How do dominatrixes set their rates?

[gunhilltrain]

There are sites offering services, but they don't seem to mention anything like costs or hourly rates. They do use the word "sessions," but I'm guessing that can vary a lot in time depending on what the client wants. I was surprised to learn that the women usually expect tips and substantial ones at that.

If I may digress a bit, I've thought that "regular" prostitutes charge by each specific sexual act. (Two blowjobs cost twice as much as one?) In the movie Taxi Driver, the sessions are timed in fifteen-minute increments, but I don't know if Martin Scorsese or screenwriter Paul Schrader had any true understanding of the business.

I know there are different levels of prostitution, ranging from streetwalkers to call girls or escorts who may spend hours with the client.

 

[SerenaSteeleMonroe]

In California, it's a minimum of $200 an hour, with many charging twice as much as that for plain Jane services. Of course, it doesn't include any actual sex. It would depend on the Dominatrix what she up-charged for any specific kink. I have it on good authority that some women get upwards of $1000 an hour for things that are borderline on legality. And don't kid yourself, if you want an ass-fucking from a strap on, as long they know you're not a cop, you'll get fucked in the ass.

 

[alohadave]

In the movie Taxi Driver, the sessions are timed in fifteen-minute increments, but I don't know if Martin Scorsese or screenwriter Paul Schrader had any true understanding of the business.

That's what it's like in Nevada bunny farms.

 

[SerenaSteeleMonroe]

Fifteen minutes, how does anyone receive or inflict enough pain for pleasure in that short a time?

 

[Dearelliot]

In Jersey, now I'm paying between $200 to $400 an hour session, and you can pay a lot more. BTW, it has been my experience that very few of them are good at what they do...the good ones, again my experience, have been the older ladies, and those that advertise strictly as a Dominant are the best. Best is to find one you like and guide her to do it your way by repeat visits. The ladies who want to be are fast learners.

 

[SerenaSteeleMonroe]

There are sites offering services, but they don't seem to mention anything like costs or hourly rates. They do use the word "sessions," but I'm guessing that can vary a lot in time depending on what the client wants. I was surprised to learn that the women usually expect tips and substantial ones at that.

If I may digress a bit, I've thought that "regular" prostitutes charge by each specific sexual act. (Two blowjobs cost twice as much as one?) In the movie Taxi Driver, the sessions are timed in fifteen-minute increments, but I don't know if Martin Scorsese or screenwriter Paul Schrader had any true understanding of the business.

I know there are different levels of prostitution, ranging from streetwalkers to call girls or escorts who may spend hours with the client.

Most in-and-out call services only sell the escort service in hour blocks. But that's just an old-fashioned prostitute (no matter how they advertise it).

In Jersey, now I'm paying between $200 to $400 an hour session, and you can pay a lot more. BTW, it has been my experience that very few of them are good at what they do...the good ones, again my experience, have been the older ladies, and those that advertise strictly as a Dominant are the best. Best is to find one you like and guide her to do it your way by repeat visits. The ladies who want to be are fast learners.

I have been told we have some top-notch femdom out here in the land of fruits and nuts. But seldom are femdoms (outside the clubs) under 25...

 

[Dearelliot]

Most in-and-out call services only sell the escort service in hour blocks. But that's just an old-fashioned prostitute (no matter how they advertise it).

I have been told we have some top-notch femdom out here in the land of fruits and nuts. But seldom are femdoms (outside the clubs) under 25...

I'm thinking in their 40s and 50s...I've had bad luck with younger.

 

[gunhilltrain]

That's what it's like in Nevada bunny farms.

There have been "bunny farms" in New York and other big cities going back to at least the 19th Century. It's sort of like a one-woman brothel in the movie. It's kind of vague if Sport (Harvey Keitel) had any other woman working for him, but he had to to make any money.

I'm assuming that streetwalkers were one step down in status from women who worked indoors. The new breed of streetwalkers (like on Roosevelt Avenue in Queens) take their customers indoors, perhaps to a former storefront. In the old days (1970s) the women would stand around at the curb and might go the guy's apartment. I saw that when I was driving a cab and one of my passengers would spot one in the street. They weren't directly supervised by pimps like in the movie, but I'm taking a guess with that.

 

[gunhilltrain]

In California, it's a minimum of $200 an hour, with many charging twice as much as that for plain Jane services. Of course, it doesn't include any actual sex. It would depend on the Dominatrix what she up-charged for any specific kink. I have it on good authority that some women get upwards of $1000 an hour for things that are borderline on legality. And don't kid yourself, if you want an ass-fucking from a strap on, as long they know you're not a cop, you'll get fucked in the ass.

My impression is that "prostitutes" charge wildly different prices based on their circumstances (drug addiction?) and other factors. Dominatrixes seem to specialize in that field, and charge a lot and usually don't do other sex acts. This one seems to operate at a specific (unnamed) location, but that is not too clear. It calls itself a "collective," whatever they means. It is possible that someone uses a cell phone to make the bookings through calls and texts.

https://www.sohomeangirls.com/welcome

 

[gunhilltrain]

Fifteen minutes, how does anyone receive or inflict enough pain for pleasure in that short a time?

In the movie, the Jodi Foster character is not a dominatrix. At one point, Harvey Keitel tells De Niro, "No rough stuff," which implies no BDSM activities. He's standing around in a doorway when Foster brings De Niro up to him. Then there is another guy upstairs by the apartment who keeps track of the time.

 

[SerenaSteeleMonroe]

My impression is that "prostitutes" charge wildly different prices based on their circumstances (drug addiction?) and other factors. Dominatrixes seem to specialize in that field, and charge a lot and usually don't do other sex acts. This one seems to operate at a specific (unnamed) location, but that is not too clear. It calls itself a "collective," whatever they means. It is possible that someone uses a cell phone to make the bookings through calls and texts.

https://www.sohomeangirls.com/welcome

Yes, it is. That looks to be a UK based outfit. A collective it a lose collection of people or countries with common goals. So a bunch of mean bitches wanting to put the hurt to you!

In the movie, the Jodi Foster character is not a dominatrix. At one point, Harvey Keitel tells De Niro, "No rough stuff," which implies no BDSM activities. He's standing around in a doorway when Foster brings De Niro up to him. Then there is another guy upstairs by the apartment who keeps track of the time.

Yeah, I don't know much about street level prostitution. I've never hooked never been an escort for pay or even Dominatrix for pay. But a lot hooks with people through the club scene. At a BDSM mixer, right after the pandemic ending, I did a demonstration of ball kicking. And how to hit them where it hurts them but doesn't actually bust their nuts (which you can do). It always amazes me how we never have a shortage of volunteers to have their nuts smacked. The light kicks, to warm them up, and then a good hard one. FUN... FUN... FUN...

 

[colddiesel]

There are sites offering services, but they don't seem to mention anything like costs or hourly rates. They do use the word "sessions," but I'm guessing that can vary a lot in time depending on what the client wants. I was surprised to learn that the women usually expect tips and substantial ones at that.

Pricing is based on whatever the client can bear, plus a minimum 20% more. It's gotta hurt!

 

[TheRedChamber]

I can't help but think that 'how do dominatrixes set their rates' is the set up to a great joke.

But at the moment, the best punchline I've got is 'by pegging them to the dollar'.

 

[Bramblethorn]

My impression is that "prostitutes" charge wildly different prices based on their circumstances (drug addiction?) and other factors. Dominatrixes seem to specialize in that field, and charge a lot and usually don't do other sex acts.

That depends a lot on the legalities. In places where sex for money is illegal, but BDSM for money is not, a lot of dominatrices are keen to advertise that what they offer is a strictly non-sexual service, same way as a lot of massage parlours will have a sign up saying "no sexual services provided". Sometimes those disclaimers are completely true! But sometimes they're just a convenient fiction for legal protection, like the idea that an escort is merely being paid to hang out with the client, and any sexual activities that might happen between two consenting adults are completely outside the scope of that business arrangement.

Where sex for money is legal, you're more likely to find some practitioners doing both. Even there, though, it won't always be advertised, because sometimes the answer is not "yes" or "no" but "only with clients I trust". If she leaves the ad vague, then when a prospective client gives off bad vibes, she has a diplomatic out: "sorry, I don't do that!" But if she's advertised "full service: +$200" (or whatever her rates are), then turning him down can be a much tougher conversation.

 

[KittyOfSteele]

I can't help but think that 'how do dominatrixes set their rates' is the set up to a great joke.

But at the moment, the best punchline I've got is 'by pegging them to the dollar'.

Oh, that punchline would be funnier here in [CENSORED] because we'd be asking you "which one of the dollar rates we have specifically?"

 

[TheLobster]

I can't help but think that 'how do dominatrixes set their rates' is the set up to a great joke.

But at the moment, the best punchline I've got is 'by pegging them to the dollar'.

In both the service itself and the payment, it’s all about finding the customer’s pain threshold.

 

[MrHereWriting]

How do dominatrixes set their rates?​

We talking union or non-union rates?

 

[nice90sguy]

In places where sex for money is illegal, but BDSM for money is not

Are there places where BDSM for money is illegal?

 

[Bramblethorn]

Are there places where BDSM for money is illegal?

I'm not aware of any places where it hinges on the "for money" element, but the legal status of BDSM in general can be pretty murky, depending on the activity. There have been cases where courts have adopted the principle that some things can't be consented to, e.g. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Spanner; AFAIK that verdict still sets precedent in the UK.

 

[gunhilltrain]

Yes, it is. That looks to be a UK based outfit. A collective it a lose collection of people or countries with common goals. So a bunch of mean bitches wanting to put the hurt to you!

Yeah, I don't know much about street level prostitution. I've never hooked never been an escort for pay or even Dominatrix for pay. But a lot hooks with people through the club scene. At a BDSM mixer, right after the pandemic ending, I did a demonstration of ball kicking. And how to hit them where it hurts them but doesn't actually bust their nuts (which you can do). It always amazes me how we never have a shortage of volunteers to have their nuts smacked. The light kicks, to warm them up, and then a good hard one. FUN... FUN... FUN...

I wasn't sure if it was the Soho in London or New York, but on the first page it says "badass Dominas to ever grace NYC." A "collective" doesn't have to be in the same physical space, but it could be.

"Balll kicking:" I just don't get that one. Merely getting hit by a softball during a game put me out of action for about ten minutes. One's backside has enough padding to tolerate a moderately hard spanking. Ball kicking reminds me of people who cut themselves. The speculation about the latter is that they wish to feel pain rather than being completely empty of other feelings. But Russian roulette is a real thing too. That must be really exciting.

 

[gunhilltrain]

We talking union or non-union rates?

That's one thing that can't be outsourced to Asia. Although one could fly to Thailand or some other place for it. I'm not sure if saving money is the point of that. It's more like easy access and the exotic location as part of an overall vacation.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

There are sites offering services, but they don't seem to mention anything like costs or hourly rates. They do use the word "sessions," but I'm guessing that can vary a lot in time depending on what the client wants. I was surprised to learn that the women usually expect tips and substantial ones at that.

If I may digress a bit, I've thought that "regular" prostitutes charge by each specific sexual act. (Two blowjobs cost twice as much as one?) In the movie Taxi Driver, the sessions are timed in fifteen-minute increments, but I don't know if Martin Scorsese or screenwriter Paul Schrader had any true understanding of the business.

I know there are different levels of prostitution, ranging from streetwalkers to call girls or escorts who may spend hours with the client.

Be extremely careful!
Most aren't even in your area if you are chatting online, they say they are but if they communicate enough you will figure it out.
The other for sure way to tell is they start asking you to put basically a deposit down.
If you won't PayPal or Venmo money they start asking for Apple gift cards.

I was on an adult meet site and they cross posted to a dom s

 

[gunhilltrain]

I'm not aware of any places where it hinges on the "for money" element, but the legal status of BDSM in general can be pretty murky, depending on the activity. There have been cases where courts have adopted the principle that some things can't be consented to, e.g. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Spanner; AFAIK that verdict still sets precedent in the UK.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Spanner

It seems to be condemning both homosexuality and BDSM. The level of "consent" may hinge (I haven't read the whole article) on the mental health or lack of it among the participants. "Safe, sane, and consensual:" sounds good, but where does one draw the boundary of sane? As that expression goes: "Everybody seems weird if you get to know them well enough." The Obscene Publications Squad of 1959 implies that merely reading about certain acts caused some people to want to do them. Isn't Lit itself based in England somewhere?

 

[SerenaSteeleMonroe]

I wasn't sure if it was the Soho in London or New York, but on the first page it says "badass Dominas to ever grace NYC." A "collective" doesn't have to be in the same physical space, but it could be.

"Balll kicking:" I just don't get that one. Merely getting hit by a softball during a game put me out of action for about ten minutes. One's backside has enough padding to tolerate a moderately hard spanking. Ball kicking reminds me of people who cut themselves. The speculation about the latter is that they wish to feel pain rather than being completely empty of other feelings. But Russian roulette is a real thing too. That must be really exciting.

No one every claimed that pain junkies have common sense or made intelligent choices. For every masochist, there is a sadist out there to give them what they want. How else can I explain all the fun I have?

 

[SimonDoom]

That's one thing that can't be outsourced to Asia.

Thanks to tariffs, of course.

Oops, I didn't say that.