Leahaven

[LeaHaven]

I don't think I have left my door open since I had to give Travis an emotional reset, which was painful for both of us and still has some lingering issues. But this past week, actually Wednesday evening, he asked me about it.

"You don't leave your door open no more," he told me.

"I decided that maybe you need to earn it."

He told me about all he does around the house, and I told him how much I appreciate all his help, "...but that's not exactly it," I said.

"Then, what?"

"Let me think about it," I said. "I'm not sure how to explain it right now."

To be honest, I knew how to explain it, but I am not after him completing some specific task. I am seeking compliance. I have gotten pretty good at using sex to manipulate Robbie (I have learned that I love to talk during sex), and I have done it a little with Travis, but as I already said, I want to use Travis' "mom" fetish to see if I can get him to be obedient. The real test will be to see if I can get him caged.

Hmm...I wonder. Have I always been this devious or is this a new thing?

He was out with friends last night. I sent him a text that said, "My door is open, but don't be too late. I want my sleep."

He replied, "How late?"

"Midnight"

"Not midnight" he wrote, "that's in like 30 minutes"

"OK. Nvm, then," I said.

"2 o'clock" he texted.

"No," I said, "nvm"

"What's wrong with 2? It's always been 2"

That's not true. It has been around 2:00 AM often, but only on nights when he was home.

"No ty," I told him. "I'm going to sleep at midnight. Enjoy your night!"

"What's wrong with 2?"

I didn't respond, and there were no more texts between us until about 11:50.

"2 then? I'll see you at 2," he sent.

I didn't respond. I closed my bedroom door and went to sleep. Travis did not enter my bedroom last night. He would not do that if the door is closed.

He is not awake yet, so I haven't seen him, but he's not getting any sex from me until he becomes a good boy...if he ever does. Who knows? I might be the one who ends up begging for forgiveness.

Oh gosh! I hadn't thought about that!

Maybe I should rethink this plan

 

[9to5]

hold on to what your doing so far, he will maybe start to learn to do as you want if he wants sex with you. he just might come around yet. his cock is not in charge lol

 

[P0peye]

To be honest, I knew how to explain it, but I am not after him completing some specific task. I am seeking compliance. I have gotten pretty good at using sex to manipulate Robbie (I have learned that I love to talk during sex), and I have done it a little with Travis, but as I already said, I want to use Travis' "mom" fetish to see if I can get him to be obedient. The real test will be to see if I can get him caged.

I also enjoy talking during sex, but it's difficult to talk when my mouth is stuffed full of thick cock

 

[Artfan2]

hold on to what your doing so far, he will maybe start to learn to do as you want if he wants sex with you. he just might come around yet. his cock is not in charge lol

Well said.

 

[LeaHaven]

Travis moved back home yesterday.

On Monday he quit his job. I found out when I got home from work. His employer loved him...Travis is a hard worker...and his 90-day probationary period would have ended next Friday, and he would have gotten a fat raise, but he wants to get back together with his girlfriend back home, and she will not move up here. I tried to talk him out of it, and I asked him what he is going to do about a job back home. He said, "I'll figure something out."

Him and several hundred other people. Somehow businesses and job opportunities are going to magically spring up in a sparsely populated county with no job skills and a high school education.

But I can't say it surprises me too much. Travis is impulsive and emotional and immature. I think he is in for a hard life. I hope I am wrong.

On the other hand, I am glad to have my boy and my house back. On Sunday night, after Robbie and I got in bed, I actually told him that I really missed getting to use him "at my leisure out there in the house." I had no idea I would get that back so soon. But I am glad, and I plan to make good use of my new-found freedom.

 

[9to5]

sorry to hear about losing Travis. But it can open the door for a lot of playtime for you and Robbie. just thinking of keeping him naked and doing task around the house for you. his job will be more focused on your pleasure

 

[policywank]

Travis moved back home yesterday.

On Monday he quit his job. I found out when I got home from work. His employer loved him...Travis is a hard worker...and his 90-day probationary period would have ended next Friday, and he would have gotten a fat raise, but he wants to get back together with his girlfriend back home, and she will not move up here. I tried to talk him out of it, and I asked him what he is going to do about a job back home. He said, "I'll figure something out."

Him and several hundred other people. Somehow businesses and job opportunities are going to magically spring up in a sparsely populated county with no job skills and a high school education.

But I can't say it surprises me too much. Travis is impulsive and emotional and immature. I think he is in for a hard life. I hope I am wrong.

On the other hand, I am glad to have my boy and my house back. On Sunday night, after Robbie and I got in bed, I actually told him that I really missed getting to use him "at my leisure out there in the house." I had no idea I would get that back so soon. But I am glad, and I plan to make good use of my new-found freedom.

As you have noted you do need to be careful about exercising your sexual latitude as there are real social consequences if people see you with another man and perceive you as "cheating" on Robbie. But the mere prospect that you have the latitude to be with other men will be a powerful source of titillation and stimulation for you and Robbie. Whether or not you ever act upon that latitude every time you are away from Robbie he knows it is a possibility (especially if you are dressed to impress). And given your youth and decades of sexual activity still to come it will take on the air of inevitability. Whether it is next month or next decade it seems highly likely that the right opportunity will present itself. Or at least that will be the way it seems to Robbie. That awareness itself will build upon your experiences with Travis to prepare Robbie for you unconventional and exciting sex life together. My guess is that before long Robbie will be aching for you to take lovers as much or maybe even more than you.

 

[LeaHaven]

We have our house back, so I sent Robbie a text earlier this morning.

"I want chicken salad on pita for dinner with cucumber slices on the side. Make sure you are showered and shaved when I get home. Be wearing your cage and be ready to make me feel good when you finish cleaning up the kitchen. Make sure you have some good porn ready for me to watch while you indulge my needs."

 

[9to5]

We have our house back, so I sent Robbie a text earlier this morning.

"I want chicken salad on pita for dinner with cucumber slices on the side. Make sure you are showered and shaved when I get home. Be wearing your cage and be ready to make me feel good when you finish cleaning up the kitchen. Make sure you have some good porn ready for me to watch while you indulge my needs."

its exciting to read this and I hope you got Robbie excited also

 

[NancyPan]

From the sub male’s perspective, I would suspect that it is very reassuring to Robbie to experience the reality of his permanence in your life while seeing that Robbie was a toy, a cock, a plaything. Travis provided ample material for Robbie’s future humiliations, reminders of his sexual inadequacy, and the possibility of your choosing another lover at any time. Perhaps it would be more humiliating for Robbie if you were fucking a man who was not only sexually superior, but also socially and intellectually at least his counterpart (or more successful).

 

[LeaHaven]

As you have noted you do need to be careful about exercising your sexual latitude as there are real social consequences if people see you with another man and perceive you as "cheating" on Robbie. But the mere prospect that you have the latitude to be with other men will be a powerful source of titillation and stimulation for you and Robbie. Whether or not you ever act upon that latitude every time you are away from Robbie he knows it is a possibility (especially if you are dressed to impress). And given your youth and decades of sexual activity still to come it will take on the air of inevitability. Whether it is next month or next decade it seems highly likely that the right opportunity will present itself. Or at least that will be the way it seems to Robbie. That awareness itself will build upon your experiences with Travis to prepare Robbie for you unconventional and exciting sex life together. My guess is that before long Robbie will be aching for you to take lovers as much or maybe even more than you.

Gosh, reading that is kind of titillating in itself!

Policywank, I saw your message not long after you posted it. I began to write a response, but as I was writing it, I realized that I was not being completely honest. It is always a little scary to be completely open with strangers, but here it goes...

I have gotten several DM's asking if I am interested in pursuing sexual relationships with other guys. I began to talk all around that question and kind of not actually answer it, but the honest answer is, yes. I don't think I could ever have said that if the whole thing with Travis had not fallen into my lap. That (my fun with Travis) was hidden inside my house, away from the outside world and very private, so it made it easier to "fall into," but it was so intensely arousing and revealing about Robbie and me that I can't just let that vibe slip away. I fully intend to enjoy all the privileges to which I am entitled, given that this is exactly what my husband and I want, although he has never actually said those words. But that night, when he was kissing my face while Travis was fucking me from behind, it was clear from the mood on Robbie's face and the desire in my heart, that it's all about me. Maybe that has been my expectations all along.

So now what?

I don't know. I guess I will try to arrange that lunch date with Derek. One step at a time.

 

[LeaHaven]

its exciting to read this and I hope you got Robbie excited also

It was a very nice evening, and I got to enjoy my orgasm on the couch. And I LOVE knowing his erection is painfully constrained while his mouth is pleasing me. Maybe I am sadistic. If I am, I like it!

And by the way, his little penis is still constrained.

 

[LeaHaven]

From the sub male’s perspective, I would suspect that it is very reassuring to Robbie to experience the reality of his permanence in your life while seeing that Robbie was a toy, a cock, a plaything. Travis provided ample material for Robbie’s future humiliations, reminders of his sexual inadequacy, and the possibility of your choosing another lover at any time. Perhaps it would be more humiliating for Robbie if you were fucking a man who was not only sexually superior, but also socially and intellectually at least his counterpart (or more successful).

I think you are right, NancyPan, and I think Robbie sees that man in Jack. When we go to the quarterly meet-ups at Jack's house and Jack and I find ourselves talking apart from the crowd, Robbie is always watching from across the room. When I catch him watching, there is a noticeable sexual tension between us. The next meeting is next month. I think I will lock Robbie up this time.

 

[9to5]

It was a very nice evening, and I got to enjoy my orgasm on the couch. And I LOVE knowing his erection is painfully constrained while his mouth is pleasing me. Maybe I am sadistic. If I am, I like it!

And by the way, his little penis is still constrained.

its all for you, and so proud of him. I know his feeling of a caged cock constrained. that in itself is exciting for the wearer too. I hope robbie enjoys it as much as I di

 

[JennyCapricorn]

It was a very nice evening, and I got to enjoy my orgasm on the couch. And I LOVE knowing his erection is painfully constrained while his mouth is pleasing me. Maybe I am sadistic. If I am, I like it!

And by the way, his little penis is still constrained.

I have recently seen videos on PornHub about DIY projects where the Domme takes a flattened cock cage and screws a dildo onto the end of it. That way she can fuck the toy and her sub without him feeling anything. Something you might enjoy.

Edited to add: Found One!

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=64c610a32505b

 

[NancyPan]

It was a very nice evening, and I got to enjoy my orgasm on the couch. And I LOVE knowing his erection is painfully constrained while his mouth is pleasing me. Maybe I am sadistic. If I am, I like it!

And by the way, his little penis is still constrained.

Again speaking from a sub male’s perspective, it is not sadistic to be denied when we worship pussy. It enhances the excitement and reinforces for us that SHE is superior. I have discussed this online with several subs. Although of course we like to orgasm, being denied while we pleasure HER is a privilege and being kept in a prolonged state of arousal is preferred by many (including me) to the quick spurt and subsequent let-down. Plus, and psychologically this is important to the sub state of mind, knowing that I am not worthy of controlling my own releases (decisions about when I deserve to cum), is very, very important to my submissive psyche. If it were up to me, I’d be wanking constantly. I need Her to control it because I can’t. I am a sissy.

 

[whenagain]

I have recently seen videos on PornHub about DIY projects where the Domme takes a flattened cock cage and screws a dildo onto the end of it. That way she can fuck the toy and her sub without him feeling anything. Something you might enjoy.

Edited to add: Found One!

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=64c610a32505b

Yeah this video was very hot.

 

[LeaHaven]

I have recently seen videos on PornHub about DIY projects where the Domme takes a flattened cock cage and screws a dildo onto the end of it. That way she can fuck the toy and her sub without him feeling anything. Something you might enjoy.

Edited to add: Found One!

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=64c610a32505b

I don't understand. Where did his penis go? Did she push it into his body? And where did the screw-on dildo come from? Can you buy those? And if I can buy them, does that mean I can have any size Robbie I want?

 

[LeaHaven]

Again speaking from a sub male’s perspective, it is not sadistic to be denied when we worship pussy. It enhances the excitement and reinforces for us that SHE is superior. I have discussed this online with several subs. Although of course we like to orgasm, being denied while we pleasure HER is a privilege and being kept in a prolonged state of arousal is preferred by many (including me) to the quick spurt and subsequent let-down. Plus, and psychologically this is important to the sub state of mind, knowing that I am not worthy of controlling my own releases (decisions about when I deserve to cum), is very, very important to my submissive psyche. If it were up to me, I’d be wanking constantly. I need Her to control it because I can’t. I am a sissy.

You're a wealth of information, NancyPan. Robbie is just like that as far as I can tell. I mean, he's never said so, but it sure seems that way. Whatever. I like being in control of his orgasms, because just like you said, if I were not, I am convinced he would be jerking off constantly. And I don't like that.

 

[NancyPan]

You're a wealth of information, NancyPan. Robbie is just like that as far as I can tell. I mean, he's never said so, but it sure seems that way. Whatever. I like being in control of his orgasms, because just like you said, if I were not, I am convinced he would be jerking off constantly. And I don't like that.

Thank you! It is an honor to receive a compliment from a Superior. One thing we do each week is I give a verbal self-report to my Mistrees/Wife. There are 5 categories, one being my adherence to our honor system chastity agreement. I find this to be the most humiliating because I am expected to tell Her of times that I struggled with urges to masturbate, for example after seeing her standing at the bathroom mirror in bra and panties applying makeup, or when I was handwashing Her bras, panties, and shapers (a weekly task). She is amused by this, but She also reinforces my compliance with the rules. I have had to tell her about “being naughty,” and it is very unpleasant to have her disappointed with me, and the consequences were quite severe. I have not released without permission for over a year now.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I don't understand. Where did his penis go? Did she push it into his body? And where did the screw-on dildo come from? Can you buy those? And if I can buy them, does that mean I can have any size Robbie I want?

So if I’m understanding it right the cage is one of these

https://topchastity.com/products/loyalty-husband-flat-small-chastity-cage

But rather than the catheter you use the screw hole to attach a dildo of your liking. So buy something, say, Travis sized, super glue a screw to the base of it, push Robbie way down into the flat cage, screw on the new dildo and get from Robbie the cock size you want with no chance that he will cum prematurely. (Or if he still does it doesn’t matter. )

I will add that due to ED issues my hubby sometimes wears a sheath that has a similar effect for me (but not the domme humiliation for him) and having a living loving partner fucking you with a cock that lasts as long as you want really is a joy.

 

[LeaHaven]

So if I’m understanding it right the cage is one of these

https://topchastity.com/products/loyalty-husband-flat-small-chastity-cage

But rather than the catheter you use the screw hole to attach a dildo of your liking. So buy something, say, Travis sized, super glue a screw to the base of it, push Robbie way down into the flat cage, screw on the new dildo and get from Robbie the cock size you want with no chance that he will cum prematurely. (Or if he still does it doesn’t matter. )

I will add that due to ED issues my hubby sometimes wears a sheath that has a similar effect for me (but not the domme humiliation for him) and having a living loving partner fucking you with a cock that lasts as long as you want really is a joy.

Every time I have tried to put a cage on Robbie, he always gets erect and the cage won't go on. But seeing that video it looks like if I were to keep pushing against Robbie's erection, I can make his erection "recede" and I can get the cage on him? Or is the guy's (in the video) erection going soft? Does anybody know? I really don't understand what I am seeing, but I am very interested in this.

 

[9to5]

a very cold wash cloth or a bag of ice. that will make him shrink and go soft

 

[9to5]

I have seen some dildos that go above his cage for you to use

 

[9to5]

https://lockedinlust.com/shop/penetrator-chastity/
and pick your size lol