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Chloe_Harper said:
You are late to the conversation, but, as always, I appreciate your insights and experience. I said it in some of my responses to people and the question, I never said perfect or perfection. I am a romantic realist by nature. For many years, a cynic. I believed every relationship I went into had an expiration date. When I found love, real love, it was wonderful but I still felt like an entire part of me wasn't getting what I needed. Settling for that wonderful was something I was sure was my only option.

Many people brought up polyamory. I've had that discussion too. I think you can find what you need in more than one person, but it's not because you are searching for ways that the others aren't filling you. But, it's that "one" person could be multiple people that give you all you need.

But, circling back to "the one". I'm not saying discard needles because they are chipped or broken. Hell, me as that needle is hella broken. But, someone picking me up, holding me in a way that fits their grip, being able to create the art they want with me, that's what I want. And I want to feel the same about them.

I don't think it's an outlandish idea to find what we need in a relationship. I'm not talking the extras, the bonuses, the wants. I mean the needs. The stuff that makes you feel whole. Is it rare? Yes. Is it hard? Yes. Can it seem impossible? Yes. But, it is possible. And, being as selfish as I am, I want it.

I've already been told it's unrealistic. It's a naive way to think. I've been told my "goals" might change once I have it, and then I'll be unhappy again. I simply disagree.

But, I've also said a lot on it today. And I'm quite certain I'm getting eye rolls at me now. So, I will stop talking on it. I just wanted to clarify.
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Nothing to roll eyes on. And conversations change as they go as well.

Ah, when I was talking about the perfect needle, I never meant there weren't imperfections. We are all imperfectly perfect. And a needle that fits my hand at this moment may not fit yours. We are who we are. And any analogy falls apart if you push it--people change where needles don't. The needle that doesn't make art today maybe the one that works perfect at another time. Omnia mutantur. (I almost got that as a tattoo, heh...)

But I think we agree more than not. I believe we can find what we need, and that what is needed in us finds others. And ultimately? In everyone's world, be it joyous or tragic, the one common goal: we're all searching for magic.

They say you are unrealistic? I believe in magic. And I believe it to my bones...
 
UnquietDreams said:
Nothing to roll eyes on. And conversations change as they go as well.

Ah, when I was talking about the perfect needle, I never meant there weren't imperfections. We are all imperfectly perfect. And a needle that fits my hand at this moment may not fit yours. We are who we are. And any analogy falls apart if you push it--people change where needles don't. The needle that doesn't make art today maybe the one that works perfect at another time. Omnia mutantur. (I almost got that as a tattoo, heh...)

But I think we agree more than not. I believe we can find what we need, and that what is needed in us finds others. And ultimately? In everyone's world, be it joyous or tragic, the one common goal: we're all searching for magic.

They say you are unrealistic? I believe in magic. And I believe it to my bones...
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Beautiful. Beautifully said. And it's never too late to get a tattoo. I think that would make a great one.
 
UnquietDreams said:
Would you be surprised to know that I thought that would be a button? ("Persnickety" is not the word I had in mind, but I adore it.) Would you think less of me, knowing I wanted to see you up on a soapbox? But I amuse myself when I aim better than not...

I was in a corporate environment for a long time (way too long, honestly) and one of them dug deep into the MBTI (and paid a lot of money to do so. So many questions...) It is amusing pseudoscience. But questions are so subjective, even if you cross 2000 of them (yes, 2000+ fucking variations of "You usually feel more persuaded by what resonates emotionally with you than by factual arguments." Oh, sod off...) And people change. So it may be, at best, a snapshot of where you were at the time of the test, it isn't really that useful. It makes you feel good, especially the way they try to sum you up in the most glowing terms possible, and there may be some accuracy (I have always fallen into the same type), the usefulness of that information is dubious at best.

On the other hand, this is pretty funny...

STJ: Lord, help me to relax about insignificant details beginning tomorrow at 11:41.23 AM EST
ISTP: God, help me to consider peoples' feelings, even if most of them are hypersensitive.
ESTP: God, help me to take responsibility for my own actions, even though they're usually not my fault.
ESTJ: God, help me to not try to run everything. But, if You need some help, just ask.
ISFJ: Lord, help me to be more laid back and help me to do it EXACTLY right.
ISFP: Lord, help me to stand up for my rights (if you don't mind my asking).
ESFP: God help me to take things more seriously, especially parties and dancing.
ESFJ: God give me patience, and I mean right NOW.
INFJ: Lord help me to not be a perfectionist (did I spell that correctly?).
INFP: God, help me to finish everything I sta
ENFP: God, help me to keep my mind on one th-A BIRD! Did you see the bird?
ENFJ: God, help me to do only what I can and trust you for the rest. And put that in writing.
INTJ: Lord, keep me open to others' ideas, WRONG though they may be.
INTP: Lord, help me be less independent, but let me do it my way.
ENTP: Lord, help my follow established procedures today. On second thought, I'll settle for a few minutes.
ENTJ: Lord, help me slow downandnotrushthroughwatido.

ENFP and INFP fit me annoyingly well...

And, please accept my apology as well.
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You spelled what wrong .....
 
Chloe_Harper said:
You are late to the conversation, but, as always, I appreciate your insights and experience. I said it in some of my responses to people and the question, I never said perfect or perfection. I am a romantic realist by nature. For many years, a cynic. I believed every relationship I went into had an expiration date. When I found love, real love, it was wonderful but I still felt like an entire part of me wasn't getting what I needed. Settling for that wonderful was something I was sure was my only option.

Many people brought up polyamory. I've had that discussion too. I think you can find what you need in more than one person, but it's not because you are searching for ways that the others aren't filling you. But, it's that "one" person could be multiple people that give you all you need.

But, circling back to "the one". I'm not saying discard needles because they are chipped or broken. Hell, me as that needle is hella broken. But, someone picking me up, holding me in a way that fits their grip, being able to create the art they want with me, that's what I want. And I want to feel the same about them.

I don't think it's an outlandish idea to find what we need in a relationship. I'm not talking the extras, the bonuses, the wants. I mean the needs. The stuff that makes you feel whole. Is it rare? Yes. Is it hard? Yes. Can it seem impossible? Yes. But, it is possible. And, being as selfish as I am, I want it.

I've already been told it's unrealistic. It's a naive way to think. I've been told my "goals" might change once I have it, and then I'll be unhappy again. I simply disagree.

But, I've also said a lot on it today. And I'm quite certain I'm getting eye rolls at me now. So, I will stop talking on it. I just wanted to clarify.
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You are so fucking awesome!!!! 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

I am supposed to be asleep… I need to be asleep…. But I had to say… I completely agree with you and what you said. I am not sure who or where “perfect” was brought up… the isn’t who I am looking for… I am looking for “ right for me”. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
 
BrendaBear said:
You are so fucking awesome!!!! 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

I am supposed to be asleep… I need to be asleep…. But I had to say… I completely agree with you and what you said. I am not sure who or where “perfect” was brought up… the isn’t who I am looking for… I am looking for “ right for me”. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
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I need to be asleep too girl 😴 I'm headed that way.

But yes! Thank you 😘 idk about awesome 🤭 "right for me" looks different for everyone. And yes, people change... oh! I actually have a song for this...
And for those that don't want, or can't, listen to it, the lyrics I find important to this whole growing thing...

🎶 Ooh, who said it's true
That the growing only happens on your own?
They don't know me and you
I don't think you have to leave
If to change is what you need
You can change right next to me
When you're high, I'll take the lows
You can ebb and I can flow
And we'll take it slow
And grow as we go
Grow as we go
You won't be the only one
I am unfinished, I've got so much left to learn
I don't know how this river runs
But I'd like the company through every twist and turn 🎶

You will grow, you and your partner. But growing doesn't necessarily mean you have to grow apart. You grow together. Will it be challenging at times? Hell yes. Are there relationships that don't work out this way? 100%. But, in finding the "right for you" you find a way.
 
Peter_Out said:
That's the case with me, certainly (though I would perhaps quibble with the "all" - I'm not sure anyone can do that). I came to it properly after a particularly intense relationship imploded (she was perhaps "the one" for me), and having more than one person loving me, and me loving them, felt right. It was not the same as "the one", it wasn't... compensation... or something, but it did feel "right". I recommend it. It felt "full" in a way that the love of one person generally hadn't.
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I had a conversation with someone recently about it, in trying to explain how you can love more than one person at once. That person said it beautifully. Siblings/children, depending on which you have (if neither, then sorry, idk what a good equivalent would be). You can have more than one child or sibling, but it doesn't mean you don't have love for them all. There might be one that you like more, connect with more, but the love isn't diminished simply because there's more than one.

I'm an advocate of this, 100%. Polyamory. I see what you're saying about still potentially not having all your needs fulfilled, but having the love there, the connection, is just as real as "the one" philosophy.

Idk if I'm actually making sense anymore 😂 it's 4am. I should go to bed. But, I just think that love comes in all shapes and sizes. There's no one-size fits all. And it's beautiful that we all have such different experiences and mindsets on the matter.
 
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