What do smart, sexy younger women look for in older guys?

[Deleted member 1178772]

That’s exactly it: emotional maturity and not having to play mother to a man baby who never learned to clean up after himself

Unless it's the current mess made in bed

 

[pmarlowe]

That’s exactly it: emotional maturity and not having to play mother to a man baby who never learned to clean up after himself

That's what I hear a lot.. so glad to see you affirm it..

 

[cdstefi]

That’s exactly it: emotional maturity and not having to play mother to a man baby who never learned to clean up after himself

Jesus, the very thought of a partner taking on the mother role ... Blech!

I like looking after myself, and us. I'm not remotely patriarchal though, we're very much equals and our talents and needs complement each other well.

It comes out especially in things like cooking; she has better instincts for flavours and combinations than me, but gets bored with the donkey work of chopping and prepping stuff, so she'll choose the herbs and spices for a marinade or sauce then let me do the rest.

 

[Vinylguy]

A fat dic* and a fat paycheck

 

[Vinylguy]

money lol

Yepp, financial security!

 

[Mike130]

It’s difficult to explain, but for me, the older, more sophisticated man, has a certain mystique about him. They recognize how to make me feel attractive, and wanted. There is the experience and style in their efforts to seduce me, and they tend not to be in a frantic rush to get my knickers off. Once involved, they know how to bring me to a level of sexual enjoyment. Taking their time, instead of rushing, and thinking only of their own gratification. (Sometimes there are disappointments though). I’m drifting more to the aged, more mature men and learning a lot from them. Much more than from the young fellows, who think a fast, vigorous pounding is what I want. Although, there are times when that is exactly what I need.

Lucy.

Took me a while to realize that making a woman orgasm is more sexually satisfying than having my own orgasm (although I like that too). It’s so amazing that you can bring a woman to that level of pleasure; that her legs are shaking and she begs you to stop. But you don’t….

 

[Deadbed1968]

Took me a while to realize that making a woman orgasm is more sexually satisfying than having my own orgasm (although I like that too). It’s so amazing that you can bring a woman to that level of pleasure; that her legs are shaking and she begs you to stop. But you don’t….

I agree. I have such a difficult time climaxing myself due to the meds I’m on, that I get my satisfaction from pleasing my wife.

 

[ty990471]

I love how $$ makes everyone more attractive.

Most women care more about the bulge in the back of a man's pants than in the front.

 

[DynamicFigure]

Besides financial and emotional stability (ideally), the occasional good spanking (necessity).

 

[Whynotyeahwhynot]

Money!!!!!

 

[Persephonem3]

All the money answers here are wild. I’ve dated older men most of my life. I like the maturity. The confidence. And the general prowess. Frequently men my own age when I was 20-30 were absolute idiots lol.

 

[pmarlowe]

All the money answers here are wild. I’ve dated older men most of my life. I like the maturity. The confidence. And the general prowess. Frequently men my own age when I was 20-30 were absolute idiots lol.

Idiots, indeed I hear that a lot.

 

[MrsIndianPeach]

Well a lot of things what we like in a charming mature man, how they talk how they eye and comment and be calm and detailed and subtle

 

[Bobm269]

For me, it has always been the safe comfortable space created for me by my dad. Of course, some of this is very general and based on my experience. I do know older men that are not interesting to me at all. The way I learned an older man carried himself, took care of things, maintained a safe place (physically and emotionally), asked nothing of me, showed me love and affection. My dad showed all that and helped me realize my emotional, personal, and physical value. My attraction to these older men has never been about money.

 

[Noor]

All the money answers here are wild. I’ve dated older men most of my life. I like the maturity. The confidence. And the general prowess. Frequently men my own age when I was 20-30 were absolute idiots lol.

The money comments seem to be mainly from older men.

 

[SouthernMatureM]

For me, it has always been the safe comfortable space created for me by my dad. Of course, some of this is very general and based on my experience. I do know older men that are not interesting to me at all. The way I learned an older man carried himself, took care of things, maintained a safe place (physically and emotionally), asked nothing of me, showed me love and affection. My dad showed all that and helped me realize my emotional, personal, and physical value. My attraction to these older men has never been about money.

Sounds like a great dad

 

[Utmale48]

For me, it has always been the safe comfortable space created for me by my dad. Of course, some of this is very general and based on my experience. I do know older men that are not interesting to me at all. The way I learned an older man carried himself, took care of things, maintained a safe place (physically and emotionally), asked nothing of me, showed me love and affection. My dad showed all that and helped me realize my emotional, personal, and physical value. My attraction to these older men has never been about money.

Sounds like your dad was a very positive role model for you. That’s always good to hear.

 

[Bobm269]

Sounds like your dad was a very positive role model for you. That’s always good to hear.

He was a very positive, supportive, open, and amazing role model.

 

[LittleMissSunshine12]

A level of relaxed confidence and respect that an be sadly lacking elsewhere. The thought of being with an older guy for more money leaves me cold, it’s about attraction, not transaction.

 

[Utmale48]

He was a very positive, supportive, open, and amazing role model.

It’s really good to hear you has on your dad that way. A lot of people don’t.

 

[Bobm269]

It’s really good to hear you has on your dad that way. A lot of people don’t.

I am grateful, in so many ways!

 

[EasyBrad59]

A level of relaxed confidence and respect that an be sadly lacking elsewhere. The thought of being with an older guy for more money leaves me cold, it’s about attraction, not transaction.

You are a good soul. It should always be about attraction at the most basic level.

 

[Utmale48]

I am grateful, in so many ways!

Can I ask how close you and your dad are?

 

[OralAllOver]

wrinkled testicles

 

[AcelaCorridorVet]

I love how $$ makes everyone more attractive.

Not unlike the scene in "Broadcast News" when Albert Brooks (Aaron) is on the phone with Holly Hunter (Jane).

Jane - "I have passed some line some place. I am beginning to repel people I'm trying to seduce."
Aaron - "He must have been great-looking."
Jane - "Why do you say that?"
Aaron - "Because nobody invites a bad-looking idiot to their hotel room."