Eroticism


I find ambiguity to be very erotic. Eroticism can come from the definite… the explicit… the apparent, because our eyes are enticed by what we see, but I believe eroticism can also come from uncertainty; the excitement of not quite knowing for sure; to catch a glimpse of a signal; a lingering, desiring, even lustful glance… before a mutual sensation of being caught, and looking away. Our greatest unconscious desire in that moment is that we will look back at one another in synchronicity. But nothing is said yet! Nothing is certain! I feel the danger of advancing without being sure: is there consent here? Am I reading this correctly? I don’t know! The wait; the anticipation; the imagination running wild because there are no boundaries formed yet; I have already imagined our embrace… the touching of our foreheads as we stare into each others eyes while our hands seek out ways to release each other’s skin. When we say “yes”, only then there is certainty… in that comes form and a conception, perhaps leading to the intimate moment. But before this? It is a world of infinite, formless, chaotic possibilities, where imagination runs riot! It makes the heart beat fast and the mouth open to cope with the breathlessness of it. The allure of the not-quite-knowing can be extremely erotic. If we are present, and pay attention then we may catch ‘it’.

Imagine we are in a beautiful hotel room, on a huge four-poster bed. We awake from our restful embrace, and untie ourselves from each other’s limbs. I look deeply into your eyes as I take the blindfold from the sheet beside us and gently, silently place it upon you. Just like we agreed I would. Suddenly your usual erotic visual stimulus is gone and your other senses try as hard as they can to compensate. We say nothing but listen to each other’s presence for a moment. You take a moment to imagine that I am looking at you, while you lie blindfolded and vulnerable, with possessive eyes. Without warning, you are shocked that I unexpectedly rise, cross the floor and leave the room… you are alone. Why did I go? Why have I left you alone like this? Where have I gone? Should you take off the blindfold and get up, or should you stay and wait? You lie still, listening, anticipating. You can hear your heart beating. One hundred, pounding beats. Footsteps outside the door come to a stop. There is a pause… how long have you been here like this? Was it one hundred beats of your heart or one thousand? The pause is long. It is so long that you wonder whether you heard those steps at all! Did you imagine them? You suddenly feel alone and feel a strong desire to remove the blindfold, but you don’t. There is a profound silence. Are you alone? Did I even leave the room! You imagine that I have been in the room, counting your heartbeats with you, until it is time.

A key turns in the lock, quietly, as if trying to hide it from you. Is it me? You can’t be sure. You utter, with a light whisper, as if you are asking only yourself “is that… you?”. The uncertainty of the moment makes you tense. If this is not me then who is it? I am the only one with a key, unless it is a member of staff! You trust me… we spoke about trust… so it must either be me, or the one person in the hotel tonight that I know you desire. I know who you well enough… what if I handed the key over to… her! You imagine the sensation of her lips brushing across your thigh, and her seeking tongue entering you. There is silent movement in the room, you feel the air of the room moving on your skin! You take a deep breath and accept the pleasure found in the ambiguity of the moment.

I place my hand gently on your chest; warm and restful, fingers splayed apart. You know my hand, it is a familiar energy. I can feel the beating in your chest, and you smile at the moment of imagination you had. For a moment, you quietly wish it was her, but this is replaced, like a queen taking a pawn, with a wicked grin when you realise what is now in store… what is it going to be? The aching intensity of no longer knowing where and how I will touch you next! How will this play out? Suddenly you find yourself back in this moment of ambiguity, unsure of what journey this will take. But there is one thing you do know for certain; over the next hour, I won’t tell you what is going to happen next, but whatever it is will allow your senses to be flooded, and your imagination to be free. Maybe she will join us, after all.

I look over to her, as she fills the glass with ice, and lights the candle…
Quite beautiful, mate!
 
See how she blends with light into the world around her. See how she eludes capture, eludes our comprehension. And yet, she is real, real, in the immediacy of our apprehension. How often do we miss the erotic present, and we only get the traces of their having been there?

The erotic never stays, it is like apparitions that plague the soul by their ephemeral nature.

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Another seated figure...but its interesting how you switch the lens, and we focus on different things.
 
Wow.. so much to catch up on!

Cartography - I love the comparison to the form of the body. One examines the topography of the landform on a map by way of contour lines. You take that analogy and apply that to the female form. That exquisite observation of such delicate contours. Then we apply lighting to those contours through photography to accentuate and highlight. Or hide and disguise.

Can that same ephemeral principal of light casting shadows be captured in music...? Maybe Cocteau Twins came close.

 
Wow.. so much to catch up on!

Cartography - I love the comparison to the form of the body. One examines the topography of the landform on a map by way of contour lines. You take that analogy and apply that to the female form. That exquisite observation of such delicate contours. Then we apply lighting to those contours through photography to accentuate and highlight. Or hide and disguise.

Can that same ephemeral principal of light casting shadows be captured in music...? Maybe Cocteau Twins came close.

I love the Twins! And this is one of my favourites!!
 
Pina Bausch is mesmerising, demanding in her precise art. Her dance pieces delve deep into pain, longing, and the moment of the woman’s awareness of her own desire, a desire that frees but also destroys.

Here is the full version of her Cafe Muller. It’s 40 minutes or more.
 
Pina Bausch is mesmerising, demanding in her precise art. Her dance pieces delve deep into pain, longing, and the moment of the woman’s awareness of her own desire, a desire that frees but also destroys.

Here is the full version of her Cafe Muller. It’s 40 minutes or more.
Some of this is not easy to watch. :oops: physical manipulations, lost souls, uncertainty, longing, loss, coupling, patterns of intimacy, embracing… quite a lot to absorb. It’s dance, so obviously ‘bodily’ but the surreal physicality is suggestively erotic. :) It’s quite sculptural, isn’t it?
 
Something steamy.

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We both know what’s happening.

The dry, prickling heat penetrates my skin, a bead of sweat runs down my temple, falls across my cheek, and drops onto my upper chest, and is trapped in my hair. I don’t try to wipe it away, as another will join it momentarily. The sensation of internal moisture exiting through the pores of my skin is invigorating! I feel the next trickle of sweat running down down my spine, steering into the area between my buttocks, where there is a cavity that the towel doesn’t reach. I let it run down, arch my back as it teases its way down, and then I feel it dissipate.

And we both know what’s happening.

An unsaid tension between hesitant strangers; recognition from glimpses of each other by the pool… and now in here; hot; building sweat in unison, eyes directed downward, momentarily. We fleetingly glance up, taking turns to catch a snapshot of each other. I finally linger my gaze, focusing lazily, with my eyes on your slipping towel, my upper lip moist, my cheeks blush, my chest soaked in sweat, a pool gathering in my navel as I fake a nonchalant pose. The heat between my legs is making me swell, I can feel the sticky moisture there as I shift my weight, and I don’t hide the shape of my tumescence; my towel is pretending to keep my modesty… but I’m waiting to be caught by your reciprocating gaze. I want you to see how this is making me feel. I slide the towel aside enough to show you how I am.

And we both know what’s happening.

I can see I have finally caught your attention; I can feel the caress of your eyes on me. The sweat is beading and dripping down the inside of your thighs, where your towel doesn’t reach, but where you know my eyes can. I imagine my hand disrupting the wetness; smearing the saturation. Moving it up your thighs, with no intention of pausing until I come to the place where you are most wet. I can feel a pending eruption from this volcanic heat. The heat makes your hair curl, wet, snaking locks cling to your neck and your shoulders. Your face is peaceful, your cheeks relaxed, your eyes closed for a moment, the back of your head resting on a right-angle of the aromatic spruce, chin pointing up. I hear the clicks of the expanding timber, the aroma of pine, and the creak of the bench as you gently shift your weight, lift your leg and place your heel up onto the seat, with your toes curled over the edge. I receive the felt sense of you exposing yourself. I imagine running my finger over your lips, under your chin and unravelling your towel, which now only loosely covers your breasts, allowing me to admire their shape. We both want this, it is unmentioned; nothing is said, but we both know what’s happening.

I don’t want you here… and I know neither do you. How long will we perform this anchored dance? We will wait until we are synchronised in a mutual moment of aching desire, voiceless, stepping out into the cool air, spontaneously dropping our towels, stepping naked into the cool shower. I will follow you in, press myself against you, so we can release the heat upon each other, in a gasping, grasping, shivering, penetrating, groping, uncontrolled moment of passion. This is how the sauna marks the beginning.

Our eyes meet and we both know what’s happening.

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In the spirit of the erotic in other forms, I thought of Flamenco. The dance is so controlled, so precise, it becomes more about the restraint of the body, and its grace in that restraint..


I can’t take my eyes off her
Yes, proof that eroticism can encompass movement. MMmmm.. But, please note: her moves are slow, often discrete arches ... almost to be perceived as moving art. Beautiful. :rose::rose::rose::rose:
 
I love the Twins! And this is one of my favourites!!
I still remember hearing their music for the first time over 30 years ago - it was the 'Aikea-Guinea' EP. Floored would be an understatement. What was I listen to? My upbringing of Led Zeppelin and Pink Floyd followed by teen years of Black Flag and Fugazi did not prepare me for that....😂

That EP still gets time on my turntable today. It is beyond timeless. (plus the production is insane when played on vinyl)

Oh... and Ethel Cain is touring here in Feb next year 😉
 
Some of this is not easy to watch. :oops: physical manipulations, lost souls, uncertainty, longing, loss, coupling, patterns of intimacy, embracing… quite a lot to absorb. It’s dance, so obviously ‘bodily’ but the surreal physicality is suggestively erotic. :) It’s quite sculptural, isn’t it?
It’s hard to watch, I think, because it is honest, so dark, so real, and oh so human, all too human. There is, in her pieces, a tragic eroticism. It doesn’t make you soar, or become intoxicated, but there is certainly a kind of rapture.
 
Something steamy.

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We both know what’s happening.

The dry, prickling heat penetrates my skin, a bead of sweat runs down my temple, falls across my cheek, and drops onto my upper chest, and is trapped in my hair. I don’t try to wipe it away, as another will join it momentarily. The sensation of internal moisture exiting through the pores of my skin is invigorating! I feel the next trickle of sweat running down down my spine, steering into the area between my buttocks, where there is a cavity that the towel doesn’t reach. I let it run down, arch my back as it teases its way down, and then I feel it dissipate.

And we both know what’s happening.

An unsaid tension between hesitant strangers; recognition from glimpses of each other by the pool… and now in here; hot; building sweat in unison, eyes directed downward, momentarily. We fleetingly glance up, taking turns to catch a snapshot of each other. I finally linger my gaze, focusing lazily, with my eyes on your slipping towel, my upper lip moist, my cheeks blush, my chest soaked in sweat, a pool gathering in my navel as I fake a nonchalant pose. The heat between my legs is making me swell, I can feel the sticky moisture there as I shift my weight, and I don’t hide the shape of my tumescence; my towel is pretending to keep my modesty… but I’m waiting to be caught by your reciprocating gaze. I want you to see how this is making me feel. I slide the towel aside enough to show you how I am.

And we both know what’s happening.

I can see I have finally caught your attention; I can feel the caress of your eyes on me. The sweat is beading and dripping down the inside of your thighs, where your towel doesn’t reach, but where you know my eyes can. I imagine my hand disrupting the wetness; smearing the saturation. Moving it up your thighs, with no intention of pausing until I come to the place where you are most wet. I can feel a pending eruption from this volcanic heat. The heat makes your hair curl, wet, snaking locks cling to your neck and your shoulders. Your face is peaceful, your cheeks relaxed, your eyes closed for a moment, the back of your head resting on a right-angle of the aromatic spruce, chin pointing up. I hear the clicks of the expanding timber, the aroma of pine, and the creak of the bench as you gently shift your weight, lift your leg and place your heel up onto the seat, with your toes curled over the edge. I receive the felt sense of you exposing yourself. I imagine running my finger over your lips, under your chin and unravelling your towel, which now only loosely covers your breasts, allowing me to admire their shape. We both want this, it is unmentioned; nothing is said, but we both know what’s happening.

I don’t want you here… and I know neither do you. How long will we perform this anchored dance? We will wait until we are synchronised in a mutual moment of aching desire, voiceless, stepping out into the cool air, spontaneously dropping our towels, stepping naked into the cool shower. I will follow you in, press myself against you, so we can release the heat upon each other, in a gasping, grasping, shivering, penetrating, groping, uncontrolled moment of passion. This is how the sauna marks the beginning.

Our eyes meet and we both know what’s happening.

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https://postimg.cc/Z0DJCnH5
https://postimg.cc/McthN3rp
https://postimg.cc/rKW7MwYb
https://postimg.cc/pmrGyV0R
https://postimg.cc/c6rY2K5R
https://postimg.cc/2LjdJTMr
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How evocative. Your words are quite beautiful, rapturous, even? The idea of a stranger and the protracted dance of restraint before the leap outside, all this is what this thread has been about- the sublime distance between desire and consummation, the liminal spaces. I live your writing, and I love you for being here.

I love all of you for being here! 💕💕💋💋
 
Something steamy.

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We both know what’s happening.

The dry, prickling heat penetrates my skin, a bead of sweat runs down my temple, falls across my cheek, and drops onto my upper chest, and is trapped in my hair. I don’t try to wipe it away, as another will join it momentarily. The sensation of internal moisture exiting through the pores of my skin is invigorating! I feel the next trickle of sweat running down down my spine, steering into the area between my buttocks, where there is a cavity that the towel doesn’t reach. I let it run down, arch my back as it teases its way down, and then I feel it dissipate.

And we both know what’s happening.

An unsaid tension between hesitant strangers; recognition from glimpses of each other by the pool… and now in here; hot; building sweat in unison, eyes directed downward, momentarily. We fleetingly glance up, taking turns to catch a snapshot of each other. I finally linger my gaze, focusing lazily, with my eyes on your slipping towel, my upper lip moist, my cheeks blush, my chest soaked in sweat, a pool gathering in my navel as I fake a nonchalant pose. The heat between my legs is making me swell, I can feel the sticky moisture there as I shift my weight, and I don’t hide the shape of my tumescence; my towel is pretending to keep my modesty… but I’m waiting to be caught by your reciprocating gaze. I want you to see how this is making me feel. I slide the towel aside enough to show you how I am.

And we both know what’s happening.

I can see I have finally caught your attention; I can feel the caress of your eyes on me. The sweat is beading and dripping down the inside of your thighs, where your towel doesn’t reach, but where you know my eyes can. I imagine my hand disrupting the wetness; smearing the saturation. Moving it up your thighs, with no intention of pausing until I come to the place where you are most wet. I can feel a pending eruption from this volcanic heat. The heat makes your hair curl, wet, snaking locks cling to your neck and your shoulders. Your face is peaceful, your cheeks relaxed, your eyes closed for a moment, the back of your head resting on a right-angle of the aromatic spruce, chin pointing up. I hear the clicks of the expanding timber, the aroma of pine, and the creak of the bench as you gently shift your weight, lift your leg and place your heel up onto the seat, with your toes curled over the edge. I receive the felt sense of you exposing yourself. I imagine running my finger over your lips, under your chin and unravelling your towel, which now only loosely covers your breasts, allowing me to admire their shape. We both want this, it is unmentioned; nothing is said, but we both know what’s happening.

I don’t want you here… and I know neither do you. How long will we perform this anchored dance? We will wait until we are synchronised in a mutual moment of aching desire, voiceless, stepping out into the cool air, spontaneously dropping our towels, stepping naked into the cool shower. I will follow you in, press myself against you, so we can release the heat upon each other, in a gasping, grasping, shivering, penetrating, groping, uncontrolled moment of passion. This is how the sauna marks the beginning.

Our eyes meet and we both know what’s happening.

https://postimg.cc/y3WBLC1K
https://postimg.cc/Z0DJCnH5
https://postimg.cc/McthN3rp
https://postimg.cc/rKW7MwYb
https://postimg.cc/pmrGyV0R
https://postimg.cc/c6rY2K5R
https://postimg.cc/2LjdJTMr
https://postimg.cc/MM6jKHDY
But I have to say, at the risk of sounding contrarian, there were a couple of images in that list there that weren’t too exciting for me.. I think you know which ones that would be…😘
 
But I have to say, at the risk of sounding contrarian, there were a couple of images in that list there that weren’t too exciting for me.. I think you know which ones that would be…😘
Oh yes, I know which ones. I considered not adding them but they just loosely fitted the theme, even though they're quite gratuitous, not so tasteful, and clearly not originally shot in b/w. I figured you'd forgive me. 😘

Some also didn't fit the text either. But there were a couple that I couldn't resist, just because they made me smile.
 
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Today, I am feeling brittle, in need of being wrapped, kept, held. Perhaps it’s the overcast sky, the soft gloom of an a cloudy afternoon, but I feel like crying, of being swept away by something, someone, annihilated, in some strange paradoxical desire for negation. If someone grabbed my wrist now and pulled me into darkness, I would follow.

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There are some regions of our universe where mysteries remain. Our tendency, and history would attest to this, is to unlock these mysteries.

But the ancients knew that the mysteries themselves, the hidden knowledge was sacred.

I find the neck to be one of the mysteries. When he touches me in the hollow between neck and shoulder, when she tears a line down my neck, across my shoulders, with her finger, I become the mystery, the hidden knowledge, even to myself.

This mystery blooms like a flower, moist with dew, like the universe that opens its arms, as if the song of mystery is sung, not in verse, but in sensation.

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I love her because she walks away from me, leaves me for another, delights others’ eyes. I long for her more, crave for the sight of her, any opportunity to catch a glimpse, taste the elixir, catch the lightning, so I could say to myself, I felt her, I took the fire from the gods.

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There are some regions of our universe where mysteries remain. Our tendency, and history would attest to this, is to unlock these mysteries.

But the ancients knew that the mysteries themselves, the hidden knowledge was sacred.

I find the neck to be one of the mysteries. When he touches me in the hollow between neck and shoulder, when she tears a line down my neck, across my shoulders, with her finger, I become the mystery, the hidden knowledge, even to myself.

This mystery blooms like a flower, moist with dew, like the universe that opens its arms, as if the song of mystery is sung, not in verse, but in sensation.

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Ah! The sweet spot, perfumed garden!
 
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