Hotwife Anklet

Yes, believe it, LMWN321! I've fucked all four of them wearing an anklet, they all confirmed it with no reservations, and were pleased I'd realised the significance of it. For instance, Kate blew the Silk Cut smoke down her nostrils afterwards meaningfully and sighed:

"Bloody hell, I've been wearing this thing for months now, and got fucking nowhere. Diddly. Squat. FFS, I've even crossed my leg over my knee and toyed with the thing suggestively while sitting on a chair holding forth in a throaty voice to a group of machos all around - the entire Pontypool rugby line-up, the Clapham fire brigade, the Walthamstow Boxing Club ... and not so much as a single trouser bulge out of any of them. It's a right royal pain in the arse, believe me ... oh fuck me, is that the time, I have to get going, I'm opening a new Waitrose with William at 7 o'clock ..."
I had to look Vanesa up before I wrote the above, I must admit, but I recognised her as the anklet-wearer whose card I had mentally marked as the Dark Alleyway Kneeler.
 
I'm not trying to yuck peoples' yum. Saying an anklet is sexy is one thing, saying it means a woman is sexually available is wrong and it's potentially dangerous. I'm sorry so few of you see it that way.

We have guys in this thread who think when a woman wears just a plain anklet it says something about her comfort with sexual advances. It does not! These same men probably make the same presumptions about women who go braless, wear short skirts, or... have pierced nipples. Women can dress how they want and men should not read any particular meaning into it.

I have sisters-in-law, daughters and nieces who, collectively, have done all of those things and they do NOT feel it entitles strange men to hit on them or make presumptions about their sexuality.

If this stupid idea that women who wear anklets are "hot to trot" isn't quashed, it will join other stupid and unhealthy tropes that harm our culture, just like 'black guys have bigger dicks', 'all white women crave BBC', and 'a bigger dick is a better dick'. ..These are all bullshit tropes and they are all harmful. Again, sorry so few of you agree.
But a bigger dick IS a better dick. The only people who say it isn't are women/men who haven't been poled by one yet, or small-cocked men.
 
Many years ago I was in the BDSM scene, I learned a lot from that. There are subtle symbols that people 'in the scene' recognize. But...
There are lots of

In this context unwanted attention is defined by how you approach a woman and how you accept her response if she is not interested in you. We don't expect men to be mind readers, but we do expect them to be respectful in their approach and respect our response no matter what we are wearing.

Unfortunately, sometimes women who receive a lot of unwanted attention may get a bit testy at even a polite approach. That isn't fair to the next guy who comes along. But try to keep in mind how much nonsense we already have to deal with.
as you say, that does not give one license to be a dick. The symbols display what they are into, but are NOT open invitations. Being curious, respectful and genuine is always my policy.

I was drawn to this topic because I have some experience with it, and really enjoy picking up on the signs. I remember a couple where the woman was wearing a very nice and expensive 'collar', elegant enough that people that were not aware of the significance would think, "nice choker", but to those in the know said, "I am his."

I get intrigued, and sometimes excited, when I recognize the signs. Cool stuff.
 
But a bigger dick IS a better dick. The only people who say it isn't are women/men who haven't been poled by one yet, or small-cocked men.
Obviously we know what you have and that big dick always seems to come with a big attitude that people can't stand.
Wife has had the opportunity with 3 bigger dicks and flat out said she hated it every single time in fact she put a stop to swapping because of it.
 
But a bigger dick IS a better dick. The only people who say it isn't are women/men who haven't been poled by one yet, or small-cocked men.
Ridiculous. Do you get all of your Sexual education from porn?

I have a huge dick - both length and girth - and it has NEVER been any sort of advantage.. In fact, I've had hookups say, "sorry, but just a handjob for you tonight because THAT is going to be uncomfortable."

I've posted countless times about this, so I won't rehash it here, but if interested.....

My Big Dick Blues
 
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Obviously we know what you have and that big dick always seems to come with a big attitude that people can't stand.
Wife has had the opportunity with 3 bigger dicks and flat out said she hated it every single time in fact she put a stop to swapping because of it.
Of course she told you she hated it every single time, because why the hell would she say otherwise, got to be diplomatic and it makes for a quiet life, but in reality she's creaming herself constantly just thinking about those 3 big dicks, and who knows, maybe even sneaking off for a major pussy-stretch now and again.

(I jest, in case that wasn't clear)
 
Ridiculous. Do you get all of you sex ed from porn?

I have a huge dick - both length and girth - and it has NEVER been any sort of advantage.. In fact, I've had hookups say, "sorry, but just a handjob for you tonight because THAT is going to be uncomfortable."

I've posted countless times about this, so I won't rehash it here, but if interested.....

My Big Dick Blues
And I guess that's why they call it the Big Dick Blues. Not many people know this, but that's what Elton John was going to call the song originally, but his manager told him it would never get any airtime.
 
Of course she told you she hated it every single time, because why the hell would she say otherwise, got to be diplomatic and it makes for a quiet life, but in reality she's creaming herself constantly just thinking about those 3 big dicks, and who knows, maybe even sneaking off for a major pussy-stretch now and again.

(I jest, in case that wasn't clear)
I knew your attitude would never allow any intelligent response.
" guys with big dicks are like mechanical bulls they only care about themselves "
 
Guys who hope to fuck a Hot Wife love the idea of some secret sign to ensure a woman is indeed a Hot Wife so as to avoid embarrassment, or worse, if they're wrong.

Sorry guys, but there are no short cuts... If you want to fuck a Hot Wife, you can't avoid the possibility of getting a drink thrown in your face, a kick to the nuts or a full scale beat down from an angry husband when you approach the wrong couple.

And if you want a Hot Wife to be attracted to you, you'll have to bring more to the game than just being clever enough to know the meaning of some secret sign is. :)
 
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Ridiculous. Do you get all of your Sexual education from porn?

I have a huge dick - both length and girth - and it has NEVER been any sort of advantage.. In fact, I've had hookups say, "sorry, but just a handjob for you tonight because THAT is going to be uncomfortable."

I've posted countless times about this, so I won't rehash it here, but if interested.....

My Big Dick Blues
I'm beginning to think you must be cursed.

I've only had one girl ever put her pussy off limits due to my being oversize. There have been many who were too narrow to fit the first time(s) we fucked, but they still wanted to try, and over a week or two they adjusted and were very happy they did. Most girls I've been with have absolutely loved the size of my dick, from the moment they see it to the outsized pleasure it gives them.

Somehow you seem to gravitate to a different kind of girl (or they to you). I would hesitate to generalize based on your limited experience.
 
The part that makes you go hmmm is of the 3 couples we were involved with the guys all had 7.5 and up. All three of those couples ended up divorced.
One his wife has had several men now and he remains single, the others girlfriend left him days before he passed and the last is single also.
Somehow that dick didn't result in their women bowing down to the almighty big cock like guys want to think they do.
The wives of those men went on to find or look for a man with a personality that wasn't tied to his dick.
 
I knew your attitude would never allow any intelligent response.
" guys with big dicks are like mechanical bulls they only care about themselves "
That seems more than a little harsh, MaturemanAJ. And all the more so because I have little or no idea what your quote means. Mechanical bulls don't care, right, because, well, they're inanimate objects, innit, with no capacity to care or not care. I don't know about my intelligence, because I might not set things out in the orderly intelligent way Policywank does, for instance, but I'd call it a harmless, playful attitude. I advise you to stop tensing and straining your sphincter and have a nice cup of tea instead.
 
I'm beginning to think you must be cursed.

I've only had one girl ever put her pussy off limits due to my being oversize. There have been many who were too narrow to fit the first time(s) we fucked, but they still wanted to try, and over a week or two they adjusted and were very happy they did. Most girls I've been with have absolutely loved the size of my dick, from the moment they see it to the outsized pleasure it gives them.

Somehow you seem to gravitate to a different kind of girl (or they to you). I would hesitate to generalize based on your limited experience.

I said 'hookups' - ie., one night stands. Yes, sex was successful with my GF's. And though they were into me and into my body and sex was often great, it was never because of my dick size.

Mull on this:
  • When women buy their own dildos (as opposed to purchased for them by a husband/ BF) they most frequently buy ones that are close to average in size (as reported by on-line retailers).
  • If most women truly preferred huge dicks, then most night stands would contain a huge dildo. They don't.
  • Many retired porn actresses admit that the huge dicks they encountered while shooting scenes were actually very uncomfortable and they much prefer close to average in their personal relationships.
  • In a 2015 study involving 75 woman who were asked to chose their preferred penis size from 3D Phalluses (ie., dildos) most chose close to average length/girth for long-term relationships and just slightly larger for one-night stands.
  • Studies show that 85% of women are happy with the size of their partners penis, and 1/4 of those who are NOT are unhappy because their partner's dick is too large (my wife is among this cohort).
  • The average depth of a vagina is 3.7" and will expand a bit during intercourse. This means means that Mother Nature gave most men a penis that is compatible with most vaginas. Gee, go figure..
Moral of the story? Quit being gaslighted by Porn.

If your partner is unhappy with you as a lover, it's more likely because of your dicks than it's size.
 
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I think that this sort of discussion often gets sidetracked by taking absolute positions which ignore context and lead to people staking out illogical positions.

Someone referenced the rainbow association with the LGTBQ community, which is a good example. In the biblical story of Noah when he saw the rainbow after the flood did he think that was an LGTBQ reference? I don't think so. Likewise the rainbow tights my cousin had as a child was not a statement on LGBTQ nor was the little rainbow pin her friend had on her backpack at the time. They just thought they were pretty. According to Wikipedia the rainbow flag made its debut as a symbol of the LGTBQ community in 1978. Over the ensuing decades people's awareness of the rainbow flag as an LGBTQ symbol increased until today when it is well known. In fact, the association is so well established now that anybody using a rainbow in any kind of imagery is probably aware that people will infer an LGBTQ connection regardless of whether it is intended or not. But that is something that grew into being over time as the LGBTQ community laid claim to the symbol and nobody else contested that claim. If for instance some other ethnic, religious or other group already had a close association with the rainbow as a symbol of their group they would rightly object to and dilute the premise that the flag is by definition a symbol of the LGTBQ community.

Similarly ankle and foot jewelry has been around for a very long time. It held various symbolic connotations in different cultures at different times, but it was mostly just pretty jewelry. And while some in the ENM community or modern society in general may associate the anklet with hotwives I do not believe it is anywhere near being a universally established symbol like the rainbow flag. Maybe it will be someday and maybe it won't, but it isn't today. Meanwhile ankle and foot jewelry is particularly prominent with certain cultures (i.e Indian) who would likely object to having such symbolism foisted upon a part of their culture. The reality today is that while some women do intend that symbolism when they wear an anklet many do not. And for the most part I think that a woman who does intend that symbolism would understand that to be clear about it they would have to have an anklet that contained the relevant symbols incorporated into the anklet - not just wear a pretty pice of jewelry that happens to be an anklet.

And even if a woman does wear an anklet that bears a hotwife (or similar ENM) symbol that isn't an invitation to approach us in a different way. The appropriate approach is to seek to engage the woman in conversation. If she is not receptive that means that no matter what she is wearing she is not interested in you, so move on politely. If she does engage in conversation you may eventually turn it to complimenting her anklet. Again if she is interested in you she will pick it up from there - after all she was the one bold enough to wear it in the first place - and you will know from her reaction whether she is interested or not. She absolutely doesn't need some guy speculating on what it might mean.
 
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My hotwife does have an everyday anklet as well as a more obvious lifestyle one that has her name and a spade symbol she picked up for a Hedonism trip we were planning. She had been wearing that everyday anklet before she knew the connection. However, once she did learn she leaned into it.
 
Unfortunately, I am not married to a hot wife. But I definitely fantasize about the delicious humiliation that something like this would bring about. Some sort of subtle public display that I am not able to satisfy her... oh god the emotions would be almost unbearable. That plus a chastity key *chef's kiss*.
 
I'm beginning to think you must be cursed.

I've only had one girl ever put her pussy off limits due to my being oversize. There have been many who were too narrow to fit the first time(s) we fucked, but they still wanted to try, and over a week or two they adjusted and were very happy they did. Most girls I've been with have absolutely loved the size of my dick, from the moment they see it to the outsized pleasure it gives them.

Somehow you seem to gravitate to a different kind of girl (or they to you). I would hesitate to generalize based on your limited experience.
Yeah I'm a bit above average but we've played with some seriously big ones in the lifestyle. Who have also said that they've encountered their fair share of women who noped out. I myself had one woman who was unable to take me but she was also working perimenopause and finding what estrogen supplements and lubes worked. As someone who receives as well it certainly just takes some more preparation and warm up but it is well worth the payoff. As my wife puts it my cock is her favorite "every day dick" size but when we invite a stunt cock to join us for a night of fun we're both size queens. Desires for what is essentially a one night stand or occasional FWB can differ from what you'd want in a long term relationship. Not that we outright turn down someone just because they have an average or even small cock. Just the big ones tend to put bigger smiles on our faces. We've both taken 10" ones to the hilt. But in the end it is indeed more about who it is attached to. We most recently played with a guy who was 4" at best but it was quite thick and he was respectful and fun.

But given a choice between two equals personality and ability wise...we'd take the bigger one.
 
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I'm not sure how this anklet thread turned into a dick size discussion, but whatever.
My wife wears a plain anklet most of the time. Rarely does any guy pick up on it and bring it up.
I think some guys notice it and wonder about it and I can see the wheels turning in their head but they don't say anything. lol
She also has an anklet with HW on it but she only wears it when we go on vacations.
That has been picked up on by guys at bars but not as often as I expected..
 
Just the thought that Victoria Beckham is a hot wife and David is quite comfortable telling the world, is rather hilarious.

Victoria Beckham - a hot wife?
Did Victoria get into it as a way to reconcile David's cheating? Wonder if which ankle is the one that signifies a hot wife changes with the side of the street they drive on.😄

Which just brings back the whole guys with ear piercings and one ear or the other indicating they were gay. Which was of course also nonsense...unless it wasn't. Because there's really no way to tell whether such signals are intentional or not. Same goes with pineapple or flamingo decorations. Are they swingers or do they just like them?
 
Did Victoria get into it as a way to reconcile David's cheating? Wonder if which ankle is the one that signifies a hot wife changes with the side of the street they drive on.😄

Which just brings back the whole guys with ear piercings and one ear or the other indicating they were gay. Which was of course also nonsense...unless it wasn't. Because there's really no way to tell whether such signals are intentional or not. Same goes with pineapple or flamingo decorations. Are they swingers or do they just like them?
Funny. I hate the pink flamingo thing so very much and the wife thought that was funny so on a birthday one yr I came home to a front yard full of pink flamingos.

Note: not swingers/ hot wife, just flamingo thing made me laugh.

As you were🙂
 
Funny. I hate the pink flamingo thing so very much and the wife thought that was funny so on a birthday one yr I came home to a front yard full of pink flamingos.

Note: not swingers/ hot wife, just flamingo thing made me laugh.

As you were🙂
Yeah it's funny what people think are signals sometimes. We've been in the lifestyle over 20 years but hear things from non-swinging folks about sure signs like pampas grass in the front yard that we had never heard of anyone in the community actually using. That rumor got so out of control that sales of pampas grass cratered because people didn't want to be associated.

There's apps for that now, not landscaping. :LOL:
 
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