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Jack Sparrow
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Any post-menopausal women care to share how it has impacted their sex drive? My wife has lost nearly all her sex drive.
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We have had many conversations about the interest. She has been seeing a counselor for years, sees a psychiatrist and has talked to her GP about it. The GP has done the standard blood tests and claims there are no tests for sex-related hormones. I call bullshit on that one. A google search I did found several suggested tests. I gave my wife the list but she has not yet asked her go about them.Hi!
For me, I think it’s in overdrive…I seem to want it all the time!
What is she doing to improve things? What are you doing? I know hormonal imbalances can cause chaos with her moods, anxiety, disrupt sleep patterns etc just generally fuck us up!
I’m on a couple of meds to counteract those symptoms & they really help!
My husband has a lower drive than me & he’s gone for work for 4 months at a time so I have a lot of pent up energy…we are working on changing that!
She definitely needs to talk to her doc about it & patience from you. But so many marriages suffer doing this time & for me I was determined not to let it come between us so I researched, talked to my doc etc.
I wish you guys all the best!
My wife doesn't "say" that but her actions pretty much do.My wife's theory: "I'm just not in the mood for it any longer so you should just accept it."
On the rare occasion that my wife allows me to go down on her or play with toys, she has a difficult time reaching orgasm. And she doesn't get nearly as wet as she did before menopause.I'm 51, and past premenopause, probably full menopause now...
My sex drive isn't what it was in my 30s, that's for sure.. I still am wet when he excites me, and I still have great orgasms ...
But, I am not in the mood to masturbate daily any more.. Maybe twice a week.
Does that make me a selfish man? I don't know!?!?On the rare occasion that my wife allows me to go down on her or play with toys, she has a difficult time reaching orgasm. And she doesn't get nearly as wet as she did before menopause.
I understand the body changes. I'm just saddened that she seemingly has zero interest in trying to change it. I don't fool myself by thinking I'm god's gift to women but I do feel like my wife has just given up on our sex life.
It doesn’t make you selfish at all! It makes you human with wants & needs…everyone wants to feel loved, wanted, desired by their partner. I’m sorry that you’ve going thru this for a while. I’m not sure what you can do. Especially if there’s no other avenue she’s interested in. Is opening up your marriage a possibility?On the rare occasion that my wife allows me to go down on her or play with toys, she has a difficult time reaching orgasm. And she doesn't get nearly as wet as she did before menopause.
I understand the body changes. I'm just saddened that she seemingly has zero interest in trying to change it. I don't fool myself by thinking I'm god's gift to women but I do feel like my wife has just given up on our sex life. Does that make me a selfish man? I don't know!?!?
No, not an option.Is opening up your marriage a possibility?
Sounds like my wifeMy wife's theory: "I'm just not in the mood for it any longer so you should just accept it."
Mine has as well.Any post-menopausal women care to share how it has impacted their sex drive? My wife has lost nearly all her sex drive.
So sorry to hearI’m 70 and wife 66. Our sex life ended almost 10 years ago.
The menopause was not kind to her. She refuses to try any hormone
Replacement therapy. So it’s pretty much dead in the bedroom.
It’s kind of sad when you think about it
Both retired, our children grown and moved out.
Shoukd be our time to enjoy the time we lost when we were young and working.
Kudos and Hat-Tip to you!Hitting 60 next month. HRT was a lifesaver for me. But it has made my cravings for the non-vanilla much stronger.
Nevertheless, I'm happy to have a husband still attracted to me and a few friends who indulge my fantasy life, at least in this virtual realm.
So, BIG proponent of hormone replacement for men and women.![]()
A loss of desire is pretty common, and if a woman's had40-50 years of sex, she just might not care enough about it to want to reinstate the desire. Not every woman can take HRT: for example, high blood pressure meds would make it dangerous (cancer-related) and a doc won't prescribe. This can mean not only an almost entire absence of desire but pain and discomfort making both penetrative sex and masturbation uncomfortable and not worth the effort.We have had many conversations about the interest. She has been seeing a counselor for years, sees a psychiatrist and has talked to her GP about it. The GP has done the standard blood tests and claims there are no tests for sex-related hormones. I call bullshit on that one. A google search I did found several suggested tests. I gave my wife the list but she has not yet asked her go about them.
Honestly, she seems perfectly content with how things are. Unless I practically beg, nothing happens. She has not initiated anything in years. My "hints" go nowhere. If I'm lucky I might get a hand job every few months. Maybe a blowjob if I ask. She used to live it when I went down on her, would even ask me to some times. Most of the time she doesn't even react when I touch her down below, doesn't open her thighs to "invite " me in.
I haven't been inside her in years.
There's nothing wrong with still wanting sex, just as there's nothing wrong with her accepting the changes in her life, her body. The problem is, again, with one partner wanting something different to the other, and you feeling devalued in your relationship because she doesn't put as much importance on sex-drive as you do. Believe it or not, there are some people (men as well as women) who happily accept the new phases of their lives, putting sex behind them and discovering (often together) new, shared pursuits and pleasures!On the rare occasion that my wife allows me to go down on her or play with toys, she has a difficult time reaching orgasm. And she doesn't get nearly as wet as she did before menopause.
I understand the body changes. I'm just saddened that she seemingly has zero interest in trying to change it. I don't fool myself by thinking I'm god's gift to women but I do feel like my wife has just given up on our sex life. Does that make me a selfish man? I don't know!?!?