Cab anyone explain the difference between CNC and Free use

[Kabirsawher]

Heyy, good day to all

I was hoping someone would explain me the difference between CNC and Free use

 

[StockingGirlJ]

Force is a main difference. Another is being forced to do anything, not just sexual things. Free use just means you are available, anytime, anywhere. Force may be involved or not. And it's always, always, always about sex. At least that's what I've read.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I've always thought of it as casual (ho-hum, I may as well come) versus urgent (OMG, I NEED to come, whether she's already inclined or not). For the recipient, it is "you're just an appliance, even if an incredibly sexy one" versus "this is one of those times when I just need you to shut up and let me fuck you [and if YOU don't come, fine]."

 

[policywank]

CNC means consensual non-consent. It is any activity wherein one partner "forces" themselves on the other but according to parameters (and therefore limitations) that were agreed to in advance. I put "forces' in quotes because its is more like BDSM role play and the advance consent by definition means the partner isn't truly being forced against their will. Plus there is often a safe word that can be used if things get out of hand. This is a legitimate activity that people engage I as part of grown-up BDSM activity.

Free use is the idea that a person (usually a woman) will just make herself available to engage in any sex act that she is asked to do by anybody. Maybe some people like to role play this, but near as I can tell it is a ridiculous idea dreamed up by incels that wish they could control or subjugate women. No rationale woman would agree to completely forfeit her free will to the whim of strangers and degenerates. And I say that as someone who does enjoy engaging in group activities where I seek to be very receptive to all comers - but I choose who can participate and still reserve the right to say no.

 

[MamaBitte]

(...) No rationale woman would agree to completely forfeit her free will to the whim of strangers and degenerates. And I say that as someone who does enjoy engaging in group activities where I seek to be very receptive to all comers - but I choose who can participate and still reserve the right to say no.

I understand your point of view, but couldn't it also mean “free use” for a limited group for a limited period of time? For example, for a special party (celebration)? I just don't know, that's why I'm asking.

 

[Kabirsawher]

I understand your point of view, but couldn't it also mean “free use” for a limited group for a limited period of time? For example, for a special party (celebration)? I just don't know, that's why I'm asking.

I totally agree on this
I mean in both of the scenario I would say that consent is the common thing in both of them, pretty much the starting of the whole thing
So I mean if the consent is there, free use is just like any other sexual act

 

[StockingGirlJ]

CNC means consensual non-consent. It is any activity wherein one partner "forces" themselves on the other but according to parameters (and therefore limitations) that were agreed to in advance. I put "forces' in quotes because its is more like BDSM role play and the advance consent by definition means the partner isn't truly being forced against their will. Plus there is often a safe word that can be used if things get out of hand. This is a legitimate activity that people engage I as part of grown-up BDSM activity.

Free use is the idea that a person (usually a woman) will just make herself available to engage in any sex act that she is asked to do by anybody. Maybe some people like to role play this, but near as I can tell it is a ridiculous idea dreamed up by incels that wish they could control or subjugate women. No rationale woman would agree to completely forfeit her free will to the whim of strangers and degenerates. And I say that as someone who does enjoy engaging in group activities where I seek to be very receptive to all comers - but I choose who can participate and still reserve the right to say no.

"Free use does not mean making "herself available to engage in any sex act that she is asked to do by anybody." It's genwrally considered to be an agreement between two consenting adults, as is CNC. Btw, it could be a man who consents to being used freely. I know, I know, the stereotype is that all men are up for that!

It means that if I'm doing laundry and in the middle of folding a short and my husband tells me to drop to my knees and suck his cock, I drop to my knees and suck his cock. It means that if he calls me on the phone while I'm out shopping and says "I put a set of lingerie, heels and a butt plug under the bed, put them on and be ass up on the garage floor when I get home in an hour," I'm dressed, plugged and ass up on the garage floor in an hour. One can push it as far one likes.

Of course lines get blurry and the activities that people will consent to engage in are, for all practical purposes infinite. So trying to fit peoples' behaviors into tight little boxes, although tempting, is almost always an exercise in futility, at least that's my experience, especially if you're behavior is even somewhat big because I'm quite tight.

 

[policywank]

I understand your point of view, but couldn't it also mean “free use” for a limited group for a limited period of time? For example, for a special party (celebration)? I just don't know, that's why I'm asking.

Yes it could. It isn't for me to say what is or isn't possible among consenting adults. I should be more clear that the context I described is the reference I have seen more often, with examples such as "free sex laws" (i.e. laws that mandate all single women are available for anything with anybody) which is exactly the ridiculous scenario I described and which feeds the fevered dreams and resentments of incels. Beyond that extreme, in general it tends to be characterized in terms of the woman making herself fully available for the man's pleasure with no regard for what she gets out of it as opposed to CNC where it is generally more evident that it feeds the fantasies of both parties.

That said it is obviously not for me to say what any given woman (or man if the roles are reversed) wants. I am just addressing what I see as the more prevalent characterization - you don't really hear of CNC scenarios that aren't very careful to respect the woman's perspective the way you do with free use.

 

[lily_wall_]

I used to go to free use sessions. They gave as wristbands to indicate who's willing. It was a private group so not open for a complete stranger, but the group was big enough that I didn't know everyone. Anyone who has the wristband (women or men) could be approached by anyone. I could be talking or fixing myself a drink or on my way to pee, doesn't matter. Any man or woman could grope me, kiss me, push me down and shove his cock into me, creampie me... No questions asked, no small talk. He doesn't have to worry about my orgasm.

The main difference between free use and cnc is how I react. Free use,I welcome the man to use me, do everything so he has a good time. Cnc, I put up a struggle, I'm trying to stop the man from having his fun