SapitoHipo
Yes Mistress
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My wife (call her “M”) and I are mid-50s and we are “Happily Married.”
After 15 years of marriage, her appetite for sex has diminished, especially in the last 6 months. I gained weight during Covid, but I’ve lost most of it and I continue losing weight. I have mild erectile dysfunction yet my libido is unchecked. When I’m highly aroused the ED melts away.
She would say my masturbation habits are like a 14 year old’s, “You should go for a walk, or read a book…” it really bothers her.
We started dating in high school and continued for two plus years. We’d been pen pals for the year prior, which had created even more anticipation. We lost our virginity to each other and I couldn’t keep my hands off of her. She gave me so many blowjobs, I assumed she really enjoyed them. In hindsight, our teenage relationship progressed too quickly and was too intense: there was no logical next step. We were deeply in love yet knew we were too young to marry. We were emotionally and psychologically unprepared for it to end. But I wanted some “freedom” as a college Freshman. We had some kind of compromise, then got back together, and then I cheated on her. Dumb. But I couldn’t undo it. We didn’t speak for 20 years. Actually, that’s not true: we spoke once.
I called her two weeks before the wedding (I was 25) hoping to hear just a hint of possibility. I would have called it off, but didn’t have the courage to come right out and ask, “would you consider taking me back if I Called off my wedding?” In hindsight, it was silly to think you would call your first love (after telling her you’re getting married in two weeks) and expect her to talk you out of it. So I married the wrong woman but never quit thinking about M.
After my divorce, we reconnected, and got married in our 40s, a miracle considering all the pain I had caused her. She hadn’t married before, and the passion of that torrid two years of young love reverberated into our new marriage.
As recently as a 3 years ago, we had sex once a week. We flirted. We went on dates. Now it’s once or twice per month. Sometimes, we skip a month. And there are no blowjobs: not (really) in the past 14 years. It’s simply OFF the menu. It turns out she HATED giving head (and swallowing most of all) but her 20 year old self didn’t have the courage to say No. She assures me that “no woman actually ENJOYS giving head, and they ALL think semen is gross.” The fact I enjoyed fellatio so much (with the same woman) 40 years ago makes it doubly hard to let it go. But we aren’t kids anymore, and she feels like she already paid her dues.
She enjoys her Hitachi Magic Wand and I consider “him” a partner whether we have intercourse or simply bring her to orgasm. She enjoys having sex with me and she is multi-orgasmic. She always seems very satisfied. I know her professional and household responsibilities wear her down. There is always more I should be doing to reduce the burden of those chores on her. But it’s never enough. She is frequently exhausted and finds solace in Chardonnay. I go to bed before her and she arrives 2 hours later, tipsy, but too tired to even exchange words.
She resents the fact I masturbate to porn and says it’s a turnoff (like an “other woman”). They might as well be cartoon characters to me: a two dimensional alternative to a more creative sexual relationship with each other.
The more disinterest I feel she has towards me, the more gratification I have found in self-pleasure and exploration of kink and taboos. It started with ball-spreaders and nipple clamps, cock rings, self-CBT. She thought it was silly. My biggest thrill is when she gives me permission to touch “her” cock, but she doesn’t enjoy that dynamic. Same for any ass play or spanking. I worked out of town for a while and the stress of single-parenting nearly killed her (and included a broken wrist, surgery and a few other maladies). Now I telework 100% and she needs me here to keep up the meals and chores. Cheating isn’t an option but I have thought hiring a dominatrix, without actually having sex. I tried AI, which was thrilling, but there’s no visual/auditory stimuli to make the written word more real..d
After 15 years of marriage, her appetite for sex has diminished, especially in the last 6 months. I gained weight during Covid, but I’ve lost most of it and I continue losing weight. I have mild erectile dysfunction yet my libido is unchecked. When I’m highly aroused the ED melts away.
She would say my masturbation habits are like a 14 year old’s, “You should go for a walk, or read a book…” it really bothers her.
We started dating in high school and continued for two plus years. We’d been pen pals for the year prior, which had created even more anticipation. We lost our virginity to each other and I couldn’t keep my hands off of her. She gave me so many blowjobs, I assumed she really enjoyed them. In hindsight, our teenage relationship progressed too quickly and was too intense: there was no logical next step. We were deeply in love yet knew we were too young to marry. We were emotionally and psychologically unprepared for it to end. But I wanted some “freedom” as a college Freshman. We had some kind of compromise, then got back together, and then I cheated on her. Dumb. But I couldn’t undo it. We didn’t speak for 20 years. Actually, that’s not true: we spoke once.
I called her two weeks before the wedding (I was 25) hoping to hear just a hint of possibility. I would have called it off, but didn’t have the courage to come right out and ask, “would you consider taking me back if I Called off my wedding?” In hindsight, it was silly to think you would call your first love (after telling her you’re getting married in two weeks) and expect her to talk you out of it. So I married the wrong woman but never quit thinking about M.
After my divorce, we reconnected, and got married in our 40s, a miracle considering all the pain I had caused her. She hadn’t married before, and the passion of that torrid two years of young love reverberated into our new marriage.
As recently as a 3 years ago, we had sex once a week. We flirted. We went on dates. Now it’s once or twice per month. Sometimes, we skip a month. And there are no blowjobs: not (really) in the past 14 years. It’s simply OFF the menu. It turns out she HATED giving head (and swallowing most of all) but her 20 year old self didn’t have the courage to say No. She assures me that “no woman actually ENJOYS giving head, and they ALL think semen is gross.” The fact I enjoyed fellatio so much (with the same woman) 40 years ago makes it doubly hard to let it go. But we aren’t kids anymore, and she feels like she already paid her dues.
She enjoys her Hitachi Magic Wand and I consider “him” a partner whether we have intercourse or simply bring her to orgasm. She enjoys having sex with me and she is multi-orgasmic. She always seems very satisfied. I know her professional and household responsibilities wear her down. There is always more I should be doing to reduce the burden of those chores on her. But it’s never enough. She is frequently exhausted and finds solace in Chardonnay. I go to bed before her and she arrives 2 hours later, tipsy, but too tired to even exchange words.
She resents the fact I masturbate to porn and says it’s a turnoff (like an “other woman”). They might as well be cartoon characters to me: a two dimensional alternative to a more creative sexual relationship with each other.
The more disinterest I feel she has towards me, the more gratification I have found in self-pleasure and exploration of kink and taboos. It started with ball-spreaders and nipple clamps, cock rings, self-CBT. She thought it was silly. My biggest thrill is when she gives me permission to touch “her” cock, but she doesn’t enjoy that dynamic. Same for any ass play or spanking. I worked out of town for a while and the stress of single-parenting nearly killed her (and included a broken wrist, surgery and a few other maladies). Now I telework 100% and she needs me here to keep up the meals and chores. Cheating isn’t an option but I have thought hiring a dominatrix, without actually having sex. I tried AI, which was thrilling, but there’s no visual/auditory stimuli to make the written word more real..d
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Didn't give shit that they were married, adults make choices. The one advice I gave each and every one of them is to be honest with themselves and if possible with their partner. Don't be married to someone you're not interested in. And if there's true love between partners, both should do their best to keep the relationshop live.
