Exploring Brenda’s Bondage Obsession

[BrendaBear]

Pilloried thanks to Proximus. An awesome piece of furniture.

Right? I kind of want one now.

 

[HollyS]

I can only recall being bound while either naked or in lingerie.

When my BF was learning to tie Shibari, he once put me in a harness and I wore that to work under my clothes. We were total newbies, making it up as we went, using YouTube etc.

There have been times I've put others into bondage (cuffs basically, because I'm not good with knots, lol). Once he was totally naked (using that eyehook I showed you!) but other times he was at least partly clothed. With women, it's been a softer experience - fuzzy cuffs, lingerie, etc.

So, I like both!

I never did anything with bondage in public, unless nipple clamps under a blouse count. (And that harness!) Nothing was really vsible, though.

 

[cowboyup6977]

Of course... but... subbies can have opinions... we're allowed. For that matter, Dom/Domme's opinions are very interesting too.

I prefer lingerie, myself. Or fully clothed and it is being removed from me... or... yeah... I can keep coming up with "or"s..

Dressed slutty works for me

 

[naughty_stories]

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[Primalex]

Not the Brenda I was thinking of...don't mind me, I'm just the weird guy mumbling to himself.

 

[cowboyup6977]

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My collar looks just like that and I made it myself
The 0 ring is my husband’s cock ring

 

[SubMick]

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I've spent many a fine hour in the stock - the bottom (sic) photo.
A beautifully vulnerable position to lose yourself physically and mentally.
Positioned facing the wall with the door behind me I swear I used to hesr extra footsteps, I am assured there was never anyone else in the house but it used to open up such intense feelings thinking there were others watching & wondering if I knew them.

 

[BrendaBear]

I've spent many a fine hour in the stock - the bottom (sic) photo.
A beautifully vulnerable position to lose yourself physically and mentally.
Positioned facing the wall with the door behind me I swear I used to hesr extra footsteps, I am assured there was never anyone else in the house but it used to open up such intense feelings thinking there were others watching & wondering if I knew them.

The tease sounds absolutely delightful!

 

[SubMick]

Of course... but... subbies can have opinions... we're allowed. For that matter, Dom/Domme's opinions are very interesting too.

I prefer lingerie, myself. Or fully clothed and it is being removed from me... or... yeah... I can keep coming up with "or"s..

As a sub - starting clothed and this being removed by a Top is a wonderful feeling, each item taking another bit of dignity.
The trouble is the practicality of clothing vs bondage. Once cuffed clothing cant be removed passed them.

 

[Bisexguy70]

Okay, enough of that.

But let’s talk gags.

Do you like to be gagged? What kind do you prefer? Why do you like it? How does it make you feel?

I have my own answers already… I would love to hear yours.

Ive never used a gag or own one but I do see its appeal. I myself find a feeling of being more submissive with an object in my mouth. In my case that object is another mans cock and specifically a very big cock. I cant explain it but it increases my anxiety and helplessness. Why it arouses me….I have no idea. All I know is this , my dick gets rock hard and I can see how this feeling of having a gag in the mouth could heighten one’s sexual experience.
Ill add also that all these posts gets me extremely aroused and glad @BrendaBear Started the thread

 

[BrendaBear]

Ive never used a gag or own one but I do see its appeal. I myself find a feeling of being more submissive with an object in my mouth. In my case that object is another mans cock and specifically a very big cock. I cant explain it but it increases my anxiety and helplessness. Why it arouses me….I have no idea. All I know is this , my dick gets rock hard and I can see how this feeling of having a gag in the mouth could heighten one’s sexual experience.
Ill add also that all these posts gets me extremely aroused and glad @BrendaBear Started the thread

Okay - I want to throw this out there for everyone's input and thoughts.

But also, because @Bisexguy70 and I have a little history from a while back... when we were talking often, (and life wasn't in the way), I always saw you as a Dom to me. I knew that wasn't your total nature, but like so many have done to me, that is how I chose to see you. But that gif I posted early on, with the lady tied to the bench, and another woman in a chair watching... made me ponder being her domme... and in turn... your post makes me ponder that same theme again. Which was actually inspired by something a good friend here on Lit talked to me about a few years ago. She has since passed, but she was a huge influence on me.

Anyway... so... you never had a gag. What if you had a Dom... and he was inclined to bind you, strap you into contraptions, which you would willingly do for him. And at the same time, you were a Dom to... oh, I don't know... me.... Therefore, both you and your Dom would be mine, and basically I must follow both your orders (except I don't, because I am me and don't follow instructions well). But...

So your Dom feels you need to be taught a lesson... you are strapped into some contraption, and he sticks his dick in your mouth... but what if he then instructs me to stick your dick in my mouth? I'm doing it under orders, you are doing it because you are physically bound (which I admit, is by far my preference, thus why I made this thread)....


So.... how do you feel about that?

How do any of you feel about someone being both a subbie, and a dom/domme at the same time? The idea sounds freaking crazy hot to me.

 

[Trubbycat]

Hey Brenda, I have not been on Lit much lately but I wholly support this page. I hope to contribute when I’m not so tired.

 

[BrendaBear]

Hey Brenda, I have not been on Lit much lately but I wholly support this page. I hope to contribute when I’m not so tired.

Thank you, Kitty.

 

[Trubbycat]

I’ve sent you a lot privately but will look for stuff we all can enjoy.

 

[naughty_stories]

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[BrendaBear]

Always!
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The way she is holding the other woman's arm like that... makes this exponentially more sexy to me...

 

[Utmale48]

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The bottom pic speaks to me.

 

[Sammysub07]

Brenda! I’m soo glad you’ve made a space just for you! It makes my heart happy for you to have a place to share what you think calls to you, to have an open dialogue about it, and help explore more about yourself in the process.

I’ll leave you with something tot think about. Once you share yours, I’ll share mind.

What is your take on the unrestrained kneel? Regardless of who is in front of you, man or woman? What about if you’re the one sitting and being kneeled before? Just thought provoking ideas for you.

What is your take on the use of a spreader bar in this nature?

 

[BrendaBear]

The bottom pic speaks to me.

Me too, for sure far more than the other two.

 

[BrendaBear]

Brenda! I’m soo glad you’ve made a space just for you! It makes my heart happy for you to have a place to share what you think calls to you, to have an open dialogue about it, and help explore more about yourself in the process.

I’ll leave you with something tot think about. Once you share yours, I’ll share mind.

What is your take on the unrestrained kneel? Regardless of who is in front of you, man or woman?

I am not good with obedience, so that isn’t something I could see myself doing. Just sitting there because I was told to. I am more likely to say “make me” and run off giggling, hoping they will come and get me.

What about if you’re the one sitting and being kneeled before? Just thought provoking ideas for you.

Wow… that is a very different thought for me…. I don’t know… I haven’t ever explored that before. I don’t think I would know what to do.

What is your take on the use of a spreader bar in this nature?

. I love the spreader bar being used! She can’t even get away, even though her arms are free. I would enjoy it more if my arms were also locked in a spreader bar…

Now your thoughts…

 

[Sammysub07]

Now your thoughts…

You sure?!

I am not good with obedience,

That’s the point. The restraints are there but they’re invisible. The restraints are in your desire and excitement to please. Now, when we’re restrained, we still have that desire please but its the dominant person’s ideas and desires that put them there.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE restraints, prefer them more often than not. But to prove to myself that my desire to please that person and control myself needs no restraints, that’s a whole other level of pride in myself that I can do it!

Wow… that is a very different thought for me

I thought of asking you this because of your thoughts on the girl in the doggy stocks and your different POVs.

I would enjoy it more if my arms were also locked in a spreader bar…

Haha I agree!!! Although, the arms being free allows for more versatility unless versatility is not what is desired!

 

[BrendaBear]

Hey Subbies….

I have been pondering why I love being restrained. Would any of you care to share how it makes you feel? Why do you need it? What is the need? Thought?

I would also love to hear the opposite point of view as well…

 

[SissySalina]

Being able to trust someone so much that you give them complete control.
That feeling of having someone that cares about you so much that they would push you to your utmost boundary.

 

[SubMick]

Hey Subbies….

I have been pondering why I love being restrained. Would any of you care to share how it makes you feel? Why do you need it? What is the need? Thought?

I would also love to hear the opposite point of view as well…

I don't always see Bondage as "the thing" but it is definately a catalyst and gets me to where I want to be.

Without Bondage I find the play is not always real, in reality I could physically overpower the majority (defenately not all) of the Mistresses I have served.

Once restrained this is no longer a game, they have absolute full control of me and all senses and emotions are now fully involved.

 

[cowboyup6977]

Being able to trust someone so much that you give them complete control.
That feeling of having someone that cares about you so much that they would push you to your utmost boundary.

Your exactly right
Total trust