Bi or Bi Curious?

Vaslim74

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The question I have is, do you still call yourself bi curious if you have played around with a couple of guys? Or do you base it on what you did with those couple of guys? My experience has been a little kissing, sucking and being sucked, and my ass fingered. Also all of this has been during mmf. I have yet to play with a guy one on one, but I am will and wanting too.

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I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.
 
I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.
That makes perfect sense to me! Thank you
 
Then there's the bi-curious which are the guys who are pretty sure they're bi but aren't 100% sure because they haven't experienced it.

This goes AWAY once they play with a guy, because then they aren't curious about bisexuality anymore, they're either just bi or they're just not bi.

I guess they could still be bi-curious if they've, say, topped but not bottomed. Or if they've fucked a mouth but not an ass. They could still be curious - but then they aren't bi-curious, they're bottom-curious or anal-curious.

To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.
I don't think that that's necessarily hetero-flexible.

It could be, but I think that that's closer to "bi-sexual but hetero-romantic."

I think heteroflexibility is being willing to have sexual contact or activity with another man but absent sexual attraction to the man.

Like how you'd fuck a woman you aren't sexually attracted to if the opportunity made it beyond easy and you didn't have to pursue her at all. You aren't attracted to her but you'll do it anyway since she's right there, already naked, and clearly ready to go.

One can be aroused without being attracted. To me this is how heteroflexibility works. It's not bi-curiosity at all, it's a purely pragmatic opportunism.
 
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The question I have is, do you still call yourself bi curious if you have played around with a couple of guys? Or do you base it on what you did with those couple of guys? My experience has been a little kissing, sucking and being sucked, and my ass fingered. Also all of this has been during mmf. I have yet to play with a guy one on one, but I am will and wanting too.

Thanks
You don't sound curious to me. You sound like you know you're bi.
 
I don't think that that's necessarily hetero-flexible.

It could be, but I think that that's closer to "bi-sexual but hetero-romantic."

I think heteroflexibility is being willing to have sexual contact or activity with another man but absent sexual attraction to the man.

Like how you'd fuck a woman you aren't sexually attracted to if the opportunity made it beyond easy and you didn't have to pursue her at all. You aren't attracted to her but you'll do it anyway since she's right there, already naked, and clearly ready to go.

One can be aroused without being attracted. To me this is how heteroflexibility works. It's not bi-curiosity at all, it's a purely pragmatic opportunism.

You’re probably right in the differentiation between bi-curiosity and hetero-flexibility. I think bi-curiosity tends to become blanket term for all “straight” men that either desire or engage in same sex sexual activity.

I’m sure I’m probably in the minority amongst other men, but I find it extremely difficult to have sex with a woman I’m not sexually attracted to. Granted, I have in the past, but it was nearly impossible to keep an erection and my thoughts often wandered.

I think there has to be some level of attraction aside from an exuberant participant to become aroused enough for sexual contact. Liking dick doesn’t mean you automatically want to suck any hard dick that makes itself available.
 
Eh, yeah it gets confusing when I start to try to differentiate between bisexual and biromantic and all that. Just easier to say I’m bi and leave it up to the individual as to whether I’m attracted to them or not.
 
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