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[Wonderer67]

That's true.


I guess I already did eat your sandwich.


I think that I said "thank you" at the time.


I think the missus would have kicked my ankle had I not.

Nah. She loves ya!

 

[dkak001]

If there's one thing I've learned from Lit it's that honesty is THE most important thing. I mean, it is in general tbh. Especially for me since I find it difficult to read subtext and subterfuge (flirting frightens me ).

Case in point. I've been chatting with someone for the past 3 weeks. Never expected anything to happen, said so right from the start. But the conversation got hot and heavy to the point where, we, last Sunday were scheduled to meet and have some fun. Now she had said ahead of time that it might not happen for genuine reasons. Well of course that was the case, which is fair enough. She even felt guilty telling me, I reassured her it wasn't her fault, and she said she was still into it. Unequivocally.

Now, two days of strained chats later and I'm asking her if we can discuss another attempt. We both seemed into it. Apparently not. TBH I had felt that something changed from Sunday. The convo, as I said, was strained. You can tell, those of us who chat online, when things change: the replies are a little more formal, a little less frequent.

It's frustrating really. I had said all along she has every right, at any point, to back out and say no. But all last week she was telling me that she wanted to do stuff, had fantasised about it, showed me pics, even asked me for a pic (you know what I mean!), in fact the meeting was her idea. It was amazing; completely unexpected and wonderful. Ok it didn't happen; that's, crushingly, life, right?

I don't think the conversation can really continue at this point. A bit like trying to put the genie back in the bottle. She has every right to refuse to meet and change her mind, but the point I'm trying to make is that you need to be honest. Every step of the way. Or folk get hurt and misunderstand things. Now I feel like I'm the bad guy, and I don't want that. I told her how I feel, and she has not responded since. Well, ok, you don't have to respond to people. That's your right. But honestly, ghosting is never cool. It's sad how things turn out, but again, you've got to be honest. It's shitty to say this, feels a little sexist even, but I feel a bit lead on. I don't know if there's anything else that's in play here; she doesn't have to tell me, but I could sense from Sunday evening that things had changed. Earlier that day, she was saying, "hey write a story about all the things we're going to do to each other, it will be really sexy for me to read." I started but quickly stopped because it felt, without anything having happened and having the meeting cancelled, that it was too intense. I don't think I'll be continuing.

In the immortal words of Jeremiah Springer: take care of yourselves, and each other.

Sucks dude.

I might be coming at this from a different perspective, so take this with a grain of salt as they say. I went to a university where men out numbered women 3 or 4 to 1. That's probably easily the case here as well.

What I see here very often reminds me of interactions during my university days. I may be somewhat jaded in this respect, so again this is just my perspective.

When men outnumber women it gives the women a lot of potential choices. My guess is you are probably going to run into a fair bit of the sort of stuff you describe here. If are looking for something more serious than just some flirty entertainment, it may take a lot of time to meet those people. Don't forget, for many here that on line flirting may be all they're looking for.

My advice is to just accept this for what it is, and enjoy it anyway. You can be aware of the potential outcomes, and choose not worry if things don't work out.

There are a lot of good people here. Sometimes it's just hard to connect with them. Hang in there!

 

[Wat_Tyler]

Nah. She loves ya!

She finds me amusing.


She's really too kind.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

All the love to your mama

Thank you MissK. She has her heart procedure in July and the hysterectomy in late August. She’s got a busy summer and I get the feeling I will also! .

Least I could do!

 

[Noor]

That specific situation? really?

Yes, I think some people just get scared, but there are many married people in monogamous relationship who decide that online flirting and cyber sex isn’t cheating and fantasize taking that to real life and freak themselves out.
And some just aren’t who they say they are. So yes, we hear about this a lot and the posters defend them, but it’s the exact same thing over and over. I choose to think that most are just messed up and not intentional players.

I suppose that's not too surprising! Not sure that's a good thing.

Initially that was the idea, but it became coffee then sexytimes somehow. Then it went from there.

Yep, that’s how it goes, it’s called being swept away…

She seemed really into it. TBH it feels like the context suddenly shifted after the meet fell through such that, I'm still talking as if it's a faitaccompli but she's thinking no, this is the new
non meet context, and that makes me feel like an asshole. All along I've tried to be respectful and she was kind enough to notice and complement me for it. I feel that's been trashed and that won't come back. So I suspect she isn't going to reply further and I'll just walk away.

I’d back away for sure and when/if she returns decide if you want online sexy times realizing that is probably it and not anything more.

Sad really.

I like to think I'm the same. I told her every step of the way that I'm super grateful for her interest and invitation, and that she can back out anytime. I meant it, as far as text messages are trustworthy I guess. Makes me wonder what would have happened had the meet gone through.


Good advice, but I think she's genuine. Not a catfish or something. Though ofc you can never really know

There are many people here that do meet, some even fall in love and marry. My best advice is to go low and slow. Don’t put your energy all in one basket, it’s like anything else, it’s a combination of luck and a numbers game.
Good luck!

 

[Noor]

I think I have surpassed two dozen now and only two of them I kinda regret. That's a very solid (22K) batting average.

Well there was that really young guy who had a Jesus fixation, but he was actually nice, he just wasn’t for this non-Christian hippy girl, it took a little bit of explaining. We met at winter carnival I think and it was super cold.

 

[Wonderer67]

My Catalpa tree is blossoming and making my lawn of flowersView attachment 2548983

They are gorgeous flowering trees.

We keep the ones by our pool cut pretty close cuz their giant leaves make a good screen for nude pool fun!

 

[Wonderer67]

Sciatica. Can kiss my ass.

It sucks balls.

Sorry you’re dealing with it. It sucks (balls).

 

[Noor]

Well there was that really young guy who had a Jesus fixation, but he was actually nice, he just wasn’t for this non-Christian hippy girl, it took a little bit of explaining. We met at winter carnival I think and it was super cold.

We met at a pagan event even!

 

[Noor]

Fingers crossed that doubling one of my meds will help because 2 month of steroids didn’t do it.
And I can’t get the next scan for a month, so we are just winging it!

 

[Lilianna23]

Oh Lilli. Feathers?

Did I get back to you, B2? You know I ALWAYS want me some feathers!

I know I've been slacking lately. Seems there just aren't enough hours in the day...

 

[Lilianna23]

Feather torture for Lilli
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Shivers!

 

[Lilianna23]

She's might light you up!

Only in the BEST of ways!

 

[Lilianna23]

Last post was 8:08 pm last night on another thread. He's cheating on us...

How dare he??? Do we have a "Spoonmo" to throw him into???

 

[Lilianna23]

They are the worstest weaseliest weasels, so they are not allowed back.

And there it is!

WAT SEZ!!

 

[Lilianna23]

Morning all. I think I caught MissK’s tummy bug. Loading up on the activated charcoal. It rained nonstop yesterday but did get to visit the Bonsai displays…will post those as Morning Z’s over the next few days.

Have a great Sunday.

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I hope you're feeling better by now, H. Beautiful bonsai!

 

[Lilianna23]

Time and stomach rest. I think i overindulged and my meds dont like that so I got what I deserved

I hate when that happens.

 

[Lilianna23]

Farmers market. She only does markets which is good because i could eat them all day long

We have markets here...

 

[Lilianna23]

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Where did you get this picture of me at Club Med Cancun???? I thought they were all destroyed!

 

[Lilianna23]

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I'm partial to dad bods!

 

[likes2watchU]

It's still Tuesday... feels like an 80-hour day
So, before I sign off... what's everyone else up to?

Missskmisskmisskmissk

QQQQQQQ
At this rate, I'll never forget poor Beetlejuice

Hey, it's better than Candy Man

I took it and failed miserably

What? If they don't tell you how well you did, then how do you know?

I know I haven’t posted much but it’s been a pretty busy time and never seems to stop.

Thanks for the update - nice to hear what folks have going on. Lovely to hear mom's 90th went well.

My mom broke her hip yesterday and is having surgery today.

My mom took a few tumbles in later years. Not easy being on that side of things. It's supposed to be little kids and skinned knees... not aging parents and broken bones.

It's nice that it now comes and goes with barely a murmur

Spell Check Buddy corrected that to "murder." It passes without that/those, too.

I really hate Spell Check Buddy.

Given the context yeah... unframed? SCB took the story to a new level

Fortunately, two of my brothers live nearby and are at the hospital with her.

It's nice to have siblings at those times. They know you'd be there if you could... and I'm sure you're checking in with them all.

It is hard as hell. And cuz ya gotta type the answers and no spell check…

We’ll have literotica jeopardy at our get together!

I heard spelling didn't count on that test. Now I'm all confused.

I was thinking more along the lines of having Zacapa Rum and Remy 1738 Cognac at our get together.

Sounds... fancy... and expensive!

I'm beginning to think that Wat, Wonderer, and myself are neck and neck in a three-way race for National Insomniac Champion.

Hmm - thinking that's a trophy I'd rather not win

And good morning. Posted coffee memes as OM is not able to
Off doing taxiing this morning.

Thanks for stepping in, B2. Hope taxi duty went well today.

Ever hear of the place where people get the water boarding?

Here's the thing about Late Day Check-Ins... someone else always gets there first

Note... that was before this hint!

Mmm, hmm

not Scotland old ....America old

Never gets old *giggleSNORT*

Yo! Your mom!

What? That wasn't an open for Yo Mama jokes?
My bad

Answer: who makes the most spelling errors
Question: missk

Aww I'm sorry. The question we were looking for was Q or who was Q. How much did that cost you?

200

This will now be how everyone will get goodnight from me

Good night my little coconut ice cream.... you have to go to sleep now so you won't be tired tomorrow my sweet little sugar pancake

Food cravings, @Missk_2022 ?

It does make a difference. Its the Coke Zero that i believe is most detrimental to my efforts

Yes, they are. I get it.

Hey, stranger - we missed you!

Morning Spooners. It’s Tuesday. Time to get ready to go back to work after a semi-productive vacation. . It was a double header…first part fun, second part rained out. It’s hot, it’s muggy, it’s summer! Of course the weather is turning nice now that I have to hit the road…

At least it's good driving weather?

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Ooooh... It's like a lit up runway for the fat, happy bumble bees

Catalpa tree? Never heard of such flora…beautiful flowers. If you have time B2, can you take a pic of the actual tree?

Sure. Wikipedia has a good description too

Catalpa Tree

Sciatica. Can kiss my ass.

It sucks balls.
Sorry you’re dealing with it. It sucks (balls).

With that kind of flexibility, there might be far fewer complaints about sciatica
also -

She slinks over to my car window and tells me, "$50 for whatever you want, Baby."
So I respond, "have your ever changed a head gasket?"

You do realize that's not what they're advertising when they offer hea.....well...in another thread perhaps

I didn't ask her to change the tranny, so . . . .

Wasn't the tranny already changed?

Oh, I needed that...
not as much as I need my house cleaned for $50 but...

When men outnumber women it gives the women a lot of potential choices. My guess is you are probably going to run into a fair bit of the sort of stuff you describe here. If are looking for something more serious than just some flirty entertainment, it may take a lot of time to meet those people. Don't forget, for many here that on line flirting may be all they're looking for.

My advice is to just accept this for what it is, and enjoy it anyway. You can be aware of the potential outcomes, and choose not worry if things don't work out.

There are a lot of good people here. Sometimes it's just hard to connect with them. Hang in there!

I agree... when cyber meets IRL? Some folk just lose their

Thank you MissK. She has her heart procedure in July and the hysterectomy in late August. She’s got a busy summer and I get the feeling I will also! .

Least I could do!

Oh, that's a lot. Wishing all the best for each one!!

Yes, I think sone people just get scared, but there are many married people monogamous relationship who decide that online flirting and cyber sex isn’t cheating and fantasize taking that to real like and freak themselves out and freak themselves out. And some just aren’t who they say they are. So yes, we hear about this a lot and the posters defend them, but it’s the exact same thing over and over. I choose to think that most are just messed up and not intentional players.

Took the words right out of my... keyboard

Fingers crossed that doubling one of my meds will help because 2 month of steroids didn’t do it.
And I can’t get the next scan for a month, so we are just winging it!

Hoping that does the trick for you!!

I know I've been slacking lately. Seems there just aren't enough hours in the day...

OMG! Same... I almost didn't get caught up here today.
Next 2 weeks are gonna be rough.
So if I miss a day - I'm just overworked trying to meet the deadlines of 3 people

 

[Lilianna23]

Round One of Carnivore Sunday...View attachment 2548559

How many are you feeding???

 

[Lilianna23]

Dang wish I was there. I could bring salads baked beans and dessert

I make yummy baked beans and a yummy banana pudding

And I could bring desserts! Cherry cheesecake bars I made the other day! Shortbread crust, cheesecake, homemade cherry pie filling, shortbread crumble on top.

 

[Lilianna23]

Round Two of Carnivore Sunday View attachment 2548565

Round TWO??? How many rounds were there???

 

[Lilianna23]

Mine is delicious. It cuts like a cake and I use shortbread cookies instead of vanilla wafers. ... sooo yummy

Sounds yummy! Can other fruits be used?