I am a widower for almost a year now. I need to know if I’m just over thinking things?? I don’t want a relationship I’m still no where ready to give my all to someone. I am becoming depressed and numb. My grown kids are supportive if I’m doing what they want. Here is my issue I feel bad for trying to make myself happy so I haven’t hooked up yet (I really need to get some) so I’m currently chatting with someone but have to keep it a secret which makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong. Any advice
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lifeis2short2b
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Not sure if your looking for advice from a woman. Not sure if this is your game plan on here.
I get your not ready for someone. But I find some holes in your story. Your not ready to hook up, you feel bad. Yet you carry on an on line relationship in secret, Sort of like being on Lit ?
If your telling the truth then take this advice.
*A year, based on you being married for awhile is an appropriate amount of time to grieve.
* If you need to get laid then go out and just get laid.
*Don't go looking for your next wife. She will come and you will know when it happens. It's not going to be overnight.
* If you were a good father your kid's won't stand in the way of your happiness.
*If your still depressed and numb seek out professional help.
That;s the best advice your going to get from a site like this, unless that's not what your really looking for.
Good Luck either way
I get your not ready for someone. But I find some holes in your story. Your not ready to hook up, you feel bad. Yet you carry on an on line relationship in secret, Sort of like being on Lit ?
If your telling the truth then take this advice.
*A year, based on you being married for awhile is an appropriate amount of time to grieve.
* If you need to get laid then go out and just get laid.
*Don't go looking for your next wife. She will come and you will know when it happens. It's not going to be overnight.
* If you were a good father your kid's won't stand in the way of your happiness.
*If your still depressed and numb seek out professional help.
That;s the best advice your going to get from a site like this, unless that's not what your really looking for.
Good Luck either way
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lovecraft68
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Pay for it. Find an escort site. You get what you need with no baggage whatsoever. You can go for just 'the deed' or get someone who can give the girlfriend experience which will provide some foreplay and 'affection' to make it seem less sleazy.
I did that after I went through an awful divorce while at the same time losing someone very close to me, and like you, I'd been in a downward spiral, but still have a physical need, but no desire emotionally. I found a site and spent an hour with someone once every couple of weeks and it served to take the edge off and in my case helped snap me back to realizing what I was missing as far as wanting to spend time with someone.
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We need to talk. DM me.
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