Cock Talk

Great explanation! šŸ‘

Completely unthreatening and teased apart from the incest connotation people so often attach.

I'm somewhat DD/lg, which is different than age play, but also often (incorrectly) linked to incest. It's nigh impossible to explain the separation to people.
Yes the first place I posted on Lit was in the Daddies Little Girl thread and understanding what DD/lg means to me away from permanently scandalised people on other sites has been really enlightening. I have a "little" side and I have a Daddy too, though he keeps away from the threads now.
 
The only positive attention I ever got about my body came from grown men. Peers were cruel, my parents clueless, and adult women were mostly disappointed in me for something I didn’t even understand.
See? It's always about the lens applied to our experience. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

I don’t mean the leering
For me it was this. You just couldn't get away from it. Dress in the usual uniform of shorts and a t-shirt and have them stare at your legs, with . . . that look. And then they would meet your eyes. *shudder*

Even those who'd been around since you were quite young. It made me feel like a thing. Like, a puppy or pet until old enough to be sexualized. Gross.

It teaches you very quickly where your value lies.

I mean how they just… treated me differently. Like they saw something the others didn’t, or maybe just knew what I was going through better than anyone else.
This is just so fascinating to me. Completely not my experience.

It’s twisted, I know.
I don't think it's twisted. It was your positive experience. Why wouldn't that remain attractive?

-There’s no denying that early influence shaped my preferences.
*nods*

- whatever else goes on in me that I’m not interested in knowing šŸ™ƒ
This. Always.

But I can't stop myself from trying to figure it out! 😬🤣
 
I don't think it's twisted. It was your positive experience. Why wouldn't that remain attractive?
Well, through an adult lens, I can see they weren’t drawn to me because of my body, but because of the obvious vulnerability wrapped around it.

I really believed they liked my writing, that they wanted to eat lunch with me, that maybe they thought I deserved better than I had. But they didn’t.

They were leering but because it wasn’t some creep I could smell halfway down the block, it didn’t feel threatening. And because they hadn’t noticed me before, I didn’t realize what kind of noticing was happening.

It’s twisted because… that kind of adds to it for me. The soft and the hard. Memories blurred, tainted, left behind.

It’s nice to go back to being ignorant and clueless sometimes. It was easier šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø
 
I think I must be minus either a sense that you all have, or I just don't give the same vibes (i don't mean that you invited that attention at all, but I'm trying hard to explain it).

Basically. I never feel I get that attention. For good or for bad. I just don't. I'm not saying people don't see me that way. But I never ever notice. Or feel that they do.

I think maybe I don't work the same way
 
But I never ever notice. Or feel that they do.

I think that might be it.

I’ve always watched people, more when I was younger, but still now. I notice things. Who lights up around whom, who fades into the background. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes it’s like watching lightening strike.

It can be scary, but also thrilling, when another people-watcher catches me watching. There’s this quiet understanding, like we both see the near misses, the brief flickers of connection that vanish before they have time to start.

Maybe we just tune into different frequencies. Not better or worse, just different. I wonder what you’re picking up that the rest of us aren’t 🤨
 
I think maybe I don't work the same way
I think that might be it.
We definitely don't all work the same way. Environment, temperament, personality, experiences, not the least of which is how we process information.

I am practically blind to my environment. Whether someone has shaved a mustache, lost weight, bought a new car. Did a local business get a new sign? I'll notice that - three years later. 🤣

Can I give you instructions how to get from A to B, a drive I do regularly? Nope. I am a constant amazement to my friends and family.

What I am acutely aware of is emotional shifts. In groups, I can generally tell you what one person is thinking about another. A lie. An avoidance. A secret attraction our loathing. All kinds of things other people simply do not notice.

Presumably it's micro expressions and body language and . . . who knows. For me, that created a situation oof hyper awareness when it came to forty year olds perving at my post-pubescent self. Lust is a strong emotion. I simply could not avoid feeling, thereby seeing. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

Too, I am not very social and not interested in a lot of extraneous attention. I find it tiring. I don't even like sexual attention now unless it's someone I am either engaged with in that way or am very comfortable with otherwise.

I wonder what you’re picking up that the rest of us aren’t 🤨
This may be the most interesting thing said so far. What is she picking up? šŸ¤”
 
What movie is this still from? Thank you in advance.
Having been fucking around on lit from my late 30’s to almost 50 (wtf, what year is it?) I’ve begun to wonder about age related questions.
I first made my account here when I was 26... I think. Now in my 40's, I still feel like a 20 year old at times but I realize I am not. My knees remind me of this fact.
- Does a considerable difference in age (let’s say +/- 10 years) give you a pause in being flirty on lit?
No.
- What about in person?
No. I'm in that "sweet spot" age where 10 years means nothing.
- Do you ever role play a large age split?
I don't role play that. NMK. But I do enjoy there being an "uneven balance of power" for lack of better words... Both ways.
- If you’re into dom/sub stuff, does age play a factor?
Maybe. Not sure yet. I do watch D/s porn where that does come into play a bit, but I don't look for it usually.
 
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Age Play

Having been fucking around on lit from my late 30’s to almost 50 (wtf, what year is it?) I’ve begun to wonder about age related questions.

- Does a considerable difference in age (let’s say +/- 10 years) give you a pause in being flirty on lit?

When I was younger, I always liked older girls. I met my wife when I was 18 and she was 25. As you’ve all surmised, I’m mature beyond my years, so girls my age just weren’t cutting it. I talk about classy shit like art museums and caviar. Not the latest boy band concert. So, I tended to go for women older than me.

That kind of carried its way onto Lit. When I first got to Lit 13 years ago, I was about 28 or 29. I was still mostly interested in women 5-10 years older than me. Again, because I’m so mature.

Now that I’m in my early 30s to early 40s, that has changed a bit. It doesn’t matter as much, but probably +/- 10 years seems to work. Age really is less relevant now. I don’t have much of a preference really. It’s just about connection. And breast size.

- What about in person?

No in person shenanigans for me, but I’d probably be similar to what I said above. I don’t want to be a sugar daddy, so I’m definitely not interested in some 18 year old. That would feel creepy.

- Do you ever role play a large age split?

I’m just so youthful at my current age it wouldn’t make sense.

- If you’re into dom/sub stuff, does age play a factor?

I’m not a dom or a sub.
 
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