How to find people in real life

[dlswp06]

how to find someone to physically experiment with in real life?
i’m relatively new and i wanna have a comfortable safe space where i can experiment with different people. I study for now and i dont work. I dont really have friends, and am quite introverted. I did try dating apps but they are so dead, dry asf conversations, nothing past - i’m good too!

PS. i’m in europe, btw

Help meeee
xoxo

 

[Noor]

how to find someone to physically experiment with in real life?
i’m relatively new and i wanna have a comfortable safe space where i can experiment with different people. I study for now and i dont work. I dont really have friends, and am quite introverted. I did try dating apps but they are so dead, dry asf conversations, nothing past - i’m good too!

PS. i’m in europe, btw

Help meeee
xoxo

To experiment with how? What are your interests?

 

[flameinsidesoul]

how to find someone to physically experiment with in real life?
i’m relatively new and i wanna have a comfortable safe space where i can experiment with different people. I study for now and i dont work. I dont really have friends, and am quite introverted. I did try dating apps but they are so dead, dry asf conversations, nothing past - i’m good too!

PS. i’m in europe, btw

Help meeee
xoxo

First of all....take a deep breath. You’re not weird, broken, or alone. You’re just at the start of something real… and yeah, real is awkward sometimes. Especially when you’re introverted and apps feel like ghost towns with bios full of “here for a good time, not a long time.”

Here’s what might help, Look for local BDSM munches or sex-positive discussion groups (they’re often non-sexual meetups in cafes or bars). You’ll find real people, not just swipes and the vibe is usually way less creepy than apps. other one I can think of is FetLife (used well) If you’re not on it, check it out. Yes, it’s messy. Yes, there’s some cringe. But filtered well, you can find local events and real folks who care about safety and communication.

You can also attend workshops - Sexual wellness shops or queer-friendly art collectives often host events. Some are educational, others are just good places to meet open-minded people. Bonus: no pressure to “perform.”

Most importantly?
Don’t force intimacy just to escape loneliness. The people worth experimenting with are the ones who make you feel seen, not just sexy.

You’re not behind. You’re becoming.