Hey all you 'they should have a baby' commenters [ Edit; Story count now 0 ]

[Five_Inch_Heels]

Thanks a bunch L, yer a peach!!!


@Laurel


Don't know what happened to your green kitty eye. Hope that isn't an omen and they're all OK.


Sorry somebody had to run their mouth (fingers) and ruin it all.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

Sort of a relief to be honest.

But I know some of you now will consider me to be unworthy of being on the AH with nothing available. Hell, half of you felt that way a week ago while they were still up.

 

[iwatchus]

Heels, you and I have mildly butted heads on a few issues (that is not a small club you are part of -- I can be an arrogant ass). But I am worried about you. I have no idea what triggered all this. To be honest, it doesn't involve me, I have no need to know. But take care of yourself. You are upset to an unhealthy level and have been for a few days now. I know nothing about you personally, it's the good and bad of this forum. But make sure you have some support somewhere from someone.

And everybody else here: we have no f-ing idea of what went down. Even is we think we saw every form of interaction. When something goes this south, no one outside really understands. It's often the case that no one, even the involved parties, know the whole story; they only know their half and are speculating about the other. When someone is hurting, don't pile on. Heels is hurting right now and they are part of us, part of this community. Please.

 

[Comshaw]

I suspect there’s issues behind her Lit facade that have driven her reaction. She is not obliged to explain what to many has seemed an over-reaction. Occasionally comments can jump off the page, hurt us and trigger us to act in a way that’s purely emotional. It’s not for us to head scratch and push her into a corner. I get it. Let’s move on.

You're right that she has no obligation to explain anything. That said, when you throw it all out into the open, into the public area it's fair game for anyone to comment on. That's what happens in forums like this. I understand some things can be a trigger. I understand that it sends us off the deep end sometimes, but when it's done in public, it ain't private nor is it a violation of privacy if someone comments on it.

Anyone requiring privacy on an issue should take it to PM's with someone who's close. If anything leaks from such a communication, then THAT IS a violation of privacy.

I will say that sometimes this place has more drama than any "The Real Wives of -------" show ever.


Comshaw

 

[stickygirl]

You're right that she has no obligation to explain anything. That said, when you throw it all out into the open, into the public area it's fair game for anyone to comment on. That's what happens in forums like this. I understand some things can be a trigger. I understand that it sends us off the deep end sometimes, but when it's done in public, it ain't private nor is it a violation of privacy if someone comments on it.

Anyone requiring privacy on an issue should take it to PM's with someone who's close. If anything leaks from such a communication, then THAT IS a violation of privacy.

I will say that sometimes this place has more drama than any "The Real Wives of -------" show ever.


Comshaw

I know. Thanks

 

[AwkwardlySet]

Sort of a relief to be honest.

But I know some of you now will consider me to be unworthy of being on the AH with nothing available. Hell, half of you felt that way a week ago while they were still up.

I don't understand why you are pulling yourself down like that. I suppose it must be something in your real life that makes you feel so negative, but as @stickygirl pointed out, you don't owe us any explanation.

As far as I am concerned, you'll always be welcome in the AH. Also, I am always willing to engage in discussions with you. I believe I am speaking for the huge majority of AH people here.
I understand that AH can seem unwelcoming sometimes, or that people seem to ignore certain posts, but that's AH's modus operandi. It's nothing personal, and it happens to most of us more or less. People just seem to have a limited amount of energy for these discussions, and some things are very repetitive by their nature, so that doesn't help for sure.

Take care, and hopefully stick around. There is plenty of noise in the AH, plenty of "unproductive" posts, but there are also things to be learned here, and occasionally even a truly enlightening discussion.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

Anybody know if it's possible to have the follower count wiped? What about the All Activity and Works Activity pages?

 

[SimonDoom]

As far as I am concerned, you'll always be welcome in the AH. Also, I am always willing to engage in discussions with you. I believe I am speaking for the huge majority of AH people here.

Of course. I think there is a fair amount of puzzlement and chagrin over the OP's decision, but it's not for us to decide, and it does not disqualify the OP from further participation in the AH.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

Anybody know if it's possible to have the follower count wiped? What about the All Activity and Works Activity pages?

It's not possible to remove followers.

 

[MelissaBaby]

You're right that she has no obligation to explain anything. That said, when you throw it all out into the open, into the public area it's fair game for anyone to comment on. That's what happens in forums like this. I understand some things can be a trigger. I understand that it sends us off the deep end sometimes, but when it's done in public, it ain't private nor is it a violation of privacy if someone comments on it.

Anyone requiring privacy on an issue should take it to PM's with someone who's close. If anything leaks from such a communication, then THAT IS a violation of privacy.

I will say that sometimes this place has more drama than any "The Real Wives of -------" show ever.


Comshaw

I don't disagree with anything you've said, I just wish that more people understood that just because you can do something, that doesn't mean you should.

 

[lovecraft68]

Anybody know if it's possible to have the follower count wiped? What about the All Activity and Works Activity pages?

You could ask Laurel to remove your account completely. Can't have any followers if you're not there.

I don't know the real reason something drove you to this, but I hop you find peace with it.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

It's not possible to remove followers.

I know I can't. I'm not sure if Laurel can, same as stories.

 

[RejectReality]

I know I can't. I'm not sure if Laurel can, same as stories.

There's likely no automated operation for it, but a manual query could do it. If not Laurel, then Manu. Matter of whether they have time or not.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

I don't know the real reason something drove you to this,

That's OK, I do.









Some time back, I had a medical issue. In the room in recovery when the surgeon came in to follow up, I stated:

Look, Doc, whatever you're going to tell me, I don't know anything about medicine.

Her response was 'That's OK, I do."

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

There's likely no automated operation for it, but a manual query could do it. If not Laurel, then Manu. Matter of whether they have time or not.

Not that important I guess.

They've done what they can and I don't want to bother them any more.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I know I can't. I'm not sure if Laurel can, same as stories.

I assume that, given her level of access, she could do it, but I doubt she will, as it's not a functionality that's meant to exist. And even if she did remove followers, nothing would stop people from following you again.
As others have pointed out, the only way to do this is to ask Laurel to delete your account. You could create a new account and hang out in AH if a fresh start is what you are after.

 

[OddLove]

The 'They should have a baby' stuff is a bit repulsive to me. To come onto a erotica site and try to request/demand authors to incorporate pregnancy and babies into their sex stories is... idk... disgusting?

I'm sure that will upset someone deeply. Go 1 star all my stories, I can't afford to give a fck

 

[Comshaw]

I don't disagree with anything you've said, I just wish that more people understood that just because you can do something, that doesn't mean you should.

Yeah MB, that's called wisdom and it takes some time, actually for most a lifetime to acquire.

Comshaw

 

[Actingup]

The 'They should have a baby' stuff is a bit repulsive to me. To come onto a erotica site and try to request/demand authors to incorporate pregnancy and babies into their sex stories is... idk... disgusting?

I'm sure that will upset someone deeply. Go 1 star all my stories, I can't afford to give a fck

IMHO, telling authors what story they should have written is usually inappropriate, even if it's a common impulse. But going off to bomb all of somebody's stories just because you didn't like something they said or did is always deeply warped.

Anyway...

@Five_Inch_Heels - if you're still here and reading - all the best to you and hopefully your chosen pathway will lead to a good place. I do hope you stick around, but if you don't, or take a break and come back later renewed, that's all good too.

 

[UnexpectedLuggage]

The 'They should have a baby' stuff is a bit repulsive to me. To come onto a erotica site and try to request/demand authors to incorporate pregnancy and babies into their sex stories is... idk... disgusting?

I'm sure that will upset someone deeply. Go 1 star all my stories, I can't afford to give a fck

It always just makes me think "then go write a story about that yourself."

I get the frustration with readers trying to tell you what you should incorporate into your work, especially when they do it via anonymous comments, but I generally just roll my eyes and move on.

I ain't out to please those people.

 

[ChloeTzang]

I'll just be blunt here and say this is fucking ridiculous.

You post a story on a free website, leave the comments open and then throw a tantrum because you get a comment you don't like and delete all your stories? Grow the fuck up.

If you don't like the comment, deletre it. If you don't like comments, turn them off. If you don't like ratings, don't let readers vote.

Anytime you write a story for anywhere Literotica, Amazon, a publisher, anywhere at all where you get readers, you have forfeited any ability to control the readers response. As an author, when you put it out there, for good or ill you are putting in front of other people and begging their response, be it reading, rating, paying money to buy it. reviewing it. commenting on it or responding to you.

Someone liked your story enough to comment. They liked your writing enough to make a suggestion about something they would like to see. Fine, you don't agree with that. Write a comment back and explain why. Delete their comment if it offends you. But to throw a hissy fit and delete everything? Strikes me that you haven't quite grasped the concept of what happens when you write stuff and put it out there to read, and I'm not going to be sympathetic here in the slightest.

I'm not usually this blunt or impolite but you need a bit of honesty here. If you're going to write and put it out there in front of readers, you need to develop a far thicker skin than you seem to have.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

I'm not usually this blunt or impolite

Untrue based on the history I've seen.

 

[ChloeTzang]

Untrue based on the history I've seen.

LOL True. Maybe I should qualify that with "So far this week" LOL

PM me offline if you want to discuss - really, if you want to write, you have to expect and learn to deal with reactions and comments you don't like and there are ways to handle that. Depends what you want. Do you really want to write but the reactions get to you? Wjat's your motivation for writing? What do you want to get back from posting your stories for readers?

There's ways to deal with al of that. You just need to understand what it is that YOU want to get back. If you leave comments ope, you will ALWAYS get some shitty comments or comments yu don't like. Now that you have displayed a weakness, there are readers on Lit who will focus in that and target you. And here is nowhere near as bad as somewhere like reddit where the rats come in packs.

Anyhow, PM me if you like. Happy to discuss more offline.

 

[SimonDoom]

Chloe puts things more bluntly than I would, but her comment echoes something I've wondered about recently. It seems to me that since I started participating in this forum almost 9 years ago, there has been a significant uptick in posts along the lines of "How do I handle criticism?" or "I don't like negative feedback." Nobody likes non-constructive criticism, but it puzzles me that it bothers people so much. It makes me wonder what sorts of lives Lit authors live behind the scenes. I don't know about you, but I've been criticized all my life -- in school, in sports, at work, by my parents. It's life. You learn and get better at things by getting feedback, including negative feedback, from others. Compared to the "real world" criticism and pressure I've received outside this little forum, this is nothing. It's a tiny little drop in the bucket. I'm trying to imagine the lives other Lit authors are living where this is a big deal, and it's hard for me to picture it.
Chloe is right: when you publish a story, you have no control over the response to it, and you'd better get used to that really quickly, or reconsider being a writer.

Being bothered or offended by story feedback is a choice. It's a choice you don't have to make. You will be a happier and more fulfilled writer, and probably a better writer, if you choose not to be bothered by negative feedback.

 

[Omenainen]

Maybe the participation trophy generations are growing to be Lit-aged.

But also, we don’t know what else people have going on, and feeble mental health leads to extreme reactions in situations that wouldn’t require such reactions in the minds of more stable people. Of course it’s up to those people themselves to understand to opt out of places that aren’t good for them, but they’re not always able to, or maybe the experience here is what it takes for them to learn that lesson. I’m not nearly as surprised that these things happen as Simon or Chloe. I haven’t been the most grounded person myself throughout my life, I understand depression and anxiety in a way it seems they don’t. Also creative types are often very sensitive and more prone to these things.

So whatever is going on with OP, I hope it passes like most things eventually do and they’ll get some peace of mind. If not here, then elsewhere. Smut is a nice hobby but it’s not worth being all upset over, at least in my opinion.