Advise on younger woman

[Doughboy48]

Ok all here is the general idea of what is going. We have one of our friends 21 year old daughter that has become a very big part of our family. She dated my son briefly but then he cheated on her and has become a bum with no job, home or car and no desire to better himself. Anyway the last 2-3 weeks she has been over a lot. Last week we were playing cards and I was sitting next to her. She kept scooting closer and bumping my leg with her leg. She was sitting Indian style so when she bumped my leg it naturally drew my eyes down to between her legs. I didn’t think much of it at the time till this week. Once again she was over and we were playing cards. This time she was clearly rubbing my foot with hers. It was like we were in elementary school. Lastly the other day at church I was talking about watching movies this week when my wife and daughter went out of town for a wedding and I sensed she wanted to ask if she could come over. She has also came and sat down right next to me. I’ll be honest if she wanted some dick I would gladly give it to her. She seems to be wanting it but I’m curious if anyone else has ever dealt with this and what your experience was like.

 

[draco519]

If you're married/have a committed relationship; you should probably bring it up to your wife/girlfriend. See how she feels about the whole thing.

If you're not married/girlfriend? Every piece you turn down is a piece you didn't get. Wear a condom and don't fall in love and don't give her any money. lol

 

[Britva415]

Sometimes girls do this kind of thing just for attention.

You seem to be liking her attention too. Are you OK with it never going anywhere beyond this? Because the next move is beyond "attention."

My guess is if you do anything at all to make her think you're pursuing her, she'll stop. Attention is all she wants. But not the kind of attention where it's like you're going to try to make anything happen.

How does it make you feel, knowing you're just being teased?

 

[Britva415]

She seems to be wanting it

She's not. She's just wanting the look you get on your face when she acts this way.

 

[LMWM321]

Sounds to me like you're on the brink of blowing up a longstanding friendship, your marriage and further damaging your relationship with your son all in one fell swoop. Leave her be would be my advice.

 

[TheGxForum]

Would have to see picture of her to decide...

 

[NOBGE]

Ok all here is the general idea of what is going. We have one of our friends 21 year old daughter that has become a very big part of our family. She dated my son briefly but then he cheated on her and has become a bum with no job, home or car and no desire to better himself. Anyway the last 2-3 weeks she has been over a lot. Last week we were playing cards and I was sitting next to her. She kept scooting closer and bumping my leg with her leg. She was sitting Indian style so when she bumped my leg it naturally drew my eyes down to between her legs. I didn’t think much of it at the time till this week. Once again she was over and we were playing cards. This time she was clearly rubbing my foot with hers. It was like we were in elementary school. Lastly the other day at church I was talking about watching movies this week when my wife and daughter went out of town for a wedding and I sensed she wanted to ask if she could come over. She has also came and sat down right next to me. I’ll be honest if she wanted some dick I would gladly give it to her. She seems to be wanting it but I’m curious if anyone else has ever dealt with this and what your experience was like.

As much as she may be playing footsie with you, as much as you might like to have a 21 yr old pussy…it’s probably best to leave this one alone. It could blow up in a lot of ways, none of them ending well.

 

[desire30]

If you're married/have a committed relationship; you should probably bring it up to your wife/girlfriend. See how she feels about the whole thing.

If you're not married/girlfriend? Every piece you turn down is a piece you didn't get. Wear a condom and don't fall in love and don't give her any money. lol

I love the comment " AS long as it is fun, don't get caught"

 

[Cool88]

As much as she may be playing footsie with you, as much as you might like to have a 21 yr old pussy…it’s probably best to leave this one alone. It could blow up in a lot of ways, none of them ending well.

Ha,ha,yes indeed i would say get that good pussy and wear it out.

 

[LMWM321]

This is a true no-brainer.

Imagine you're wrong, @Doughboy48, she's NOT interested in fucking you, and she reacts quite angrily to your advances. ...Just imagine the embarrassment you'll bring to yourself and, more importantly, your family if you become a guy who tried to fuck his son's ex and friends 21 year old daughter - a girl less than 1/2 your age. Do you really want that kind of shame? Do you really want to put your family through that?? ..Yeah, I'd stop inviting her over for popcorn night if I were you..

 

[Doughboy48]

Would have to see picture of her to decide...

I don’t have a good picture of her unfortunately.

 

[Doughboy48]

The other aspect is other than me and 1 other person everyone thinks she is a virgin and a good Christian girl including her parents. I caught her and my son a few times plus he used to tell me how much of a freak she was and not like I would expect. My son has gone off the deep end and is now in to drugs and other things when they planned on getting married so she is so tied into our family at this point. Maybe since she can’t have the son she now wants the dad.

She also always wants me to rub or scratch her back and give her hugs. The last time I gave her a hug I know she had to feel the bulge that was forming in my shorts. This could be from her just being comfortable with me but with the other things she has done lately I’m leaning to there is more to it than that. We are going on a trip in a few weeks and she is going with us which is going to be interesting with this tension I’m feeling.

 

[Britva415]

This is honestly starting to sound like "stuff that isn't really happening."

Can't wait for the report you come up with after the trip, though!

 

[J_Bone]

Sounds to me like you're on the brink of blowing up a longstanding friendship, your marriage and further damaging your relationship with your son all in one fell swoop. Leave her be would be my advice.

Was going to reply, but you said it just as I was going to and said it well. So +1.

I'll add if it's even real, which is usually impossible to determine here.

 

[Doughboy48]

This is honestly starting to sound like "stuff that isn't really happening."

Can't wait for the report you come up with after the trip, though!

Oh it is really happening no doubt about it. I will keep you posted on the trip. She is on her way home from Kansas today and said she missed seeing me today at church and that I am awesome. I wanted to reply “that’s what she said” but I kept it kosher and said just don’t tell anyone.

It does shock me that so many on here are so against getting pussy whenever you can. I know there is a moral dilemma with this but also if she agrees to keep it on the DL and we are smart I don’t see why it is a big deal. Men have had mistresses forever that have offered them that release when the wife won’t give it.

 

[AnomalyLady]

Oh it is really happening no doubt about it. I will keep you posted on the trip. She is on her way home from Kansas today and said she missed seeing me today at church and that I am awesome. I wanted to reply “that’s what she said” but I kept it kosher and said just don’t tell anyone.

It does shock me that so many on here are so against getting pussy whenever you can. I know there is a moral dilemma with this but also if she agrees to keep it on the DL and we are smart I don’t see why it is a big deal. Men have had mistresses forever that have offered them that release when the wife won’t give it.

Let us know how it goes. We all want the whole scoop.

 

[LMWM321]

Men have had mistresses forever that have offered them that release when the wife won’t give it.

This isn't just about betraying a wife who "won't give it." (ugh, curious to know her side of the story).

...It's about betraying your friends and deepening the divide b/w you and your son. And being known throughout the community as a guy who preyed on the vulnerability of a young and likely confused young woman, who is half your age.

But whatever, you do you dude.....

 

[AnomalyLady]

Pretty sure she will look back on this, if something does happen, as a huge mistake in her life. But as the above guy said, you do you.

 

[Doughboy48]

I don’t want to deviate from the conversation to talk morals and whatever else and I do appreciate everyone’s thoughts and agree with most of them. I’m not saying I am even going to act on any of this, because I know the consequences and I would hate to have her labeled as “the other woman” or blow up my entire world. I was more curious if the consensus was that it sounded like she may be pursuing that. Maybe I didn’t explain that well enough upfront. There are days where if she made a move I would for sure jump on it, but there are also days where I know no matter how much I may want that it would be best to keep my hands off her.

 

[adlon]

I don’t have a good picture of her unfortunately.

Not that you would share it online to strangers without her permission would you?

I'm putting this whole thing down to you just getting others to assist you with a little fantasy that you have in your head.

 

[LMWM321]

I was more curious if the consensus was that it sounded like she may be pursuing that.

Okay... so about that. No, I don't believe she was pursuing "that". I think it's FAR more likely that as men age they misconstrue ANY sort of attention from a young woman as a come on. ..It's text book wishful thinking.

When a younger woman tells an older man "Oh, cool tattoo.." The guy tends to think, "Ooh, she want to fuck me!" ..When in reality, no... she just likes your fucking tattoo..

I'm not trying to dog you.. But as the father of daughters and uncle to many nieces I get pretty exorcised at the idea of men twice their age misconstruing their friendliness.

 

[1darknightowl]

Would have to see picture of her to decide...

Why?

 

[1darknightowl]

As much as this is a fantasy of mine, I would have to agree with others here and leave that fantasy as just that, fantasy.

Sounds to me like you're on the brink of blowing up a longstanding friendship, your marriage and further damaging your relationship with your son all in one fell swoop. Leave her be would be my advice.

+1

 

[Britva415]

I was more curious if the consensus was that it sounded like she may be pursuing that.

I don’t think she is.

I think she likes seeing the effect she has on you. I think she expects that you won’t take her seriously and won’t dare to pursue her. I think she might not even know what she wants and is probably just acting out.

I mean, yes, I do think she is being knowingly provocative. But the reasons she wants to do that probably aren’t anywhere near like she really wants to fuck you.

 

[Doughboy48]

Not that you would share it online to strangers without her permission would you?

I'm putting this whole thing down to you just getting others to assist you with a little fantasy that you have in your head.

No I seriously thought about it but then I thought better of it.