What is it with younger women liking older men?

[Britva415]

Few years ago one of the girls at work tried to get me to go out with her and she was at least 20 years my JR. Only issue I had was she had two young children from a previous marriage, and I'm like nope been there done that before.. not happening again.

Was she trying to get you to "go out" or "marry her?"

Kids and a previous marriage wouldn't stop me from "going out."

Plus - I have boundaries and am perfectly willing to name them so that expectations are clear. I'm willing to reject someone if they don't meet the stated/named expectations.

Don't be so afraid of someone ruining your life. Don't be a doormat, and you'll be fine.

I don't know the situation, maybe you could tell she was angling to catch herself a simp for life, but, sounds to me like it could have been fun. Maybe worth fucking around and finding out, anyway. As long as once we find out, we bail out, if necessary.

 

[Britva415]

Any guys have the opposite? I hooked up with a 44 yr old when i was 27

Yeah, me too. Almost precisely the same ages too

 

[ADIDAS00]

Older men have a maturity (in most cases) that younger men do not. With that comes the ability to connect in a personal way that isn’t just focused on the physical. Like being approached but not having my physical appearance mentioned right off of the bat, that ability to create a genuine connection and then be able to maintain a good conversation is just something younger guys, for the most part, are just not good at yet. That is one the biggest appeals of older men for me

That is funny that you say that because I do feel as I get older it’s less about looks. I don’t have this Pervy urge to just stare at boobs and ass all the time. I look but it’s not as important as when I was 23 for instance.

I do like getting to know people more as I get older. The personal experience definitely comes first. Maybe that shows through and people see it. Who knows

 

[ADIDAS00]

Yeah, me too. Almost precisely the same ages too

I hooked up with a 30 yr old woman when I was 19 but I had no idea what I was doing. I think back then I was just a trophy for her

 

[Scotchlander]

In the last year, I’ve had at least 5 or 6 women in their late twenties to early thirties hit on me. It happened again today. Like, they openly hit on me. They didn’t hide it. Has it always been this way? I never remember younger women hitting on older men when I was younger. It just wasn’t a thing…that I know of.

I mean, I have gray stubble so I don’t look young at all. I always thought when I got this age, NO younger women would ever even look at me. I find it flattering but my mind is perplexed. It seems like something has shifted in the universe, lol. Are older men in style these days? What’s happening?

What an excellent post as I have been wondering the same.

I have had much younger young ladies hitting on me also and it’s very difficult to resist

Also a friends daughters 21 and 23 constantly flirt with me. But although it’s flattering, I would never overstep the mark.

Saying that, about a year ago a very sexy young woman (21) I met wanted to try an older man, so I was more than happy to oblige she loved it as much as I did.

 

[ADIDAS00]

We like older men becaus mature men are set in there ways. They don’t care what other people think. They are open minded, kinky and get what they want

True, I do care less about what people think the older I get. That makes sense

 

[LMWM321]

Some men are apt to see any sort of friendliness from a woman as a come on...

If a woman says, "I like your tattoo," they think, "Ooh, she wants to fuck me!"

Umm... No, she just likes your tattoo. ..And I'm sure she wouldn't have mentioned it if she knew you'd jump to that conclusion.

 

[jonnoback]

Older men have a maturity (in most cases) that younger men do not. With that comes the ability to connect in a personal way that isn’t just focused on the physical. Like being approached but not having my physical appearance mentioned right off of the bat, that ability to create a genuine connection and then be able to maintain a good conversation is just something younger guys, for the most part, are just not good at yet. That is one the biggest appeals of older men for me

We’re very flattered!

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I can only tell you what I have been told by females. They are tired of self absorbed, video game playing man childs. They want a real man and can only find them in mature men.

Mature doesn't always mean older

 

[Foxed]

I like a gap. Dead sweet and sexy

 

[Live4themoments]

We like older men becaus mature men are set in there ways. They don’t care what other people think. They are open minded, kinky and get what they want

This is pretty accurate. Older guys (at least me) accept a female for who she is. We don't converse with you to change they way you think or look, you are what you are and we accept it. We enjoy the attention you give us and respond by listening to your every word. Last thing realistically going through our head is how to get you to bed, which I think younger females pick up on that and don't feel threatened (not to mention they can probably outrun us oldies). We enjoy your companionship, and if things progress and she gets more comfortable, then things can change. I'm at the stage where I don't have the desire to change myself or try to change her, accept me for who I am as I have accepted you.

 

[Volk359]

I would love to know where all these women are!

Men are apt to see any sort of friendliness from a woman as a come on...

If a woman says, "I like your tattoo," most guys think, "Ooh, she wants to fuck me!"

Umm... No, she just likes your tattoo.

On the other side of that coin is a woman who says to me as an opening line, “I like your tattoo,” and is thinking, “I’d like to fuck you.”

And I am thinking, “wow, she likes my tattoo.”

I was never good at picking up hints.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

Mature doesn't always mean older

Again this is coming from younger females not me. Take it how you wish

 

[Chilllax]

As many people have commented I do think it is the ease and confidence with which we, the older guys, can converse. At least for me, that comes from a place of not having any hidden agenda and perhaps is the case for many others. I do happen to work with many young women and when I converse with them, it is with genuine interest. Think it's something that can be picked up quite easily, IMHO.

So much so that I was asked by a young woman if she could be my work wife. And she was a looker too! That happening if I was in my 20s or even 30s? Hell no

 

[Neanderthal247]

In the last year, I’ve had at least 5 or 6 women in their late twenties to early thirties hit on me. It happened again today. Like, they openly hit on me. They didn’t hide it. Has it always been this way? I never remember younger women hitting on older men when I was younger. It just wasn’t a thing…that I know of.

I mean, I have gray stubble so I don’t look young at all. I always thought when I got this age, NO younger women would ever even look at me. I find it flattering but my mind is perplexed. It seems like something has shifted in the universe, lol. Are older men in style these days? What’s happening?

Young ladies have a thing for Daddy types, I get surprised when a sexy young lady is perving on me, but it does happen. For me it's an ego boost and sexy as hell.

 

[Justtina]

I personally have more older men hit on me then younger men. I'm not sure why but find both flattering

 

[Foxed]

I personally have more older men hit on me then younger men. I'm not sure why but find both flattering

I like a bit of attention Some older guys are a bit more attentive, perhaps

 

[Justtina]

I like a bit of attention Some older guys are a bit more attentive, perhaps

Agreed

 

[Foxed]

And I do like how their faces light up if you pay back some attention So sweet

 

[Noor]

Short term delusions ?

 

[Foxed]

Short term delusions ?

Depends on my mood. I adopted an older guy on holiday recently. He sat with us each breakfast and supper. Good company

 

[YourSecretDesires]

In the last year, I’ve had at least 5 or 6 women in their late twenties to early thirties hit on me. It happened again today. Like, they openly hit on me. They didn’t hide it. Has it always been this way? I never remember younger women hitting on older men when I was younger. It just wasn’t a thing…that I know of.

I mean, I have gray stubble so I don’t look young at all. I always thought when I got this age, NO younger women would ever even look at me. I find it flattering but my mind is perplexed. It seems like something has shifted in the universe, lol. Are older men in style these days? What’s happening?

It happened when you were younger, too, you just didn't see it. Women are discreet most of the time. A lot of 20 somethings will try an older guy out for a spin for the experience.

As for what's happening, it's simply this: "Older" guys (generally speaking) have their shit together, are more experienced, less hyper, more mature, have more money, and more charm.

 

[financebro]

I think I get more attention now IRL than I did in my 20s. Young women have a variety of needs and they seem to like a fit, successful older man for their own purposes. And I am more than obliging.

 

[AnomalyLady]

If you men figure it out, let me know. I think it is just how some women are wired!

 

[ADIDAS00]

It happened when you were younger, too, you just didn't see it. Women are discreet most of the time. A lot of 20 somethings will try an older guy out for a spin for the experience.

As for what's happening, it's simply this: "Older" guys (generally speaking) have their shit together, are more experienced, less hyper, more mature, have more money, and more charm.

Interesting…you may be right. I may not have noticed or I wasn’t paying attention.

And…all of the statements you made about older men do seemto be true. I’m starting to see what younger women are attracted to in an older men. Looks seem less important. Maturity, safety, and confident charm seem to be the draw