Wit & Nipples 🍒

I heard down the grapevine that it was thing Thursday? Not a fancy thong by any means but the booty was ‘bootying’ 🖤
I have contributed nothing to this meeting I’m in 😂 Not complaining though, amazing ass! 🥰
 
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I’ve debated posting this, but after seeing how things were misrepresented yesterday, I feel the need to speak up for myself.

Let me be very clear: I did not start drama. I didn’t critique anyone. I didn’t mock anyone’s compliments or try to bring another woman down. What I did do was respond to someone else’s thread where I was indirectly referenced… repeatedly. Someone expressed frustration that the same compliments were being given to multiple women across threads, and that it made those compliments feel less special, less unique. While I understand that feeling, I simply responded by saying I don’t see it that way. I said this space feels playful to me. That we can all be complimented. That we’re here to uplift each other, not compete. I not only acknowledged this persons feelings but also their mention of having anxiety. I just wanted to share the idea that repeated kindness doesn’t erase its sincerity, it just means someone sees beauty in many places. I thought this was a kind message to leave someone struggling with the idea of ingenuity.

What people didn’t see (because I didn’t make it public), was the private message exchange leading up to it. In that conversation, I shared something personal. I disclosed that I have autism. I did this to give context: that I might come across the wrong way at times, or need reassurance if something feels off and I opened the message apologising. Rather than meeting that with compassion, I was told I was “too heated”… That the conversation wasn’t worth continuing because she had actual paid work to be getting on with.

Anyone who’s neurodivergent or has anxiety will understand how deeply invalidating that is.
The bit that cut the most was that you don’t claim to avoid drama while posting a carefully worded public post about someone on a public thread, tagging them explicitly, and inviting passive commentary from others.

What also stood out to me was a comment from another comment from a woman I initially thought was pretty dang cool. Her comment was a response to me saying: “I'm sensing bad juju here for, I have no idea what reason!”

Her response?! 🤣

It’s just her sassy personality and sexy natural beauty that we all love so much.

Maybe it wasn’t meant as a dig. But when you’ve been part of a conversation where your appearance, worth, or femininity already feel scrutinised and then someone subtly introduces “natural beauty” as the reason someone else is adored it’s hard not to notice the implication. 💛

For context: the only aesthetic work I’ve ever had was to correct an injury. In 2019, I was struck in the face with a bottle by an ex. It didn’t break, but it caused permanent trauma to my upper lip. After two years of healing, I sought filler to even things out. I’m lucky to still have all my teeth, my vision, and a functioning jaw. (Pls see pics for reference)

https://postimg.cc/gallery/rM2pCg5

So no. I won’t apologise for the way I look, or for wanting to feel good in my own skin. And I won’t quietly accept that makeup or corrective filler somehow make me “less than” a woman who fits someone’s idea of being more natural. I certainly won’t accept other women publicly commenting on such things.

This site is full of women with different faces, bodies, stories, and that’s the beauty of it. It should be a space where we can all feel confident and expressive without subtle hierarchies based on who’s more “natural” or who has the most original thread comments.

I’m not here to attack anyone. I don’t want sympathy or a pile-on. But I do want honesty. And if someone else is going to craft a narrative about me on their thread, I reserve the right to correct the record on mine.

Women supporting women means holding space even when we misunderstand each other. It means not creating divides masked as decorum.

That’s all I have to say.

🦇 🖤 SpicyBean
All I will say is that youve left out specific events and/or facts, twisted the timeline, and made an accusation there that never fucking happened.

Peace
 
I will say the amount of married men that feel they have some sort of moral high ground to take a side here does amaze me.

And I did notice one statement that seems to have been attributed to Kit that was said by Sensual Kat, but I can see how a hasty urge to make peace might have caused that to be missed.
Sorry, what do you mean, Shane? Kat did write a message on Kit's thread, which seemed neutral at first, in response to me, but she later edited it to say, “It’s just her sassy personality and 'sexy natural beauty' that we all love so much.”
There’s really no way to interpret that as anything but a passive dig. Otherwise, why mention “natural beauty” at all? That phrase only becomes relevant if it’s meant to contrast me (the person she was responding directly too) with someone who’s being framed as more “real” or “authentic.”
 
Sorry, what do you mean, Shane? Kat did write a message on Kit's thread, which seemed neutral at first, in response to me, but she later edited it to say, “It’s just her sassy personality and 'sexy natural beauty' that we all love so much.”
There’s really no way to interpret that as anything but a passive dig. Otherwise, why mention “natural beauty” at all? That phrase only becomes relevant if it’s meant to contrast me with someone who’s being framed as more “real” or “authentic.”
Hands up I missed the edit, that was completely unnecessary. My comment was on the original comment, even then I realized I should have said it to you privately, I missed the edit, I honestly thought you'd attributed Kats comment to Kit, and had no idea she edited it afterwards.

Apologies on that, I'll pm next time, I'd already reconsidered before your response
 
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