Female Trans - New Intense Attraction; Gay, Straight, Bi?

[EdgeMark567]

I recently discovered I have a strong attraction to female trans women. I identity as a hetero guy, love a women's body but also appreciate a man's body that's in good shape - love hard bodies both men and women. I had a few threesomes in college with my best friend and our girlfriends. I think the fact we used to jack each other off and only once did we give each other a BJ added to my appreciation of a hard cock. Never kissed a man and that's not something I want to do. I became curious about a female trans body, tits, great ass, and with a cock. I did some searching online and found some incredibly beautify trans women with amazing bodies and cocks. I immediately was turned on and started fantasizing about being with one of these women. The thought of exploring their body was incredibly erotic. On the flip side, I completely love sex with my wife and enjoying her body. She was a D1 Athlete, Volleyball player, muscular, long legs, which fits with my attraction to muscular bodies. I wish I could tell my wife of my fantasy but that's a no go.

So the question I have for you all, where does this attraction put me on the spectrum? Am I somewhere between gay and straight? Or, just a guy that's open to beautiful people and happen to also be open to both?

I look forward to hearing what y'all have to say.

 

[Britva415]

How much does it matter?

 

[EdgeMark567]

How much does it matter?

It doesn’t really. I’m just curious what others think. Since it’s a new feeling throwing it out for discussion.

 

[Not Normal]

You're a straight man who understands the difference between sex and gender. Maybe you're pansexual in a way.

 

[Britva415]

Or “bisexual” in the sense of being attracted to “two (or more)” kinds of people.

I don’t mean that seriously. There are people who will try to broaden the conventional understanding of what “bi” means by saying it just means “more than one gender,” but calling oneself “bi” for liking a trans woman implies that she’s a man.

“Pan” implies attraction to “any and every kind” of person, but Pans don’t have the monopoly on attraction to a trans or transfem person.

I think that continuing to identify as “straight” is perfectly fine, though. We are talking about your attraction to a woman, after all.

 

[Escierto]

Or “bisexual” in the sense of being attracted to “two (or more)” kinds of people.

I don’t mean that seriously. There are people who will try to broaden the conventional understanding of what “bi” means by saying it just means “more than one gender,” but calling oneself “bi” for liking a trans woman implies that she’s a man.

“Pan” implies attraction to “any and every kind” of person, but Pans don’t have the monopoly on attraction to a trans or transfem person.

I think that continuing to identify as “straight” is perfectly fine, though. We are talking about your attraction to a woman, after all.

I used to say that I am straight because I do see my trans girlfriend as a woman. However you can call me gay or bi or whatever.

 

[EdgeMark567]

You're a straight man who understands the difference between sex and gender. Maybe you're pansexual in a way.

Thank you. I've been wondering about this and feel this is more in line with who I am.

 

[EdgeMark567]

I used to say that I am straight because I do see my trans girlfriend as a woman. However you can call me gay or bi or whatever.

I understand what you are saying because I also see the Trans women that I am attracted to as women.

 

[EdgeMark567]

I am very drawn to wanting to experience a trans sexual relationship. I'm all about the sexual attraction (I'm a Scorpio) as well as the mental attraction. I've never been into one night stands because I need to have a mental connection as well as physical. However, not to say someone I find physically attractive I wouldn't open to door to exploring on the first night, just maybe not "all the way"...

 

[Escierto]

I am very drawn to wanting to experience a trans sexual relationship. I'm all about the sexual attraction (I'm a Scorpio) as well as the mental attraction. I've never been into one night stands because I need to have a mental connection as well as physical. However, not to say someone I find physically attractive I wouldn't open to door to exploring on the first night, just maybe not "all the way"...

My trans girlfriend and I met originally for sex but after our first day in person together, we realized that we were in love and we have been in love ever since, over five years later.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Call yourself what ever you wish. But your not Straight or hetero sexual.
You can look this up rather easily unless your in denial or uneducated.

 

[PhoenixRyzing]

Does it really matter? Like what you like and enjoy what you enjoy.

 

[Encaea]

I recently discovered I have a strong attraction to female trans women. I identity as a hetero guy, love a women's body but also appreciate a man's body that's in good shape - love hard bodies both men and women. I had a few threesomes in college with my best friend and our girlfriends. I think the fact we used to jack each other off and only once did we give each other a BJ added to my appreciation of a hard cock. Never kissed a man and that's not something I want to do. I became curious about a female trans body, tits, great ass, and with a cock. I did some searching online and found some incredibly beautify trans women with amazing bodies and cocks. I immediately was turned on and started fantasizing about being with one of these women. The thought of exploring their body was incredibly erotic. On the flip side, I completely love sex with my wife and enjoying her body. She was a D1 Athlete, Volleyball player, muscular, long legs, which fits with my attraction to muscular bodies. I wish I could tell my wife of my fantasy but that's a no go.

So the question I have for you all, where does this attraction put me on the spectrum? Am I somewhere between gay and straight? Or, just a guy that's open to beautiful people and happen to also be open to both?

I look forward to hearing what y'all have to say.

I actually found myself with the same attraction/interest. I've had a very difficult time finding a trans woman to chat with. Like you said, I'm particularly attracted to the women with only top surgery, the dick is definitely part of the allure.

 

[bumpinthenight2022]

imho trans women are women. You're attracted to what you see, which is a woman. And honestly, there are quite a few trans women (at least in the porn industry) who are FINE.

I picture it like this. You're at a bar, not one man in there makes to think " nice"

But this woman who you happen to not only feel that attraction towards but you actually speak to, happens to have different genitals than you expected. Are you gay because you hollered at her? Is her face, her tits, her flat little tummy or delicate back now "unattractive?"

As far as I'm concerned she still got a mouth and a hole. Why not?

But overall I think you just demonstrated an attraction to *women,* not men. And if you still find those same physical characteristics attractive, why should you be any less interested in having fun?

 

[Encaea]

From my admittedly limited perspective, it's just a preference for women with specific physical characteristics. Some fantasize about women with blond hair and a huge ass. I fantasize about women with perky tits and a dick.

 

[Inthelastrow]

Im retro but also attracted to trans women. Online and in person. There is a trans woman at work whom I particularly fond of. I don't know what to call it (bi?) but I see her as a woman and she definitely has my interest. I will also say she a very nice person, which is part of the attraction.

 

[wouldloveto]

I long for the day when we don't need labels. I am attracted to certain people, or even certain parts of people for sexual purposes. I want to be able to love what I love, engage whomever, without the need to put a label on it.

 

[14ALL]

I think if you’re going to label it, you need to start with your attractions with respect to having a “romantic relationship.” I don’t think simply playing with one gender or the other qualifies anyone as gay, bi, trans, whatever…. Think about it like this…. you're a guy and you probably like playing with your own cock. Does that make you gay? If you could suck your own cock, would you? If you did, would that define you as being gay? A guy jerking/sucking a cock… does it matter who it’s attached to? Is that how we’re going to define gay/bi/whatever?

These shades of gray are zones where definitions are dependent on perspective, and I think they’re grossly overused. The gay guys I know ogle other men the way I ogle women. They long for other men and the prospect of having them as a significant other…. holding hands, kissing, etc. All the romantic stuff that couples do beyond just sex. So it’s not just a casual BJ for the sake of having fun… which does sound gay… but I don’t think it really can be defined that way simply by the act.

Another way to think about it… If you see yourself skipping through the park, hand in hand with another man who’s wearing a matching outfit, and kissing by the fountain with stars in your eyes…. you’re probably gay. If you’re just having some fun with a cock (whoever it’s attached to) but then going back to do ALL the romantic things with your woman… You really aren’t gay… maybe sexually divergent, but not truly gay. At least in my opinion.

 

[Escierto]

My trans girlfriend and I engage in sexual relations in the exact same way as a male gay couple. You can call me a flaming queer, a gay faggot or anything else you like.

 

[EdgeMark567]

I actually found myself with the same attraction/interest. I've had a very difficult time finding a trans woman to chat with. Like you said, I'm particularly attracted to the women with only top surgery, the dick is definitely part of the allure.

100 Percent!

 

[ericalauren]

Trans women are women, so an allocishet man is still allocishet if he dates, fucks, etc trans women.

 

[EdgeMark567]

Thanks for your response.

 

[Escierto]

Trans women are women, so an allocishet man is still allocishet if he dates, fucks, etc trans women.

I have always considered my girlfriend to be a woman. In fact I forget what she has between her legs when I am with her.

 

[EdgeMark567]

Love this.

 

[Tomr]

I'm straight as well but I have seen a number of trans females on the net that I would absolutely LOVE to be with. Taylor Maxx is my favorite but there are others. I've always liked looking at cut cocks so having a female with a nice cock is a definite bucket list type fantasy!