Is romance dead?

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I've been reading through these threads and I can't help but notice that there's not much mention of love or even affection. Relationships seem very transactional.

My sister (single) summed up modern dating in these words: What are you gonna do for me?

I'm satisfied with my relationship, but I admit some of the passion is gone.

I'm not looking for advice, but I am curious. Is emotional connection no longer a priority for people? What do you think?

 

[Wonderer67]

My wife and I are very close. For us romance and passion are a big part of who we are.

Lotsa kissing. She likes hugging (more than I do). I think we’re pretty passionate.

She’s 67, im 57.

A lot of our sex is more on the sensual side. But I’m a guy and I like a good fuck too. So does she, sometimes.

I've been reading through these threads and I can't help but notice that there's not much mention of love or even affection. Relationships seem very transactional.

I would say tho, that lit is a sex site. So a lot of it is about sex and sexual preferences and sexual acts.

Interesting to see what other post.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

Interesting to see what other post.

me too. I'm glad you and your wife can be so affectionate

 

[cadman7777]

I'm married for the second time (41 years first time).....my current wife isn't real affectionate, doesn't like any kind of deep kissing (which I love),....emotionally it's good most of the time......it's just different than I thought it would be

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

It's very true that Lit is primarily a sex friendly site.

Back in 1996 I met my soul mate.. he wasnt romantically savvy, but my car always ran, and he did things that ensured my safety and well being, etc... And we were 100% sexually compatible!

I look at romance differently than some might..
It's not necessarily flowers and cards.
It's remembering my favorite color, or listening to me when all I need to do is vent..
Or not giving up on me because I have mental issues...
I don't think it's dead, I think people just have their unique ways of showing it..

 

[Saint_Ann]

Romance is not dead. It just smells funny.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I don't think it's dead, I think people just have their unique ways of showing it..

That's very true. I hadn't thought of it that way. Thanks for pointing it out.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

Romance is not dead. It just smells funny.

Funny as in, "Oh, god, who farted?" or "Wow, man, that is some skunky bud?"

Because if it's the latter, then I would be forced to agree with you.

 

[Saint_Ann]

Funny as in, "Oh, god, who farted?" or "Wow, man, that is some skunky bud?"

Because if it's the latter, then I would be forced to agree with you.

Maybe it was jazz is dead. I forget.

 

[Intelectual81]

I'm not looking for advice, but I am curious. Is emotional connection no longer a priority for people? What do you think?

I think romance starts and ends with genuinely caring about each other and, more importantly, showing it.
Some times one of the people involved, simply stop caring about their counterpart.
Sometimes they just forget to show they care.
Sometimes life, routine, work, family, etc, get in the way.

 

[Noor]

Romance is not dead. It just smells funny.

Yes, all those scented candles

 

[Noor]

Please define romance

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Please define romance

For who's benefit ? How would you describe it ?
I have my " Ways" some are easy as everyday things.

 

[AG31]

I've been reading through these threads and I can't help but notice that there's not much mention of love or even affection. Relationships seem very transactional.

My sister (single) summed up modern dating in these words: What are you gonna do for me?

I'm satisfied with my relationship, but I admit some of the passion is gone.

I'm not looking for advice, but I am curious. Is emotional connection no longer a priority for people? What do you think?

How old are you?
There are two other threads that touch on this idea from different angles. This one and this one. It seems to be "a topic." I worry about the effect of the digital world on face to face human contact. I envision a time, a few decades hence, when people will re-discover and long for face to face and flesh to flesh contact.

But I realize this isn't exactly your question.

 

[AG31]

I've been reading through these threads and I can't help but notice that there's not much mention of love or even affection. Relationships seem very transactional.

My sister (single) summed up modern dating in these words: What are you gonna do for me?

I'm satisfied with my relationship, but I admit some of the passion is gone.

I'm not looking for advice, but I am curious. Is emotional connection no longer a priority for people? What do you think?

I think one reason is that this is a sex site. There are major segments of the world of sexuality that have nothing to do with relationships, and the permission to talk about them is not wide-spread. So talk about them clusters here.

 

[Noor]

For who's benefit ? How would you describe it ?
I have my " Ways" some are easy as everyday things.

Just in general. How is that different than seduction, manipulation or just being kind, thoughtful and considerate?

I've been reading through these threads and I can't help but notice that there's not much mention of love or even affection. Relationships seem very transactional.

My sister (single) summed up modern dating in these words: What are you gonna do for me?

I'm satisfied with my relationship, but I admit some of the passion is gone.

I'm not looking for advice, but I am curious. Is emotional connection no longer a priority for people? What do you think?

there is love here but it’s not shouting as loudly as the sex threads

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Just in general. How is that different than seduction, manipulation or just being kind, thoughtful and considerate?

there is love here but it’s not shouting as loudly as the sex threads

To be honest you must feel romance, you must be with the right person.
Pretty sure these answers fit into your "romance" question. It's a 2 way street here. If you don't feel the romance in these gestures from your partner maybe ?
As far as sex. There is no sex in romance. You make love.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

Please define romance

Deep emotional connection? Like the thing you enjoy most about a romantic partner is their complete personhood.

 

[Noor]

To be honest you must feel romance, you must be with the right person.
Pretty sure these answers fit into your "romance" question. It's a 2 way street here. If you don't feel the romance in these gestures from your partner maybe ?
As far as sex. There is no sex in romance. You make love.

Isn’t making love more related to love than romance?

 

[Noor]

Deep emotional connection? Like the thing you enjoy most about a romantic partner is their complete personhood.

Interesting. However, what about romantic first dates? Or romantic atmospheres in spaces . There is no deep emotional connection.

 

[Brains_N_Boobs]

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[Jw75766]

I've been reading through these threads and I can't help but notice that there's not much mention of love or even affection. Relationships seem very transactional.

My sister (single) summed up modern dating in these words: What are you gonna do for me?

I'm satisfied with my relationship, but I admit some of the passion is gone.

I'm not looking for advice, but I am curious. Is emotional connection no longer a priority for people? What do you think?

I'm all about romance. I'm a cuddler. I love long walks and just hanging out and having goofy fun together. It does seem too many focus on the end goal and not have fun playing the game (bad analogy, relationships are not a game).

 

[Jw75766]

This is totally my opinion but anytime we can talk casually or intimately so easily to each other on a phone, romance as it was once known is vanishing. I don't think it holds near the aura it once did especially to those who are younger.

As far as here on Lit, the number of women who are seeking a genuine connection which seems tethered to romance (in my mind) is at an all time low.

Instant gratification has become the new normal unfortunately.

 

[Jw75766]

It's very true that Lit is primarily a sex friendly site.

Back in 1996 I met my soul mate.. he wasnt romantically savvy, but my car always ran, and he did things that ensured my safety and well being, etc... And we were 100% sexually compatible!

I look at romance differently than some might..
It's not necessarily flowers and cards.
It's remembering my favorite color, or listening to me when all I need to do is vent..
Or not giving up on me because I have mental issues...
I don't think it's dead, I think people just have their unique ways of showing it..

Romance does indeed change and grow (hopefully) as a relationship grows.

 

[Escierto]

Yeah, it's dead. I think it died in 1963 but maybe it was a lot earlier than that.