What do smart, sexy younger women look for in older guys?

[RedLeaderire]

I can’t speak for every girl. Obviously money and stability is super important. But also life experience. I like a man who has done things and can tell stories. Someone who has culture and doesn’t just play video games all day. Someone who can teach me things about life. But also money . Hope that helps

I think it is because women are light years ahead in emotional IQ so mentally the match works. Also, and older man is more than a jackhammer in bed!

 

[bforbeatrice95]

Some of the comments around wealth are obviously jokes which makes sense given the stereotype. My relationship has a 30 year gap and I can honestly say it's not about the money. At least not about the amount in the bank. Financial security speaks to sensible money habits and reliability of the person. I have never asked for nor expected him to splurge on me or give me money, but I am attracted to the life he has built and his values around money and spending. We both love finding a bargain but are happy to spend money on a hotel over a camping holiday.

Money aside, I am attracted to him because of him, not his age. I will admit that perhaps his age has contributed to his competency in the things I admire. I echo some of the previous comments around sexual experience. Confidence and skill come with time and I definitely benefit from his age on that one.

An interesting question in response might be, what do experienced, intelligent older guys look for in younger women? When logic might say that a more experienced woman is probably easier to live with.

 

[EasyBrad59]

Some of the comments around wealth are obviously jokes which makes sense given the stereotype. My relationship has a 30 year gap and I can honestly say it's not about the money. At least not about the amount in the bank. Financial security speaks to sensible money habits and reliability of the person. I have never asked for nor expected him to splurge on me or give me money, but I am attracted to the life he has built and his values around money and spending. We both love finding a bargain but are happy to spend money on a hotel over a camping holiday.

Money aside, I am attracted to him because of him, not his age. I will admit that perhaps his age has contributed to his competency in the things I admire. I echo some of the previous comments around sexual experience. Confidence and skill come with time and I definitely benefit from his age on that one.

An interesting question in response might be, what do experienced, intelligent older guys look for in younger women? When logic might say that a more experienced woman is probably easier to live with.

You pose an interesting question. I am basically looking for mutual attraction, whether it be with a younger, same age, or older woman. Logic does indicate that a woman around my age would work best, but attraction can work in strange ways. My hope is that I can find a woman willing to share intimacy, certain kinks, and is open minded sexually.

 

[bforbeatrice95]

I wish you all the best in that search @EasyBrad59 . That would be a good foundation for a fulfilling relationship. I wonder what the answer would be from people who seek partners with a specific age in mind.

 

[RedLeaderire]

Some of the comments around wealth are obviously jokes which makes sense given the stereotype. My relationship has a 30 year gap and I can honestly say it's not about the money. At least not about the amount in the bank. Financial security speaks to sensible money habits and reliability of the person. I have never asked for nor expected him to splurge on me or give me money, but I am attracted to the life he has built and his values around money and spending. We both love finding a bargain but are happy to spend money on a hotel over a camping holiday.

Money aside, I am attracted to him because of him, not his age. I will admit that perhaps his age has contributed to his competency in the things I admire. I echo some of the previous comments around sexual experience. Confidence and skill come with time and I definitely benefit from his age on that one.

An interesting question in response might be, what do experienced, intelligent older guys look for in younger women? When logic might say that a more experienced woman is probably easier to live with.

I agree that your counter question makes sense. I have always wondered that. I would find it difficult to live with someone a lot younger I feel, but it really depends. If a young woman was settled and mature that would be fine I am sure.
It is really about finding a match mentally and emotionally. Age may or may not play a part. Picking someone to have a relationship with because their breasts are firmer or their thighs are more toned, well that sounds a little silly to me. Women progress through life and their various stages are all attractive if you are not brainwashed by modern media.

 

[Calistax]

money lol

lots and lots of it too!

 

[gtnlynn]

The only time my wife accepted a date with a much older man, after turning down many others, was to be his escort to a fancy international event. The man was a doctor from another country, very refined, and made it clear that he would be extremely proud to have her as his date. So she liked his wealth, the mystery of a foreigner, and his feelings about her.

 

[old_hippy_46]

money lol

you are correct

 

[Bobm269]

you are correct

I think it varies by person. Money has never been a part of it for me.

 

[LexiVegas]

Confidence, accepting that you are older but not old. I personally like guys that still workout regularly, have a successful career and know how to treat a girl

 

[AcelaCorridorVet]

And while I’m not fond of sugar-daddy arrangements, I expect a guy to understand that, if I’ve spent two hours picking an outfit and doing hair and makeup for a date, he’ll be the one picking up the tab.

As we should.

 

[matureman32]

Confidence - that’s a huge one.

And while I’m not fond of sugar-daddy arrangements, I expect a guy to understand that, if I’ve spent two hours picking an outfit and doing hair and makeup for a date, he’ll be the one picking up the tab.

That's a given.

 

[JenniferSmithJones]

My 26 year old niece says she, and most of her friends, are looking for men over 40. Because younger than that, they have not been taught to be men. So most young men today stick, emotionally, somewhere around the level of a 15-year-old. She said it's even worse on college campi. Several of her friends have confirmed this to me, and I can tell you this: those young women LOVE to flirt with my husband! He's 68. Still pretty stocky, his chest and his gut never changed places, as they do in so many men. Mostly bald, and what hair remains is snow white. Average looking sort of fellow, certainly no Matt Damon (my celeb crush). You ought to see how they flock around him. "Tell us what it was like in the 60's! Did you go to Woodstock? Did we really go to the Moon? OMG! You can cook? What's the difference between grilling and BBQ? Can you teach us how to cook with charcoal? Do you think this thong is too skimpy?"

Me: "OK! Time for you to go home, young lady!" But the spot she occupied will instantly be taken by another pretty young thing. "What was your favorite muscle car? Can you put lotion on my back?"

Meanwhile, hubby asks me if I'm ever tempted by a younger man? And I'm, like, "No. You don't have much to worry about." Haven't met many that would be worth the trouble.

I'm not kidding.

 

[JenniferSmithJones]

My 26 year old niece says she, and most of her friends, are looking for men over 40. Because younger than that, they have not been taught to be men. So most young men today stick, emotionally, somewhere around the level of a 15-year-old. She said it's even worse on college campi. Several of her friends have confirmed this to me, and I can tell you this: those young women LOVE to flirt with my husband! He's 68. Still pretty stocky, his chest and his gut never changed places, as they do in so many men. Mostly bald, and what hair remains is snow white. Average looking sort of fellow, certainly no Matt Damon (my celeb crush). You ought to see how they flock around him. "Tell us what it was like in the 60's! Did you go to Woodstock? Did we really go to the Moon? OMG! You can cook? What's the difference between grilling and BBQ? Can you teach us how to cook with charcoal? Do you think this thong is too skimpy?"

Me: "OK! Time for you to go home, young lady!" But the spot she occupied will instantly be taken by another pretty young thing. "What was your favorite muscle car? Can you put lotion on my back?"

Meanwhile, hubby asks me if I'm ever tempted by a younger man? And I'm, like, "No. You don't have much to worry about." Haven't met many that would be worth the trouble.

I'm not kidding.

You know what? I'm going to have put this in a story.

 

[Crownvic]

Sugar in his wallet and sugar in his pants..

 

[JenniferSmithJones]

Sugar in his wallet and sugar in his pants..

Sugar Daddy!

 

[MrsIndianPeach]

Always loved an Older mans confidence in complimenting and praising what he sees !
Most older charmers are respectful and calm
Have a lovely cheeky smile and they know what they do
How they take their time in getting the prey they want
I fell for one

 

[OldSoldier96]

Confidence, accepting that you are older but not old. I personally like guys that still workout regularly, have a successful career and know how to treat a girl

Check, check and check

 

[MaturemanAJ]

It’s difficult to explain, but for me, the older, more sophisticated man, has a certain mystique about him. They recognize how to make me feel attractive, and wanted. There is the experience and style in their efforts to seduce me, and they tend not to be in a frantic rush to get my knickers off. Once involved, they know how to bring me to a level of sexual enjoyment. Taking their time, instead of rushing, and thinking only of their own gratification. (Sometimes there are disappointments though). I’m drifting more to the aged, more mature men and learning a lot from them. Much more than from the young fellows, who think a fast, vigorous pounding is what I want. Although, there are times when that is exactly what I need.

Lucy.

I think you are spot on Lucy and to add to it a mature man will take the time to learn your trigger points, to bring you near orgasm and then back off to bring you there again and then pound you into the mattress when you need it most.
A mature man will listen and watch your expressions and body language

 

[Biglibido99]

I've been in a "friends with benefits" relationship with my older friend for 3-4 years now. Although he was looking for sexual companionship, he wasn't looking for major young-old dynamics (we're 32 years apart). How are we still "together"? I have to say its primarily communication and sex. Money does factor in, only because he was a former engineer, knowledgeable of the market and invested, and is retired. He's not financially burned which frees up his time and availability. We talk almost every day--about an array of subjects, current events, monotonous every day things, and yes sex. This is what works with me, us. Just providing a single woman's experience.

Exactly my experience from the older man's perspective with a younger woman by 30 years & still connected, mostly online, after 3 years. I believe caring communication and genuine interest is her main reasons for her attraction although I'm fit and presentable in many ways too

 

[Noor]

Maturity, trustworthiness, reliability, honesty, loyalty, kindness, dependability, caring and responsibility for themselves. That’s the cake, everything else is frosting.

 

[Biglibido99]

Jaysus, we're perfect

 

[appalachianplay]

Maturity, trustworthiness, reliability, honesty, loyalty, kindness, dependability, caring and responsibility for themselves. That’s the cake, everything else is frosting.

All of this, but particularly that last point. Matched with a guy who seemed normal. His mother still does his laundry, cooks his food, cleans up after him and takes care of his children. This "man" is 40 years old.

 

[softbird]

Someone who isn’t afraid to admit they don’t know everything..

 

[Lamia03]

Exactly my experience from the older man's perspective with a younger woman by 30 years & still connected, mostly online, after 3 years. I believe caring communication and genuine interest is her main reasons for her attraction although I'm fit and presentable in many ways too

Sounds like you’re a wonderful and attractive older man love it