Poppa Rod

[LargoKitt]

Just read another story or two where a character is fretting about folks seeing his erection, and ladies are noticing his woodie.

In the name of accuracy, but recognizing the role of hyperbole and fantasy, a question for both men and women: For men, personal experience says that men very rarely get stiff to the point of visibility in public, though trousers can deceptively give the appearance of erectitude. So, dudes, have you rarely, occasionally or frequently 'risen to the occasion' in public without you or someone else having 'encouraged you'?

To women: I know you are talented surreptitious crotch watchers, but how ofen have you seen a dude, not at 'is he...' but rather at 'OMG he's totally....' stage?

I realize that gay men may have an entirely unique tilt on this. But it might be instructive to note if you see straight dudes in obvious arousal.

I don't think this trope is going to go away anytime soon. Any more than women 'getting wet' is. Of course guys get wet and women get erect, but those are used less in stories. "I knew she wanted me because under that silk blouse her nipples were rock hard."

 

[MrPixel]

"Is that a banana in your pocket, or are you just glad to see me?"
-Mae West, in "My Little Chickadee"

It may be a trope, but there is an element of truth to it. A couple of instances in my life, "Oo. Is that for me?" Girlfriends, of course.

 

[SinclairGroupLLP]

Not since I was a teenager and couldn't control myself. That was the only time I can remember it happening in a public setting. Once I hit my twenties, I could go to strip clubs, make out with girls on the dance floor, among other things and never had an unwanted erection that was visible.

Maybe I'm just too good at seeming nonchalant when I'm turned on, lol.

 

[Britva415]

have you rarely, occasionally or frequently 'risen to the occasion' in public without you or someone else having 'encouraged you'?

Happened all the time when I was 14.

Never, since I became sexually active.

Except for the time I decided to go on a bike ride in San Francisco with nothing on below the waist and above the knees but a cock ring, a pair of rubber rain pants, and lube. That was weird, funny, fun and oddly exciting.

 

[TheRedChamber]

No, but then I rarely have things that are worth writing down in a Literotica story happen to me.

 

[alohadave]

For men, personal experience says that men very rarely get stiff to the point of visibility in public, though trousers can deceptively give the appearance of erectitude. So, dudes, have you rarely, occasionally or frequently 'risen to the occasion' in public without you or someone else having 'encouraged you'?

No, it rarely happens. And less so as you get older. Most situations are not at all erotic and random hard-ons don't really happen, IME. Maybe it happens to other guys, but it's more of a porn trope than anything realistic.

And, based on my experience, even watching porn, or back when I frequented strip clubs, I rarely, if ever got a hard-on from watching the dancers. Funnily, strip clubs really aren't that erotic to me. They can be fun, but it's kind of a weird space that is very performative and openly transactional.

 

[jsmiam]

.. For men, personal experience says that men very rarely get stiff to the point of visibility in public, though trousers can deceptively give the appearance of erectitude…

I’d go with more than rare, into the “occasionally” category. But also blending into the “so stay seated for an extra moment” combined with it becoming easier to control as you leave the awkward teens.

As far as visibility, fabric plays a role. For example refer to the second photo of the first post of the currently hot-topic male gaze thread. That wasn’t even an erection, but the choice in pants made that situation one where the rest of us wished for an “unsee” button. Whereas tight jeans and thick denim fabric might have kept things constrained.

Next, let’s talk about the risks of snail-trails. Which on dark fabric runs the risk of turning white as things dry and turning into an awkward all day/night problem. (Snail trail is slang. In clearer language, it’s a wet spot from pre-cum that soaks through and beyond underwear to be a spot visible on pants. And in a worst case scenario it’s not just one spot but a trail, since things can move around. )

Finally one very real and common factor is a slightly different but related topic, ‘during an embrace and even more so an embrace with kissing/making out for the first time with someone.’ The pokeximity proximity with respect to the other person is most definitely a factor where you must decide whether or not it’s soon enough to let the other person be aware (by feel, not by sight) that something is going on down there.

 

[Erozetta]

Truth be told, I'm more likely to look at other women than men in pretty much any setting.

But I do recall two instances of absolutely knowing a guy was hard in public by visual confirmation.

One:

A friend and I had been bantering with each other while I worked at a restaurant. He was in a booth near the main area I was working. I don't remember what I said, and I don't think it wasn't anything that could be construed as sexual, but he started blushing quite fiercely, then got up and headed to the bathroom. There was a bounce in his shorts when he walked away. And then I was blushing upon that realization. Only thing I can figure is it was the way I said it that got to him? Because I'm pretty sure there was no innuendo in our banter. We were just insulting each other as friends do. Or maybe he had a degradation kink I wasn't aware of, lol.

Two:

There was this guy I worked for when I was like 15. I cleaned his house on the weekends while his wife was away at some church function. That job didn't last long, maybe six months. He got himself banned from the restaurant I worked at within a few days of my quitting working for him. He'd been friends with my boss, so I'm actually surprised I wasn't just fired. Anyhow, I saw him in a store where I worked shortly before I left home at 19. And he saw me. The entire interaction might've been 30 seconds. I wouldn't have noticed the boner on my own, but he turned away from his wife, turned toward me, and adjusted himself while staring me down.


Since then? I rarely leave my apartment except for work, and that's night shift. My husband getting hard in public around me doesn't count because there's absolutely innuendo in everything I say to him.

 

[Jorunn]

If I am interested in a guy, I will look at his face (not his cock) and hopefully get eye contact. If he holds that, then I know the interest is mutual. I don’t see tented trousers on the streets.

The best time to check for a guy’s random erection is always in the morning anyway. Isn’t it good, Norwegian wood?