Can the men you are having sex with "find the clitoris"?

[BossingBoy88]

I had a woman who had over 80 partners tell me that I ate pussy better than anyone she ever knew. I guess that would be a yes.

I would love to hear about your game, kind senpai. How do you go about your business

 

[NoObjection]

That’s so true, a lot of the younger ones can’t even find the way in, often I have to take them in my fingers and guide them to my entrance. Those who think they know where my clitoris is don’t realise that the small pinkish white bean is only the tip. It’s a bit bigger than that, sort of like a little wishbone. It goes right around my vaginal entrance, down each side of my vulva.

That’s one reason I much prefer older men. They have a lot of experience and a good idea of where things are, as well as what to do to me.

Lucy xx.

Two lips on the labia and the tongue on the clit.
The perfect trinity.

 

[dingdongditchding]

I know what I am doing. I used to have at least a little bit of a life. Hey babes, keep whining and dating the same guys. good for you and their lack of sexual knowledge.

 

[lucy_anne21]

Yup I’ve had guys struggle to get it in too. Not fun when they start poking around and get everything but. I also remember one guy losing his load before he even got inside lol.

I’ve had one or two do that as well. It’s even more uncomfortable if they trap your pubic hair, and it pulls as they get in.

Lucy.

 

[StirlingMorty13]

That’s so true, a lot of the younger ones can’t even find the way in, often I have to take them in my fingers and guide them to my entrance. Those who think they know where my clitoris is don’t realise that the small pinkish white bean is only the tip. It’s a bit bigger than that, sort of like a little wishbone. It goes right around my vaginal entrance, down each side of my vulva.

That’s one reason I much prefer older men. They have a lot of experience and a good idea of where things are, as well as what to do to me.

Lucy xx.

Thats why a lot of younger girls prefer an older guy that knows what they are doing.

Its a good match up

 

[DinglyDangly]

Unfortunately I’ve come across all these type of men in my sexual past. However they never asked me to direct them. I would do it regardless because I want to feel good while he’s at my pussy but the fact remains, they never asked. I know from experience men direct women on how to please them. But women might not do it as much.
So whose fault is it?

I find that most mem think they know all that they need to satisfy a woman's needs, sadly most men are way off and take it as an insult if a woman needs to direct them. Personally, direction has aided our sexual pleasure, as we all have different needs and ways to give that pleasure, no man or woman can say they know everything about their partner and what they need for sexual pleasure, each sexual encounter is a learning curve.

 

[DinglyDangly]

That’s so true, a lot of the younger ones can’t even find the way in, often I have to take them in my fingers and guide them to my entrance. Those who think they know where my clitoris is don’t realise that the small pinkish white bean is only the tip. It’s a bit bigger than that, sort of like a little wishbone. It goes right around my vaginal entrance, down each side of my vulva.

That’s one reason I much prefer older men. They have a lot of experience and a good idea of where things are, as well as what to do to me.

Lucy xx.

With age comes experience, but not in all cases.

 

[pinkparkhorse]

I’ve had one or two do that as well. It’s even more uncomfortable if they trap your pubic hair, and it pulls as they get in.

Lucy.

Oh that would suck. I’ve been spared from having that happen so far.

 

[OralAllOver]

Look, "finding Waldo" was difficult enough
Now I have to find his clit?

 

[AverageGuy86]

I guess I was asking about matters of anatomy. Can every woman's clitoris be seen, or are some hidden by her hood, almost, or completely?

Ladies specifically - Speaking of women's anatomy, is it possible to see every woman's clitoris, or are some hidden beneath her hood regardless? I know that 'lifting' her hood can help reveal the tip of her clitoris, but is this always the case?

 

[big_cane_sugar]

There was a time in my life when I only knew it was down there somewhere but when I found it I knew I'd found it. Now that everyone can ask the internet, I don't know how any straight guy wouldn't know. If he says he doesn't know, or acts like he doesn't, my money's on he just doesn't care.

 

[TonyF862]

I love this thread for a host of reasons.

1) I LOVE eating pussy! #1 turn on by far
2) love to learn what turns a woman on when I’m down there. Every woman is different on the thing that puts them over the edge
3) I must apologize to those that endured my early clit licking - as I had not yet clued in on what a woman wants/needs.
4) to you women out there: we clit lickers are NOT mind readers! Tell us what you like. What is working. Guide us! We want to please!!

 

[T_2K_59]

A woman's clit is equivalent to a hard on. And we all know how important bjs are to men. We woman watch and learn and ask how they like it. Men are not made aware of the importance of cunnilingus. I have to stop myself from asking groups of young men, what they know about it. It's the most important part of a woman's body. It should be taught in sex education.
I do have a question
As woman how do we learn to lay back and enjoy the experience? However long it takes.
And the answer to your question is he thinks he does.
Left bit. Up a bit stay there pleeeeeeeasssseee

Yes, tell me how you want me to eat your pussy! Grab my head with both hands and move my mouth where you want it to be! Don't let me stop until you are done with me!
I'm down there for you, use me!

 

[NightBirdNYC]

That’s so true, a lot of the younger ones can’t even find the way in, often I have to take them in my fingers and guide them to my entrance. Those who think they know where my clitoris is don’t realise that the small pinkish white bean is only the tip. It’s a bit bigger than that, sort of like a little wishbone. It goes right around my vaginal entrance, down each side of my vulva.

That’s one reason I much prefer older men. They have a lot of experience and a good idea of where things are, as well as what to do to me.

Lucy xx.

Well said! And something quite a number of men might not wish to hear? But definitely (on the plus side) good information! And yes, in my experience, older men usually do know that the clit has more of a wishbone shape, and know that pressure along it enhances pleasure... I'm always surprised at how little men are seemingly taught, or have had the curiosity to research about the female anatomy. I have had men during my years who not only didn't know when during her cycle a woman generally ovulates (a fairly important bit of information), but what ovulation was! Curiosity is a good thing. In every facet of life!

 

[TonyF862]

Well said! And something quite a number of men might not wish to hear? But definitely (on the plus side) good information! And yes, in my experience, older men usually do know that the clit has more of a wishbone shape, and know that pressure along it enhances pleasure... I'm always surprised at how little men are seemingly taught, or have had the curiosity to research about the female anatomy. I have had men during my years who not only didn't know when during her cycle a woman generally ovulates (a fairly important bit of information), but what ovulation was! Curiosity is a good thing. In every facet of life!

Amen!! Curiosity has pleasured more lovers than large cocks!! I just happen to possess both!

 

[NightBirdNYC]

I love this thread for a host of reasons.

1) I LOVE eating pussy! #1 turn on by far
2) love to learn what turns a woman on when I’m down there. Every woman is different on the thing that puts them over the edge
3) I must apologize to those that endured my early clit licking - as I had not yet clued in on what a woman wants/needs.
4) to you women out there: we clit lickers are NOT mind readers! Tell us what you like. What is working. Guide us! We want to please!!

Your Point #4 reminded me of one of my favorite comics, the late Sam Kinison on the subject! LOL!

 

[TonyF862]

Your Point #4 reminded me of one of my favorite comics, the late Sam Kinison on the subject! LOL!

#truth!!!

 

[midnight_doctor_2]

The clit was never a challenge to find, but "treating the clit right"? That is different for every woman. Guys, be man enough to ask her what she likes and LISTEN.
I had a long term girlfriend when young who liked it rough. Like "didn't cum without bruising". It took me a long time to learn to be gentle enough for my later partners.

I was hit or miss with the g-spot until a very dear friend gave me some really clear guidance.

Wow. If he can't find it she should just show it to him. Simple enough.

 

[PierceDe]

I know all the parts and where they are, the geography is EASY.

The hard part is knowing how to stimulate them...
1. Obviously as a man I don't know what it feels like to have a clit or a g-spot or what sensations are best.
2. Each woman likes it different.
3. Most women won't tell you, some won't tell you even if you ask.

 

[midnight_doctor_2]

"Men can't find the clitoris" is a sex trope I have heard of for as long as I was aware of sex, but let's look at actual experience around here.

By "can't find the clitoris", folks usually mean several things:

1) Men don't know vulva anatomy well enough to know about the clitoris in the first place

2) Men know about the clitoris, but its shape and location are a mystery to them

3) Men know vulva anatomy but are really bad at treating the clitoris right

4) Men know about the clitoris and where it is, and know many people with clits like that stimulation, but don't bother stimulating it (maybe thinking penetration with no extra thoughts is perfectly sufficient in all cases)

So with that in mind, what is YOUR personal experience? Do you notice a difference in generations? Have men gotten better or worse at this?

(Cis-) men and anyone with a penis get to play, too, but keep in mind that purely individual comments like "Well I at least always treat clits right!!" are only moderately useful here. Use common sense to see if it advances the discussion.

Likewise, asexuals, virgins and Lesbian women are welcome to share their wisdom on this, but try to limit speculation. Use common sense to see if it advances the discussion.

If they can't find it show him where it is and how to lick/suck it.

 

[Britva415]

I know all the parts and where they are, the geography is EASY.

The hard part is knowing how to stimulate them...
1. Obviously as a man I don't know what it feels like to have a clit or a g-spot or what sensations are best.
2. Each woman likes it different.
3. Most women won't tell you, some won't tell you even if you ask.

You got to pay attention to the electricity, to her pulse, her breathing, her eyes (if you can see them), her relaxation level, the sense of charge underlying her tension level, her sense of aliveness. You got to be willing to just stop and breathe, yourself, to go slow and sense her eagerness, her hunger for you to continue or to intensify.

If you aren't paying attention to these things or don't even know how to sense them, then... Well, practice until you can!

You're right, she won't tell you what she likes, but she WILL let you know when you figure it out.

 

[Noor]

Of course, if they can’t and can’t learn immediately, they are out.
Seriously, it’s like men who don’t know how to wash dishes.

 

[ashbb]

He can. There are so many benefits to situationships with older men.

 

[babyface23]

Wait, if we had no trouble finding it in the late 80s and early 90s without the internet, how do these fools now not know?

Anytime I was with a woman for the first time, my own little game was the treasure hunt to go find it. It wasn’t hard. Well, it was hard, but that made it easy to find. And my job was to treat it the way she wanted. As many times as she wanted. As often as she wanted. My needs were always secondary.

 

[bobb64]

i've been looking for it for 60 years still can't find it. lol