Bi or Bi Curious?

[nostuff]

Though I once considered myself curious, that changed the moment the first cock slid between my lips. I don't identify as gay, because I can't imagine giving up women, but I really like men. I'm happy to describe myself as bi.

 

[JoeSmith2022]

I'm bi and there's no going back. I've swallowed too much cum to call myself "curious" anymore.

 

[Mrbingo1976]

I'd agree. I'm bi for play. But nil interest in kissing, hugging or dating men. Just, to fuck

yes. i have no desire to fall in love .. kissing doesn’t do it. i just want to be used and feel humiliated, except it’s not really humiliation it’s more a desire to be controlled. be the guy on his knees that is weirdly proud he’s offering himself.

 

[klippert]

I'm Bi married. I have a buddy that when time allows it we have m/m sexual fun together.

 

[uboat1]

I'm Bi married. I have a buddy that when time allows it we have m/m sexual fun together.

How did you originally get together. I have a couple of guys I'd like to approach but do not know how to broach the subject??

 

[Fifemarriedsub48]

The question I have is, do you still call yourself bi curious if you have played around with a couple of guys? Or do you base it on what you did with those couple of guys? My experience has been a little kissing, sucking and being sucked, and my ass fingered. Also all of this has been during mmf. I have yet to play with a guy one on one, but I am will and wanting too.

Thanks

Very curious!!!

 

[klippert]

How did you originally get together. I have a couple of guys I'd like to approach but do not know how to broach the subject??

We met through a mutual friend who has no idea that either of us was Bi… how I found out my buddy was.. the afternoon we meet. The three of us we’re having a Cpl beers at a small sports bar. My friend wanted to introduce us because we have similar interests; hunting, fishing etc. long story short; after a cpl rounds I asked our waitress directions to the men’s room. When my friends buddy said he’s going too.
the bathroom was smallish and the divider wasn’t very high. As I was pissing, out of the corner of my eye I noticed him moving. So I glanced over And he was looking at me pissing. So I adjusted for him to see better… There was a pause, and he looked away.
After we returned… our buddy got up to go. Right away my buddy started to apologizing. I stopped him and said. I turned so you could see better. I’m into it too…
We exchanged contact information and called the next day to meet again.
That was fall 2019. 2020 the world lost its mind. I didn’t hear from him until Aug. of '22'.. he called me out of the blue. We get together when we can. We’re both married with, and have real life shit. This past week I’ve been a bachelor so we’ve had some time and place.

 

[Naughtylo]

Just very bi. X

 

[Britva415]

Just very bi. X

Same

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

I'd agree. I'm bi for play. But nil interest in kissing, hugging or dating men. Just, to fuck

I would fall into this description as well.

I've been having same sex sexual encounters from a very early age. That faded out in my teens and it was many, many years before I was able to actually engage again. That was with another married couple and it was understood that he and I would be okay with playing with each other. I then had one other one-on-one encounter that the wife approved of before hand.

In both cases, funny enough, I became quite dominant with the men while remaining, at least to some degree, submissive to women, even the wife of the man I was with.

So, limited encounters as an adult, but I know would absolutely do it again in the circumstances and for sure, my wife would enjoy watching.

But I rarely find guys attractive and have no desire for a relationship or anything. It's purely sexual.

 

[uboat1]

We met through a mutual friend who has no idea that either of us was Bi… how I found out my buddy was.. the afternoon we meet. The three of us we’re having a Cpl beers at a small sports bar. My friend wanted to introduce us because we have similar interests; hunting, fishing etc. long story short; after a cpl rounds I asked our waitress directions to the men’s room. When my friends buddy said he’s going too.
the bathroom was smallish and the divider wasn’t very high. As I was pissing, out of the corner of my eye I noticed him moving. So I glanced over And he was looking at me pissing. So I adjusted for him to see better… There was a pause, and he looked away.
After we returned… our buddy got up to go. Right away my buddy started to apologizing. I stopped him and said. I turned so you could see better. I’m into it too…
We exchanged contact information and called the next day to meet again.
That was fall 2019. 2020 the world lost its mind. I didn’t hear from him until Aug. 22.. he called me out of the blue. We get together hen we can. We’re both married with, and have real life shit. This past week I’ve been a bachelor so we’ve had some time and place.

Thanks for the response. It will help me moving forward. Someone has to make the first move and the other has to be aware enough to respond in kind.

 

[Vintagesurf25]

It started with MMF porn as I was bi-curious. Then, my wife and I would fantasize about having a bi guy join us after we had a few straight MMFs.

One evening, after a super fun MMF session, my wife got up to take a shower. Within seconds, the other guy reached over and started stroking my cock. As I started getting hard, he lowered his head and started sucking me. When my wife got out of the shower and walked in to the bedroom, he kept going and she laid on the bed. She watched and then started masturbating.

Later that night, we agreed to look for bi guys to be our third from then on.

 

[40sBiCuckCple]

I think we (M&F) are born with a normal and natural sexual curiosity So, we are “curious” until we actually “do” something. At that point we like it (most who actually try it) and we are bisexual looking forward to the next event, or we did not like it and are declaring ourself “straight” and NOT curious. Being bisexual ( meaning “experienced) does not mean you have a romantic interest, and being naked and kissing and hugging etc does not necessarily mean a romantic interest, it’s still very sensual. All that said, you may very well develop a romantic interest, which crosses the line (in my mind, maybe not yours) into the world of “probably gay”.

 

[ChasBozwell30]

Right now I am bicurious...Give me your cock and let me suck a load of hot cum out of it so that I can finally call myself bi

That's how I feel. Willing to explore further. Not sure I can outright call myself bi until I've actually done something...

 

[J1biboi]

I call myself bisexual.

I have never been with a guy, and likely never will. Yet I am bisexual as much as my friend who at the time was virgin called himself heterosexual. He was not hetero-curious just because he has not slept with someone…

Bisexuality comes in many forms… one can be sexually attracted to men, women and/or other genders but only romantically attracted to women…

In my opinion, one as a man could play once with another man and find out it is not what they want… that does not make them homosexual or bisexual…

At the end, I think sexual orientation is a personal call. If you play with same gender people but you do not feel you are bisexual, so be it… although in my humble opinion I would question if it is not a case of bi-erasure, fear of accepting oneself, or biphobia… but figuring that out is a personal quest each of us should walk…

In 1991, the magazine “Anything that walks” posted the bisexual manifesto:

"We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.

Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.

Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don't assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone's sexuality, including your own."

Anything That Moves, inaugural edition, Winter 1991, p. 3


If you do not know if you should call yourself heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, asexual or something else, then I think you should either embrace yourself with no tags and enjoy what you enjoy, or if you feel you need a tag, read about the different sexual orientations and then based on your feelings and experiences, apply a tag to yourself.

Tags are useful to find comunity, to find information and for research purposes. But tags by themselves are at best insufficient to describe the sexual identity of a particular individual.

Now, that is well said!
I think of myself and have thought of myself as bi ever since I knew there was such a term. I consider myself bi though I've only sucked one cock and played with a couple more because ever since a young age I've had the desire to suck cock and that desire has never left me!
Although I act straight I don't lie to myself, I know my feelings.

 

[Britva415]

I think we (M&F) are born with a normal and natural sexual curiosity So, we are “curious” until we actually “do” something. At that point we like it (most who actually try it) and we are bisexual looking forward to the next event, or we did not like it and are declaring ourself “straight” and NOT curious. Being bisexual ( meaning “experienced) does not mean you have a romantic interest, and being naked and kissing and hugging etc does not necessarily mean a romantic interest, it’s still very sensual. All that said, you may very well develop a romantic interest, which crosses the line (in my mind, maybe not yours) into the world of “probably gay”.

No, bi guys can be bi-romantic and have romantic relationships with a man. Even exclusive relationships. I'm not saying you have to, but, this doesn't make us "not bi."

 

[HappyToBeAlive]

I think we (M&F) are born with a normal and natural sexual curiosity So, we are “curious” until we actually “do” something. At that point we like it (most who actually try it) and we are bisexual looking forward to the next event, or we did not like it and are declaring ourself “straight” and NOT curious. Being bisexual ( meaning “experienced) does not mean you have a romantic interest, and being naked and kissing and hugging etc does not necessarily mean a romantic interest, it’s still very sensual. All that said, you may very well develop a romantic interest, which crosses the line (in my mind, maybe not yours) into the world of “probably gay”.

This line of though is quite biphobic and erasing of bisexuality (I mean no offense).

Who my partner is dies not define my sexual orientation.
I am married to a woman… but I am not straight… I am bisexual…

If things would have gone different, I could have married a man… that would not make me gay… I would still be bisexual…

The most common partner arrangement for bisexuals is in heterosexual presenting relationships… and stating that because of that we are not bisexual is erasure…

In homosexual presenting relationships, calling the bisexual person in the relationship homosexual is not only erasure but only perpetuates the idea of binaries… and in the case of a bisexual-man in an homosexual relationship being called gay, it also perpetuates the idea that relationships with men are more valid… that is because most times, people that call gay a bisexual man in a relationship with a man, might not be as quick to call and discredit the bisexual women as lesbian…

There is some research around this… people tend to gravitate towards the “being with a man” is more valid… a woman is seen as bisexual (if she calls herself as such) even if in a relationship with a woman whereas a man must be gay if he is in a relationship with a man…

At the end, sexual orientation is a self-identifying trait… one is what one feels being…

I am bisexual… I gave never been with a guy… I am still bisexual… and if things would change and I end up in a relationship with a man… I will still be bisexual…

In terms of romanticism… one can be bisexual and have different feelings in terms of sexual attraction and romantic attraction… these feelings can be different for different genders and can be different at different times…

For many, there is some fluidity in being bisexual…

 

[wankerholic42]

This line of though is quite biphobic and erasing of bisexuality (I mean no offense).

Who my partner is dies not define my sexual orientation.
I am married to a woman… but I am not straight… I am bisexual…

If things would have gone different, I could have married a man… that would not make me gay… I would still be bisexual…

The most common partner arrangement for bisexuals is in heterosexual presenting relationships… and stating that because of that we are not bisexual is erasure…

In homosexual presenting relationships, calling the bisexual person in the relationship homosexual is not only erasure but only perpetuates the idea of binaries… and in the case of a bisexual-man in an homosexual relationship being called gay, it also perpetuates the idea that relationships with men are more valid… that is because most times, people that call gay a bisexual man in a relationship with a man, might not be as quick to call and discredit the bisexual women as lesbian…

There is some research around this… people tend to gravitate towards the “being with a man” is more valid… a woman is seen as bisexual (if she calls herself as such) even if in a relationship with a woman whereas a man must be gay if he is in a relationship with a man…

At the end, sexual orientation is a self-identifying trait… one is what one feels being…

I am bisexual… I gave never been with a guy… I am still bisexual… and if things would change and I end up in a relationship with a man… I will still be bisexual…

In terms of romanticism… one can be bisexual and have different feelings in terms of sexual attraction and romantic attraction… these feelings can be different for different genders and can be different at different times…

For many, there is some fluidity in being bisexual…

I found the above most interesting, particularly as you stated that although you define yourself as bisexual you’ve never been with a guy. Is that through choice or has the opportunity never arisen?

I have been the guy some virgin bisexuals have had their first such encounter with. If you’ll forgive the somewhat crude phrase: I’ve always broken them in gently by giving them their very first handjob from a man (this happens to be my favourite pastime) or on occasions a blow job. Many years of experience has honed my masturbatory skills to a fine art - so I’ve been told. Maybe it’s because I have a real penchant for married guys!

 

[HappyToBeAlive]

I found the above most interesting, particularly as you stated that although you define yourself as bisexual you’ve never been with a guy. Is that through choice or has the opportunity never arisen?

I have been the guy some virgin bisexuals have had their first such encounter with. If you’ll forgive the somewhat crude phrase: I’ve always broken them in gently by giving them their very first handjob from a man (this happens to be my favourite pastime) or on occasions a blow job. Many years of experience has honed my masturbatory skills to a fine art - so I’ve been told. Maybe it’s because I have a real penchant for married guys!

By choice… I am in a committed relationship that is exclusive…

Even if I’m bi-virgin, i think if i were to be with a man, it would be me giving a bj to him…

 

[dingdongditchding]

Though I once considered myself curious, that changed the moment the first cock slid between my lips. I don't identify as gay, because I can't imagine giving up women, but I really like men. I'm happy to describe myself as bi.

yep, as soon as I make a guy cum in my mouth and swallow it all, I will be a full cock sucker

 

[dingdongditchding]

By choice… I am in a committed relationship that is exclusive…

Even if I’m bi-virgin, i think if i were to be with a man, it would be me giving a bj to him…

hot, roughly were do you live

 

[trucker6142]

Curious here as well

 

[trucker6142]

Curious here as well

Nice

 

[IrishBarmanBi]

Bi here, with experience, been in relationship with women and a man, married now

 

[spawnofdavey]

I've had some experience with men, but married to a woman now. Curious for more.