Why is Phone/Voice sex on the decline?

[Britva415]

you can almost hear them flicking through the thesaurus searching for another word for thrusting

Really? On the phone?

I mean, I know you don't mean it literally but still, it sounds more like something someone would be concerned about in a written thing.

I don't do phone sex anyway but I can't imagine someone even using the word "thrust" verbally. People just don't talk like that. And they sure don't care about varying word frequency by finding synonyms while talking.

But idk wtf I'm talking about because I don't do phone sex. Maybe it's far more literary and scripted than I imagine. Hell if I know

 

[J D Danger]

Typing out moans is not nearly as good as actually hearing them, and there aren't always words for every second. I love written sex, but voice can be delicious if there is compatibility.

I would love to hear you moan one day

 

[boytoyjoy]

The internet has replaced phone calls for lots of things, and I'd actually trust phone privacy (for call contents, at least for domestic calls) more than I'd trust stuff like Skype. But then there's the issue of giving out your phone number. There are some more privacy-oriented mobile voice chat apps like Jami but I've had trouble getting them to work.

I've never had phone sex per se and don't think I'd be good at it. I've tried online roleplay a few times and it hasn't really been my thing. But, I have had enjoyable sexual phone calls with both friends and strangers, and similarly with email/pm conversations online. It would be great to have a mix of both.

(Edit): I'm gonna add, this crowd probably skews older and lots of us have stuff going on where we're often tired, grumpy, or generally not all that sexual. That shows up in our voices, so to have a good chat of that sort, both people have to catch each other at a good moment. Online it's easier. You can sink into a good mindspace before writing your message. Sometimes that can take way too long though, and I've unintentionally let conversations drop that I'd liked to have kept going.

 

[SensualGerund]

I have enjoyed some incredible phone sex in the past, but I feel like I had so much more free time then and it takes a long time to really build a rapport with somebody.

And I suppose fewer people actually speak on the phone now.

I miss it though.

 

[EvaLane]

What a fun thread for me to chime in on

Voice is more work and exposure and less convenient than text, but not as much payoff as video, so, it has no advantages or compelling reason for a lot of people to do it in 2025.

I think our definition of payoff must be very different. Videos are nice, but they’re a dime a dozen. Gets kinda boring, no? Surely men people can’t actually be that unimaginative and boring.

Apparently, more men still like it but I would love to hear the women's point of view, like the one stated above.

I love it. I love connecting with someone, exchanging messages, someone taking the risk to audibly say hello. Sometimes it’s me, sometimes it’s them. Sometimes it never moves further than some friendly exchanges and other times it moves faster than I can handle

People who are not good at phone sex are usually not good at texting either. You need imagination, and more importantly, you need to listen to your partner and interact with them.

Well put.

My best experience so far was when they had genuine interest in my needs and wants, asked questions that revealed truths I wasn’t even aware of, and using all of those bits of information to elevate our experience - make it real.

I’m doing this to feel something, not pretend to feel something.

The only way to actually enjoy myself is when I’m already in such a state of need and arousal that I’m begging them to call me. That I need them. No awkward moments, just straight passion and fireworks.

Of course, it’s a two way street. I’m sure most men would be fine with a moaning banshee that doesn’t contribute, but most of my pleasure derives from knowing I’m fulfilling whatever fantasy or need my partner has. That means I need to know about those things, I need to be an active participant.

Also, it’s just a fact that not everyone is going to mesh. It’s ok if I’m too soft for you and you’re looking for a filthy freak right off the bat, it’s ok if you’re a submissive boytoy and that’s not who I’m looking to play with. We can still be friends and swap stories

 

[johnnyampleed]

What a fun thread for me to chime in on



I think our definition of payoff must be very different. Videos are nice, but they’re a dime a dozen. Gets kinda boring, no? Surely men people can’t actually be that unimaginative and boring.



I love it. I love connecting with someone, exchanging messages, someone taking the risk to audibly say hello. Sometimes it’s me, sometimes it’s them. Sometimes it never moves further than some friendly exchanges and other times it moves faster than I can handle



Well put.

My best experience so far was when they had genuine interest in my needs and wants, asked questions that revealed truths I wasn’t even aware of, and using all of those bits of information to elevate our experience - make it real.

I’m doing this to feel something, not pretend to feel something.

The only way to actually enjoy myself is when I’m already in such a state of need and arousal that I’m begging them to call me. That I need them. No awkward moments, just straight passion and fireworks.

Of course, it’s a two way street. I’m sure most men would be fine with a moaning banshee that doesn’t contribute, but most of my pleasure derives from knowing I’m fulfilling whatever fantasy or need my partner has. That means I need to know about those things, I need to be an active participant.

Also, it’s just a fact that not everyone is going to mesh. It’s ok if I’m too soft for you and you’re looking for a filthy freak right off the bat, it’s ok if you’re a submissive boytoy and that’s not who I’m looking to play with. We can still be friends and swap stories

I think you made some excellent observations, particularly concerning unaware "revealed truths" that "make it real" and about it being "a two-way street."

For me, good phone sex requires (a) imagination and (b) empathy (or, at least the ability to listen). Great phone sex does not require moaning, but it does require a balanced exchange of ideas or images. In short, a real conversation. If you have this, there really is a sensual theater of the mind ... which is really rewarding.

 

[Nicefella]

What a fun thread for me to chime in on



I think our definition of payoff must be very different. Videos are nice, but they’re a dime a dozen. Gets kinda boring, no? Surely men people can’t actually be that unimaginative and boring.



I love it. I love connecting with someone, exchanging messages, someone taking the risk to audibly say hello. Sometimes it’s me, sometimes it’s them. Sometimes it never moves further than some friendly exchanges and other times it moves faster than I can handle



Well put.

My best experience so far was when they had genuine interest in my needs and wants, asked questions that revealed truths I wasn’t even aware of, and using all of those bits of information to elevate our experience - make it real.

I’m doing this to feel something, not pretend to feel something.

The only way to actually enjoy myself is when I’m already in such a state of need and arousal that I’m begging them to call me. That I need them. No awkward moments, just straight passion and fireworks.

Of course, it’s a two way street. I’m sure most men would be fine with a moaning banshee that doesn’t contribute, but most of my pleasure derives from knowing I’m fulfilling whatever fantasy or need my partner has. That means I need to know about those things, I need to be an active participant.

Also, it’s just a fact that not everyone is going to mesh. It’s ok if I’m too soft for you and you’re looking for a filthy freak right off the bat, it’s ok if you’re a submissive boytoy and that’s not who I’m looking to play with. We can still be friends and swap stories

“Moaning Banshee”

 

[AlwaysDancing]

Because video killed the radio star.

 

[Britva415]

Videos are nice, but they’re a dime a dozen

I was talking about video interactions/play, like on Skype or Facetime, not static pre-recorded “videos.”

 

[magicalmoments]

I met my wife through phone sex. It's great.

 

[EvaLane]

I was talking about video interactions/play, like on Skype or Facetime, not static pre-recorded “videos.”

Thank you, that clears some of it up for me, but I still find myself wondering if the payoff assumption still stands.

I love watching a man stroke their cock for me, but it’s not enough to get me off. I’m still going to need effort and connection - I really do think most women would agree here.

Maybe this could account for the lack of willing participants? (Not aimed towards you, Britva, just a general wonder )

I’ve also only ever jumped into a cam session after a feral voice session. Gradual escalation makes for a very hot, long lasting connection.

Maybe it’s just a difference between people looking for a quickie vs something more.

Edit - I’m really just speaking from my POV, if I look at it from a mans perspective, yea obviously he’s gonna wanna see the effect he’s having on my lady bits and that would make the payoff better for him. So maybe from that perspective, I get it

 

[CLK5002005]

I’ve Skyped occasionally with people on here but it’s rare. First you have to make some type of connection, then they must be willing to voice Skype with you. It’s rare when it happens, but it does occasionally.
I don’t cam with anyone bc I’m not willing to risk my job and career for my sexual fun.
On the other hand, voice Skype is fine bc it gives one the freedom to fantasize and it’s 100% discrete. Once the call is over, it’s done and they never have any clue who you are other than a random voice.

 

[Nightspeed]

I love phone play, but most guys hang up after they get off, leaving me hanging. It's frustrating.

 

[Nightspeed]

Let me also add that I love getting to know someone by talking. That first phone call is such a nervous thrill!

 

[linkierox]

Just had one this morning (via Google meet). It’s so hot and I came 3 times. Shout out to all of the men who love phone sex

 

[Oralexplorer]

perhaps ppl like the anonymity of text, personal I like voice , it adds another dimension to the imagination and frees your hand. But this takes work and practice.
There is another potential reason voice is not always practical if you are in different time zone, it's a massive pain the ass.
There are time over text that you have to guess if your partner is enjoying themselves or lost interest.

 

[MissyDaddyGirl]

Face Time, Google Meet, and Whats App are the popular thing for my generation!

 

[jerryb1966]

Face Time, Google Meet, and Whats App are the popular thing for my generation!

MissyDaddyGirl, if you would love some Google fun and some hot voice chat. I’d love to connect and see what kind of pleasure and trouble we can get into

 

[J D Danger]

What a fun thread for me to chime in on



I think our definition of payoff must be very different. Videos are nice, but they’re a dime a dozen. Gets kinda boring, no? Surely men people can’t actually be that unimaginative and boring.



I love it. I love connecting with someone, exchanging messages, someone taking the risk to audibly say hello. Sometimes it’s me, sometimes it’s them. Sometimes it never moves further than some friendly exchanges and other times it moves faster than I can handle



Well put.

My best experience so far was when they had genuine interest in my needs and wants, asked questions that revealed truths I wasn’t even aware of, and using all of those bits of information to elevate our experience - make it real.

I’m doing this to feel something, not pretend to feel something.

The only way to actually enjoy myself is when I’m already in such a state of need and arousal that I’m begging them to call me. That I need them. No awkward moments, just straight passion and fireworks.

Of course, it’s a two way street. I’m sure most men would be fine with a moaning banshee that doesn’t contribute, but most of my pleasure derives from knowing I’m fulfilling whatever fantasy or need my partner has. That means I need to know about those things, I need to be an active participant.

Also, it’s just a fact that not everyone is going to mesh. It’s ok if I’m too soft for you and you’re looking for a filthy freak right off the bat, it’s ok if you’re a submissive boytoy and that’s not who I’m looking to play with. We can still be friends and swap stories

I must admit I a post of yours a few days ago something about you sticking your hand between your legs and I have been turned on ever since

 

[Briefsencounter]

I've only done phone sex once. When I was drunk and it was with another guy, which is unusual as I'm str8 but a little curious.
Confess I came so hard I shot into my own face sat at my desk. Surprised myself hehe.

 

[J D Danger]

Just had one this morning (via Google meet). It’s so hot and I came 3 times. Shout out to all of the men who loves phone sex

that sounds incredible

 

[loveseethrough]

I've only done phone sex once. When I was drunk and it was with another guy, which is unusual as I'm str8 but a little curious.
Confess I came so hard I shot into my own face sat at my desk. Surprised myself hehe.

mmm hot. yeah, i'm straight but it can be amazing to jerk off with another guy when you're horny enough

 

[loveseethrough]

Just had one this morning (via Google meet). It’s so hot and I came 3 times. Shout out to all of the men who love phone sex

mmmm i've done mic chat on whereby a few times. always with guys, which can be super hot. but i'd love to have an epic jack n jill session with a woman. never had the opportunity!

 

[loveseethrough]

Face Time, Google Meet, and Whats App are the popular thing for my generation!

nice. ever use whereby? i've had fun using it a few times

 

[linkierox]

that sounds incredible

It sure was