Kinkier as we get older?

[LittleB58]

I think I'm the poster child for this topic. Until recently the total number of women who had seen me hard and uncovered numbered less than 5. I've kinda blown that outta the water here don't ya think..?

I'm in my late 60s.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I agree that it seems we have gotten kinkier, but It's more than that. Before the internet, there was really no way to know the inner thoughts of so many people.
Forums like lit have given people a platform to hear others views and evaluate our own.

Finding so many others that don't frown on your wants and preferences Was very eye-opening.

 

[FlirtyWordy]

If it’s any comfort, I find bi men in MMF scenarios incredibly hot. (Not hitting on you, just want to support our exquisite and delicious bi guys)

Yes, there is still so much prejudice.

I know there are incredible people like you out there—thanks!

Also not hitting on you, but let me know if you’re ok with me sending a DM

 

[shrek100]

I would say we defiantly are more Kinky.
I (Mr) got taught many lessons from a older lady when I was a young lad. she knew what she wanted and really wasnt afraid to teach and Lead me.
Fast forward, poor old Mrs, got a bit of a crash course when we got together 20 ish years ago.
Now, Late 40's. not much hasnt been tried and the things we enjoy we will do as often as mood takes. Strap on, Prostate, creampie eating, anal etc etc. if the moods takes we do it.
Reason, I think with age your inhibitions reduce and you stop worrying how you are viewed to a point. Trouble is, with age it gets harder (softer) to do some of hte things you like.

 

[9to5]

as I get older I don't think I am any kinkier. But I think the need for it is stronger. I never got to act out my thoughts much but now that I am older I feel the need for them more.

 

[Hipshot1554]

For me i have always been kinky. But with age come the confidence to express myself. The things that turn me on now have always turned me on but a bit of expereince that comes with age helped me pin point what it was that was turning me on.

This is why mature women are such a turn on!

 

[Jordanjack]

Might a sex positive kink friendly therapist be an option to help with communication? Either just you or both of you. Some do sessions online.

Oh absolutely. I know we both could benefit from some sex therapy.

 

[Mike130]

Definitely more kinky. I would consider a host of new things that the younger Mike wouldn’t conceive of. It helps that being older gives you a different perspective and a greater age range that you consider sexy. As a younger twenty something a married woman in her 40’s hit on me, and we did some things, but I think now I would definitely appreciate her sexual experience more. But also there were younger girls that were even more experienced and wild but I was pretty naive in my early twenties. One girl, who was very kinky, she ate my ass and even hinted at swapping. I was more possessive then and passed. Now would gladly do a swap.

The younger me would never consider sucking a dick. The older me would definitely do it, especially if it was covered in a woman’s cum.

I guess we all evolve…

 

[ChasBozwell30]

I'm in my mid 40s now, and I've changed as I've got older. I'm bisexual and would love to explore this side of myself more. I find I am more curious, more interested in experimenting and exploring myself, than ever before. My sexuality is so much more fun now than it was ten years ago. As you age, it feels like there is simply more and more to discover. I have less hang ups, and i'm less self conscious, I just want to experience more of life

 

[SPARTAN047]

When I found the pleasure you can get being fucked in the arse, licking arseholes and sucking cocks, even drinking cum — my sex life started to have few or no limits.

 

[Rascal69]

Like fine wine or cheese our kinky ness gets stronger with age.

 

[suzie_n1]

I am in my forties. I was pretty much born a slut. I had kinky fantasies from a very early age, but it wasn’t until almost two years ago that I found my Master so that I could explore those fantasies. The thing is, my Master has gotten me to engage in activities that I previously had never thought of doing. This is turn encourages me to get creative when thinking about things I might want to try.

A bit of truth being born a slut. Babysitting in my teens gave me access to plenty of magazines then opportunity to experience some, but not all, of what I'd seen and read. Still a few things on my (at a minimum) bucket list however

 

[KentLondon]

Once you both retire from work, you naturally have more free time. That can go two ways. Some guys I know are on the golf course all the time and their wives have to make their own entertainment.
I would rather go for country walks with my wife than drag a bag of golf clubs around the local course.
We are both healthy and play a lot of sport together, which helps to make the bond much closer.
We enjoy our extra time together and we put it to good use in the bedroom.
I am helping my wife to overcome some lifelong inhibitions (thanks to her family history and religion) and we are enjoying the best sex in more than 45 years together.
She has reignited her wonderful oral skills and enjoys some gentle pussy slapping during our regular lovemaking sessions, when she now has multiple orgasms.
We are both 71 and aim to keep this spark alive for as long as possible.

 

[linkierox]

Very much. I grew up in a place where talking about having sex only is taboo, and the women having sex are “sluts”. Even now when I’m on Lit, I’m also very scared of being recognized by someone I know. But I do it anyway because there’s so much more for me to explore, about the world, and also about myself.

 

[van_delay]

Definitely for me. I think it's fear of missing out.

 

[Cardinal]

How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.

I’d say I’ve always been pretty kinky as I’ve gotten older my boundaries have definitely disappeared and I’d be willing to try or participate in pretty much any kink rather than just read about or watch

 

[Olderwiserdom]

Yes, kinkier, but actually more creative,

 

[TheVegasMark]

I would say we defiantly are more Kinky.
I (Mr) got taught many lessons from a older lady when I was a young lad. she knew what she wanted and really wasnt afraid to teach and Lead me.
Fast forward, poor old Mrs, got a bit of a crash course when we got together 20 ish years ago.
Now, Late 40's. not much hasnt been tried and the things we enjoy we will do as often as mood takes. Strap on, Prostate, creampie eating, anal etc etc. if the moods takes we do it.
Reason, I think with age your inhibitions reduce and you stop worrying how you are viewed to a point. Trouble is, with age it gets harder (softer) to do some of hte things you like.

@ 66 now...Cougared @ 24-25...Her in her mid 40's with a world of erotic experiences and appetite...Lasting just over a year...Her telling me..."Don't fall in luv darling...Its only sex"...Learned there is no such thing as "kink" because we both agreed we wanted it...She taught me why I wanted it...Whatever "it" was in the moment...!...Very HOT memories...!...So remember...Its only sex..!!

 

[theMasterBaiter]

I think I've always been kinky as fuck. But my willingness to act on it has increased as I've gotten older. And I'm gayer and more into cock. And I switch faster between Dom and sub. Perhaps a shift from sadistic towards masochistic although I still like both. Back in the day, I mostly looked for female (self identifying) "bitches" who liked to be hard tortured, and didn't mind it if she raked my back with her nails or bit me a little. Now I'd love to get bent over, railed by a big strong daddy while sucking off a trans femme who dick whips my face and slaps me around, and if you need to be ordered around or choked I'm ok doing that but don't have the need to cause the hard pain anymore.

 

[LasTime]

I can relate to that. I've just turned 60 and had my first domination session with a mistress this last weekend.
I wish I had had the balls to do it years ago.
I've already got another session booked, and am looking forward to see where it takes me.

I take it she's younger than you!?

 

[lowcollar]

At 35 or so, I would have never considered being pegged, crossdressing or being anally fisted. Now, I can hardly wait for teh next opportunity.

 

[Easypeter]

How many of you have gotten kinkier and more libidinous as you got older? I grew up in strict religion and sex was limited to traditional and oral. Then bondage, spanking, anal. Then in my late 40's, I got into pegging, fisting, occasional crossdressing, etc. Now, at 60, I am kinkier than ever.

I think it’s about finally raising our kids and then having the freedom to enjoy what’s put in front of us

 

[Britva415]

I never thought of myself as kinky, never thought I had kinks, never thought I was interested or would know what to do if I should find myself with a partner who wanted me to participate in kinks. Up until now I guess I was just happy with vanilla sex and didn’t look any more broadly for anything different.

Now at my age my marriage has opened, for reasons unrelated to kink, and what I find is that the prospect (and experience) of having other partners, plus the recognition that people in kink spaces and lifestyles seem to be generally more open to playing with a (permissively) married guy, these things have made me kind of say, fuck it, why the hell not. Maybe I should really lean into some “out-there” things which I wouldn’t have asked past partners to try with me.

Mostly because I wasn’t really missing those things, and I didn’t think I would have known what to do. It also never occurred to me to seek people with experience to show me the “ropes” so to speak.

A handful of chance conversations with recent sex partners and other people I know well enough to know a little about their sex lives have gotten me to think about kink more, and I find myself very interested in a couple of kinks. Specifically spanking and rope play. So I’m legit putting myself out there to start exploring these both.

About to order some gear, and putting ads out asking for mentorship. I’m a natural switch so I expect I’ll bottom first to get introduced to the scene and the things to know. Rope topping is of interest to me and I’d want to switch regularly for the spanking.

I don’t think I can honestly say that not being kinky for 35 sexually-active years has cost me, but I do think that if I had realized at, say, 25 or 30 what I know now, my sex life for those decades would have been very different and probably a lot more intense and varied.

PM me if you want to add me on Fetlife.

 

[RachelWalsh]

I know I get kinkier as ai get older. The old stuff just gets boring and need crazier stuff to get hot.

 

[SPARTAN047]

That's it. I'm bored with my old fetishes .