To be seen

[Erosfan]

I'm an exhibitionist at heart but I can't say it is a critical component for me.

We have a rule that we do not impose our lifestyle on others so no collars or the like in general outings. And these days we don't have any close friends that are comfortable with the life and that we'd feel okay engaging. But, if we did, it absolutely would be a thing for me.

Like others, for me, it is about the humiliation. I'm not well endowed and that just adds to it all. Like many others, CFNM is a common fantasy for me.

One of my strongest fantasies is for Mistress (wife) to invite some friends over and make me strip to my frilliest panties and cook for them and then when it is time for service, to strip to a cock ring and serve them dinner and be at their service, in whatever way that would mean, the rest of the evening. Even to the point of being teased about my dick and patted and spanked on my ass. Yummy!

And did I mention I'm an outwardly very alpha male so this goes really deep for me.

"One of my strongest fantasies is for Mistress (wife) to invite some friends over and make me strip to my frilliest panties and cook for them and then when it is time for service, to strip to a cock ring and serve them dinner and be at their service, in whatever way that would mean, the rest of the evening. Even to the point of being teased about my dick and patted and spanked on my ass. Yummy!"

"And did I mention I'm an outwardly very alpha male so this goes really deep for me."

This pretty much describes me. My strongest fantasy is to be naked for my wife and a few of her friends. I would be their entertainment, in whatever way my wife desired. She would set the pace and establish the rules. Ultimately, I would cum for them, however she would want that to happen. After cumming, I am made to remain naked and be at their disposal.
My late wife and I had so many discussions about this type of scenario. She was so willing to listen to me and talk to me. She was very supportive, and would even tell me who she might invite and what she might want me to do for them. She always ended our chats with "I just don't think I can go through with it." We never did go there, but she would take care of me in very special ways that played to my exhibitionist and CFNM kinks. She called me her "slut" and I wear that proudly.

I too am alpha in my day to day life. My friends and coworkers have no clue and would be shocked to learn of my proclivities.

 

[LustyScribe]

In my "darkest" fantasies, being seen completes the humiliation.

 

[MasterDarcy]

No.

Submissives, much much Dominants are nuanced and different.

Much like snowflakes, no two are alike.

The only thing that fundamentally makes a submissive a submissive is their need to... submit. Anything else are variables and nuances.

 

[Idpthrtonmykneesinpanties]

Is exhibitionism a critical part of the bdsm thrill for submissives?

If I am on my knees and a guy is standing in front of me with his cock down my throat and his hands are holding my head as he reaches the point of no return the thought of another person walking in or having someone else in the room watching is a big turn on especially if that person

 

[seekingAlpha]

I have a submissive that has a major exhibitionist kink, and she gets absolutely turned on at the thought of being watched. In my opinion, it is not something that is particularly related to BDSM although just like almost anything else it can be incorporated into BDSM since it is all about the dynamics and the implementation. I have definitely incorporated a lot of directed exhibitionism into our dynamic.

 

[cascadiabound]

I seem to be evolving a bit around exhibitionism/being seen.

I want him to take pictures of me naked. I want him to video us together or take a clip of me giving him head. I want to feel the thrill of being naughty and slutty and having the proof of it on film. I fantasize about a pro photo shoot where I start in very revealing garments, but end with nothing on at all or with nothing but fetish wear - a tail, cuffs, collar, that sort of thing. Or more extreme, a photo porn session with my D as the director. Hearing him tell the photographer - can you try this? I wanna see that. Can you use this or that prop? Let me spank her ass red while you take pictures of that and then take pictures of her sexy red ass wearing my marks. Have the fantasy get photographed. Take the crazy fucked up ideas I have and create a photo shoot where it gets documented all the things I say I want. Obedient fuck toy. Exposed to a whole room. Bound and collared. And more.

I want him to draw and paint me. Decide the clothes (or lack of) and position me to capture the lewd submissive fuck toy I am and then make me sit for the portrait - my legs spread wide for hours, day after day. Having him call me names and talk dirty to me while he's painting. My pussy getting more and more wet as I feel his eyes on me. Not only being seen in this moment, but being seen on canvas in a gallery someday. Or even having my image bought and then shown in an office or home for years into the future. All the ways that a person can be seen and lose control of the audience.

I think about how he likes to see me. Accessible. Short skirts. No panties at least some of the time. No bra. Garments that leave little to the imagination about what I'm actually wearing. Hard nips poking through the fabric. PIercings lewdly evident. Leggings so tight you can see the full curve of my ass. Short skirts that ride up in the car or fail to cover with minor bending and reaching. Peeks up my skirt reveal I obeyed daddy's no panty rule. He pushes my legs apart...heedless of who else is watching. He wants people to watch..He wants people to see what a horny slut I am. He wants them to see. He wants me to know I am seen and then twist me up with the shame and excitement and humiliation that none of this is my choice any more.

 

[Boat1]

I seem to be evolving a bit around exhibitionism/being seen.

I want him to take pictures of me naked. I want him to video us together or take a clip of me giving him head. I want to feel the thrill of being naughty and slutty and having the proof of it on film. I fantasize about a pro photo shoot where I start in very revealing garments, but end with nothing on at all or with nothing but fetish wear - a tail, cuffs, collar, that sort of thing. Or more extreme, a photo porn session with my D as the director. Hearing him tell the photographer - can you try this? I wanna see that. Can you use this or that prop? Let me spank her ass red while you take pictures of that and then take pictures of her sexy red ass wearing my marks. Have the fantasy get photographed. Take the crazy fucked up ideas I have and create a photo shoot where it gets documented all the things I say I want. Obedient fuck toy. Exposed to a whole room. Bound and collared. And more.

I want him to draw and paint me. Decide the clothes (or lack of) and position me to capture the lewd submissive fuck toy I am and then make me sit for the portrait - my legs spread wide for hours, day after day. Having him call me names and talk dirty to me while he's painting. My pussy getting more and more wet as I feel his eyes on me. Not only being seen in this moment, but being seen on canvas in a gallery someday. Or even having my image bought and then shown in an office or home for years into the future. All the ways that a person can be seen and lose control of the audience.

I think about how he likes to see me. Accessible. Short skirts. No panties at least some of the time. No bra. Garments that leave little to the imagination about what I'm actually wearing. Hard nips poking through the fabric. PIercings lewdly evident. Leggings so tight you can see the full curve of my ass. Short skirts that ride up in the car or fail to cover with minor bending and reaching. Peeks up my skirt reveal I obeyed daddy's no panay rule. He pushes my legs apart...heedless of who else is watching. He wants people to watch..He wants people to see what a horny slut I am. He wants them to see. He wants me to know I am seen and then twist me up with the shame and excitement and humiliation that none of this is my choice any more.

That is SOOOO HOT, Cassie!

ABSOLTE FIRE!

My Domme Wife and I recently got a tripod and some nice accoutrements to protect Her privacy (I don't care about my privacy) and I can't WAIT to make a video of being strung up outside, while She's whipping me mercilessly... there WILL BE smelling salts on the table, if She takes it to the point of me passing out!