Belegon
Still Kicking Around
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well, I recently took my first real shot at online dating...
I have a few observations, some of which may be only relevant to the online version but some of which might be more widespread...
The first is that what I thought might be my most limiting factor was exactly the opposite. My age. Now, I'll preface this to say I was mostly on what the kids probably call "Hook Up Sites". They focused on women in the geographical area and there was a pretty fair amount of profiles saying they were looking for No Strings Attached and/or Friends With Benefits type of relationships. My results would indicate that either the women posting these are deceiving themselves or that the women responding to ME were generally more interested in a more drawn out relationship. But that wasn't one the things I found surprising. I got a fair amount of interest from women in my age group: and some of those were, IMHO, among the most attractive on the site.
But I also got a huge amount of response from much younger women. And I don't mean late 30s/early 40s, which was already younger than my profile indicated I was interested in (I set my age range as 45-65). No, I'm talking about a very large response from late 20s and even some as young as 19. And the younger ones were almost exclusively looking for a relationship, not a hookup or a friend with benefits. ( I had put as the very first line of my profile that I wasn't looking for long-term due to my cancer diagnosis)
This has drawn my curiosity. So, while I was responding to a few of the accounts that seemed most realistic about expectations (and in the beginning of this process, I was definitely looking to get laid.) I also asked some of these younger women, "why all the interest in a guy like me? I'm twice your age (for some, 3x). Why would you be hitting on ME? I got a wide crossection of answers.But as I looked at them, I discovered the common theme. The majority of these young women talked about how disappointed they were with young me.And I realized that we have an entire generation of younger men that have absolutely no clue how to talk to a woman. They know how to respond to an authority figure who is female (or seem to) by treating her like a slightly less aggressive man. They know, or think they know, how to talk to a whore. In this case, I am not necessarily talking about a pro. I mean the girl they classify as a "Hoe". More sexually available, more aggressive and typically more defensive as well. But talking to a woman between those two extremes?? Clueless. Abso-fucking-luetely Clueless. And they have even less of an idea how to treat a lady. We have raised a generation of sexual idiots! And I freely admit that I could be portrayed as having taken advantage of the situation. My new girlfriend is 27.
The women my own age were almost exclusively looking just for sex. Most of them were divorced or widowed, but a pretty fair percentage were married and wished to keep things 'DISCREET' ....not that the younger ranks were devoid of this kind of petitioner.
Also, the "era of the dick pick" might have done those of us who just want to see pictures of naked girls a big favor. A VERY high percentage of these women sent me nudes or partial nudes within the first few minutes of contact. A non-insignificant number sent them to me in their very first message. And a large percentage of them were quite attractive.
The last thing I'll talk about in this post is that the era of reluctance towards sexual adventure is all but gone, at least in this demographic. I received multiple invitations to threesomes. Anal was all but expected. I even had a 25 year old, that opened our conversation with a picture of possibly the very prettiest pussy I have ever seen, that asked me if I was willing to follow up cumming in her mouth with sticking my dick in the back of her mouth and PEEING DOWN HER THROAT. In all my years of depravity, this is the first time I've been asked to do this. Rimming. which used to equally rare, was a common request, however.
I have a few observations, some of which may be only relevant to the online version but some of which might be more widespread...
The first is that what I thought might be my most limiting factor was exactly the opposite. My age. Now, I'll preface this to say I was mostly on what the kids probably call "Hook Up Sites". They focused on women in the geographical area and there was a pretty fair amount of profiles saying they were looking for No Strings Attached and/or Friends With Benefits type of relationships. My results would indicate that either the women posting these are deceiving themselves or that the women responding to ME were generally more interested in a more drawn out relationship. But that wasn't one the things I found surprising. I got a fair amount of interest from women in my age group: and some of those were, IMHO, among the most attractive on the site.
But I also got a huge amount of response from much younger women. And I don't mean late 30s/early 40s, which was already younger than my profile indicated I was interested in (I set my age range as 45-65). No, I'm talking about a very large response from late 20s and even some as young as 19. And the younger ones were almost exclusively looking for a relationship, not a hookup or a friend with benefits. ( I had put as the very first line of my profile that I wasn't looking for long-term due to my cancer diagnosis)
This has drawn my curiosity. So, while I was responding to a few of the accounts that seemed most realistic about expectations (and in the beginning of this process, I was definitely looking to get laid.) I also asked some of these younger women, "why all the interest in a guy like me? I'm twice your age (for some, 3x). Why would you be hitting on ME? I got a wide crossection of answers.But as I looked at them, I discovered the common theme. The majority of these young women talked about how disappointed they were with young me.And I realized that we have an entire generation of younger men that have absolutely no clue how to talk to a woman. They know how to respond to an authority figure who is female (or seem to) by treating her like a slightly less aggressive man. They know, or think they know, how to talk to a whore. In this case, I am not necessarily talking about a pro. I mean the girl they classify as a "Hoe". More sexually available, more aggressive and typically more defensive as well. But talking to a woman between those two extremes?? Clueless. Abso-fucking-luetely Clueless. And they have even less of an idea how to treat a lady. We have raised a generation of sexual idiots! And I freely admit that I could be portrayed as having taken advantage of the situation. My new girlfriend is 27.
The women my own age were almost exclusively looking just for sex. Most of them were divorced or widowed, but a pretty fair percentage were married and wished to keep things 'DISCREET' ....not that the younger ranks were devoid of this kind of petitioner.
Also, the "era of the dick pick" might have done those of us who just want to see pictures of naked girls a big favor. A VERY high percentage of these women sent me nudes or partial nudes within the first few minutes of contact. A non-insignificant number sent them to me in their very first message. And a large percentage of them were quite attractive.
The last thing I'll talk about in this post is that the era of reluctance towards sexual adventure is all but gone, at least in this demographic. I received multiple invitations to threesomes. Anal was all but expected. I even had a 25 year old, that opened our conversation with a picture of possibly the very prettiest pussy I have ever seen, that asked me if I was willing to follow up cumming in her mouth with sticking my dick in the back of her mouth and PEEING DOWN HER THROAT. In all my years of depravity, this is the first time I've been asked to do this. Rimming. which used to equally rare, was a common request, however.
