Am i a weirdo freak?

[Amimessedup1]

So, I've been married for 25 years, got hitched right after college. When I met my wife I was a virgin technically. She had 5 or 6 lovers before me in high school and was honest about it. Didn't bother me much, always a little jealousy though, but she never got into any details.

Later in life I experienced a few performance issues. Never been a big stamina guy but for whatever reason, during 1 period I was a minute man at best. One night it particularly frustrated her and I got defensive and asked about her expectations.

She told me that one of her ex's averaged 20-30 minutes and never failed to get her to climax. I was a little stunned, but also ashamed and ate it and pushed it down deep inside.

Over the last 10 years though I have found myself thinking about that. Imagining what their sex was like. I found my jealousy replaced by arousal. It had grown and grown and now I think about it constantly to the point its the main thing that gets me off. I fantasize that she often thinks of him and how good sex with him was.

We have a tame but OK sex life, not as frequent as when we were young, but ok. My wife has never made me feel inadequate at all. But still these fantasies and wild made up thoughts of my wife yearning for an ex persist, and now it has spread to fantasies of her having sex with my friends, getting her intoxicated and sharing her, something she would never do.

Am I just fucked in the head? Is their any way to break this chain?

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Sounds like a great idea. Your wife who probably forgot how great her sex life was should be reminded that guys last longer than a minute. Never mind friends that can be awkward. There are numerous guys on this site who can fulfill her needs. Ummm I mean yours

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

So, I've been married for 25 years, got hitched right after college. When I met my wife I was a virgin technically. She had 5 or 6 lovers before me in high school and was honest about it. Didn't bother me much, always a little jealousy though, but she never got into any details.

Later in life I experienced a few performance issues. Never been a big stamina guy but for whatever reason, during 1 period I was a minute man at best. One night it particularly frustrated her and I got defensive and asked about her expectations.

She told me that one of her ex's averaged 20-30 minutes and never failed to get her to climax. I was a little stunned, but also ashamed and ate it and pushed it down deep inside.

Over the last 10 years though I have found myself thinking about that. Imagining what their sex was like. I found my jealousy replaced by arousal. It had grown and grown and now I think about it constantly to the point its the main thing that gets me off. I fantasize that she often thinks of him and how good sex with him was.

We have a tame but OK sex life, not as frequent as when we were young, but ok. My wife has never made me feel inadequate at all. But still these fantasies and wild made up thoughts of my wife yearning for an ex persist, and now it has spread to fantasies of her having sex with my friends, getting her intoxicated and sharing her, something she would never do.

Am I just fucked in the head? Is their any way to break this chain?

Two ways to approach this.

First off…she picked you, not him. So you’ve got something in spades over your “rival” so to speak.

Second…do you WANT to break the chain? Twenty five years is a rarity these days, so I’d proceed with caution. Be careful of what you ask for…you just might get it.

Feel free to DM me if you’d like me expound on these thoughts. For reference, we’ve been married 31 yrs and together like 33. Went through something similar, so I understand your thought process.

 

[Amimessedup1]

Two ways to approach this.

First off…she picked you, not him. So you’ve got something in spades over your “rival” so to speak.

Second…do you WANT to break the chain? Twenty five years is a rarity these days, so I’d proceed with caution. Be careful of what you ask for…you just might get it.

Feel free to DM me if you’d like me expound on these thoughts. For reference, we’ve been married 31 yrs and together like 33. Went through something similar, so I understand your thought process.

Sent you a DM note. Thanks

 

[OneEyedSteve]

Nothing weird about being turned on about your wife's previous sex life at all. I love hearing about my wife's past and finding it a huge turn on. I encourage to tell me about it, in detail.
Threesomes, biggest she ever had, strangers she's fucked and blown, first time she did anal etc

 

[MrMannson]

My wife didn’t have a sex life prior. I was with the sluttiest who’re you could find before my wife and I married.

I sometimes feel guilty, after 27 years of marriage, that I almost drive myself insane wanting to watch my wife with another man, or her going out for a night on the town without me and being as naughty as can be. Getting hard thinking about it.

I did tell her my thoughts, and while she admitted it turned her on too, that’s where it stopped. I still have mixed emotions as far as wanting her to do it and keeping it in the bedroom.

As for her sharing me with my ex? NFWay. She despises her, and quite frankly, my ex looks scary these days!

 

[EmmAgain]

That’s a whole lotta risk for what sounds like kinda marginal reward. Maybe just keep it as a fantasy?

My husband proposed to and married me knowing full well that, as a cam girl, I was having sex with (lots of) other men. That premise was part of our marriage vows - no surprises, no lies.

I’d be very careful about treading on ice so thin. You don’t want to throw away 25 years.

 

[scootch00]

So, I've been married for 25 years, got hitched right after college. When I met my wife I was a virgin technically. She had 5 or 6 lovers before me in high school and was honest about it. Didn't bother me much, always a little jealousy though, but she never got into any details.

Later in life I experienced a few performance issues. Never been a big stamina guy but for whatever reason, during 1 period I was a minute man at best. One night it particularly frustrated her and I got defensive and asked about her expectations.

She told me that one of her ex's averaged 20-30 minutes and never failed to get her to climax. I was a little stunned, but also ashamed and ate it and pushed it down deep inside.

Over the last 10 years though I have found myself thinking about that. Imagining what their sex was like. I found my jealousy replaced by arousal. It had grown and grown and now I think about it constantly to the point its the main thing that gets me off. I fantasize that she often thinks of him and how good sex with him was.

We have a tame but OK sex life, not as frequent as when we were young, but ok. My wife has never made me feel inadequate at all. But still these fantasies and wild made up thoughts of my wife yearning for an ex persist, and now it has spread to fantasies of her having sex with my friends, getting her intoxicated and sharing her, something she would never do.

Am I just fucked in the head? Is there any way to break this chain?

No you are normal. I have the same fantasy amd my wife knows it. We talk regularly on how I want to watch her get fucked hard by big hard cock. It gets me off also

 

[Amimessedup1]

Do you think she would ever do it?

 

[scootch00]

Do you think she would ever do it?

I think so. Just not sure how to find someone amd trust them

 

[Amimessedup1]

Yeah, that's a risky proposition. I long ago decided if it were to ever happen it would have to be with one of my friends I trusted deeply, that she also had some attraction to. I've had one in mind I know she finds attractive because he's the type all women do, tall, dark, handsome type the wives noticeably tend to gravitate to in group settings..He has the gift of gab and flit and can make any woman feel that attention and a little flushed. Also going thru messy divorce so he's somewhat available.

Let me ask you, was this something you brought up or worked up to, or something she threw out there? Im very hesitant, but I do believe there's more long time wives that probably have that fantasy then admit to it. They are human after all.

 

[scootch00]

Yeah, that's a risky proposition. I long ago decided if it were to ever happen it would have to be with one of my friends I trusted deeply, that she also had some attraction to. I've had one in mind I know she finds attractive because he's the type all women do, tall, dark, handsome type the wives noticeably tend to gravitate to in group settings..He has the gift of gab and flit and can make any woman feel that attention and a little flushed. Also going thru messy divorce so he's somewhat available.

Let me ask you, was this something you brought up or worked up to, or something she threw out there? Im very hesitant, but I do believe there's more long time wives that probably have that fantasy then admit to it. They are human after all.

This is something my wife brought up amd then we talked amd went from there. I always thought not to do it with a friend so we dont ruin the friendship.

 

[TwinkleStars]

It's a fantasy. Fantasies are fun and can help bring couples closer together.

Keep in mind that not all fantasies work out in the real world. They backfire quite frequently. There's a HUGE difference in thinking about it and it actually happening.

Sometimes it's better if a fantasy stays that.....a fantasy.

 

[scootch00]

It's a fantasy. Fantasies are fun and can help bring couples closer together.

Keep in mind that not all fantasies work out in the real world. They backfire quite frequently. There's a HUGE difference in thinking about it and it actually happening.

Sometimes it's better if a fantasy stays that.....a fantasy.

You are right. Fantasizing is great amd it may help spice up a relationship. But yes. Sometime a fantasy should just be that.