me how many males these days seem able to engage their love for cock only "as" a female, cross-dressing, being "femme," and so on.

I have wondered whether or not such inclinations, if not truly innate in a person, are a subtle reflection of subconscious shame and heteronormativity: I love to suck cock/take it in the ass, but that would be "gay," so I'll present as female and then it'll be OK.

There's just some guys who enjoy feeling feminine, so when they dress they want to play the feminine role with a man.