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I kinda made a special friend on Lit. She's the most fun person I've spoken to/met (even if online) in a long while. She's honestly ever so lovely.

she even said she'd like for us to get together. It felt special, not sleazy or nasty.

we had a pretty deep chat the other night and I shared a ton of stuff about me that she was super nice about. It made me very happy. She isn't evne a million miles away from me and I asked her about meeting IRL and she seemed up for it (obviously there are safety issues to consider).

So why the hell am I so scared she won't want to actually go trhough with it? I feel that, after waht I told her, and her being so sensitive and expressing an interest that it was almost a fait accompli. But i feel that, if she does change her mind, or if i've grossly misunderstood, it would break my heart.

I would respect any decision she makes and I hope I'm just getting my knickers in a knot for no reason. There's no real answer to this ofc. Whatever happens is whatever happens....
How long have you been talking? Have you moved off here to any other platforms where you can see and actually talk IRL with each other?
 
There's no fool like an old fool I guess....TBH i don't think I could have comported myself in a better way, so to speak. But if I get burned, it will be on my own back.

I think I have allowed this site to get under my skin.
You never know what could happen. I believe that things occur as they should. We're not necessarily powerless, however, the universe puts opportunities in our path. We can act on them or not.

I have heard of people falling in love after meeting on this site. I have even heard of marriages. Certainly friendships have been forged here. This thread is a wonderful example of that.

My advice to you is search your heart. Open yourself up to all the possibilities you could imagine from your meeting. Then decide how you want to progress.

Good luck to you, Quim! I wish you every happiness! 🤗💕🤗
 
Only finished half of the mowing. At least most of the dandelion are cut off.

Cherries are trying, but it's 43 degrees F out there, so zero insects to pollinate them. Peaches have a few flowers, but most are small buds yet.

Had to move a tree frog from the yard when mowing. I just love these little guys. They're so calm, and hide most of the time. But noisy when it's mating season.

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I hope your cherries get their pollination on! Cute little guy! I'm glad you saw him to save him! 🐸
 
I don't mean to speak ill of anyone. I'm not suggestng that it's the people who are being horrible. I have come to find it intense.

There are people on here who are way more sexually experience than me whose histories are full of incredible experiences. I find it overwhelming tbh.


Correct. I'm not making a criticism of the site, just questioning whether it is the right place for me

I have opened up to a couple of people. Including the person i mentioned, whether that's a good thing remains to be seen.

i've chatted with a few people. Got my rocks off in the erotic chat forum, although i find that less appealing now. I even chat to a couple of ppl thru here on Gchat. One of whom is an escort. She has a history of the kind of sexual experience I mentioned. But she is a fun person to chat to, though I suspect - and I dont mean this negatively - there is a performative element. She even offered to let me be a client. I have never done such a thing and not simply because I don't have that kind of money, don't imagine I ever will. No shaming, she's cool and she is easy to chat to.

I chatted to a london based woman, incredibly sexy, who admitted she just likes fucking older guys. Regardless of what they look like. She even was open to meeting me, at her suggestion. But the realities were too much: travel would have been prohibitive. She is sexually very assertive, she films herself in sex clubs and sex shops and tbh I don't think it would have gone well anyway. Someone like that weould eat me alive!

I don't meet people like that IRL. Here i live in a very socially islated part of the country that has real issues with being disconnected. Leaningon Lit to be an outlet is perhaps unhealthy.


I participate in some of the threads in the Playground. They are pretty goofy but it's harmless enough. There are threads for people to hookup but i don't expect much from stuff like that. The rest seem to be a lot of older men dogpiling posts by supposedly sexually free young women/girls. It's a little creepy tbh.

I guess that's all you can do. Perhaps letting my guard down was a bad mistake. I believe she is genuine, she's very easy to talk to and convo flows. But, it is of course, in the context of online.

Rookie mistake really :)
Maybe not a mistake. Rookie or not. Talk a little longer. See if she will talk on Google Meet, Teams, Kik, or one of the various other sites. Talk there a while before you decide to meet. You can determine a lot about a person using other senses. If you both still click, then consider meeting casually.
 
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I feel like the White Rabbit...
Not that I'm late necessarily but I do feel constantly short on time these days
Had the start of a catch up still left here from one or two days ago...


Google says it's a trillium

See? Told ya 🤭🤗

As much as I like a good storm, I don't care to be shocked awake by thunder 😬

rain here, too... 🤞 it's enough

I missed Kathy?!? Hey, girl!! 🤗

We've had an early stretch of 80s and almost 90s here... trade you? Or at least let's blend them together to meet in the middle :LOL:


Ah - now I understand the Child Services reference :LOL:

What? I missed it? :oops: 😥

Thanks for the heads up - have a wonderful visit!!

I feel like this is one of those rhetorical questions... or a trap. :unsure: Hmm, yeah - trap

GMTA :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO:

sounds... combative? :unsure:

Be thankful they're answering phones and not treating patients?!? :oops:

Does this mean you need to help pollinate... Wonderer Style?

Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, in the days leading up to the event, the computer search history clearly shows they were googling for Child Services...

bones alone? do you have to keep moving it around?

I think it waited until you were out back looking around the apple trees... then snuck in front for the tasty tulips. :unsure: Does this mean you got played by a deer? 🤨

Yep - I had to back up and read that a second time, too :ROFLMAO:

We covered this? Daschaunds are the answer


Not 💯 self-building but pretty dang close
I wouldn't mind seeing Gerard Butler in a kilt! 😍🥵
 
I'm replying to this without reading what everyone else has written first

Take the pressure of letting you down off. Plan something fun to do that you would absolutely do by yourself. Let her know that is your plan. Let her know that she is more than welcome to join you at that activity but that regardless of her attendance, you have plans. Let her know that if she doesn't show up that she will not be leaving you hanging. You will not be disappointed or put out or in inconvenienced.

My two cents...or less.
This is good advice, Mitt. I would just add to invite her. If she says yes and shows up, it will be a fun outing for the two of you. If she says yes but doesn't show, you still get to do something fun that you would like to do.
 
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