Cock Talk

[Endless_Night]

Does a considerable difference in age (let’s say +/- 10 years) give you a pause in being flirty on lit?
No. Flirty for sure not.

I feel like I should amend this answer for reasons of honesty.

I don't really know how to flirt, but if I did, age wouldn't matter.

I think this whole conversation could benefit from someone who identifies as a “Little” (I don’t) because ageplay can be so easily misunderstood. Strip away the pigtails and stuffies, and you’ll usually find something rawer beneath it. A need, more than a want.

Booyah.

 

[Endless_Night]

Apisto beat me to the joke.
You had to know “making you brunch” was going to be used against you Enny!

Dang it! I did not!

This is your fault. You mentioned brunch in another thread! That's why I said brunch!


(For reference, everything is @hotwords229_A fault. )

 

[hotwords229_A]

For reference, everything is @hotwords229_A fault.

I agree with this statement.

 

[MindYaBitness]

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Age Play

Having been fucking around on lit from my late 30’s to almost 50 (wtf, what year is it?) I’ve begun to wonder about age related questions. - Does a considerable difference in age (let’s say +/- 10 years) give you a pause in being flirty on lit?

Not really. I treat everyone in the threads the same, irrespective of age. In DM though, I'm definitely less flirty with those not around my age.

It weirds me out when a guy closer in age to my oldest daughter, tries to flirt. I just feels wrong, not in a fun/sexy/naughty way, either. I want to give him a juice box and put him in time out to think about his life choices. On the other side of things, if I happen "click" with someone older, that's fine, but their age isn't a factor.

- What about in person?

NMK, but I would say that I'm even less inclined in person than online role play.

Older men, I've got a bit of history there. They've been skeezing on me since puberty came knocking on my door. It seriously grossed me out, and made me wonder what it was about me that made grown men think they could/should proposition a middle schooler (mods, I'm happy to remove that statement if it's breaks rules) This has followed me into adulthood, and been problematic as a man 10-20 years older than me likely has a career head start, and is in a higher position.

For many, an older man, or role playing age play, is about safety. For me, there's too much predatory behavior attached to it.

- Do you ever role play a large age split?

Nope

- If you’re into dom/sub stuff, does age play a factor?

Nope

Age Play is one of those instances where knowing someone's kink test results in advance would be helpful. I'm a grown woman, I like power exchange, I like letting go, but adding age play into that is such a trigger that I'd dry up like a lake bed in Death Valley.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Age Play

- Does a considerable difference in age (let’s say +/- 10 years) give you a pause in being flirty on lit?

More important than age is how they present themselves. I’m very flirty and reference a lot of shit from many decades of existence. If they are old and only care about stuff they knew as a kid or young and don’t care about anything from before they were born, my sense of humor is unlikely to mesh with them and any flirting is gonna fall flat.

I am aware of power dynamics that age can impart and I’m a big believer that in any relationship both people should leave better off than they started and a proportionately larger burden of that responsibility lies on the older and presumably more mature and experienced member to not exploit the possible lack of experience in a younger person. Doesn’t mean I won’t…but I’m less likely to flirt hard with someone significantly younger.

Also, like, I’m just not offering what significantly younger people probably should be looking for. I’m settled. This is it. Go find someone else to have kids with and drive you to the hospital and clean up your vomit after you been out partying etc. I’m not that person. However casual you think things start out as, emotions are fuckers and get involved at the worst times!

- What about in person?

I’m like infinitely less flirty in person. I’ve never been with a younger woman though so make of that what you will.

- Do you ever role play a large age split?

Nope

- If you’re into dom/sub stuff, does age play a factor?

N/A

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Congrats. You gave your first blowjob. Welcome to the 9th grade.

I just waited until I was good and ready

No ragrets

(Not even one letter)

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Age Play

Having been fucking around on lit from my late 30’s to almost 50 (wtf, what year is it?) I’ve begun to wonder about age related questions.

- Does a considerable difference in age (let’s say +/- 10 years) give you a pause in being flirty on lit?

+10 yes please
-10 no thanks

- What about in person?

Yes please

- Do you ever role play a large age split?

Yes

- If you’re into dom/sub stuff, does age play a factor?

Sometimes it has.

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

Okay, okay...

Here we go.

It had been a few weeks since we've seen each other. I got the whole weekend off from mum duty and went to stay at the librarian's place. He had things to do and places to be during the day, so I pretended to live in a very silent and very clean house. That was nice. I'm sure that played in to it.

The librarian is a very snuggly bedmate. We were both exhausted and naked after a marathon sex session earlier in the evening. At about 2am I feel fingers gently brushing my inner thigh. My groggy, horny self let them slowly wake me up over the course of 20 or so minutes. You know that half asleep dance that can happen? We got in to that. I got progressively more and more worked up to the point where I was ravenous.

I don't remember the exact sequence of events, but this all kind of started when I started touching myself. The librarian started touching himself. This is something I've always wanted to see and just hadn't yet. It was hot. I wanted to help. So I did. I started licking the top of his penis before covering the head with my mouth. I let my head move with the motion of his hands. At times I took over, but I was eager to let him lead so I could learn and really feel his body. It was great.

I could tell he was starting to climax and just rucked in. As he gasped that he was about to come I kinda grinned to myself, shrugged my shoulder with the understanding that I already knew that. I didn't take the whole load in my mouth- I pulled off as he ejaculated and ran my (very wet) tongue up his chest and neck. I wasn't sure how much cum made it into my mouth, but I dragged at least some up to neck (I could smell it when I snuggled back in).

That is all

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[aussiegeekygal]

I'd like to subscribe to your newsletter. Please and thank you

Okay.

And because I'm feeling mischievously generous, I'm just gonna go ahead and derail things by doing this:

 

[JPReads]

Okay.

And because I'm feeling mischievously generous, I'm just gonna go ahead and derail things by doing this:

Legs for days. Truly makes me want to cum down under. Sorry had to do it.

 

[NakedStoryLover]

Okay.

And because I'm feeling mischievously generous, I'm just gonna go ahead and derail things by doing this:

derail away!

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Does a considerable difference in age (let’s say +/- 10 years) give you a pause in being flirty on lit?

No not really. I've had fun with guys in their late 20's and their late 60's here. It's all just fun and games and we're all adults. If I enjoy talking to someone then I enjoy it.

- What about in person?

In person is different. On dating apps my settings are for 10 years either way. (I'm 45) I could go older maybe but not younger. Although I don't feel like a grown up I am still in fact a middle aged woman and I have the knees to prove it.

- Do you ever role play a large age split?

Yep. Its a lot of fun actually to mentally go back to a time when I had zero worries and I can just let myself be taken care of. Quite therapeutic too.
I don't dress the part - no pigtails or props - and I am very obviously my age physically. I know when I've had that kind of experience they've been attracted to me as a whole ass adult woman too. It's just escapism at its core I think.

- If you’re into dom/sub stuff, does age play a factor?

It's hard to say in all honesty because I've only ever done this online and only with people who are older than me. Maybe having someone more worldly and experienced is what I'm drawn to or maybe it's just a coincidence? I rarely ask how old people are when I start talking to them.

 

[Endless_Night]

Older men, I've got a bit of history there. They've been skeezing on me since puberty came knocking on my door. It seriously grossed me out -

This is something that happened (presumably) to many of us.

I found it threatening, shaming, and, as you say: Seriously grossed out.

I've wondered about at the ramifications of that type of thing on sexual preference. I know it left me leery around a certain age group of men long after I'd left adolescence, and it certainly affected some of my behaviors.

With some exception, I do seem to gravitate towards younger men. If ever questioned, my answer would center on how they generally seemed more open minded, with a wider world view. Absent, too, was that patronizing, admonishing demeanor that really pings my temper. *woooosh*

Could it be I retained that early aversion? On the one hand, it seems possible. On the other, I think a large segment of women prefer older men.


That would be my serious thought for the day.

 

[Endless_Night]

Yep. Its a lot of fun actually to mentally go back to a time when I had zero worries and I can just let myself be taken care of. Quite therapeutic too.
I don't dress the part - no pigtails or props - and I am very obviously my age physically. I know when I've had that kind of experience they've been attracted to me as a whole ass adult woman too. It's just escapism at its core I think.

Great explanation!

Completely unthreatening and teased apart from the incest connotation people so often attach.

I'm somewhat DD/lg, which is different than age play, but also often (incorrectly) linked to incest. It's nigh impossible to explain the separation to people.

 

[EvaLane]

This is something that happened (presumably) to many of us.

I found it threatening, shaming, and, as you say: Seriously grossed out.

I've wondered about at the ramifications of that type of thing on sexual preference. I know it left me leery around a certain age group of men long after I'd left adolescence, and it certainly affected some of my behaviors.

With some exception, I do seem to gravitate towards younger men. If ever questioned, my answer would center on how they generally seemed more open minded, with a wider world view. Absent, too, was that patronizing, admonishing demeanor that really pings my temper. *woooosh*

Could it be I retained that early aversion? On the one hand, it seems possible. On the other, I think a large segment of women prefer older men.


That would be my serious thought for the day.

The only positive attention I ever got about my body came from grown men. Peers were cruel, my parents clueless, and adult women were mostly disappointed in me for something I didn’t even understand.

And when I say positive, I don’t mean the leering or catcalls on the way to school, I mean how they just… treated me differently. Like they saw something the others didn’t, or maybe just knew what I was going through better than anyone else.

It’s twisted, I know. Therapy, healing, yada yada. And to be clear, I’ve never been in an unsafe situation with someone significantly older. But there’s no denying that early influence shaped my preferences.

Throw in porn, unmonitored and unrestricted internet access, a wildly overactive imagination and, well, whatever else goes on in me that I’m not interested in knowing

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Great explanation!

Completely unthreatening and teased apart from the incest connotation people so often attach.

I'm somewhat DD/lg, which is different than age play, but also often (incorrectly) linked to incest. It's nigh impossible to explain the separation to people.

Yes the first place I posted on Lit was in the Daddies Little Girl thread and understanding what DD/lg means to me away from permanently scandalised people on other sites has been really enlightening. I have a "little" side and I have a Daddy too, though he keeps away from the threads now.

 

[Endless_Night]

The only positive attention I ever got about my body came from grown men. Peers were cruel, my parents clueless, and adult women were mostly disappointed in me for something I didn’t even understand.

See? It's always about the lens applied to our experience.

I don’t mean the leering

For me it was this. You just couldn't get away from it. Dress in the usual uniform of shorts and a t-shirt and have them stare at your legs, with . . . that look. And then they would meet your eyes. *shudder*

Even those who'd been around since you were quite young. It made me feel like a thing. Like, a puppy or pet until old enough to be sexualized. Gross.

It teaches you very quickly where your value lies.

I mean how they just… treated me differently. Like they saw something the others didn’t, or maybe just knew what I was going through better than anyone else.

This is just so fascinating to me. Completely not my experience.

It’s twisted, I know.

I don't think it's twisted. It was your positive experience. Why wouldn't that remain attractive?

-There’s no denying that early influence shaped my preferences.

*nods*

- whatever else goes on in me that I’m not interested in knowing

This. Always.

But I can't stop myself from trying to figure it out!

 

[EvaLane]

I don't think it's twisted. It was your positive experience. Why wouldn't that remain attractive?

Well, through an adult lens, I can see they weren’t drawn to me because of my body, but because of the obvious vulnerability wrapped around it.

I really believed they liked my writing, that they wanted to eat lunch with me, that maybe they thought I deserved better than I had. But they didn’t.

They were leering but because it wasn’t some creep I could smell halfway down the block, it didn’t feel threatening. And because they hadn’t noticed me before, I didn’t realize what kind of noticing was happening.

It’s twisted because… that kind of adds to it for me. The soft and the hard. Memories blurred, tainted, left behind.

It’s nice to go back to being ignorant and clueless sometimes. It was easier

 

[Wand3rlust]

I think I must be minus either a sense that you all have, or I just don't give the same vibes (i don't mean that you invited that attention at all, but I'm trying hard to explain it).

Basically. I never feel I get that attention. For good or for bad. I just don't. I'm not saying people don't see me that way. But I never ever notice. Or feel that they do.

I think maybe I don't work the same way

 

[EvaLane]

But I never ever notice. Or feel that they do.

I think that might be it.

I’ve always watched people, more when I was younger, but still now. I notice things. Who lights up around whom, who fades into the background. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes it’s like watching lightening strike.

It can be scary, but also thrilling, when another people-watcher catches me watching. There’s this quiet understanding, like we both see the near misses, the brief flickers of connection that vanish before they have time to start.

Maybe we just tune into different frequencies. Not better or worse, just different. I wonder what you’re picking up that the rest of us aren’t

 

[Endless_Night]

I think maybe I don't work the same way

I think that might be it.

We definitely don't all work the same way. Environment, temperament, personality, experiences, not the least of which is how we process information.

I am practically blind to my environment. Whether someone has shaved a mustache, lost weight, bought a new car. Did a local business get a new sign? I'll notice that - three years later.

Can I give you instructions how to get from A to B, a drive I do regularly? Nope. I am a constant amazement to my friends and family.

What I am acutely aware of is emotional shifts. In groups, I can generally tell you what one person is thinking about another. A lie. An avoidance. A secret attraction our loathing. All kinds of things other people simply do not notice.

Presumably it's micro expressions and body language and . . . who knows. For me, that created a situation oof hyper awareness when it came to forty year olds perving at my post-pubescent self. Lust is a strong emotion. I simply could not avoid feeling, thereby seeing.

Too, I am not very social and not interested in a lot of extraneous attention. I find it tiring. I don't even like sexual attention now unless it's someone I am either engaged with in that way or am very comfortable with otherwise.

I wonder what you’re picking up that the rest of us aren’t

This may be the most interesting thing said so far. What is she picking up?

 

[Wand3rlust]

I couldn't possibly comment.

 

[Endless_Night]

I couldn't possibly comment.

That was meant far more in the nature of the continuation of an interesting conversational train rather a request for personal information. Many apologies if it felt invasive.

 

[Wand3rlust]

That was meant far more in the nature of the continuation of an interesting conversational train rather a request for personal information. Many apologies if it felt invasive.

No no, - i was being mysterious. Like an enigma.
Shrouded in mystery and covered in cream.

 

[Endless_Night]

No no, - i was being mysterious. Like an enigma.
Shrouded in mystery and covered in cream.

Oops!


Fyi, you forgot the chocolate.