Why is it so arousing to talk to strangers on Lit about masturbating?

[Treeview]

I love being guided. Told how to touch.

Agree…can be very sensual.

Otherwise fireplay can be a bit like adolescent pawing

 

[van_delay]

It's nice to be totally uninhibited with a stranger

 

[HusbandNextD00r]

For me it's the idea that the person I'm talking to represents people I interact with daily. You could be the woman from the dry cleaners, the VP of accounting down the hall, server at my favorite cafe, or anyone I've crossed paths with today.

Being able to share a moment of intimacy, lust, and uninhibited desire with that daily stranger is arousing.

 

[van_delay]

For me it's the idea that the person I'm talking to represents people I interact with daily. You could be the woman from the dry cleaners, the VP of accounting down the hall, server at my favorite cafe, or anyone I've crossed paths with today.

This is fun. So many people in daily life are a turn on.

 

[NEOhio1972]

For me it's the idea that the person I'm talking to represents people I interact with daily. You could be the woman from the dry cleaners, the VP of accounting down the hall, server at my favorite cafe, or anyone I've crossed paths with today.

Being able to share a moment of intimacy, lust, and uninhibited desire with that daily stranger is arousing.

That's a fun way to look at it!! I think that's great!! Certainly makes the day more fun too!!

 

[devakama469]

I am definitely more reserved in person. Sometimes a bit shy for a bit. But in a chat I can be whoever and how ever I want to be. Plus I've learned I'm a bit of an exhibitionist.

That's the beauty of a place like this, where it's rather safe to assume you are with like-minded people who'll be respectful and non-judgmental about otherwise taboo topics.

For me sexuality is a very special case, because I love to talk about it without taboo, in detail, fantasize, and share any conversation you might want… but, needless to say, in real life I hardly ever find *anyone* with whom I can converse at that level, so you can imagine how frustrating it can get. But now I find Lit, and imagine instead how much I've been enjoying my time here!

Also, I love women who like to show off, even if that's a very male thing for me to say

 

[babyface23]

I find it to be liberating and arousing to talk to other people about masturbating on here, men or women. I wish it could just be water cooler talk at the office! What is it for you that makes it exciting to just chat about masturbating with other people on Lit?

My newest story is perfect for this. Hopefully it publishes tomorrow or Friday.

I explore the first time I ever talked to a female (well, really, anyone) about masturbation. Really talked about it. And how that led to mutual masturbation.

It’s always been this secretive, private, intimate and individualistic thing. Your friends know you have sex. Do they know you fuck yourself? Of how often? Or the kinks and fetishes that get you off?

No.

But here, it’s safe. Strangers won’t see you at the grocery store or the school play or church. Masturbation is fun and can be exciting. Sharing that is my favorite.

 

[6SweetKitty9]

That's the beauty of a place like this, where it's rather safe to assume you are with like-minded people who'll be respectful and non-judgmental about otherwise taboo topics.

For me sexuality is a very special case, because I love to talk about it without taboo, in detail, fantasize, and share any conversation you might want… but, needless to say, in real life I hardly ever find *anyone* with whom I can converse at that level, so you can imagine how frustrating it can get. But now I find Lit, and imagine instead how much I've been enjoying my time here!

Also, I love women who like to show off, even if that's a very male thing for me to say

I have the same problem. Not everyone is open to discussing sex. It's so taboo to talk openly about likes and turn ons but it's everywhere in society. TV shows, commercials, advertisements songs Theres also a lot of double standards still. A man can go out be a dog and it's high fived. A women goes out and does the same thing it's shame on her. That's why I love this site. I can be as showy and slutty as I want to be without someone looking down on me.

 

[devakama469]

I have the same problem. Not everyone is open to discussing sex. It's so taboo to talk openly about likes and turn ons but it's everywhere in society. TV shows, commercials, advertisements songs Theres also a lot of double standards still. A man can go out be a dog and it's high fived. A women goes out and does the same thing it's shame on her. That's why I love this site. I can be as showy and slutty as I want to be without someone looking down on me.

Exactly this! Those double standards are precisely what I find incredibly obnoxious and exasperating!

Society and TV can show anything without any warnings, including the most horrific violence, but the moment a simple nipple is out, or someone even mentions anything pertaining to the enjoyment of sex, then it's censure all over the place and very deep frowning! And if you add to that how much I enjoy discussing all sorts of sex-related topics, without any filter or taboo, and then you really get people looking down on you like you're an irredeemable pervert.

And as for women having the exact same rights as men when it comes to expressing themselves sexually… that to me is not any less sexist and misogynistic than assuming it's a woman's job to wash my clothes or cook my meals. In my view, women are as free to want to have sex with as many men as they like, and/or women, separately or in as large groups as they may want, just as men are! I know there are many strong forces trying real hard to take us back decades, but, still, we're well into the 21st century, for fuck's sake!

 

[cadman7777]

I have the same problem. Not everyone is open to discussing sex. It's so taboo to talk openly about likes and turn ons but it's everywhere in society. TV shows, commercials, advertisements songs Theres also a lot of double standards still. A man can go out be a dog and it's high fived. A women goes out and does the same thing it's shame on her. That's why I love this site. I can be as showy and slutty as I want to be without someone looking down on me.

Right....discussing likes and turn ons with a spouse or partner is scary because we are afraid of their reaction or rejection in many cases. I envy those who have that type of relationship where you can share without worry of judgement regardless if they don't have the same turn ons......I had it once with someone from here...

 

[Xxxmmmxxx47]

For me i just love helping a man cum, it turns me on so much to know that they are stroking and making themselves feel hood. Then when they funny release, it must feel so good to empty their balls. I want to help them achieve that sensation and get them drained

 

[30bandits]

For me i just love helping a man cum, it turns me on so much to know that they are stroking and making themselves feel hood. Then when they funny release, it must feel so good to empty their balls. I want to help them achieve that sensation and get them drained

bless you.

 

[Xxxmmmxxx47]

Sorry for mispellings… i may have been one handed….. my kitty needed attention

 

[SusanHoward]

I admit that every tribute still makes me tingle…

 

[matureman32]

Sorry for mispellings… i may have been one handed….. my kitty needed attention

We forgive you

 

[mark_j]

I find it to be liberating and arousing to talk to other people about masturbating on here, men or women. I wish it could just be water cooler talk at the office! What is it for you that makes it exciting to just chat about masturbating with other people on Lit?

Uhhh.. maybe 'cause I got nothing better to do (shrug)

 

[devakama469]

It’s the thrill of building connection for me - really getting to know someone (if it clicks) and being able to share those crazy sexy moments together. Knowing we’re both fucking ourselves at the same time, and being able to get my partner’s lust going is just… *chef’s kiss*

I, too, am pretty shy/awkward irl, but as it turns out, I quite enjoy sharing myself with others on the interwebs.

To a degree, I’m with @BackwoodsMama, it gets me ramped up more to play with my hubs occasionally. Otherwise… I’m the best fuck I’ve had in my life. So why not enjoy that? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Love this answer! I absolutely love and adore to talk and learn about sexuality, past experiences, fantasies, dreams, etc., both telling mine and hearing those of others, as unfiltered and taboo-free as possible, but for obvious reasons that is *extremely* difficult to do even in the smallest of fractions in our prudish and stand-offish societies, with any of it usually leading to a lot of frowning, most of it very obviously hypocritical, and that is an interaction that I find that absolutely exhausting!

So, when you're online and you have a degree of anonymity, and as a result people feel at least a little freer to share on these topics, and maybe even dare to become aroused for, or even better, while doing so, then to me that's an amazing experience! Added to that, I personally cherish very deeply that someone may consider me trustworthy enough to confide in me their most intimate details, which is a bond I take to the grave, so from that point of view those conversations become so much more valuable to me!

 

[KittySacher]

I love the idea of a stranger controlling my orgasm. Right now, I have a thick toy stuffed in my pussy, and normally that would be enough to get me off, but for some reason, I know I’m not going to be able to get off tonight without chatting to someone else from Lit and having them tell me I’m allowed to come for them.

 

[JohnA1971]

It's easier to talk to somebody you don't know and open up about your deepest fantasy's

 

[tallladiesman]

It's easier to talk to somebody you don't know and open up about your deepest fantasy's

100%
No judgement

 

[6SweetKitty9]

Right....discussing likes and turn ons with a spouse or partner is scary because we are afraid of their reaction or rejection in many cases. I envy those who have that type of relationship where you can share without worry of judgement regardless if they don't have the same turn ons......I had it once with someone from here...

I knew my late fiance for 21 years and together for 16 years and I couldn't tell him what I liked. Just turned into a fight. The first guy I dated I could tell him anything and he was down lol. He taught me A LOT and it was amazing lol

 

[brad260]

we all do it.. at least here .. so much more fun talking about it with someone else that's just enjoying too.. no judgement, just letting it go

 

[OldnCurious]

I find it exciting to be able to give details of the most intimate things of what me and my wife have done behind closed doors. To talk about fantasies or experiences that I could never disclose to a friend.

 

[cadman7777]

For me i just love helping a man cum, it turns me on so much to know that they are stroking and making themselves feel hood. Then when they funny release, it must feel so good to empty their balls. I want to help them achieve that sensation and get them drained

You should be a busy girl here then

 

[graysilver]

I find it exciting to be able to give details of the most intimate things of what me and my wife have done behind closed doors. To talk about fantasies or experiences that I could never disclose to a friend.

My thought, exactly.