What do smart, sexy younger women look for in older guys?

[pmarlowe]

I'm an older man, 54, with some stories here, but I am always curious about what makes the older man/younger woman dynamic click. Yes, I'm experienced in this area, but one can never learn too much Any thoughts from younger women would be much appreciated. And who knows what can happen from there?

 

[Prettylittle999]

money lol

 

[sub_way]

For me it’s being with someone who is confident and knows what they want. It’s nice to be taken care of emotionally and hopefully sexually. Also, an older man feels more authoritative to me

 

[markchamberlain]

I've heard it called a May-December fling. May has flowers, spring rain, renewal, youth, and freshness. December has....Christmas🛍

 

[pmarlowe]

I wonder, though, if I posted this of FetLife (which I have), how much different your answer, as well as prettylittle99's, would be. I understand the sugar baby thing, but I also think there's a difference, yes?

 

[pmarlowe]

For me it’s being with someone who is confident and knows what they want. It’s nice to be taken care of emotionally and hopefully sexually. Also, an older man feels more authoritative to me

That's what I was thinking, that thre is more than a transaction involved.

 

[merrilylirrem]

I can’t speak for every girl. Obviously money and stability is super important. But also life experience. I like a man who has done things and can tell stories. Someone who has culture and doesn’t just play video games all day. Someone who can teach me things about life. But also money . Hope that helps

 

[pmarlowe]

Someone who has culture and doesn’t just play video games all day.

I think we're getting closer I assume you have been with older men?

 

[subdudeme13]

I can’t speak for every girl. Obviously money and stability is super important. But also life experience. I like a man who has done things and can tell stories. Someone who has culture and doesn’t just play video games all day. Someone who can teach me things about life. But also money . Hope that helps

It's money money money, that makes em call ya honey!

 

[Nicefella]

It's money money money, that makes em call ya honey!

I love how $$ makes everyone more attractive.

 

[JimDee676]

I've engaged in conversations with younger women but never had an intimate relationship with one. Now that I'm old enough to be their aging fathers, I think what they value are my stories and experiences that I share with them about life. They're lessons about he dos and don'ts. They've mostly been professional but some are personal, too.

In many ways, what they're gaining from me is what I gained from the older ladies I've been with. We've had moments to share our experiences with someone who's younger and, sometimes, craves this sort of information.

 

[lucy_anne21]

It’s difficult to explain, but for me, the older, more sophisticated man, has a certain mystique about him. They recognize how to make me feel attractive, and wanted. There is the experience and style in their efforts to seduce me, and they tend not to be in a frantic rush to get my knickers off. Once involved, they know how to bring me to a level of sexual enjoyment. Taking their time, instead of rushing, and thinking only of their own gratification. (Sometimes there are disappointments though). I’m drifting more to the aged, more mature men and learning a lot from them. Much more than from the young fellows, who think a fast, vigorous pounding is what I want. Although, there are times when that is exactly what I need.

Lucy.

 

[spawnofdavey]

I think there's an assumption that older men have money to throw around, but sadly not everyone does these days. Of course some do, but I think a majority are just as likely to be struggling to pay the bills, keep the kids in new clothes and all that jazz.

 

[JimDee676]

It’s difficult to explain, but for me, the older, more sophisticated man, has a certain mystique about him. They recognize how to make me feel attractive, and wanted. There is the experience and style in their efforts to seduce me, and they tend not to be in a frantic rush to get my knickers off. Once involved, they know how to bring me to a level of sexual enjoyment. Taking their time, instead of rushing, and thinking only of their own gratification. (Sometimes there are disappointments though). I’m drifting more to the aged, more mature men and learning a lot from them. Much more than from the young fellows, who think a fast, vigorous pounding is what I want. Although, there are times when that is exactly what I need.

Lucy.

I love your note and it's very much along the lines of why I often sought out older ladies. Their life experience, wisdom, ability to converse deeply about all sorts of issues, plus their comfort with their own body, made them very attractive and quite appealing sexually. They were fantastic in bed and out of bed and that's not always the case with younger women. They provided advice on life, which I also greatly appreciated.

 

[pmarlowe]

I've engaged in conversations with younger women but never had an intimate relationship with one. Now that I'm old enough to be their aging fathers, I think what they value are my stories and experiences that I share with them about life. They're lessons about he dos and don'ts. They've mostly been professional but some are personal, too.

In many ways, what they're gaining from me is what I gained from the older ladies I've been with. We've had moments to share our experiences with someone who's younger and, sometimes, craves this sort of information.

Mostly what I've found, as well.

 

[curiousitieskill]

It’s difficult to explain, but for me, the older, more sophisticated man, has a certain mystique about him. They recognize how to make me feel attractive, and wanted. There is the experience and style in their efforts to seduce me, and they tend not to be in a frantic rush to get my knickers off. Once involved, they know how to bring me to a level of sexual enjoyment. Taking their time, instead of rushing, and thinking only of their own gratification. (Sometimes there are disappointments though). I’m drifting more to the aged, more mature men and learning a lot from them. Much more than from the young fellows, who think a fast, vigorous pounding is what I want. Although, there are times when that is exactly what I need.

Lucy.

THIS!

 

[Aussieguy8]

Back in the day when I used to meet up with younger women. It was often a desire to meet with confident older men that their peers didn't know to learn about sex and try out their kinks. After 'training' or the like they would then go back to dating men their own age.

 

[Whynotyeahwhynot]

Us older guys have learned a few tricks in out time, parts of a woman's body that young men just rush by on the way to her pussy. What younger guy would massage a naked woman's feet for instance, or kiss and lick behind her knees, touching and caressing her over till her whole body glows in pleasure. Thank the time to whisper how sexy and beautiful she is complementing her body, making her feel good and dreamy before gently sucking her nipples as his fingers lightly brush her pussy making her tingle inside. If they did all these things and could hold long enough before just sticking it in a rutting away like a mad thing. A woman that's been warmed up like that might not have a screaming orgasm, but one where her whole body cums, and I know most women young or old really enjoy that sometimes.

 

[kittycommittee2000]

Unpopular opinion, but I haven’t found older men to be better in bed. Younger men tend to be more attentive and focused on women’s pleasure in my experience.

But I’m drawn to older men more from a fetish perspective. I like the sexual objectification or inbuilt power dynamic of it.

 

[pmarlowe]

Thanks for this. I'm glad to see a different perspective.

 

[Lamia03]

I've been in a "friends with benefits" relationship with my older friend for 3-4 years now. Although he was looking for sexual companionship, he wasn't looking for major young-old dynamics (we're 32 years apart). How are we still "together"? I have to say its primarily communication and sex. Money does factor in, only because he was a former engineer, knowledgeable of the market and invested, and is retired. He's not financially burned which frees up his time and availability. We talk almost every day--about an array of subjects, current events, monotonous every day things, and yes sex. This is what works with me, us. Just providing a single woman's experience.

 

[pmarlowe]

Very impressive. I like to think I offer the same sort of communication, and your bit about array of subjects strokes a chord with me.

 

[cdstefi]

At risk of putting words in my wife's mouth (she's 23 years younger than me) I'd say that what I offer her is emotional maturity and stability and a good sense of my own self-worth, not one that's based solely in what a relationship can do for me. I think women of all ages prefer self-reliant men who are with them out of conscious choice, not just the need to be in a relationship. It's more flattering and less objectifying.

Also, I have four kids and a snip from my previous marriage and while she loves them, she doesn't want any kids of her own.

I pull my weight domestically; I'm really from just before the gamer generation so tend to be able to focus on shit that needs doing, like washing up, laundry, shopping, bins out etc. It may not be romance in itself but nobody wants to be doing 100% of the housework, and a clean house and bedsheets are the subtlest aphrodisiacs.

What she does for me is not just the bro-kudos of having snapped up a much younger woman (although colleagues have er, "mentioned" this before now) but she's way more responsible with stuff like finance and savings. We're a good team.

 

[pmarlowe]

Thanks for this. I find the same thing about emotional maturity and stability, but I am surprised I don't hear it more often.

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

At risk of putting words in my wife's mouth (she's 23 years younger than me) I'd say that what I offer her is emotional maturity and stability and a good sense of my own self-worth, not one that's based solely in what a relationship can do for me. I think women of all ages prefer self-reliant men who are with them out of conscious choice, not just the need to be in a relationship. It's more flattering and less objectifying.

Also, I have four kids and a snip from my previous marriage and while she loves them, she doesn't want any kids of her own.

I pull my weight domestically; I'm really from just before the gamer generation so tend to be able to focus on shit that needs doing, like washing up, laundry, shopping, bins out etc. It may not be romance in itself but nobody wants to be doing 100% of the housework, and a clean house and bedsheets are the subtlest aphrodisiacs.

What she does for me is not just the bro-kudos of having snapped up a much younger woman (although colleagues have er, "mentioned" this before now) but she's way more responsible with stuff like finance and savings. We're a good team.

That’s exactly it: emotional maturity and not having to play mother to a man baby who never learned to clean up after himself