If my husband knows I am cheating, will it turn him into a cuck?

I only want a monogamous lover and not any wife or husband, but if your lover can share you and you share them without being jealous I'd try .

I wouldn't be supporting them through much else though.
 
I wouldn't want my wife sneaking out behind my back. I've told her as long as she's honest with me, I'm ok with it. I'm not into the humiliation aspect of the scene, I just want her to have a good time experiencing other guys. Life's too short.
 
Hi

When I posted in BDSM discussion that how my affair likely have turned me into a sub. Many users suggested I should let my husband know about this.
I am now realizing maybe my worse fear is not he will not accept this. But that 'he will' and he will actively try to either change himself to be dom, a task in which he had tried before and failed. Or he will change himself into a cuck.
I guess that's my worse fear. Because like women in your story, I will not like my husband to know what I am upto. Or what is being done to me. Not only he will feel 'it's not safe' in terms of hardcore, but he will also feel emasculated.
I know he is not alpha man type, but he is still confident at work, still a stable person. Very career oriented. Even though we both earn, he insists on he paying for most of the bills and I save for my parents etc.
Last thing I want that he allocating his mental energy to his wife's exploits.
I think telling my husband would be a lose -lose situation.

I am Indian, married. Living in UK. Doctor by profession.

Related my treads in BDSM discussion

https://forum.literotica.com/thread...en-turned-sub-during-or-after-affair.1613409/

https://forum.literotica.com/thread...-during-or-after-affair.1613409/post-99214538
From personal experience I would have to say be ready for a divorce. In my case that didn't happen because of the situation but if I didn't just purchase a house, have car payments, and two toddlers at home it would have ended right then and there. Because of those kids I didn't divorce her, or kick his ass, I settled for slashing all his tires so he couldn't give her a ride back to her car. Thank god he didn't come out while I was in the process because I was in a rage! Keep in mind that I fit the description you used of your husband to a T even though in this world I am a submissive.
 
Hi

When I posted in BDSM discussion that how my affair likely have turned me into a sub. Many users suggested I should let my husband know about this.
I am now realizing maybe my worse fear is not he will not accept this. But that 'he will' and he will actively try to either change himself to be dom, a task in which he had tried before and failed. Or he will change himself into a cuck.
I guess that's my worse fear. Because like women in your story, I will not like my husband to know what I am upto. Or what is being done to me. Not only he will feel 'it's not safe' in terms of hardcore, but he will also feel emasculated.
I know he is not alpha man type, but he is still confident at work, still a stable person. Very career oriented. Even though we both earn, he insists on he paying for most of the bills and I save for my parents etc.
Last thing I want that he allocating his mental energy to his wife's exploits.
I think telling my husband would be a lose -lose situation.

I am Indian, married. Living in UK. Doctor by profession.

Related my treads in BDSM discussion

https://forum.literotica.com/thread...en-turned-sub-during-or-after-affair.1613409/

https://forum.literotica.com/thread...-during-or-after-affair.1613409/post-99214538
If your not getting what you want at home and your afraid of him finding out, than leave him. Why live like that? I'm sure you love him...... so why hurt him?
 
From personal experience I would have to say be ready for a divorce. In my case that didn't happen because of the situation but if I didn't just purchase a house, have car payments, and two toddlers at home it would have ended right then and there. Because of those kids I didn't divorce her, or kick his ass, I settled for slashing all his tires so he couldn't give her a ride back to her car. Thank god he didn't come out while I was in the process because I was in a rage! Keep in mind that I fit the description you used of your husband to a T even though in this world I am a submissive.
How did you find out? and are you still married? Are you or your wife indian?
 
I do not know if open relationship works for Indian or to be fair anyone who is not born in west.
I'm an American married to an Indian. Our marriage is open, but we almost never act on it. However, we have good friends in India who are very actively polyamorous. Right now, the wife's boyfriend lives with them, the husband has about 3 girlfriends, and both of them hook up casually as well. They've never been happier. Not for everyone, but through knowing them I've learned that there are quite a few Indians, in India, successfully navigating open marriages, polyamory etc.
 
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