Are most bi married men in the closet?

[BiMrPotatoHead]

I'm a bi married man who has to hide his sexuality from his wife. How do others deal with this situation?

 

[perturbedmusic]

Same here. I’ve been thinking more and more about telling her. Sometimes I think it’s an unfair assumption that she’ll react poorly, but given some of my other sexual predilections that I’ve shared with her, I just don’t want to bother with another disappointment.

 

[leftwantingmore]

In my experience over the last 50 years, Yes.

 

[Britva415]

Not me

 

[BInowGay]

Only a select few know I'm bi/gay

 

[jxp617]

I think most people hide their true sexual urges and desires in general. Most people just don't feel comfortable talking about that stuff even with their partners which is strange and really unfortunate.

 

[CuriousJInLA]

I wouldn’t say that. We know about each other’s wants and enjoy together. That said I wouldn’t share that with everyone, more because of it’s a personal sexual pleasure not an identity per se

 

[Uncut1969]

Yes hiding wish wife was more open ! Would make things so much easier and fun

 

[MyMostSecretLife]

I think most people hide their true sexual urges and desires in general. Most people just don't feel comfortable talking about that stuff even with their partners which is strange and really unfortunate.

Certainly...maybe once the desire is out, it's less desirable?

 

[Mrman69]

How many bi men hide it from their significant other but still have sex with men?

 

[Iwishiwas69]

In my experience over the last 50 years, Yes.

There have been times I have advertised for a guy or guys. Always with specific conditions. They had to be married, they had to bring with them some article or articles that belonged to their wife or over teenage daughter and I would wear them when they came and role-played . The really interesting thing is I got very few calls that were genuine, but the call I did get were mainly Indian Guys. So yes, it appears married males are bi, and here's a oops, when I was married and then divorced, then living with a couple of different ladies, I was bi. I would wear their panties and stockings, and loved masturbating in them and loved when Guys masturbated on my bum and the panties got very wet. loved that feel. Be lovely to meet some day.

 

[leftwantingmore]

Same here. I’ve been thinking more and more about telling her. Sometimes I think it’s an unfair assumption that she’ll react poorly, but given some of my other sexual predilections that I’ve shared with her, I just don’t want to bother with another disappointment.

Honesty does not come without risks. And in this situation those risks can become real in a heartbeat.

 

[Biguy77578]

I was married for 25 years and kept it to myself. While dating my second wife I came out to her. We had mfm, mff and mfmf as well as swinging encounters where we both played with same sex. We have been married 27 years now and I still enjoy a males presence accasionally with my wifes knowledge though she no longer participates. I am not out to the family and most friends.

 

[Burstplayer]

Just went through it..feel free to DM

 

[CuriousCelt]

LOVE this topic, and I'm in the midst of it. Still new to it all, but I found that I really like that company of an older man. Even if it's enjoying flick together at the ABS and his shorts were really loose fitting. I couldn't get over the first time I held another man's cock.

 

[greenbriefs]

I assume you mean "Are most bi men [who are married to women] in the closet?"

My husband is bi and not in the closet. But I'm a man, so...

 

[phil1955]

I would suspect that most bi men are in the closet at least to most people. I have been bi for many years but only let my wife know about 5 years ago when we got into swinging. So now my wife knows and approves but no other friends or family know.

 

[NCMaleMan74]

Most married men are in the closet.

 

[Uncut1969]

I was married for 25 years and kept it to myself. While dating my second wife I came out to her. We had mfm, mff and mfmf as well as swinging encounters where we both played with same sex. We have been married 27 years now and I still enjoy a males presence accasionally with my wifes knowledge though she no longer participates. I am not out to the family and most friends.

Nice I think if I ever dated again I would tell the new women a lot more things I wanted to try ! And hopefully she would be on board you have perfect situation biguy

 

[Mrman69]

Nice I think if I ever dated again I would tell the new women a lot more things I wanted to try ! And hopefully she would be on board you have perfect situation biguy

Enviable situation

 

[Mrman69]

I think if there was social media when I was in my twenties, I would have been a fuck machine. It’s so fucking easy now…

 

[Greytruck]

I’m married and in the closet. Been 35 years now
I’m very discreet about the men I meet..
Careful careful

 

[regina75]

i am bi cd and 44c boobs from ormones
istarted cd with moms things. when i got married the first time i wore wifes things and i let her see me
later on when taking hormones i said iwanted to wear bras and p anties
, she bought my first set , a red dmi bra 38b at the time sheer red biine panties a re sheer tedy and a makeup set
as my tits got bigger and bought all my own cloths, every ting a woman wears and heels. never hid them
after she passed and got remarried had to give up hormones and purged every thing. this wife lets me wear bras and panties but no dresses
i so wish i could go back to fully dressing i have ate cum with first wife and shared blow jobs and after a a fuck
regina is my fem name

 

[BBCfan]

I always wanted to be honest with who I was dating about "closet" desires. When they were first emerging as an adult, I did not tell that girlfriend, But did not act on them either.

Next girlfriend I did act On them but confessed and she was supportive. Broke up for other reasons.

I always would feel someone out I was dating, and if they were freaked out by that idea, obviously we wouldn't date again.

Although I would tell them about it I would downplay the intensity of the desires at times, And to be fair I didn't even understand it and was very confused.

I had one girlfriend when we broke up, she told some people which broke a confidence that was very troubling and hurtful.

My now partner knows all the details and great that she is trusting and pretty understanding, especially since she's gotten to know how I tick very well.


I did tell one buddy, I thought was quite open-minded and we never really talked much again. Not sure if he thought I was propositioning him but he was FAR from my type.


One friend does know because he had some similar experience and wiring that he shared 1 time when drunk, so I did too But we've never talked about it again really.


I realize most people just will look at you Differently and prejudge, Some things are best kept in the closet where it's safe.

 

[RobLivesInTexas]

I'm bisexual, married to a woman, and very much in the closet. If I came out to her, it would be the end of my marriage, and it might be the end of me. With one exception (a gay suck buddy), I only play with other married men, although I indulge in an erotic massage by a make masseur now and then. I wish I could be open, and the emotional turmoil is sometimes pretty overwhelming. I wrote about this in one of my stories (Alex and Me), which is pure autobiography.