What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[ShowMeYourSmile]

Well ladies…I truly hope the thoughts of one guy won’t stop you from sharing your beauty. My grandfather always told me you can judge everyone by the worst possible representative of our gender…

Sometimes common decency doesn’t exist….and it’s much more true now than ever…

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

I have had women share pics with me in PMs, and even for maybe just a minute on a thread before poofing them, who have said "I wanted you to see this, but please don't save it." I certainly respect requests like that. Otherwise, I think everything is fair game.

This is bonkers. Unless someone specifically tells you it’s okay, the default assumption should be their pictures are theirs. Especially people who regularly poof them.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Obviously.

It's just interesting to see someone so blase about admitting to it.

Why is that interesting? It happens all the time, and women do the same thing.

I'm not justifying it. I'm saying it happens and, it's one reason I don't post my face or anything else that I don't want someone downloading.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Yeah, I get that

It’s just not something that ever crossed my mind as something a person would do until I got that first message and went uhhhhhhh what??

I've learned a lot since joining Lit.
The only other websites/forums I knew up until then were genealogy.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Oh, the reaction whores!

I do miss gaga and old pecker head

The good old days!

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

There is no policy, and there's no way to police it.

Putting things out in a public forum, knowing others may save them, is your choice.

You can still have socially accepted norms of behavior even if you can’t enforce every action.

Taking pictures of people at the gym is shitty. Taking pics of people at the beach is shitty. Downloading pics people share for a limited time, is shitty.

 

[FreckledSprite]

it's one reason I don't post my face or anything else that I don't want someone downloading.

This is my feeling too. I love my anonymity here so I never show my face.

That and Google Lens will take any pic of my face, makeup or none, and bring up my LinkedIn account. I don’t need this crossing over to my professional life.

 

[morelikeasong]

Well ladies…I truly hope the thoughts of one guy won’t stop you from sharing your beauty.

Unfortunately, it did.

At least for now.

I knew saving pics was a gross thing that some people did, but I’ve got the ick now in a major way.

 

[MidwestPrincess23]

You can still have socially accepted norms of behavior even if you can’t enforce every action.

Taking pictures of people at the gym is shitty. Taking pics of people at the beach is shitty. Downloading pics people share for a limited time, is shitty.

THIS is exactly what I was trying to figure out how to say but I couldn’t find the words

 

[ShowMeYourSmile]

Unfortunately, it did.

At least for now.

I knew saving pics was a gross thing that some people did, but I’ve got the ick now in a major way.

It’s understandable and I am a true admirer of and appreciate your beauty (both inside and out). I hope at some point you’ll share again because the world deserves to see it.

 

[FreckledSprite]

I have had women share pics with me in PMs, and even for maybe just a minute on a thread before poofing them, who have said "I wanted you to see this, but please don't save it." I certainly respect requests like that. Otherwise, I think everything is fair game.

I do not give you, @SmokingFap , nor anyone else here, permission to save my pics, ever.

If you have any of mine, please delete.

And I know I bear the responsibility of my posts being public and people feeling they can do anything they want with the pics. I still would’ve hoped the Lit regulars would be more respectful.

 

[EvaLane]

Yeah, I don’t know. I’ve never really felt ‘worthy’ enough to think my photos would be saved or used for anything nefarious. But I’ve talked to enough men to know it’s incredibly common.

I also think there’s something about a photo feeling exclusive or time-limited that makes people more inclined to screenshot it, like the scarcity adds value.

Still, with the sheer mass of porn out there, both professional and amateur, I don’t get it. Why save newgirltolit69’s photo? What makes that more special than a thousand clips of Riley Reid?

It is interesting, because really, why?

 

[barefootgirl69]

Good luck with that.

 

[spank_me_please]

Yeah, I don’t know. I’ve never really felt ‘worthy’ enough to think my photos would be saved or used for anything nefarious. But I’ve talked to enough men to know it’s incredibly common.

I also think there’s something about a photo feeling exclusive or time-limited that makes people more inclined to screenshot it, like the scarcity adds value.

Still, with the sheer mass of porn out there, both professional and amateur, I don’t get it. Why save newgirltolit69’s photo? What makes that more special than a thousand clips of Riley Reid?

It is interesting, because really, why?

Couldn't tell ya since I've never had the inclination to save them. I feel like part of Lit's culture of poofing pics is part of the fun. Each beautiful picture I come across is a moment in time, I get to savor and enjoy it then move on.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Good luck with that.

It’s nice that you can always find the energy to be passive aggressive. Bless your heart.

 

[Fiestykitten]

It’s nice that you can always find the energy to be passive aggressive. Bless your heart.

When did you become a Southern Bell? I thought you were a baboon?

 

[beachbaby179]

Yours is one of the best ones and one that I always notice

Thank you dah-ling. You're too kind.

 

[MrMakersMark]

Yes, it's the internet and there are too few rules or safeguards regarding this sort of thing.

It's also a Community.
Same faces, same people. Mostly everyday. Laughing and talking, sharing memes, common interests and sometimes pictures.
It's a closer connected group of people in many ways than can just be brushed away by saying, "It's the internet...so fair game."

Trust is an easy thing to mangle.

Perhaps what, in most clear opinion, needn't have been previously said now has.
And we see it now as a breach of trust.
Because that is what it is.

If anyone is still wondering, it's wrong to download pictures of the people here who move past their own vulnerability to share here with us.

 

[NakedStoryLover]

From the meme thread

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For those with bearded partners: would you want to see your partner without a beard? Is that an option?

Some of you may have seen the videos of children seeing their dad after shaving a beard. It's trauma!

I've had my beard continously for over 25 of my 53 years. It's been in its current state for about 20. I've often joked that shaving my beard is my anti-aging plan because I expect I'd look younger shaving the gray beard away, but I don't think I would/will ever do it.

Thoughts from those with bearded partners?

 

[AtramentousRex]

Yeah, I don’t know. I’ve never really felt ‘worthy’ enough to think my photos would be saved or used for anything nefarious. But I’ve talked to enough men to know it’s incredibly common.

I also think there’s something about a photo feeling exclusive or time-limited that makes people more inclined to screenshot it, like the scarcity adds value.

Still, with the sheer mass of porn out there, both professional and amateur, I don’t get it. Why save newgirltolit69’s photo? What makes that more special than a thousand clips of Riley Reid?

It is interesting, because really, why?

Ive never saved photos or wanted to. In fact a time or two I've been given pics with the expectation that I would save them and did not.

I've also frequently had my real face as my AV here. I don't care. I can't explain what someone could think gives them the right. But as for the difference between you and Riley Reid?

Someday, if you were so inclined, we might actually meet. And maybe become something real to each other, like friends.

That is far sexier than some perfect model who would never notice my existence.

 

[MidwestPrincess23]

From the meme thread

For those with bearded partners: would you want to see your partner without a beard? Is that an option?

Some of you may have seen the videos of children seeing their dad after shaving a beard. It's trauma!

I've had my beard continously for over 25 of my 53 years. It's been in its current state for about 20. I've often joked that shaving my beard is my anti-aging plan because I expect I'd look younger shaving the gray beard away, but I don't think I would/will ever do it.

Thoughts from those with bearded partners?

If my husband ever shaved his beard now... I would have serious questions and I would NOT be happy.

It was more of just a goatee when we met and only completely shaved once since we've been together... it's been a full beard for 17 years and I can't imagine it any other way

 

[Photog1rl]

Yes, it's the internet and there are too few rules or safeguards regarding this sort of thing.

It's also a Community.
Same faces, same people. Mostly everyday. Laughing and talking, sharing memes, common interests and sometimes pictures.
It's a closer connected group of people in many ways than can just be brushed away by saying, " It's the internet...so fair game."

Trust is an easy thing to mangle.

Perhaps what, in most clear opinion, needn't have been previously said now has.
And we see it now as a breach of trust.
Because that is what it is.

If anyone is still wondering, it's wrong to download pictures of the people who move past their own vulnerability to share here with us.

I think the problem is that it is a community in many aspects but not all people are equally connected or invested.

For many people that frequent the site, they do not engage, they are not connected. They consume the media they find here. Those people do not necessarily see posters as that different from porn. It is here for their consumption.

I post knowing that someone may download thr images I share. Do I want this? No. Can I be shocked or outraged that someone took the media I provided and consumed it? Also no.

It should be noted that I am just reacting to your post. I don't know any context for your post but I do think that if you post online you have to know you have no longer have control over what you share.

 

[LostHorizon]

I think this is such a wild take.

Considering you aren’t a psychic, you should probably ask permission to save someone’s nude photos before assuming it’s okay.

It’s not that wild It’s the take of a narcissist who views women and men as nothing but objects to serve him.

The use of the term “fair game” to justify what he is doing is creepy and predatory considering the origin of that term and what it truly means.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

I think the problem is that it is a community in many aspects but not all people are equally connected or invested.

For many people that frequent the site, they do not engage, they are not connected. They consume the media they find here. Those people do not necessarily see posters as that different from porn. It is here for their consumption.

I post knowing that someone may download thr images I share. Do I want this? No. Can I be shocked or outraged that someone took the media I provided and consumed it? Also no.

It should be noted that I am just reacting to your post. I don't know any context for your post but I do think that if you post online you have to know you have no longer have control over what you share.

I don’t think that I agree with this. Am I shocked? No. But I’m still upset. I can’t absolutley control any crime or invasion perpetrated against me, no matter how much preparation or care I take. Simply existing carries some inherent risk of that happening. But I can still be angry that it does and hold the people who do it to task rather than blaming myself for not being more cautious. The “forget it Jake, it the internet” attitude just absolves people of the responsibility for their own shitty behavior.

 

[barefootgirl69]

That's not the meaning of a narcissist.