Would you go back and marry/commit to the same person?

[Chilllax]

My wife and I were having a conversation about some common friends. Slowly the conversation turned to our marriage and we asked each other if, turning back time, we would pick each other again knowing what we know about each other now.
My answer was a yes (not just because I didn't want to end up in the doghouse...lol). Overall:

1. Things have happened that I did not expect: sexless marriage, a toning down of her social side and some other minor things
2. Some things have remained the same: shared values on life in general, mutual love and respect , her love for animals rubbing off on me

I have never believed in the "one, true soulmate" concept and even if there is one, I don't have the patience. I found a girl I liked, we vibes on many things and put a ring on her.

What about you? Knowing everything you know now about your partner would you change your decision if time was turned back?

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

When I was 22 I met my husband. Married him when I was 24.
He was the best guy!
We were together 12 years before I separated from him, but remained together as co-parents and friends another 12 years.

He was the 1st and only person to bring me to orgasm... So there's that.
He wasnt a great husband, but he was an excellent father!!!

Why do I keep saying, "was"?
He passed away in 2021.

I'll never remarry. I won't look for anyone to date IRL.
He was perfect for me, at that time in my life

 

[AG31]

Absolutely.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

For sure

 

[cdstefi]

I'm very contented and happy, so yeah.

 

[gtnlynn]

Yes. No doubt about it.

 

[Beachguy23]

Absolutely, my best friend when we got married and after 40 years together (39 married) still my best friend and would not trade her for the world.

 

[SmokingFap]

I wouldn't remarry my first wife. I would my second, but I would have handled things differently.

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

In a perfect world where I didn’t get sick, ex-fiancé and I might have been happy together, but no. Definitely not.

 

[Wageslave]

I'd rather die than go anywhere near my ex wife

 

[Clit_Liquor]

Absolutely.

I'm glad my previous relationships didn't end in marriage.

 

[Mostlyherefortheporn]

I’m windowed, not divorced, so my answer is a bit different. But, yeah, we were very happy together and I’d do it over without hesitation, even if I knew how it was going to end.

Actually, i’d probably at least try again with most of my exes. For the most part, the only thing wrong with them was that we were mismatched at that point in our lives. With at least a couple former gf’s, we were simply too young. Things might have turned out differently with a couple of them if we had met when we older and more mature.

 

[wouldloveto]

I would. But that does not keep me from fantasizing about the roads not taken.

 

[screwher]

In a heartbeat. My wife and I have enjoyed over thirty years of a fabulous marriage. I wouldn’t trade her for the world.

I only wish we had started our hotwife lifestyle years ago.

 

[pace_purr]

In a heartbeat we’ve been together 57 years and I wouldn’t change a thing.

 

[Wonderer67]

Me ex wife? Nah… we had some good times, but they came to an end. We made some wonderful children together.

She didn’t really enjoy anal sex, which was good!

Current wife?

Perfect…
Fucking…
Match…

 

[bobb_sledd]

We're coming up on 40-years of marriage. I can't image being married to anyone else. It's been a hell of a ride!

 

[Rob_Royale]

After thirty-three years, I can definitely say yes. I managed to marry a woman who was way out of my league, smart, hard working, a great cook and a wonderful lover. I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

 

[PMarky2]

Yes and no.

I married a GILF. She was smart, hot (still is when she makes an effort,) horny, and our personalities and interests meshed well. She was extremely supportive whilst I was getting established in my career and in many ways was the making of me, but in the end the age-gap caught up with us. If we had thought about the potential for the age-gap to reek havoc when she it retirement and I hit 50 we probably would have had a wonderful affair, and then moved on to more suitable partners - in my case, a skinny little nerd girl, who would eventually have talked me into having nerd babies.

 

[CTim]

I would absolutely marry my wife again. Best decision I've ever made.

 

[HampshireBoy]

If I hadn't of married my first wife we wouldn't have our sons, who I love completely and have turned out to be sons anyone would be proud to have - so, despite the bad times and divorce, I'd have to say yes I would.

My wife and I are completely in love, despite the lack of sex, and she makes my life complete so again I would say a firm yes.

 

[outcastpib]

It's been refreshing hearing about all the success stories. Hats off to you all and I wish you all many more years of bliss.
If I could go back I would not marry my ex. While we had many good things going on between us and good memories were made, in the end we could not get over the differences between us. I don't look down on her for being the way she was, I just could not keep trying to change myself the way she wanted me to be. It happens, move on and be the person that makes you the happiest in life.

 

[WildFireTN]

Yes, I would do it all again after 45 years. We married young at 20 and 19, and we are still Hot lovers.
Having fun together in our retirement!

 

[loosegoose]

Absolutely. I didn't know it back then, but slipping on an icy patch in a street in Oslo was the best thing that ever happened to me. Before or since. Well except for my grandkids. I'm sure that kissing the Blarney Stone a week before I met her, had nothing to do with it.

 

[LMWM321]

OMG, yes.. ..My only regret is that I didn't have a few sex partners before we met. We met as college freshmen and I lost my virginity to her. ..After college, we broke up for a year during which I had a few additional partners, but then we resumed our relationship and.. the rest is history. My life with her has been a pure joy. And so to are the kids we've had together.

I told my wife that if I pass before her, I want her to marry again. I don't want her to be alone. The idea of her afraid in bed on a stormy night (she's terrified of thunder), or traveling by herself makes me want to cry.

My wife promised to keep the option open, but said if she did she'd continue to wear the ring I gave her on her right hand. And her next husband would have to accept that when she dies, it will be put back on her left before she's cremated, then her ashes would then be mixed with mine. If there's an afterlife, we're spending it together.

Marriage is a wonderful, if imperfect, part of the human experience. ..But it's still evolving. Presently, 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce and not all of those that stay married are very happy. ..So it's far from perfect, and probably not for everyone.