Writing from personal experience

[ElectricBlue]

Dear colleagues,
How would you go about starting, proceeding and finishing a story of a personal sexual experience (names changed to protect... well, someone) without coming across as a braggart, a douche, a tramp, or worse?
Respectfully,
D.

Why would a true story necessarily infer that, unless the main character was those things? You've assuming a "true" story would be full of braggadocio, whereas in truth it might be the opposite. In any event, how would anyone know?

I've got stories here that have scatterings of real life, but equally, I've got stories where people have commented, "Thank you both for sharing," which means they thought it was a true recount, but in fact, the lead characters were completely fictional.

 

[iwatchus]

I have written a few pieces that were too personal to post. I doubt I ever will. I actually did submit a love letter to me SO, but I was persuaded to change that decision and pulled it back before Laurel ever saw it.

The original stories in my first series are all closely based on people in my crowd from decades ago. The early stories became what would happen if a very sexually uninhibited person was suddenly dropped into the midst of us. All of the other characters are based on real people. It bothered my SO to read it because of the obvious parallels. I have no doubt that anyone of us would recognize all of us in the story. I was in a meeting with one of the inspirational characters shortly after they published. I was petrified he might have read it -- easy to imagine him being a reader on the site -- and his character in the story was kind of a negative caricature of him. He was cheerful, so I guess I am safe. He was not one of the handful of people who has read the story.

 

[Britva415]

You've assuming a "true" story would be full of braggadocio, whereas in truth it might be the opposite. In any event, how would anyone know?

I think the idea was that by telling a story and saying it was true, it would be along the lines of kissing-and-telling, or of like "look at me, I got laid! *Obnoxious pelvic thrust*." Not that the story necessarily contains braggadocio, but that telling it and saying it's about you is braggadocious all by itself.

It isn't, of course, unless you write it that way.

But like I said - the way to really avoid any risk of coming off as a braggart is to just go ahead and tell it but without ever saying it's a true story.

 

[DeMont]

Even if you say it’s a true life experience, no one will believe you! So just don’t.

I write from some personal experiences, I think many authors do, but within a complete story, my personal experiences are only parts of the larger fictional story. And I do not attribute them to myself, but to my character.

@Jorunn, and to everyone else who imparted their wisdom here, thank you.
I am going to finish the draft exactly as I began it, as a "True story" then I will go back and edit the story from the point of view of making it fictional thus I get the dual pleasure of knowing that readers are getting to know me without realising it but believing the story itself is fictional. I won't embellish, or exaggerate, I will write it exactly the way it happened, with a little extra narrative for clarification only.

Bless ya l'il cotton socks, all of ya!
Deepest respects as always.
D.

 

[Jorunn]

thus I get the dual pleasure of knowing that readers are getting to know me without realising it but believing the story itself is fictional.

You have confirmed my belief that the sexiest organ in the body is neither penis nor vagina, but rather, it is the mind.

 

[StillStunned]

You have confirmed my belief that the sexiest organ in the body is neither penis nor vagina, but rather, it is the mind.

But when I try to shag my wife with my mind, all that happens is that she tells me to stop staring at her like a creep.

 

[iwatchus]

I have never hidden that My Fall and Rise is almost entirely autobiographical, but I never said so explicitly in the text. I did write it in first person perspective, and used two names unchanged, my own and my husband's (He took umbrage at being given a pseudonym). So it seems like most readers have accepted it as a true story.

I have been working my way through her story. This is heartfelt and compelling and beautifully written. The pieces are nicely bitesized, but I have to stop reading regularly because I am becoming too emotionally involved in the story.

If ups have not read it and want to read something full of real emotion, I stringly recommend this. Melissa is one of the best story tellers on the site, if not the best, and this is her telling her own story.

 

[gunhilltrain]

Dear colleagues,
How would you go about starting, proceeding and finishing a story of a personal sexual experience (names changed to protect... well, someone) without coming across as a braggart, a douche, a tramp, or worse?
Respectfully,
D.

If it's truly "true," then it goes into Reviews and Essays. Most of those are mini-memoirs that are usually touch erotic issues tangentially, if it all. One of the longest involved some incidents that happened on my college newspaper. Most names were changed but the locations are real. What happened in 1974 stays in 1974.

https://classic.literotica.com/s/the-past-is-a-foreign-country

 

[big_cane_sugar]

All of my parts in my stories in which irresistibly handsome men satiate a multitude of unrealistically beautiful women are based directly on my own real life experience.

The other stuff is just some shite I make up to fill in the gaps.

 

[MelissaBaby]

I have been working my way through her story. This is heartfelt and compelling and beautifully written. The pieces are nicely bitesized, but I have to stop reading regularly because I am becoming too emotionally involved in the story.

If ups have not read it and want to read something full of real emotion, I stringly recommend this. Melissa is one of the best story tellers on the site, if not the best, and this is her telling her own story.

Thank you, I appreciate that very much. It's very gratifying that so many people have responded so strongly to my story.

 

[Pabiporffor]

If a story is plausible then it's probably happened in real life somewhere. Therefore most stories have either happen or will eventually happen.