Question about cervix during sex

[FrancesScott]

From my understanding of the physiology (research, you know), think in terms of somebody trying to push something into the urethra exit of your penis. It's not an expanding opening.

One word… sounding.

 

[pink_silk_glove]

"Different strokes." You funny.

I had a girlfriend 40 years ago who would press down very hard in cowgirl with the apparent intent of touching my tip with her cervix, and she would rock her pelvis to rub the contact. She seemed to be successful on a couple of occasions. She was a strange lady.

She was probably grinding her clit on your pelvic bone.

 

[waratah]

I appreciate the thoughts so far. A bit of an anatomy lesson I was overdue and needing.

The other part of the question is, does women's enjoyment of "vagina end minor rearrangement" change with arousal or experience? "Oh, no, be careful, shallower please" -> "Yes, now, deeper, etc." With time? My story has a small framed women and an average framed man navigating this. Both not wanting to miss out, willing to risk a little bit, working out how to communicate preference and avoiding hurt without avoiding satisfaction.

 

[waratah]

The cervix will move up and down through the menstrual cycle, sometimes really noticeably. So example dialogue might be
"Aagh! You just hit my cervix!"
"Sorry, I thought that was just your vaginal wall. I'm sure that was a good spot for you last week!"
"Well this week, it isn't!"

On the other hand, at some times of the month, most likely just before her period, she may be begging for him to fuck her doggy style for max depth and hardness, and wanting her cervix bashed into. But not all women will ever like that.

So a well-endowed man not wanting to hurt his partner may want to use a position that lets him thrust but not get too deep.

Thanks, thats good info for me to consider.

 

[RemoteShadeofGreen]

There is such a thing as a cervical orgasm, related to the anterior fornix (which sounds even less sexy than ‘cervix’), and I can tell you from experience it is easier with a partner on the larger side of average, and there is no hard thrusting involved that would hurt the delicate bits. It’s a very slow and sensual way to orgasm (for me).
https://www.gohddess.com/blog/a-spot-orgasm

>do women enjoyment of "vagina end minor rearrangement" change with arousal or experience?

Every woman is different.
Good luck with your story!

 

[ElectricBlue]

There is such a thing as a cervical orgasm, related to the anterior fornix (which sounds even less sexy than ‘cervix’), and I can tell you from experience it is easier with a partner on the larger side of average, and there is no hard thrusting involved that would hurt the delicate bits. It’s a very slow and sensual way to orgasm (for me).
https://www.gohddess.com/blog/a-spot-orgasm

I'm a lot envious of those descriptions. I've tried tantric practices (which are a lot of hard work) and got some results, but nothing at all like that. Sometimes being male seems limiting.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I appreciate the thoughts so far. A bit of an anatomy lesson I was overdue and needing.

The other part of the question is, does women's enjoyment of "vagina end minor rearrangement" change with arousal or experience? "Oh, no, be careful, shallower please" -> "Yes, now, deeper, etc." With time? My story has a small framed women and an average framed man navigating this. Both not wanting to miss out, willing to risk a little bit, working out how to communicate preference and avoiding hurt without avoiding satisfaction.

Arousal - very likely.
Experience - possibly. The cock-wielder can learn to slide down one side or the other rather than bashing a painful area in the middle.

With time - depends. The obvious thing that changes a cervix is pregnancy and especially, giving birth. They are still devoted to their job of staying shut during pregnancy but are getting stretched and weighed down, so may respond differently to touch (nerves being spread over a wider area), or acquire sore spots for no reason. Afterwards, it's a very different membrane, may be more resilient (ie less painful) when bumped into. Or not. It may take a year to recover, too. Along with the rest of the vagina.

Then you get potential dryness (or the opposite!) in the run-up to menopause and then more changes after. But early 30s can also trigger random changes, too...

Many meds and alcohol and other drugs will also affect sensitivity, for better or worse. Basically, couples need to keep communicating.

Quote from the spouse many years ago: "You know, with how your body keeps changing through the month and everything? It's like all the perks of polyamory - sex with lots of different women - without any of the hassle!"

 

[RemoteShadeofGreen]

I'm a lot envious of those descriptions. I've tried tantric practices (which are a lot of hard work) and got some results, but nothing at all like that. Sometimes being male seems limiting.

I will say that this type of orgasm doesn’t happen for women without a patient and truly engaged partner, so in a way a successful orgasm like this is male-led, While the orgasm may not feel different to the man, he has the satisfaction of knowing he’s a minor sex god for making them happen for her.

 

[onehitwanda]

it's bad enough having my cervix handled by a medical professional...

One word… sounding.

Bravo. Bravo. Not many things can render me momentarily speechless.

 

[FrancesScott]

it's bad enough having my cervix handled by a medical professional...



Bravo. Bravo. Not many things can render me momentarily speechless.

I have never had even the merest glimmering of an idea about thinking of doing it. But a year or so ago I talked extensively to a woman who said that she enjoyed it. I tried to understand but I kept thinking about ruptured urethras.

 

[onehitwanda]

I'm just thinking of how much it would burn if I needed to pee afterwards.

No. NO. I will think of puppies. PUPPIES.

 

[FrancesScott]

I'm just thinking of how much it would burn if I needed to pee afterwards.

No. NO. I will think of puppies. PUPPIES.

As I understood it - and as with many things - it was partly the sensation, but mostly the psychological aspects. Either way

 

[AndyJacker]

"Different strokes." You funny.

I had a girlfriend 40 years ago who would press down very hard in cowgirl with the apparent intent of touching my tip with her cervix, and she would rock her pelvis to rub the contact. She seemed to be successful on a couple of occasions. She was a strange lady.

I had a GF like that, but it was her clit she was rubbing on the shaft of my dick as she rode me. She said my slight downward curve reached just right in the reverse cowgirl position.

 

[LookN2Talk]

I'm writing a erotic coupling/romance story and part of it has developed to include discussion and reactions to deeper thrusts hitting/entering a girl's cervix. The female lead is a smaller girl, the guys average or a bit over, nothing crazy.

My wife says No way Jose. Hurts like being stung from the inside by a bunch of hornets.