Rimming

If anyone has any advice for a reluctant partner, please share. I long to rim my wife, but she cannot get past the mental block. She's knows that I want to do this. I stopped pressuring her, but it comes up from time to time. I usually bring it up as a "prize" for something innocent between us, but the conversation ends with her protest. I leave it alone, so as not to cause damage to the relationship.

I've seen her light up before when my tongue has drifted lower & lower during oral. I think physically, it would send her over the moon based on those candid slips.

Now however, if I get "too close" she'll clamp up in an untrusting manner, even when I'm not trying to push a boundary...

Any advice, I'd appreciate it.
 
If anyone has any advice for a reluctant partner, please share. I long to rim my wife, but she cannot get past the mental block. She's knows that I want to do this. I stopped pressuring her, but it comes up from time to time. I usually bring it up as a "prize" for something innocent between us, but the conversation ends with her protest. I leave it alone, so as not to cause damage to the relationship.

I've seen her light up before when my tongue has drifted lower & lower during oral. I think physically, it would send her over the moon based on those candid slips.

Now however, if I get "too close" she'll clamp up in an untrusting manner, even when I'm not trying to push a boundary...

Any advice, I'd appreciate it.
I hear you buddy... after oral, after you're done with the front, stay a bit and lick her bum..go hard fast..dont give her time to think.

also, when in doggy, say 'i'm about to cum" and pull out.. and then dive in and lick/eat her anus...for a bit... then put your cock back and thrust away...

if she reacts negatively, just say, you couldn't resist because you looked so F'in sexy or her hole looked too sexy not to dive in.
 
I hear you buddy... after oral, after you're done with the front, stay a bit and lick her bum..go hard fast..dont give her time to think.

also, when in doggy, say 'i'm about to cum" and pull out.. and then dive in and lick/eat her anus...for a bit... then put your cock back and thrust away...

if she reacts negatively, just say, you couldn't resist because you looked so F'in sexy or her hole looked too sexy not to dive in.
Yeah, don't do anything like this-forcing something on someone non-consensually isn't going to get them to magically come around on it. Giving the benefit of the doubt, acting "in the moment" sounds like it should be something hot, but it's just a bad way of forcing her to do something she doesn't want to do.

You may need to be patient and slow with her, and communicate. Tell her why you like it, see what qualms and concerns she has, and go from there. If she thinks it's dirty, try it in the shower after washing or fresh out of the shower. If it makes her feel "dirty," explore that-dirty doesn't have to be bad. Also, be prepared that the answer might just be permanently be "no," and be willing to respect that boundary.
 
I hear you buddy... after oral, after you're done with the front, stay a bit and lick her bum..go hard fast..dont give her time to think.

also, when in doggy, say 'i'm about to cum" and pull out.. and then dive in and lick/eat her anus...for a bit... then put your cock back and thrust away...

if she reacts negatively, just say, you couldn't resist because you looked so F'in sexy or her hole looked too sexy not to dive in.
I don't hate the idea, and there's certainly something to be said for pushing past a comfort zone in the heat of passion. But the betrayal of trust isn't worth it. One step forward isn't worth the 10 steps back.

95% It has to be her idea when she's finally ready.

Less than 5% that I could get "lucky" when an errant tongue leads to ectasy...
 
When I was young, I had a lot of prejudices against anything to do with ass but at the same time felt irresistibly drawn to it. Whereas my first boyfriend, who was some years older than me and had way more experience, just loved to be rimmed. I still remember how he vividly described to me what he loved so much about it and how for him it was one of the most intimate and intense experiences. He sensed my dilemma, wouldn´t push me though, only said if I wanted to fuck him, I would have to rim him first. So one day I finally gave up my resistance because he had really made me curious and I wanted to fuck him so badly.
Maybe rimming is not for everyone. People like different things. For me the gentle pressure of my boyfriend opened up a whole new world of sensation. To spread his cheeks, feel him on my lips, explore him with my tongue ... And afterwards, when I pull out, to see him red and puffed, clinging to me as if he didn´t want to release me ... it´s a huge turn-on for me.
 
When I was young, I had a lot of prejudices against anything to do with ass but at the same time felt irresistibly drawn to it. Whereas my first boyfriend, who was some years older than me and had way more experience, just loved to be rimmed. I still remember how he vividly described to me what he loved so much about it and how for him it was one of the most intimate and intense experiences. He sensed my dilemma, wouldn´t push me though, only said if I wanted to fuck him, I would have to rim him first. So one day I finally gave up my resistance because he had really made me curious and I wanted to fuck him so badly.
Maybe rimming is not for everyone. People like different things. For me the gentle pressure of my boyfriend opened up a whole new world of sensation. To spread his cheeks, feel him on my lips, explore him with my tongue ... And afterwards, when I pull out, to see him red and puffed, clinging to me as if he didn´t want to release me ... it´s a huge turn-on for me.
Wow that’s hot!
 
My wife doesn’t let me do it often, but it’s amazing when she does. She really likes it a lot also, but is extremely hesitant to let it happen.
My wife let me do it to her whenever I ate her pussy, which was most times we had sex. She really got off on it BUT she was soooo embarrassed by me doing it and her liking it so much. She would never acknowledge it. A few times I could get her to nod or very occasionally say "yes" if I asked her "Do you want me to eat your ass?" but she never would ask me to do it because I think she was ashamed that she liked it. She was never shy about speaking her mind on other topics.

A few times I'd ask her is she wanted me to eat her ass and she'd nod yes, I say
"I'll only do it if you say it"
her: "I can't"
me: "No, you have to say it"
her: "Yes"
me: "No, you have to say I want you to eat my ass."
her: "I can't"
me:" You have to say it:
her" I want you to. . . .I want you to . . . I can't!"
By then I was horny enough and I wanted to do it anyway that I did it.

Of course, I waited 2 or 3 months of us having sex before I tried it on her, and made sure she was pretty drunk (we used to be "weekend warriors" when it came to drinking) that way if she freaked it would be easier to play off - "Oops I slipped" or "I was drink I didn't know what I was doing".

Feel free to PM me if you want to hear how I got into doing it to her.
 
If anyone has any advice for a reluctant partner, please share. I long to rim my wife, but she cannot get past the mental block.
If your wife isn't even open to discussing it, I'd let it go. For the health of your relationship, hard "No's" need to be respected. But if she'll discuss it, then maybe...
  • Do a search of Q&A in Sex Columns in Vogue, Cosmo, Oprah, Savage Love, etc.. Look for questions like "Is it normal that my husband wants to kiss and lick my butt?" The answer to this question is always, "Yes!.. it's a normal, sexual activity that can be mutually enjoyed. Show this to your wife." Maybe seeing this from a sex therapist/ expert will reassure her there's nothing abnormal about you wanting to rim her.
  • If she's embarrassed about being "dirty" tell her you'll only do it in the shower or right after. And remind her it's just skin and like all other skin, it's can be easily washed with just soap and water. I've been rimming my wife for several years now and have not ONCE become sick from doing it. By contrast, we've passed Strep Throat, Colds and the Flu by normal kissing. Besides, if you kiss/ lick her vagina, you're probably already being exposed to the same bacterial flora because the anus and vaginal opening are about 1" from each other and microbes migrate.
  • Assure her that you won't ask to Rim her every time or even very often when you have sex. I think some women resist trying something new for fear it's going to become a new expectation every time you have sex. When I first started rimming my wife, she'd let me do it only after showering. ..But now that she's grown to enjoy it, I do it pretty much every time we have sex. ..She's become much more relaxed and self-conscious about it.
Others have ideas to help this poor, frustrated, ass-craving, husband? :)
 
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