For the Guys: Are you looking for a Special Guy Someone and hoping for a serious lasting relationship?

[Milo9012]

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[Escierto]

Wow. You have a really specific scenario there!

 

[Milo9012]

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[Milo9012]

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[none2_none2]

For me matters if the heart aren't fantasy, but rather destiny. I've been with my partner now over 22 years. We have our ups and downs, but I wouldn't trade him for anybody else. He's my one and only. It wouldn't make a good basis for a romance novel because many would consider ir too bland. He's the last person I see when I lay down at night, and the first person I see in the morning. I could spend an eternity this way, and be satisfied. Not having him as my rock would be like a day, with no sun - something that is unthinkable.

 

[Milo9012]

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[muycurioso]

it would be best to meet a guy that is bi curious and wants to explore with me, him also new and curious.

 

[Milo9012]

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[sticky6]

I don't know about a fantasy or not but friendship plays a pivotal role in any sexual relationship I have with a guy. Just never been a hookup type of person.

 

[Milo9012]

Something to think about:

 

[easyoff]

A regular friend with benefits would be fun

 

[Milo9012]

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[Greytruck]

Married guy here. 70 and bi
I have had the pleasure of two long time “friends”
One 3 years, the other 8 years. Was a great relationship both.

 

[easyoff]

It would be, and safe(?).

He might have some fun friends too.

 

[Milo9012]

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[Milo9012]

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[Greytruck]

Lucky you.
I working on wrangling my own FWB.
He's a tough nut to crack.

Good luck to you.. hey it’s a big step..
You have to be patient.. not everyone is able to do it

 

[Milo9012]

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[Phatfeet]

Call me old fashioned, but that's what I'd like to experience; an antiquated, out of fashion, courtship. Getting to know the guy and him getting to know me.

Any one else looking for something like this?

I have found a sort of middle-road that I think is not that unusual.

I have never been into going to an adult book store for finding a no-name hook-up, though for some I can see the reasons that would be appealing. For me I found someone close by, however it was much different than what I first imagined. Accustomed to relationships where most women are replete with exclusiveness, it is not the same way within the gay community, at least not where I live, or within the local circles.

The first time I found this out was when I was sitting at my friend’s house and a friend of his came in. After some small talk he did not even speak, but just motioned between the man and I. It was a silent way of saying, “are you two going to get together?”

We did, and I am glad we did, as well as with his other friends of his since then, and that is just it; gay men typically are more open to having many partners I found out. We have a close friendship, closer than the others I have been with, but I also know its not exclusive. It's confusing because I am essentially being "shared" but yet not since I think he is just allowing me to experience others. It is a real fine line between being "used" versus "shared".

 

[Milo9012]

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[lifeExplorer88]

I'll start, I have a fantasy of how I would meet him.
I'm at a home improvement store and I notice him looking at me in that unmistakable way and I like what I see. He must be picking up on my attraction to him and begins moving towards me and I move toward him.
We say hi to each other and begin chatting about the home improvement tasks that brought us to the store.
The feeling between us is warm and neither of us wants to end it, so we agree to finish our shopping and have a coffee together.
Over coffee, we share our situations; mature males, divorced, single, not dating, and looking for something special.
The fact we are having coffee together so soon after meeting tells us both there is an undeniable gay element to our being together.
We exchange numbers and agree to meet in a couple of days for a movie and dinner. As we walk away from each other we catch each other giving backward looks and smile.
We continue courting for weeks, holding hands, touching, and an occasional kiss.
We both don't want to rush things because we know what we want; a real caring relationship.

Call me old fashioned, but that's what I'd like to experience; an antiquated, out of fashion, courtship. Getting to know the guy and him getting to know me.

Any one else looking for something like this?

I really like your fantasy and it aligns with what I am looking for. I've never really been one for one and done, quick hookups where it is just the physical experience and nothing more. The thought of those have a certain excitement and I certainly would not criticize someone who likes that sort of thing but in my experience having the caring connection gives things a little more zing. I would like to meet someone, become friends and establish a connection, and have a long term FWB that allows us to explore our feelings for each other.

 

[Greytruck]

I really like your fantasy and it aligns with what I am looking for. I've never really been one for one and done, quick hookups where it is just the physical experience and nothing more. The thought of those have a certain excitement and I certainly would not criticize someone who likes that sort of thing but in my experience having the caring connection gives things a little more zing. I would like to meet someone, become friends and establish a connection, and have a long term FWB that allows us to explore our feelings for each other.

Well put.. LTR the best for me too

 

[Milo9012]

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[mtsnowrider]

Over many years there have been maybe a half dozen one (maybe two or three) and done experiences. One long term FWB relationship that was vastly better than any of the "hook ups." I'm just not comfortable with the quickie culture. Not looking to fall in love just prefer a good friend situation with the physical benefit.

 

[Greytruck]

Over many years there have been maybe a half dozen one (maybe two or three) and done experiences. One long term FWB relationship that was vastly better than any of the "hook ups." I'm just not comfortable with the quickie culture. Not looking to fall in love just prefer a good friend situation with the physical benefit.

Can’t discount that long term buddy